FabSwingers.com forum: verify

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

its funny that we have been on the cam a few times and have spoken to other people in the directing room yet no 1 veryfies they see you on there, would be nice if now and again people when they look at your profile just take the time to do this if they have seen you, just my observation thats all

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I think people are beginning to take verification a bit more seriously and saving it for people they've actually met and played with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have only had and given verifications with people i have met because sitting behind a cam or talking does not mean they actually play! Learned that from a couple i know who will only meet people that have been verified in person at least twice

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"i have only had and given verifications with people i have met because sitting behind a cam or talking does not mean they actually play! Learned that from a couple i know who will only meet people that have been verified in person at least twice"

You're not verifying they 'put out' you are verifying they are who/what they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

verifed a couple saying I saw them and chatted to them on cam, but that it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i appreciate that, but if they also say they play, and that is what we are here for, then that is important too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think that verifications by web cam and phone mean nothing. We learnt this very early on its people meeting in person to play what people wont to know about web cam and phone prove nothing apart from theres a women on the over end or the pics on profile look the same as the person on cam

Think fab should do far more to verifications like when joining u get verified by admin. the new site owners started off well got my attention thought there making it harder for fakes with photo verifications but that fizzled out should of kept going and made everyone do this if wonted to be a member and join the site we have all seen the amount of new profiles with not text no verifications no pics not even in private gallery if wont to be discreet. And months later still on with no change to profile exactly to same. makes people weary, cautious,and un-trusting

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"i appreciate that, but if they also say they play, and that is what we are here for, then that is important too.

Why is it? Just because they fucked one person/couple means jack shit in terms of whether they will fuck someone else. The best a verification can tell anyone is the profile generally matches the person/people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never been on cam together on this site, but we have a cpl of verifications from ppl we have met at a club. It doesnt mean that we are players still! just that we were there,

When you verify someone you can state what the verification is for (meeting, phone webcam) so why no one bothers i dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging on the internet has changed in last 6 months even longer we have noticed have my ideas but don't put on forum in case get banned for my views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

horneyduo ,,, i hope you say what you want to say ,,, dont think u will be banned ,,, has any one been banned for posting on here ???? would be interesting to know

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"swinging on the internet has changed in last 6 months even longer we have noticed have my ideas but don't put on forum in case get banned for my views "

Funny, aside from the volume, I can’t say it has changed much over the last 6 years never mind 6 months.

I doubt you would be banned for expressing an opinion - unless it was a personal attack, offensively discriminatory, libellous or against the law (of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"swinging on the internet has changed in last 6 months even longer we have noticed have my ideas but don't put on forum in case get banned for my views

Funny, aside from the volume, I can’t say it has changed much over the last 6 years never mind 6 months.

I doubt you would be banned for expressing an opinion - unless it was a personal attack, offensively discriminatory, libellous or against the law (of course)."

You can even say "cunt" and not get banned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you Polo, I was lead to believe that the verification system was to make sure that if the profile says they are a couple, female or male then they are a couple, female or male and that they are not pretending to be any different. Obviously the more a profile has the more genuine they are likely to be. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a previous profile I had a list of verifications, thinking that the more I showed the more it would prove I was genuine...I was new naive and it worked against me, some people tried to use them as means of blackmail, jealous exes caused me bother over them. I now have only a couple of verifications on my profile, but I think that those who have met me at socials parties and at clubs know me as genuine, and that those who chat to me in the chatroom are assured that I am who I say I am, that I need no list of accomplishments on show, my word is good enough.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"On a previous profile I had a list of verifications, thinking that the more I showed the more it would prove I was genuine...I was new naive and it worked against me, some people tried to use them as means of blackmail, jealous exes caused me bother over them. I now have only a couple of verifications on my profile, but I think that those who have met me at socials parties and at clubs know me as genuine, and that those who chat to me in the chatroom are assured that I am who I say I am, that I need no list of accomplishments on show, my word is good enough. "

Exactly.The only people who need to know you are real are the ones you might meet.

We don't have to prove or justify ourselves to anyone but the people we hope to meet and why although we do have verifications on our profile , we didn't ask anyone to put them on and why we keep them private.

To the people who say the only verifications that are important are the "meet" ones because you know they actually meet people, they still might let someone down one day, it does happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well that seems to have opened a few posts, i did like the post that said that it shows there is a couple or single behind the profile ,this i tought was the idea of verification as we dont have the time to mess with fakes it does work for us knowing that there is some 1 there that were looking for, but some nice genuine posts many thx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

You can even say "cunt" and not get banned

Ill come and wash your mouth out with soap and water...or a G&T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got told by a lady that i had TOO many verifications ,,, lol ,,, good job i dont put them all up ,,, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So am I reading this right ?

Does the OP want to be verified every time someone views their webcam ?

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We do not list our varifications or friends due to the fact that we once met a couple who we were not keen on and if we saw them on someone elses friends or varifications it would put us off playing with that couple so other people may look at ours and think the same. We only show one on our profile andthat is from the owners of a club we attend. I believe that it can work against you just as much as it can work for you....

Just my 2ps worth!!!

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

"So am I reading this right ?

Does the OP want to be verified every time someone views their webcam ?

I can't speak for the OP but there do seem to be verification anoraks out there - desperate to have longer verification list than anyone else. The point tentwilly makes about too many verifications is commonly spoken about at meets. Once again it's all down to personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to also use verifications as part of deciding if someone is trustworthy or not. If I see that a guy has met someone that I know and trust and has been giving a positive verification, then I'm more likely to meet up with him.

Knowing that people I know have vouched for the guy puts me at ease a bit just since I'm a young, single lady and generally accom at my place so try to do my best to avoid creepy types.

This is why I take meeting in person verifications more seriously than webcam or phone ones.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Actually I can recall replying to a couple of guys recently and stating the reason for the “no thanks” was linked to their verifications.

One guy had been on the site for less than two months and had a string of verifications from single women; at a rate of around 2-3 per week. His profile and message stated he was here to “meet new friends for regular fun”. All the ladies had ended their verification with something along the lines of “I can’t wait to see you again”. I explained it appeared he already had his hands full with a busy schedule to fit in all the ‘new friends’ he’d already made.

I think I told another one it looked like he was still at the ‘kid in a sweetshop stage’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone and cam verifications are a total waste of time and folk can argue that fact till the cows come home. A cam gives you a grainy, blurry picture and can, and often is used to hide a multitude of sins whilst a phone merely confirms someone else has a phone. If you put great stock in either method then do not be surprised when it all goes horribly Pete Tong

Meet verifications mean one thing and one thing only, someone has actually met and each can confirm they are what their profile says.............END OF!!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"its funny that we have been on the cam a few times and have spoken to other people in the directing room yet no 1 veryfies they see you on there, would be nice if now and again people when they look at your profile just take the time to do this if they have seen you, just my observation thats all"

Have given ppl verifications in the past but have since decided not beacause ive seen one girl on cam in chat room with three diffrent profiles first one she was str8 second she was bi and now she in as a couple so is she who she likes u to think she is ?????

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

"I tend to also use verifications as part of deciding if someone is trustworthy or not. If I see that a guy has met someone that I know and trust and has been giving a positive verification, then I'm more likely to meet up with him.

Knowing that people I know have vouched for the guy puts me at ease a bit just since I'm a young, single lady and generally accom at my place so try to do my best to avoid creepy types.

This is why I take meeting in person verifications more seriously than webcam or phone ones. "

Can I ask? When you see a verification by meeting in person from someone you know - do you take that verification at face value or do you check by PM or phone call that their verification is actually a genuine up-to-date reflection of their views? I'd like to think nobody would falsely give a favourable verification just to get a favourable one back but time moves on and opinions change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to say I list all my verifications when I meet a couple or woman the first time, but I tell them not to bother if I meet them again, but will do one for them if they want. On repeat meets they generally have become friends!

I agree with the points that it can work against you, yet some want to see you have a lot. I don't think a single guy can win either way, but if a couple doesn't want to meet because I have too many, that is the chance I take at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say that I go that far, but just being on my own it puts me at ease a bit to know that other people have met them and not been axe-murdered.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I just had a thought... come on... be honest... has anyone ever looked at the profiles of the people who have verified someone and thought .... "well they are obviously not fussy"

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

It'd be interesting to know how often people verifying each other manage to share the same spelling mistakes

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We leave our verifs up cos we believe it helps others decide if we are genuine.

If people see you have met others, either in a social setting, or a party/club or private meet, at least this gives them an idea of what you are like, and whether or not you are genuine, players or timewasters.

If we are interested in someone we like to see their verifs to check whether they are genuine, we check how long they have been on and their friends list too, and make a judgement based on a compilation of the info.

As for the whole phone/webcam thing, I dont think it proves much, but it is useful to out the single guys posing as couples etc.

Its not an infalible system, but it tends to work pretty well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems tome that,if you have no verifications,ur either fake,or not known,so dont stand a chance of proving you want to meet and swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems tome that,if you have no verifications,ur either fake,or not known,so dont stand a chance of proving you want to meet and swing."

Mmmm so when you join then how do you get started lol..

we were swinging for 4 years before we bothered to place a verification up... We've met a few fookin ghosts then lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"It seems tome that,if you have no verifications,ur either fake,or not known,so dont stand a chance of proving you want to meet and swing."

your profile is confusing to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems tome that,if you have no verifications,ur either fake,or not known,so dont stand a chance of proving you want to meet and swing.

your profile is confusing to say the least

Your so sweet at times....

I would have said it was written by a d*unk knocking one off... but won't cause I don't care......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems tome that,if you have no verifications,ur either fake,or not known,so dont stand a chance of proving you want to meet and swing.

your profile is confusing to say the least

Your so sweet at times....

I would have said it was written by a d*unk knocking one off... but won't cause I don't care......

Nope. Definitely a letter to Aunty Jane that was ....

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By *eekabooForYouCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

ok first forum post, so hey everyone! We have noticed a couple who were chatting to, had a single womens profile! That really annoyed us ESP as there excuses were crap to say the least! But they have lots of verifications both as a single fem and a couple. Why would people verify a single profile as a couple? J x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a thought... come on... be honest... has anyone ever looked at the profiles of the people who have verified someone and thought .... "well they are obviously not fussy"

all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often get turned down for meets because we have too many verifications (around 54) some people see that as "hardened swingers"

Why don't I remove some, no, people have taken the trouble to verify us so I show them respect by displaying it.

Our profile does point out that we have not played with all the people that verify us, indeed the number we have played with from our verifications is about 4, the rest are people we have met at clubs or parties, they are people that know we are genuine "players" but only when the time, the place and the company are right for us and them.

We think disregarding our profile and just going by the number of verifications we have shows that they are probably not the people for us anyway.

We are like many in here who think that phone or cam verifications simply show that people are what they say they are and do not confirm that people are genuine swingers or "meetable" it will not show that they are respectfull, turn up when they say they will, not pushy etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't say that I go that far, but just being on my own it puts me at ease a bit to know that other people have met them and not been axe-murdered.

I compeletely agree. I am in the same position and tend to check out verifications before i meet someone new

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