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"Not sure what's myth and what's reality when it comes to appreciation ships in friendship or sex because nice guys always come last? let's Find out here lol" I met a nice guy who was masquerading as a nasty one, and now we are a couple. I keep it a secret that he is really nice though, don't want to spoil his street cred | |||
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"We like nice guys, just can't be doing with time wasters, so nice guys have to work harder to prove they're not just more of the same" I know that their lot of time waster on here and makes it harder for nice guys genuine which is so dam hard to for fill interest. I not Mr perfect just a nice guy that looking for no string fun since moving back. Thanks for all replies in the words of Spock After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true? | |||
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"Not sure what's myth and what's reality when it comes to appreciation ships in friendship or sex because nice guys always come last? let's Find out here lol" No they are just not interested ib unattractive nice guys. Having a bad boy persona is not good for swinging you want to be thought of a respectful, polite etc etc so attractive nice guys will be very successful on the scene. | |||
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"Not sure what's myth and what's reality when it comes to appreciation ships in friendship or sex because nice guys always come last? let's Find out here lol" I like nice guys Dicks a nice guy. All my male friends are nice guys | |||
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"I fucking hate this idea that just because someone is a "nice guy" then women must just have sex with them." Yeah ..sometimes being a nice guy is just a tactic ...cover is usually blown when it doesnt pay off | |||
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" because nice guys always come last" I should bloody well hope so We like nice guys, guys who think they're bulls we avoid. Just make me laugh, that's all it takes. Well and a penis too obviously | |||
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"We like nice guys, just can't be doing with time wasters, so nice guys have to work harder to prove they're not just more of the sameI know that their lot of time waster on here and makes it harder for nice guys genuine which is so dam hard to for fill interest. I not Mr perfect just a nice guy that looking for no string fun since moving back. Thanks for all replies in the words of Spock After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true? " I was going to ask you OP if you were putting yourself forward as a nice guy, and also using that description as another excuse as to why you aren't getting meets on here? | |||
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"Emotionally damaged women don't like nice guys. Because they seek to replicate the relationship(s) that damaged them. Typically they also enjoy being very submissive. The flip side is, stable and balanced women will usually prefer nice guys (for relationships at least). Sex is down to preference here. These are generalisations, but very accurate in most cases." I would love learn more about the science behind your statement....might help explain a thing or two about my past relationship lol. Is it possible to understand why emotionally damaged people seek to replicate the the relationship that damaged them?? | |||
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"We like nice guys, just can't be doing with time wasters, so nice guys have to work harder to prove they're not just more of the sameI know that their lot of time waster on here and makes it harder for nice guys genuine which is so dam hard to for fill interest. I not Mr perfect just a nice guy that looking for no string fun since moving back. Thanks for all replies in the words of Spock After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true? I was going to ask you OP if you were putting yourself forward as a nice guy, and also using that description as another excuse as to why you aren't getting meets on here? " no it just a saying for star trak | |||
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"A genuine nice guy is well respected by many as he's not sly and not thinking of her like a meaningless object." | |||
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"Generally if someone refers to themselves as a nice guy.. .. They're not a nice guy. I don't think you're a bad guy, you just need to sort your profile out. It's hard to read and it just sounds like a d*unken angry ramble with hints at depression and mental health. That's not really a turn on." oh okay well i no good at writting profiles if that what you want to know | |||
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"The "nice" guys who come last who are only being nice as part of an act so they can bed a girl. A genuine nice guy is well respected by many as he's not sly and not thinking of her like a meaningless object." One of favourites is a lovely guy. And he's not shy of meets for the above reasons | |||
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"I like nice guys, I think they're great, I'll even fuck them IF they match the criteria I'm looking for in a sexual partner. If not, I'm afraid I'm not into pity shags " I'm not here for a pity shag if that what you think of me i'm here to make friends and have fun along the way. | |||
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"Is it possible to understand why emotionally damaged people seek to replicate the the relationship that damaged them??" It's the same mechanism that leads girls with Daddy issues to be promiscuous trainwrecks. Perhaps low self esteem, no desire to form meaningful bonds? | |||
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"Emotionally damaged women don't like nice guys. Because they seek to replicate the relationship(s) that damaged them. Typically they also enjoy being very submissive. The flip side is, stable and balanced women will usually prefer nice guys (for relationships at least). Sex is down to preference here. These are generalisations, but very accurate in most cases." Not in our case, hubby is Mr Nice Guy and I'm a chuffing loon! | |||
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"I like nice guys OP " that's cool to know but i do have a naughty side too | |||
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"I like nice guys OP that's cool to know but i do have a naughty side too" Being nice doesn't equate to not being naughty. If you are being naughty it means you are confident to show the other person that you have a sexual deaire for them and aren't afraid to hide it. | |||
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"Not sure what's myth and what's reality when it comes to appreciation ships in friendship or sex because nice guys always come last? let's Find out here lol I like nice guys Dicks a nice guy. All my male friends are nice guys " I see i am all that but not sexy looking lol | |||
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"I like nice guys OP that's cool to know but i do have a naughty side too Being nice doesn't equate to not being naughty. If you are being naughty it means you are confident to show the other person that you have a sexual deaire for them and aren't afraid to hide it." thanks well it seem the females and couples are afriad just being honest lol | |||
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" Even I wont sit here and pretend that every woman on here is some Babylonian whore from the pit of hell...." just me then.. I literally am from the pit of hell | |||
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"Dude. Are you actually nice? Its become a running joke among female circles that guys who go around calling themselves "nice guys(TM)" tend to be nothing more than entitled weasels with a sense of entitlement. Can threads like these. You're not owed a pity fuck and thats exactly what you're asking for. Go out, attend some socials and improve your grammar. Have no idea whats up with so many people on here complaining about being overlooked when they cant even construct a sentence. Some here are stating that damaged women dislike nice guys and thats the same tactics "nice guy" weasels tend to do as well. Its nothing more than passive aggressively shaming women for their choices. A "nice guy" who lacks social skill and thinks being agreeable makes him entitled to pussy is not going to be lighting the vaginas of more well adjusted women either. Even I wont sit here and pretend that every woman on here is some Babylonian whore from the pit of hell....if you're not appealing to people on here then the problem is you." | |||
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"In my opinion one has to have sex appeal to get NSA sex. So what is sex appeal? I would say it's a person's ability to be sexually tempting to someone else. So does being nice or polite give someone sex appeal? On its own no. But it is one of the contributing factors, along with being aesthetically pleasing and having an engaging personality. None of these factors tend to work on their own - it's the combination that's important. There are also factors that reduce sex appeal: arrogance, negativity, lack of confidence, ungenuineness, selfishness, petulance, bitchiness, poor physical shape, poor hygiene etc etc. I don't accept that 'nice' men stay at the back of the queue on the swing scene - we know stacks of nice men who are having lots of fun. But if the only thing one has to offer is being 'nice', well that's not enough to tempt most people into bed. Mrs" I couldn't have put it better | |||
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"Dude. Are you actually nice? Its become a running joke among female circles that guys who go around calling themselves "nice guys(TM)" tend to be nothing more than entitled weasels with a sense of entitlement. Can threads like these. You're not owed a pity fuck and thats exactly what you're asking for. Go out, attend some socials and improve your grammar. Have no idea whats up with so many people on here complaining about being overlooked when they cant even construct a sentence. Some here are stating that damaged women dislike nice guys and thats the same tactics "nice guy" weasels tend to do as well. Its nothing more than passive aggressively shaming women for their choices. A "nice guy" who lacks social skill and thinks being agreeable makes him entitled to pussy is not going to be lighting the vaginas of more well adjusted women either. Even I wont sit here and pretend that every woman on here is some Babylonian whore from the pit of hell....if you're not appealing to people on here then the problem is you." This has hit the nail on the head! OP you have been advised that the way forward is to get out to socials and start the ball rolling yourself.. That way others can tell whether you are nice or naughty without you having to tell us.. | |||
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"Dude. Are you actually nice? Its become a running joke among female circles that guys who go around calling themselves "nice guys(TM)" tend to be nothing more than entitled weasels with a sense of entitlement. Can threads like these. You're not owed a pity fuck and thats exactly what you're asking for. Go out, attend some socials and improve your grammar. Have no idea whats up with so many people on here complaining about being overlooked when they cant even construct a sentence. Some here are stating that damaged women dislike nice guys and thats the same tactics "nice guy" weasels tend to do as well. Its nothing more than passive aggressively shaming women for their choices. A "nice guy" who lacks social skill and thinks being agreeable makes him entitled to pussy is not going to be lighting the vaginas of more well adjusted women either. Even I wont sit here and pretend that every woman on here is some Babylonian whore from the pit of hell....if you're not appealing to people on here then the problem is you." This is one of the best responses I've seen in a long time. | |||
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"Emotionally damaged women don't like nice guys. Because they seek to replicate the relationship(s) that damaged them. Typically they also enjoy being very submissive. The flip side is, stable and balanced women will usually prefer nice guys (for relationships at least). Sex is down to preference here. These are generalisations, but very accurate in most cases. I would love learn more about the science behind your statement....might help explain a thing or two about my past relationship lol. Is it possible to understand why emotionally damaged people seek to replicate the the relationship that damaged them??" We all first learn what love feels like from our parents/carers, and our behaviours replicates this experience - unless we consciously decide to alter it. This is the case for everyone, not just victims of abuse. However, traumatic bonding is more intense than "healthy" bonding. Unfortunately people who have experienced childhood abuse will often find non-abusive relationships lacking. | |||
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"Emotionally damaged women don't like nice guys. Because they seek to replicate the relationship(s) that damaged them. Typically they also enjoy being very submissive. The flip side is, stable and balanced women will usually prefer nice guys (for relationships at least). Sex is down to preference here. These are generalisations, but very accurate in most cases. I would love learn more about the science behind your statement....might help explain a thing or two about my past relationship lol. Is it possible to understand why emotionally damaged people seek to replicate the the relationship that damaged them?? We all first learn what love feels like from our parents/carers, and our behaviours replicates this experience - unless we consciously decide to alter it. This is the case for everyone, not just victims of abuse. However, traumatic bonding is more intense than "healthy" bonding. Unfortunately people who have experienced childhood abuse will often find non-abusive relationships lacking." Hmmmm that makes me think a whole load about things..... | |||
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"We all first learn what love feels like from our parents/carers, and our behaviours replicates this experience - unless we consciously decide to alter it. This is the case for everyone, not just victims of abuse. However, traumatic bonding is more intense than "healthy" bonding. Unfortunately people who have experienced childhood abuse will often find non-abusive relationships lacking." Very well put | |||
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"Oh okay thanks for the advice I do but fact will still remain in my mind that I'm afraid to go to clubs to social due to a couple of bad experiences and one real bad where I had a near death experience where I still have the scars to my neck where they handle a knife too it. thanks for all the advice have fun bye for now." That sounds extremely serious. And it's extremely serious whether you had a life threatening experience in a swing club or a supermarket. And if that experience is making you fearful of returning to a similar establishment, then maybe seek some help to aid you getting over what happened to you. I'm sure if that had happened to you in a supermarket, you wouldn't avoid going to another supermarket ever again!The clubs we go to seem to be very safe, so hopefully for your sake you will find some way of dealing with this dreadful thing that happened to you. Mrs | |||
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