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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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just by being female your desires can be ignored as a default.

dunno why they message anyone in that way, doubt it ever works.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Occasionally I ask why they couldn't be fucked to read my very simple profile, some apologise, most get all butt hurt, defensive and rude as is befitting the self entitled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Occasionally I ask why they couldn't be fucked to read my very simple profile, some apologise, most get all butt hurt, defensive and rude as is befitting the self entitled. "

Guys are constantly moaning at us for not responding to messsges. Their approach is usually the key indicator as to why they don't even get a "thanks but no thanks"......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just by being female your desires can be ignored as a default.

dunno why they message anyone in that way, doubt it ever works."

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Occasionally I ask why they couldn't be fucked to read my very simple profile, some apologise, most get all butt hurt, defensive and rude as is befitting the self entitled.

Guys are constantly moaning at us for not responding to messsges. Their approach is usually the key indicator as to why they don't even get a "thanks but no thanks"......"

The response that always makes me chuckle is 'I wouldn't fuck you anyway you dog faced bitch'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Occasionally I ask why they couldn't be fucked to read my very simple profile, some apologise, most get all butt hurt, defensive and rude as is befitting the self entitled.

Guys are constantly moaning at us for not responding to messsges. Their approach is usually the key indicator as to why they don't even get a "thanks but no thanks"......

The response that always makes me chuckle is 'I wouldn't fuck you anyway you dog faced bitch'."

Laughable really...... intelligent conversation rather than insults would probably save the day.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have been asked to fuck this morning. No photo, no dialogue. Twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read ones where I like the pictures.

I don't send first messages though and it's clear there's a lot of people who do when they haven't read a word

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By *nowbodyyounoMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks?? "

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN

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By *nowbodyyounoMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"I read ones where I like the pictures.

I don't send first messages though and it's clear there's a lot of people who do when they haven't read a word"

Agree with this also. Most people won't get to the text, if they don't like the pictures. Unless they're hoping to find some form of explanation for something outlandish found in said pictures.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We got a message from a guy who seemed OK but as his profile said he couldn't accommodate and as we can't we said he would need to get a hotel. He said we could meet at his office, to which we responded that we were a bit old to sneak around someone's office. He said he ran the company so we wouldn't have to sneak.

At this point we thought that if, even before we met we were arguing about venues, this wasn't going to work so we told him that. Cue a torrent of abuse and him blocking us. The latter being pretty cowardly we thought.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN"

for me it's more that i want the guy to be somewhat observant and considerate of my needs and not just his 'i want' nature.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have been asked to fuck this morning. No photo, no dialogue. Twat"

We get that loads. And the guys who think the fact that they are in a hotel in your area is a selling point!

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By *nowbodyyounoMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN

for me it's more that i want the guy to be somewhat observant and considerate of my needs and not just his 'i want' nature."

So perhaps you want to connect with him more on an emotional level as well as physically - i.e., he's considerate/observant and so on?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN

for me it's more that i want the guy to be somewhat observant and considerate of my needs and not just his 'i want' nature.

So perhaps you want to connect with him more on an emotional level as well as physically - i.e., he's considerate/observant and so on?

"

i wouldn't say emotionally as that more implies bringing feelings into sex (which is nice but it takes me a while to want to do that). i more want to know i will be getting good sex and that i won't have to make all the effort to get that. so if he's observant of my needs on my profile he is probably more likely to care what i want, same for being considerate.

i will have some idea by the way he approaches me, and how he interacts with me if i do reply. if i feel comfortable communicating with him then i feel confident i can communicate with him in bed.

it's why a lot of things can put people off a potential sexual partner really. there's so many things that can flag up a feeling that the sex wouldn't be any good with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks?? "

Why is your profile so long??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks?? "

Your profile reads really well and couldn't be misinterpreted. But then it wouldn't matter if it could be misinterpreted, because the people who send 'wanna fuck' type messages don't get as far as reading the words.

Single guys usually get the flack for this, but we often get the same thing from couples. The good news is that it acts as a very effective filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to fuck this morning. No photo, no dialogue. Twat"

Why is he a 'twat'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN"

I'm not looking for an emotional connection. I agree on the physical and intellectual level. Great sex starts with liking what you see and being able to intelligently converse on your tastes is a real turn on. Also great pillow talk on a number of hot topics is a great way to end a successful meet. It's the lack of respect that people just don't read the profile of someone who has taken time to try and get their personality and wants across in a few paragraphs. Then it's the constant wailing that these people don't get replies and meets in the forums. Well engage brain. Don't message someone who clearly has a set agenda for contact doing the complete opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got abuse because I wouldn't give out my phone number after 3 txts !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We got a message from a guy who seemed OK but as his profile said he couldn't accommodate and as we can't we said he would need to get a hotel. He said we could meet at his office, to which we responded that we were a bit old to sneak around someone's office. He said he ran the company so we wouldn't have to sneak.

At this point we thought that if, even before we met we were arguing about venues, this wasn't going to work so we told him that. Cue a torrent of abuse and him blocking us. The latter being pretty cowardly we thought. "

Exactly my point. How these people get anywhere is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a really long message that stated how my profile closely matched what they were looking for and proceeded to then tell me more about themselves. It immediately struck to me as a cut and paste job. I called out the person asking them to identify how our individual needs were mutually compatible. A series of equally waffly replies confirmed to me it was a cut and paste job and I set him a 500 word essay with SMART objectives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a really long message that stated how my profile closely matched what they were looking for and proceeded to then tell me more about themselves. It immediately struck to me as a cut and paste job. I called out the person asking them to identify how our individual needs were mutually compatible. A series of equally waffly replies confirmed to me it was a cut and paste job and I set him a 500 word essay with SMART objectives.

"

Oh well spotted. Dealt with appropriate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got abuse because I wouldn't give out my phone number after 3 txts !! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got abuse because I wouldn't give out my phone number after 3 txts !! "

Yep and then he told me he will block me

If i keep messaging him.! Haha wtf bye!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Why is your profile so long?? "

Because I'm trying to give an insight into myself. Trying to cut out the tedious and unsuitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the majority don't read mine, then they wonder when I give sarcastic answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. That's a long profile.

It's quite clear. Nothing in your op there.

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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago

hemel hempstead

Hi can you please tell me if my profile is ok please and were I need to improve thanks

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi can you please tell me if my profile is ok please and were I need to improve thanks "

Start your own thread and stop hijacking other people's.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks?? "

Just users looking to use draining your energy with their demands to use you par for the coarse Op

just be grateful they are up front about how they wish to use you .

Because at least you can block and move on but remember by moaning about it you just give the users reason to hide behind pretty words in a effort to trick you into being used by them for one way easy fuck .

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"I got abuse because I wouldn't give out my phone number after 3 txts !! "

I was a single female on another site and got accused of being a man, because I refused to send him my phone number twice, after the 4 messages he ever sent me. When I responded to that, he then assumed that I was too thick to handle modern technology by getting a pay as you go sim into my phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got abuse because I wouldn't give out my phone number after 3 txts !!

I was a single female on another site and got accused of being a man, because I refused to send him my phone number twice, after the 4 messages he ever sent me. When I responded to that, he then assumed that I was too thick to handle modern technology by getting a pay as you go sim into my phone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reading through all these and I'm not gonna for one minute going to vouch for all men everywhere and I'd say that a lot of the blokes signing up on this are here is to jus get their end away and are thinking "easy targets", but I always message with manners and polite language I never send direct nude photos...if the lady wants to look for them she can off her own back but unfortunately it's like a football game you will get some people there to appreciate it and others that just want to riot and kick off and be a dickhead...I think that they don't get that it's a life choice and preference not a brothel. But do not be disheartened that there are no genuine or decent guys on here that do know how to talk with respect and conduct themselves accordingly....oh and read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone really read them? I'm constantly approached for all the wrong reasons. Maybe someone would like to read and tell me where it's mis-interpreted to........ will meet, fuck and suck in lorries, lay-bys and public car parks??

Broadly, I think there's a gender difference here. Women want (perhaps more than men) to connect on a level beyond mere physicality and therefore the text on profiles is important. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more interested in physical attraction - at least at first, thus tend to focus on pictures rather than the rubric.

Of course, I'm generalising here - but I definitely think there's something in my musings.

For the record I look at both. But then I need to be stimulated intellectually as well as physically.

KYN

for me it's more that i want the guy to be somewhat observant and considerate of my needs and not just his 'i want' nature.

So perhaps you want to connect with him more on an emotional level as well as physically - i.e., he's considerate/observant and so on?

i wouldn't say emotionally as that more implies bringing feelings into sex (which is nice but it takes me a while to want to do that). i more want to know i will be getting good sex and that i won't have to make all the effort to get that. so if he's observant of my needs on my profile he is probably more likely to care what i want, same for being considerate.

i will have some idea by the way he approaches me, and how he interacts with me if i do reply. if i feel comfortable communicating with him then i feel confident i can communicate with him in bed.

it's why a lot of things can put people off a potential sexual partner really. there's so many things that can flag up a feeling that the sex wouldn't be any good with someone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men think: "Woman profile on sex site = will shag anything."

Some women will. Let them meet and don't let it bother you, you're just not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admittedly, I'm an awkward fucker....But where to start....!

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