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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you?" It's a swingers site in my eyes, the clue is in the name. That's enough for me and it's more than sufficient. If it's not for others, then perhaps s sex site is what is being sought? | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex " I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex? | |||
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"I would like to have some sex please." You'll need a sex site for that kind of thing  | |||
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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you? It's a swingers site in my eyes, the clue is in the name. That's enough for me and it's more than sufficient. If it's not for others, then perhaps s sex site is what is being sought?" Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex?" Social events for a start When they're no play events what do you assume happens? Or are those events not attended by swingers in your eyes? | |||
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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you?" In a nutshell its a place where a load of crazy people come to behave like crazy people  | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered." I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex? Social events for a start When they're no play events what do you assume happens? Or are those events not attended by swingers in your eyes? " Well put. First piece of advice I was given ahead of my first visit to a swingers club - 'if you turn up with the sole aim of getting laid, you'll be sorely disappointed.' | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex? Social events for a start When they're no play events what do you assume happens? Or are those events not attended by swingers in your eyes? " So do you mean like a social club or a disco? I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!)  | |||
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"I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!) "What is a swinger? That is not a simple question! You want an awful lot of answers and seem to state what answers you don't want. For me, swinging is about meeting like minded people and socialising with them. The physical part is a small, although still important, part for me. It's about making friends and having good times. I have swinging friends whom I would happily spend an evening with and not even have sex. It's also very much different things for different people. And, that is an answer despite you thinking it might not be. | |||
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"look at the forums as the social side. just chatting to people for no reason except to socialise. getting to know people as friends, or something more than fuck and go at least. or having fun flirting and it's the less pressure side of swinging i reckon for those who don't wanna just dive in and have an orgy. sometimes people get sex via this socialising, and it's probably the main aim of socialising for most people tbh. some people only wanna fuck and are not interested in the person as a person, they are not the socialising types. some people are a mix of both." With all due respect you've just described Facebook. | |||
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"I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!)
What is a swinger? That is not a simple question! You want an awful lot of answers and seem to state what answers you don't want.
For me, swinging is about meeting like minded people and socialising with them. The physical part is a small, although still important, part for me. It's about making friends and having good times. I have swinging friends whom I would happily spend an evening with and not even have sex.
It's also very much different things for different people. And, that is an answer despite you thinking it might not be."Again, you've just described Facebook. | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex " This
In the main i suspect that those that view it as a sex site are the ones moaning they can't get anywhere, certainly for single men anyway | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex? Social events for a start When they're no play events what do you assume happens? Or are those events not attended by swingers in your eyes? So do you mean like a social club or a disco? I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!) "Yes it is an adequate answer different people in the swinging lifestyle look for different things some soft swing, some full on swapping, some bdsm play etc There's no definitive answer you're seeking someone that does exist And I've got a social event advertised on my profile take a read you'll get the idea of how they play out | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " You and me both, haha! How utterly wrong we were, hmm? | |||
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"I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!)
What is a swinger? That is not a simple question! You want an awful lot of answers and seem to state what answers you don't want.
For me, swinging is about meeting like minded people and socialising with them. The physical part is a small, although still important, part for me. It's about making friends and having good times. I have swinging friends whom I would happily spend an evening with and not even have sex.
It's also very much different things for different people. And, that is an answer despite you thinking it might not be.
Again, you've just described Facebook."And you're shocked by this Fab is after all a social media site it's just more focussed towards adults | |||
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"Most men in my area think this is a sex site as well. It is all in the attitude and sometimes they can't keep up the act! Those type are often left disappointed or wonder why I have changed my mind about meeting them "Just because someone thinks it's a sex site doesn't automatically mean that they want to sleep around, they may be looking for one sexual partner? | |||
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"look at the forums as the social side. just chatting to people for no reason except to socialise. getting to know people as friends, or something more than fuck and go at least. or having fun flirting and it's the less pressure side of swinging i reckon for those who don't wanna just dive in and have an orgy. sometimes people get sex via this socialising, and it's probably the main aim of socialising for most people tbh. some people only wanna fuck and are not interested in the person as a person, they are not the socialising types. some people are a mix of both. With all due respect you've just described Facebook." really? when describing socialising you've then compared it to a social media? think about what you just said.  | |||
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"Most men in my area think this is a sex site as well. It is all in the attitude and sometimes they can't keep up the act! Those type are often left disappointed or wonder why I have changed my mind about meeting them
Just because someone thinks it's a sex site doesn't automatically mean that they want to sleep around, they may be looking for one sexual partner?"Then they could be arguably more suited to a vanilla dating site | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting." Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting..  | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " Ah! You were thinking of Salisbury. This is Fabswingers! | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex I'm more than happy to be educated...what that doesn't involve sex? Social events for a start When they're no play events what do you assume happens? Or are those events not attended by swingers in your eyes? So do you mean like a social club or a disco? I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!) "I think you are being deliberately obtuse... You must know what kind of social is being talked about.. It's where two or more people meet to get to know others without the intention or pressure to have sex, which is probably what might happen on a sex site rather than a swingers site | |||
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"Most men in my area think this is a sex site as well. It is all in the attitude and sometimes they can't keep up the act! Those type are often left disappointed or wonder why I have changed my mind about meeting them
Just because someone thinks it's a sex site doesn't automatically mean that they want to sleep around, they may be looking for one sexual partner?"But to have sex with me, they need to be able to engage my mind first, that is what I mean about not being able to keep up the act!  | |||
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"I'm really not being flippant but still the question hasn't been answered. Perhaps a slightly simpler question then What is a Swinger? (Different things for different people is not an answer by the way!)
What is a swinger? That is not a simple question! You want an awful lot of answers and seem to state what answers you don't want.
For me, swinging is about meeting like minded people and socialising with them. The physical part is a small, although still important, part for me. It's about making friends and having good times. I have swinging friends whom I would happily spend an evening with and not even have sex.
It's also very much different things for different people. And, that is an answer despite you thinking it might not be.
Again, you've just described Facebook.
And you're shocked by this
Fab is after all a social media site it's just more focussed towards adults "Okay, I was just asking a question after all! | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting.. "But who is to say you can't be here if that's not directly what you are looking for? (Not you personally btw) Many are just here to chat or perve, or just meet for coffee ... I would think that those types of people who would definitely stay away from a sex site would feel more comfortable on here | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting.. "Thank you, deep down it was a point I suppose I was trying to make. | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting..
But who is to say you can't be here if that's not directly what you are looking for? (Not you personally btw)
Many are just here to chat or perve, or just meet for coffee ...
I would think that those types of people who would definitely stay away from a sex site would feel more comfortable on here "Exactly this ^^ I've been on sex sites in the past and they are not for me, this place suits my needs much better | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting..
Thank you, deep down it was a point I suppose I was trying to make. "i do want sex, most men are putting me off that. part of it's down to me also, but i do have an idea this site is not the best place for what i want. | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " Go halfs on a taxi | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " When we joined I thought it would just be for swinging couples. Didn't take long to realise we were going to be in for a shock! As it happens I like to meet guys on their own anyway so the allowing of single people worked for us. Still naively hadn't anticipated the number of cheating people and people just after a quick fuck though, oh and the fakes and time wasters and dreamers... If you find a site with what you described then please do let us know!  | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting..
But who is to say you can't be here if that's not directly what you are looking for? (Not you personally btw)
Many are just here to chat or perve, or just meet for coffee ...
I would think that those types of people who would definitely stay away from a sex site would feel more comfortable on here
Exactly this ^^ I've been on sex sites in the past and they are not for me, this place suits my needs much better "i've found more fwb on sex sites rather than here. this place is more a married peoples site and fuck and go place i feel. thinking of rejoining them now i'm in a better place to connect with people. | |||
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"Again, sorry but my question hasn't been answered. I think it has but perhaps you do not want to see the answer? Many will tell you that it's a swingers site. If you don't understand that or it's not sufficient, then perhaps this is not the place to be frequenting. Surely the point of swinging is to engage in sexual activities. Yes, there are non sexual socials but the aim is to get to know who you want to have sex with! I've been on here as couples and as a single, and had plenty of sex. Perhaps if you don't want sex, this is not the place to be frequenting..
But who is to say you can't be here if that's not directly what you are looking for? (Not you personally btw)
Many are just here to chat or perve, or just meet for coffee ...
I would think that those types of people who would definitely stay away from a sex site would feel more comfortable on here
Exactly this ^^ I've been on sex sites in the past and they are not for me, this place suits my needs much better
i've found more fwb on sex sites rather than here. this place is more a married peoples site and fuck and go place i feel.
thinking of rejoining them now i'm in a better place to connect with people."And I've found more FWB from here Guess it does work. Different for different people after all | |||
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"look at the forums as the social side. just chatting to people for no reason except to socialise. getting to know people as friends, or something more than fuck and go at least. or having fun flirting and it's the less pressure side of swinging i reckon for those who don't wanna just dive in and have an orgy. sometimes people get sex via this socialising, and it's probably the main aim of socialising for most people tbh. some people only wanna fuck and are not interested in the person as a person, they are not the socialising types. some people are a mix of both. With all due respect you've just described Facebook. really? when describing socialising you've then compared it to a social media? think about what you just said. "Actually I'll stand by what I posted, I think what you described can be fully obtained on Facebook etc, and I don't think there is anything at all wrong with that. | |||
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I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site | |||
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"look at the forums as the social side. just chatting to people for no reason except to socialise. getting to know people as friends, or something more than fuck and go at least. or having fun flirting and it's the less pressure side of swinging i reckon for those who don't wanna just dive in and have an orgy. sometimes people get sex via this socialising, and it's probably the main aim of socialising for most people tbh. some people only wanna fuck and are not interested in the person as a person, they are not the socialising types. some people are a mix of both. With all due respect you've just described Facebook. really? when describing socialising you've then compared it to a social media? think about what you just said.
Actually I'll stand by what I posted, I think what you described can be fully obtained on Facebook etc, and I don't think there is anything at all wrong with that. "it's true. that's what's so funny though. | |||
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" Actually I'll stand by what I posted, I think what you described can be fully obtained on Facebook etc, and I don't think there is anything at all wrong with that. "A number of things can be fully obtained in a number of places ... it doesnt mean it was the purpose of the place to begin with ... i might bump into a priest at the supermarket ... it doesnt make the supermarket a church | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. Ah! You were thinking of Salisbury. This is Fabswingers! "I'm not moving to Salisbury Clem. But your persistence is endearing  | |||
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"What is a sex site?" hook up site. there's plenty of them about. | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site "On it but don't really use it. 1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices. 2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't. | |||
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" Actually I'll stand by what I posted, I think what you described can be fully obtained on Facebook etc, and I don't think there is anything at all wrong with that.
A number of things can be fully obtained in a number of places ... it doesnt mean it was the purpose of the place to begin with ... i might bump into a priest at the supermarket ... it doesnt make the supermarket a church "Not a lawyer but I think if you made a confession to a priest in a supermarket then it is considered privileged as if it was in a confessional box in a church, still not being flippant by the way! | |||
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"We use this site to meet like minded people its not all about sex but sex maybe on the menu if we all click.. "thats exactly the way it is | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about." They come under the disguise of a dating site | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't."On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " Certainly Love, just head about 100 years into the future and you can't miss it. | |||
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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you?" Mr2 here. It's a swinging site were like minded people can chat, get to know each other be it by the forums or via mailing, show themselves off on cam to generate interest from others, arrange socials to have a face to face meeting to see if they have a coonection, and then decide if they would like to pursue each others interests in the pleasures of sex. | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it "I have no interest in paying an escort for sex but would be quite happy to pay substantially more for fab if it improved the site and meant it worked better for me. I know from previous threads that isn't a commonly held opinion though and most don't want to pay more. | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it "Honestly, I thought this was a site where people came because they wanted to find like minded people with their own sexual proclivities (I've being wanting to use that word for ages! ) BUT, not a sex site in the way you describe or think, which actually isn't for me. My profile is genuine, open, honest and contains no lies.
So, If the answer to my question is this is a site for all why so much "cheater/married" men bashing do you think especially like me if people are open and honest from the beginning? | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it
I have no interest in paying an escort for sex but would be quite happy to pay substantially more for fab if it improved the site and meant it worked better for me. I know from previous threads that isn't a commonly held opinion though and most don't want to pay more."Sorry i wasnt suggesting you would pay for it ... was trying to say the behaviour and sense of entitlement that people have when they pay for it seems to be there with many ... lots come on thinking "its a sex site" so i instantly want to be able to pick a woman/ couple and have sex when it suits me without putting in any ground work or effort and then wonder why they are not successful ... and i think thats what differentiaties a sex site and a swinging site ... its not just about the sex ... sure ideally it gets there but there are other elements that build up to that rather than the instant gratification you can get on a sex site | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab."I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful  | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful "No idea either most other site for hook ups are god awful | |||
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I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it
Honestly, I thought this was a site where people came because they wanted to find like minded people with their own sexual proclivities (I've being wanting to use that word for ages! ) BUT, not a sex site in the way you describe or think, which actually isn't for me. My profile is genuine, open, honest and contains no lies.
So, If the answer to my question is this is a site for all why so much "cheater/married" men bashing do you think especially like me if people are open and honest from the beginning? "Because no matter where you go in life not everyone will have the same moral stance as you and if you choose to cheat thats your business but when you put it out there publicly i think you have to accept that a number or people will disagree with your behaviour Also given its a swinging site which would have originally been set up for couples and there are a huge number of couples on here who are open and honest with each other and chose to do this as a journey together ... i can completely understand why they would look down on someone who decided instead to do it behind their partners back ... swinging and cheating are not the same thing | |||
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I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it
I have no interest in paying an escort for sex but would be quite happy to pay substantially more for fab if it improved the site and meant it worked better for me. I know from previous threads that isn't a commonly held opinion though and most don't want to pay more.
Sorry i wasnt suggesting you would pay for it ... was trying to say the behaviour and sense of entitlement that people have when they pay for it seems to be there with many ... lots come on thinking "its a sex site" so i instantly want to be able to pick a woman/ couple and have sex when it suits me without putting in any ground work or effort and then wonder why they are not successful ... and i think thats what differentiaties a sex site and a swinging site ... its not just about the sex ... sure ideally it gets there but there are other elements that build up to that rather than the instant gratification you can get on a sex site "No worries, I wonder if a woman's perspective of a sex site is very different to a man's. Every sex site I've been on has been awful and a waste of time and money, I think a woman's experience of the same site might be quite different. | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab."Do you think the women on these sites are actually real or just there to get the men to join? | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful "i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing? dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck). | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
Do you think the women on these sites are actually real or just there to get the men to join?"real. like i said i had actual conversations with guys on there and not all about them wanting sex. some would tell me about their meets, like one guy met a woman and really liked her but the sex was too extreme and he was asking me should he meet her again. i said tell her what you wasn't into and ask her if she'd like to meet without doing that, he did that and it went well for him. it was a genuine site. i met quite a few guys off there and chatted to way more. it was a good site at the time but they guys wanted more than what i wanted. | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck)."I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time. | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck).
I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time."you could see who the members were before you logged in, it always showed the womens profiles coz the site presumed you to be male looking for sex. nobody stood out as looking fake, just your average woman really like you'd see on the street (for my area). and like i said the guys were more friendly, unlike fab where it's all about their cock mostly and getting laid, so i chatted to them like friends and nobody had that opinion. | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck).
I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time.
you could see who the members were before you logged in, it always showed the womens profiles coz the site presumed you to be male looking for sex. nobody stood out as looking fake, just your average woman really like you'd see on the street (for my area).
and like i said the guys were more friendly, unlike fab where it's all about their cock mostly and getting laid, so i chatted to them like friends and nobody had that opinion."Sounds familiar, they usually show pics of normal looking apparently local women to lure you in, once you actually join you usually get a load of initial messages from said women which are all clearly fakes. Site you were on may have been different but I've tried a lot of them and yet to find a good one  | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck).
I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time.
you could see who the members were before you logged in, it always showed the womens profiles coz the site presumed you to be male looking for sex. nobody stood out as looking fake, just your average woman really like you'd see on the street (for my area).
and like i said the guys were more friendly, unlike fab where it's all about their cock mostly and getting laid, so i chatted to them like friends and nobody had that opinion.
Sounds familiar, they usually show pics of normal looking apparently local women to lure you in, once you actually join you usually get a load of initial messages from said women which are all clearly fakes. Site you were on may have been different but I've tried a lot of them and yet to find a good one "it's not a popular site, so hasn't been ruined yet. it's def not full of fake profiles although it does offer women incentives to stay on the site for free and was even running competitions a while back (before i deleted my account) where we could win money if we had the most interactions with men that week. dunno if the men knew about that. gonna go make a new profile when i've finished washing up and see if anyone i know is on there still. | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck).
I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time.
you could see who the members were before you logged in, it always showed the womens profiles coz the site presumed you to be male looking for sex. nobody stood out as looking fake, just your average woman really like you'd see on the street (for my area).
and like i said the guys were more friendly, unlike fab where it's all about their cock mostly and getting laid, so i chatted to them like friends and nobody had that opinion.
Sounds familiar, they usually show pics of normal looking apparently local women to lure you in, once you actually join you usually get a load of initial messages from said women which are all clearly fakes. Site you were on may have been different but I've tried a lot of them and yet to find a good one
it's not a popular site, so hasn't been ruined yet. it's def not full of fake profiles although it does offer women incentives to stay on the site for free and was even running competitions a while back (before i deleted my account) where we could win money if we had the most interactions with men that week. dunno if the men knew about that.
gonna go make a new profile when i've finished washing up and see if anyone i know is on there still."Feel free to drop me a pm please as sounds interesting | |||
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"I have been on dating sites and read profiles of people who are definitely not there to date. I have read profiles on here of people who are not interested in swinging. Some people are just too miserable in my opinion. This is a swingers site,swingers have sex in a liberated way others don't. Football can't be described as cricket. This is a sex site." But not everyone as sex with everyone so this clearly isn't a sex site Football and cricket are both sports that do have something in common though they're played using a ball Think about it | |||
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"I have been on dating sites and read profiles of people who are definitely not there to date. I have read profiles on here of people who are not interested in swinging. Some people are just too miserable in my opinion. This is a swingers site,swingers have sex in a liberated way others don't. Football can't be described as cricket. This is a sex site. But not everyone as sex with everyone so this clearly isn't a sex site Football and cricket are both sports that do have something in common though they're played using a ball Think about it " Does that mean you've got to have balls to play? What! It was an open goal, see what I did there? | |||
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"What is a sex site? hook up site. there's plenty of them about. They come under the disguise of a dating site
there's dating sites where people hook up but i'm talking about actual hook up sites that do exist.
dunno why most guys don't use them also? most of the women on them are kinkier than here also. not really any bbw on them either.
and they are way more social, friendship orientated, than fab.
I have no idea what these sites are, every site I've been on apart from fab has been awful
i think the one i was on would suit me better now, wish i hadn't deleted my account and kept in touch with guys on there coz they were well up for keeping in touch. i got ways to get in touch with them off the site, might do that instead but not sure if that's the done thing?
dunno it was just a more friendly and respectful place despite being for supposed hook ups. and the guys chatted about intelligent stuff and i really miss actual conversations with men that don't revolve around sex with them (i stop chatting when guys do this, it's always bored the fuck outta me even when i was only after a fuck).
I just wonder if a woman's experience of those sites is very different to a man's. I've found them dominated by fake female profiles and scams plus the male/female ratio is even worse than fab. There were some genuine women on them but they just get so lost in all the fake and baiting profiles that the site becomes a waste of time.
you could see who the members were before you logged in, it always showed the womens profiles coz the site presumed you to be male looking for sex. nobody stood out as looking fake, just your average woman really like you'd see on the street (for my area).
and like i said the guys were more friendly, unlike fab where it's all about their cock mostly and getting laid, so i chatted to them like friends and nobody had that opinion.
Sounds familiar, they usually show pics of normal looking apparently local women to lure you in, once you actually join you usually get a load of initial messages from said women which are all clearly fakes. Site you were on may have been different but I've tried a lot of them and yet to find a good one
it's not a popular site, so hasn't been ruined yet. it's def not full of fake profiles although it does offer women incentives to stay on the site for free and was even running competitions a while back (before i deleted my account) where we could win money if we had the most interactions with men that week. dunno if the men knew about that.
gonna go make a new profile when i've finished washing up and see if anyone i know is on there still.
Feel free to drop me a pm please as sounds interesting "i seen one of the more social guys of fab is on there right now haha. i just read his blog.
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"Very interesting thread. Broadly speaking there are probably dating sites, sex sites and swing sites. There are overlaps between all. Dating site can range from looking for a long term partner to a friend with benefits. Sex sites can range from looking for a friend with benefits to a hookup just for sex. Swinging sites are more focused on couples looking for couple swaps, or threesomes by having a single person join the couple. Swinging sites also have a large focus on couples and sometimes singles getting together at swing parties and clubs or maybe social get-togethers with the possibility of sex at a later date or later that night. Within the swinging lifestyle sex will usual involve more that 2 people taking part, or at the very least 2 people but with other/s watching. Typically there is a social element to swinging too, so it's very much a case of fucking your friends. Others may disagree with me, but I do not regard 2 people meeting up in private and having sex, and nobody else being involved, as swinging. So for a man who wants to find a lady to have sex with, I would suggest a dating site or sex site (ie a site that focuses on one-to-ones meets) is probably more suitable than a site that is strictly for swinging. That being said, despite the name, Fab is also a sex site as well as a swinging site. So probably the best thing to do is decide what you want to use the site for, and seek out people who use it for the same purposes. For example we use Fab for swinging and we will only play with swingers. Our experience is that the majority of men on this site are not particularly interested in swinging. Which is fine, but we won't play with them because they are looking for something different from what we are looking for. Mrs" Agree with pretty much all that, the only problem is the sex sites are rubbish for finding sex on as a single guy so lots end up here. | |||
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" I've had a lot more sex from fab than anywhere else, most other sites are dominated of scammers, fake profiles and auto generated messages ect. Although fab isn't perfect it's the best I've found for what i want." I agree with this. I was on another adult sex site before this and i had a lot more meets from there (until i met the man who was an oddball), but it was expensive for membership and it was choc full of obvious fake profiles. I prefer this site. Far more local men on here. | |||
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"Very interesting thread. Broadly speaking there are probably dating sites, sex sites and swing sites. There are overlaps between all. Dating site can range from looking for a long term partner to a friend with benefits. Sex sites can range from looking for a friend with benefits to a hookup just for sex. Swinging sites are more focused on couples looking for couple swaps, or threesomes by having a single person join the couple. Swinging sites also have a large focus on couples and sometimes singles getting together at swing parties and clubs or maybe social get-togethers with the possibility of sex at a later date or later that night. Within the swinging lifestyle sex will usual involve more that 2 people taking part, or at the very least 2 people but with other/s watching. Typically there is a social element to swinging too, so it's very much a case of fucking your friends. Others may disagree with me, but I do not regard 2 people meeting up in private and having sex, and nobody else being involved, as swinging. So for a man who wants to find a lady to have sex with, I would suggest a dating site or sex site (ie a site that focuses on one-to-ones meets) is probably more suitable than a site that is strictly for swinging. That being said, despite the name, Fab is also a sex site as well as a swinging site. So probably the best thing to do is decide what you want to use the site for, and seek out people who use it for the same purposes. For example we use Fab for swinging and we will only play with swingers. Our experience is that the majority of men on this site are not particularly interested in swinging. Which is fine, but we won't play with them because they are looking for something different from what we are looking for. Mrs Agree with pretty much all that, the only problem is the sex sites are rubbish for finding sex on as a single guy so lots end up here." I think if a man wants purely a sex site or is using Fab as a sex site, then he will be disappointed. There are just not enough women who want the same. | |||
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"Highly sufficient to me there's a whole lot more to swinging than sex This
In the main i suspect that those that view it as a sex site are the ones moaning they can't get anywhere, certainly for single men anyway"They are certainly not the ones I'm looking to meet (when meeting) I find it a useful filter when quoted | |||
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"People have been really articulate in responding to the OP but I'd ask why does it need to be particularly defined as a sex site or a swingers site. It's not gumtree, it's not Facebook or eBay, a short browse and you can plainly see what it's for. There's no confusion whatsoever. " Because the site owners decided to call it fabswingers Clues in the name | |||
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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you?" swinging site is sufficient for me | |||
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it
I have no interest in paying an escort for sex but would be quite happy to pay substantially more for fab if it improved the site and meant it worked better for me. I know from previous threads that isn't a commonly held opinion though and most don't want to pay more."How would paying more improve your chances of having sex? | |||
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Some of these replies are quite funny, always makes me laugh when people try to make something sound what it is or isnt, think the closest answer is the one who linked a wikipedia quote.
I some people seriously think this is just a social place for meeting, making friends then they are clearly on the wrong site, it is a swinging site and end of the day, were here to meet people we gel with, regularly meet and sometimes fuck. If the sex part wasnt what we wanted then we certainly wouldnt be here! | |||
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" So, If the answer to my question is this is a site for all why so much "cheater/married" men bashing do you think especially like me if people are open and honest from the beginning?
Because no matter where you go in life not everyone will have the same moral stance as you and if you choose to cheat thats your business but when you put it out there publicly i think you have to accept that a number or people will disagree with your behaviour
Also given its a swinging site which would have originally been set up for couples and there are a huge number of couples on here who are open and honest with each other and chose to do this as a journey together ... i can completely understand why they would look down on someone who decided instead to do it behind their partners back ... swinging and cheating are not the same thing "
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"People have been really articulate in responding to the OP but I'd ask why does it need to be particularly defined as a sex site or a swingers site. It's not gumtree, it's not Facebook or eBay, a short browse and you can plainly see what it's for. There's no confusion whatsoever. Because the site owners decided to call it fabswingers Clues in the name " That's the bottom line isn't it | |||
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In all seriousness though , anyone who thinks swinging doesn't involve sex is either delusional or a complete fantasist . Or an armchair swinger who likes the thought of it but doesn't engage in it .
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"I think the OP might be using facebook wrong
I also think if it was a sex site you would
1. Be guaranteed sex
2. Be allowed to charge / pay for it
Neither of which are the case so its not a sex site
On it but don't really use it.
1) honestly don't think it would guarantee sex, after all as adults we've still got choices.
2) can't respond on this point as haven't and wouldn't.
On a site like AW which i would classify as a sex site then yeah you would be guaranteed it in some way as another poster said above ... wether that be by cam/ phone/ escort
The trouble with fab is fast becoming the number of guys flooding in "recommended by their friend" because they just split up with someone and need a shag ... this demographic tend to confuse fab with not only a sex site but a free version of it
I have no interest in paying an escort for sex but would be quite happy to pay substantially more for fab if it improved the site and meant it worked better for me. I know from previous threads that isn't a commonly held opinion though and most don't want to pay more.
How would paying more improve your chances of having sex?"On some other sites men have to pay, it cuts down the numbers of men so the male/female balance is more even. It won't make someone want to have sex with me but it improves the chances of being found by the ones who do. It also means more of the male profiles are "genuine" as nobody wants to throw money away. | |||
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"If you are single its a sex site for singles if you are a couple its a sex site but for the couples" What about couple looking for a single person to join them ??? | |||
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"If you are single its a sex site for singles if you are a couple its a sex site but for the couples What about couple looking for a single person to join them ???" I was wondering that | |||
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"Probably looking for sex... so a sex site....." People join dating sites to get sex, they join escort sites to get sex, they join swinging sites to get sex, they join adult sex sites to get sex. Swinging involves sex, but it's quite specific - we would not be able to find what we are looking for on a bog standard adult sex site. If I were single I would look for NSA sex from a dating site, but that's not possible as a couple. | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 18/03/17 19:49:26]" is that going to be 3rd time lucky | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 18/03/17 19:49:26] is that going to be 3rd time lucky "Typos ! | |||
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"I came here thinking it'd be a place for sexual libertines. People of all sexualities and genders, openly and happily meeting and fucking each other. Where open minded couples shared their loved ones with others. A place where cheating was frowned upon. Where singles joined in the fun with a respectful, sex positive, polyamorous mindset. Turns out not to be the case at all. If someone can point me in the direction of this sexual utopia, please send me way. " It is....at least it is for us....but then usually we don't first meet others via Fab, but in other ways, and then they happen to be on Fab and we keep in touch with them that way. You have just described sexual utopia, and yes, it is out there, it does exist | |||
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"I can only answer this from our perspective . It's a site where you meet up with like minded others for sex . So it's definately a sex site for us . But then we see swinging as an opportunity to have sex with other people as well as your partner , so it's a swinging site too
In all seriousness though , anyone who thinks swinging doesn't involve sex is either delusional or a complete fantasist . Or an armchair swinger who likes the thought of it but doesn't engage in it .
"And they seem the ones who seem to take umbrage most to me, a bit like champagne socialists or pillow princess. | |||
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"I can only answer this from our perspective . It's a site where you meet up with like minded others for sex . So it's definately a sex site for us . But then we see swinging as an opportunity to have sex with other people as well as your partner , so it's a swinging site too
In all seriousness though , anyone who thinks swinging doesn't involve sex is either delusional or a complete fantasist . Or an armchair swinger who likes the thought of it but doesn't engage in it .
"I dont think anyone has suggested swingjng doesnt involve sex ... we just think there is a bit more too it than just sex I also think its unfair to call out "armchair" swingers like that ... not everyone can jump in head first right away ... some need to work their way into it so why shouldnt they familiarise theirself with the lifestyle from afar til they are ready to take that step | |||
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"I can only answer this from our perspective . It's a site where you meet up with like minded others for sex . So it's definately a sex site for us . But then we see swinging as an opportunity to have sex with other people as well as your partner , so it's a swinging site too
In all seriousness though , anyone who thinks swinging doesn't involve sex is either delusional or a complete fantasist . Or an armchair swinger who likes the thought of it but doesn't engage in it .
I dont think anyone has suggested swingjng doesnt involve sex ... we just think there is a bit more too it than just sex
I also think its unfair to call out "armchair" swingers like that ... not everyone can jump in head first right away ... some need to work their way into it so why shouldnt they familiarise theirself with the lifestyle from afar til they are ready to take that step "Swinging most certainly involves sex, and nobody could possibly say we don't use this site for it's intended purpose, or acuse us of being 'armchair swingers'. But we will not, under any circumstances, play with men who are looking for sex but not interested in swinging. We have our reasons for this decision, but as a result is is very important for us to distinguish between those men who use this site as a adult sex site, and those who use it as a swinging site. | |||
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"Seen this statement on numerous threads recently and I'm genuinely confused, if it isn't, was it then? An answer of it's a swinging site as never been sufficient for me, what about you?" No it's site where a lot of people moan about not getting any sex. | |||
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Am I in the wrong place?
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"I get a fair bit of sex by hanging out on this site.
Am I in the wrong place?
Oops "There's a few of us like yourself on here | |||
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"Swinging site is so much different ftom sex site. To many people probably think by signing up to Fab they're sure to get sex. Wrong. You go to a night club, you see a girl you like, you try to impress, banter and what not. One thing leads to another and you end up having sex....yipee....Does that mean the nightclub is actually a sex club??? No, didnt think so. Same as here. You got to put in the leg work, you got to impress, theres got to be some kind of attraction. Although your chances might be marginally higher on here, it's a swingers site not a sex site." | |||
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"I get a fair bit of sex by hanging out on this site.
Am I in the wrong place?
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"Swinging site is so much different ftom sex site. To many people probably think by signing up to Fab they're sure to get sex. Wrong. You go to a night club, you see a girl you like, you try to impress, banter and what not. One thing leads to another and you end up having sex....yipee....Does that mean the nightclub is actually a sex club??? No, didnt think so. Same as here. You got to put in the leg work, you got to impress, theres got to be some kind of attraction. Although your chances might be marginally higher on here, it's a swingers site not a sex site." Going to a nightclub doesn't necessitate looking for a sexual pick up . Plenty of people go to have a drink and a dance , and have no interest in having sex with anyone there . What I fail to understand is why anyone would join a swinging site and have no intention of having sex with anyone . | |||
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"I get a fair bit of sex by hanging out on this site.
Am I in the wrong place?
Oops
There's a few of us like yourself on here "Hey welcome back
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"I get a fair bit of sex by hanging out on this site.
Am I in the wrong place?
Oops
There's a few of us like yourself on here
Hey welcome back
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"Very interesting thread. Broadly speaking there are probably dating sites, sex sites and swing sites. There are overlaps between all. Dating site can range from looking for a long term partner to a friend with benefits. Sex sites can range from looking for a friend with benefits to a hookup just for sex. Swinging sites are more focused on couples looking for couple swaps, or threesomes by having a single person join the couple. Swinging sites also have a large focus on couples and sometimes singles getting together at swing parties and clubs or maybe social get-togethers with the possibility of sex at a later date or later that night. Within the swinging lifestyle sex will usual involve more that 2 people taking part, or at the very least 2 people but with other/s watching. Typically there is a social element to swinging too, so it's very much a case of fucking your friends. Others may disagree with me, but I do not regard 2 people meeting up in private and having sex, and nobody else being involved, as swinging. So for a man who wants to find a lady to have sex with, I would suggest a dating site or sex site (ie a site that focuses on one-to-ones meets) is probably more suitable than a site that is strictly for swinging. That being said, despite the name, Fab is also a sex site as well as a swinging site. So probably the best thing to do is decide what you want to use the site for, and seek out people who use it for the same purposes. For example we use Fab for swinging and we will only play with swingers. Our experience is that the majority of men on this site are not particularly interested in swinging. Which is fine, but we won't play with them because they are looking for something different from what we are looking for. Mrs" Hit quite a few nails squarely on the head. | |||
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" What I fail to understand is why anyone would join a swinging site and have no intention of having sex with anyone . " This - completely. Way too many people on Fab that want to simply "chat" - I suppose that's fine but it doesn't half make it a real pain for people that genuinely want to meet others for sex. | |||
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" What I fail to understand is why anyone would join a swinging site and have no intention of having sex with anyone . This - completely. Way too many people on Fab that want to simply "chat" - I suppose that's fine but it doesn't half make it a real pain for people that genuinely want to meet others for sex." Careful!! | |||
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" What I fail to understand is why anyone would join a swinging site and have no intention of having sex with anyone ." Curiosity, voyeurism, vicarious living, an indirect venting of desire. "This - completely. Way too many people on Fab that want to simply "chat" - I suppose that's fine but it doesn't half make it a real pain for people that genuinely want to meet others for sex." I don't see a problem with it as long as they are clear about their intentions. Those that arrange meets they don't plan on attending are the real problem. If someone wants to browse and/or wank quietly in the corner, they can knock themselves out as far as I'm concerned. "Careful!! "OP whether it fits your purposes or not socialising is a big part of swinging. You said earlier "you've just desribed Facebook" - well, no. I can't participate in an open-room discussion about the ins and outs of our extraordinary sex lives on FB. | |||
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" What I fail to understand is why anyone would join a swinging site and have no intention of having sex with anyone . Curiosity, voyeurism, vicarious living, an indirect venting of desire. This - completely. Way too many people on Fab that want to simply "chat" - I suppose that's fine but it doesn't half make it a real pain for people that genuinely want to meet others for sex. I don't see a problem with it as long as they are clear about their intentions. Those that arrange meets they don't plan on attending are the real problem. If someone wants to browse and/or wank quietly in the corner, they can knock themselves out as far as I'm concerned. Careful!!
OP whether it fits your purposes or not socialising is a big part of swinging. You said earlier "you've just desribed Facebook" - well, no. I can't participate in an open-room discussion about the ins and outs of our extraordinary sex lives on FB."Facebook is nothing like a Fab IMO. I use Facebook to post pictures of my children, or our family holidays etc. Wouldn't dream of discussing my swinging experiences on Facebook! | |||
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