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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually unread or deleted, but there are quite a lot of ladies who give a nice polite put down.

However, you can't blame people for not responding as I'd imagine some get hundreds of messages.

Not to hard for me to reply to the one message a week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got none yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

I'm trying to work out why she rejected you. You're very cute!

Anyway.... back to the question. I've never been rejected but then I've only ever sent out a handful of messages in the 4 yrs I've been coming to fab.

I am however, a deleter....

Blocking is if they are hounding me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually unread or deleted, but there are quite a lot of ladies who give a nice polite put down.

However, you can't blame people for not responding as I'd imagine some get hundreds of messages.

Not to hard for me to reply to the one message a week!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got none yet meaning replies only reject

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

I'm trying to work out why she rejected you. You're very cute!

Anyway.... back to the question. I've never been rejected but then I've only ever sent out a handful of messages in the 4 yrs I've been coming to fab.

I am however, a deleter....

Blocking is if they are hounding me. "

ha ha thanks - it's all subjective, I'm not into some women who could be considered decent. Deletion is fair enough I guess, I've even been blocked after one message ha ha! Sounds like you're pretty reasonable. Nice pussy by the way lol.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"
I don't think any kind of rejection can really be positive in my opinion. You can't exactly change you're face without surgery like you could lose weight etc. The honesty i guess is good but it must give some kind of complex. I have a tribal tattoo and 1 woman said she despises them and associates them with scum which was pretty honest but made me think about getting it removed.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

What? I have a tribal tattoo as well lol. Mate, with respect you really shouldn't be considering getting a tattoo removed on the basis of one woman's comment.

The"positive" element is the honesty - there's a lot to be said for that but I know what you mean lol.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!! I don't think any kind of rejection can really be positive in my opinion. You can't exactly change you're face without surgery like you could lose weight etc. The honesty i guess is good but it must give some kind of complex. I have a tribal tattoo and 1 woman said she despises them and associates them with scum which was pretty honest but made me think about getting it removed."

scum? smash her windows for saying that.

there's no way i'd be honest about why i reject guys, i'm quite a bitch and enjoy that and me rejecting guys panders to that side of me and i know i'd say some unfair stuff.

i just ignore, in fact blocked all men now, cba with them for a while.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"What? I have a tribal tattoo as well lol. Mate, with respect you really shouldn't be considering getting a tattoo removed on the basis of one woman's comment.

The"positive" element is the honesty - there's a lot to be said for that but I know what you mean lol. "
Might be the same woman maybe she just didn't see yours no I haven't but it did make me think about it. I think there is honesty then brutal honesty. I have turned down women but I wouldn't say it is because you are fat and ugly I would just say you are not my type sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!! I don't think any kind of rejection can really be positive in my opinion. You can't exactly change you're face without surgery like you could lose weight etc. The honesty i guess is good but it must give some kind of complex. I have a tribal tattoo and 1 woman said she despises them and associates them with scum which was pretty honest but made me think about getting it removed."

What?!? I would of told her where to go! Cheeky cow. They're not scummy, just a lot had them in the 90's haha bit far fetched to go get it removed....

It's part of YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

I'm trying to work out why she rejected you. You're very cute!

Anyway.... back to the question. I've never been rejected but then I've only ever sent out a handful of messages in the 4 yrs I've been coming to fab.

I am however, a deleter....

Blocking is if they are hounding me.

ha ha thanks - it's all subjective, I'm not into some women who could be considered decent. Deletion is fair enough I guess, I've even been blocked after one message ha ha! Sounds like you're pretty reasonable. Nice pussy by the way lol."

Cheers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just usually reply sorry your not my type which I think is an honest enough answer.

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By *laymates7Woman
over a year ago

Isle of Wight

If a profile meets my preferences but I don't find them attractive then I do reply politely but if it's obvious they don't then I just delete.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"I just usually reply sorry your not my type which I think is an honest enough answer."

You don't have to go into detail, I have done this a few times when pushed on the issue, It never ends well in my experience

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!! I don't think any kind of rejection can really be positive in my opinion. You can't exactly change you're face without surgery like you could lose weight etc. The honesty i guess is good but it must give some kind of complex. I have a tribal tattoo and 1 woman said she despises them and associates them with scum which was pretty honest but made me think about getting it removed.

What?!? I would of told her where to go! Cheeky cow. They're not scummy, just a lot had them in the 90's haha bit far fetched to go get it removed....

It's part of YOU "
I know it's too late now. I got it when I was 18 and started going the gym and thought they looked cool. I just didn't bother to reply no point when you have been rejected is there I don't understand this thanks for the rejection kind of reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have chatted to someone before for a good while, got on really well, then the face pics come out and i had an instant block without any reply or face pic in return. That was fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really like tribal tattoos. I think they can look sexy on the right guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you've never experienced this before as your profile asks them to just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was winked, I looked at their profile, it says won't meet smokers. I smoke, so I said thanks for the wink, but I thought you don't like smokers? Imagine my delight as they reply 'we don't meet stokie chavs either' rats blocked me before I could point out that's rich off some one from mongleton.

Then they winked me on fabguys! I have the same profile name!

Mongleton

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I reject people that aren't for me- saves them messaging again down the line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next it will be thanks for the 'sorry no thanks" like you're a charity case

Plenty more women out there love

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I reject people that aren't for me- saves them messaging again down the line "

Although I'll just add to this I often reject for attitude as well as looks

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We had a couple of "thanks for the wink, but we don't feel we are compatible" messages. As op said, it's very refreshing. No room for egos on a site like this. Provided people are honest without being mean, then no feelings get hurt.

B

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I reject people that aren't for me- saves them messaging again down the line

Although I'll just add to this I often reject for attitude as well as looks "

Agreed. Chemistry is king for us, if it's not there, unfortunately it's not there.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

I always give honest rejections as it usually ensures there is no comeback (obviously if there is then I block them, but at least they know why )

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

I always give honest rejections as it usually ensures there is no comeback (obviously if there is then I block them, but at least they know why )"

Anything more than a "thank you, happy fabbing" is probably unwarranted in all fairness x

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I always give honest replies which include rejections. I don't understand why people don't. It's the mature thing to recognise when you're not someone's type and move on. I usually get abuse back (from "straight" men mostly) but hey take it on the chin and move on. If you don't reply the person never knows and then continues to harass you with messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a 'no thanks' would have been adequate...imagine saying to a woman sorry your ankles are a bit heavy set for my liking but have fun...she'd be devestasted even if she knew she had pigs feet...I'm.just.sayin!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A delete or block is about as honest a rejection as it gets, isn't it?

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By *eading28Man
over a year ago

Reading

A nice polite no thanks is great to receive. I do laugh at the old 'always reply if you include a face pic' profiles, don't think I have ever had a reply from one of those lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

I always give honest rejections as it usually ensures there is no comeback (obviously if there is then I block them, but at least they know why )

Anything more than a "thank you, happy fabbing" is probably unwarranted in all fairness x"

of course it is...but it doesn't stop anyone from embellishing that response with a bit of effing and jeffing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

We've had this a few times. It doesn't bother us. We don't take it personally. Horses for courses etc.

I tend to think it's me (the male) that they don't find to their liking. I'd be shocked and surprised if it was my wife.

So yeah we agree, better to get an honest response than nothing at all or a load of bs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i've been politely declined because of looks, tatts, sexuality...they got the standard sort of 'ok thanks for the reply, enjoy fab' type of response from me.

i don't mind a reason as to why they don't want to meet me but i don't need one either, just to know i'm not their type is enough and that's communicated just as well with a none reply

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"A nice polite no thanks is great to receive. I do laugh at the old 'always reply if you include a face pic' profiles, don't think I have ever had a reply from one of those lol"
Is there not false hope though to see a message and then find out it is just a rejection message can't be great to receive surely?

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By *eading28Man
over a year ago

Reading

Maybe great wasn't the best choice of words lol. The false hope is mainly logging in to see a message that turns out to be from some old bloke or similar lol!

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By *obyn67Woman
over a year ago

Wonderland

I do the same on both counts ....not for me and attitude

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"A nice polite no thanks is great to receive. I do laugh at the old 'always reply if you include a face pic' profiles, don't think I have ever had a reply from one of those lol Is there not false hope though to see a message and then find out it is just a rejection message can't be great to receive surely? "

No maybe be not, but it's only polite if a guy has bothered to send a decent message and has a profile to match!! This site is hard enough for guys so not knowing why they're being rejected can't be good!!

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Just to add, if it's blatantly evident someone hasn't bothered reading our profile (asking for separate meets, bare etc) we don't bother replying to those. If they can't be bothered to read our profile, we won't waste anymore of our time on them. Rant over.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a thanks but no thanks is sufficient and not really happy when people ask why...unless they ask for advice on profile then I direct them to forum search..

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"Maybe great wasn't the best choice of words lol. The false hope is mainly logging in to see a message that turns out to be from some old bloke or similar lol!"
Thought it was a bit enthusiastic haha oh I have blocked men don't get that. Just seems the really attractive women would never be pro active as they don't need to be. I just expect I have to message them and obviously no pics or whatever so nothing to entice really so i f I get a message I don't expect much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to add, if it's blatantly evident someone hasn't bothered reading our profile (asking for separate meets, bare etc) we don't bother replying to those. If they can't be bothered to read our profile, we won't waste anymore of our time on them. Rant over.

B"

It's not just single guys that can't read then lol

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By *ecretpassion100Couple
over a year ago

Walsall


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

Your not for us either but we will say hello lol ?? ??

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Just to add, if it's blatantly evident someone hasn't bothered reading our profile (asking for separate meets, bare etc) we don't bother replying to those. If they can't be bothered to read our profile, we won't waste anymore of our time on them. Rant over.

B

It's not just single guys that can't read then lol "

Definitely not haha. Couples can be just as bad, to be fair. Not had much trouble with single ladies, but it's rare to get a message from them anyway for us

B

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!

Your not for us either but we will say hello lol ?? ?? "

This is another thing, just because we aren't attracted to someone physically, if they come across well in their first message, we are more likely to chat to them though it might not necessarily change the situation from a no to a yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A nice polite no thanks is great to receive. I do laugh at the old 'always reply if you include a face pic' profiles, don't think I have ever had a reply from one of those lol Is there not false hope though to see a message and then find out it is just a rejection message can't be great to receive surely?

No maybe be not, but it's only polite if a guy has bothered to send a decent message and has a profile to match!! This site is hard enough for guys so not knowing why they're being rejected can't be good!! "

to what end though? if someone doesn't like me because i'm not tall enough, i'm not going to go and have an operation to change that, if i get rejected because say i'm bi, i can't change that. i'm hard pushed to think of anything i would change about myself in order to get a meet. also if i did change anything about myself it would push me out of the firing lines of other people who would have liked me had i not changed...too much faffing about all this acting on feedback, best folk just be themselves

would you want to meet someone who's profile and approach was based on what other people thought? chances are it wouldn't reflect the owner of the profile too well and that may lead to disappointment when you meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I very rarely message people asking for a meet though I might message them if they are coming to the same club as me, and I say it will be nice to catch up at the club

Not saying I don't ask people to meet just not as often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much rather receive a polite no thanks but I understand ladies get hundreds of messages and can't reply to them all.

I'm not going to be for everyone I know that, so any rejection isn't taken personally, I just move on....

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I very rarely message people asking for a meet though I might message them if they are coming to the same club as me, and I say it will be nice to catch up at the club

Not saying I don't ask people to meet just not as often "

I have been rejected a couple of times recently and I was like ok no problem. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea though I try to be poilte at the very least

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla "

It has to be hard for a single woman to reply to everything in all fairness. We couldn't keep up with single guys so we had to block them all and seek out those we like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have swopped face pictures, especially after chattin, I will always try to be polite and think of the other persons feelings when turning them down, usually they are fine with my answer. Occasionally though they follow it up with questions such as 'Why aren't I your type? Am I ugly? Things can then become awkward, and sometimes results in them sending me insulting nesages saying how they wouldn't want to fuck me anyway as I'm too fat, too ugly etc, which is rather immature of them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"If I have swopped face pictures, especially after chattin, I will always try to be polite and think of the other persons feelings when turning them down, usually they are fine with my answer. Occasionally though they follow it up with questions such as 'Why aren't I your type? Am I ugly? Things can then become awkward, and sometimes results in them sending me insulting nesages saying how they wouldn't want to fuck me anyway as I'm too fat, too ugly etc, which is rather immature of them."

What your not to fat or ugly your very nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always try and give a honest rejection x we'd like the same I guess

Takes seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got an enquiry from a chap. At the end of his message he stated "You can tell me to Fuck Off if you want to".

I replied "Fuck Off".

Actually chatted to him more and he was a good laugh. Perhaps if we had lived nearer to each other we may have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla "

I stopped sending no thanks mail because of the amount of abuse I got

I got fed up with being told I was an ugly count anyway, or how I should be grateful because they can do far better than me or being told its my loss etc I just stopped replying to guys I had no interest in

But then you get called ignorant and stuck up so you really can't win

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

A guy who accepts a rejection with grace is always a nice surprise.

Personally I think your face, like the rest of you, is delightful, but taste is a very subjective thing on here.

To answer your OP, I haven't been rejected by message yet. I have had messages deleted without reply but I take that in my stride and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla

I stopped sending no thanks mail because of the amount of abuse I got

I got fed up with being told I was an ugly count anyway, or how I should be grateful because they can do far better than me or being told its my loss etc I just stopped replying to guys I had no interest in

But then you get called ignorant and stuck up so you really can't win "

i didn't know you were a count! i'm impressed!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always try and send a 'nice' rejection and most guys are cool but I've had the odd one that's come back with a bit of a rant. I always think if they respond like that then I'm glad I said no!! True colours and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla

I stopped sending no thanks mail because of the amount of abuse I got

I got fed up with being told I was an ugly count anyway, or how I should be grateful because they can do far better than me or being told its my loss etc I just stopped replying to guys I had no interest in

But then you get called ignorant and stuck up so you really can't win

i didn't know you were a count! i'm impressed! "

Trust you to spot my typo CUNT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly get a reply told am not good looking enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women who have turned me down in the past have been polite and gracious. I seem to pick them well, maybe?

Treat them like a lady and they seem to return the respect.

(You bet i'm a white knight, it's better than being a tw.t)

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By *udemattMan
over a year ago

Woodhall Spa

Being a young hairy guy I know I am going to get rejected a lot so when it happens it's not a surprise.

There definitely is preferred ways of doing it, top of the list is a short message saying thanks but no thanks next down is to just delete my message and the bottom one is to block me as well. At least with these options there is some closure but the one that irritates me is once a message is read that it is just left for weeks no reply not deleted so I don't know if I'm still in for a chance of getting to know them or are they not interested!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla

I stopped sending no thanks mail because of the amount of abuse I got

I got fed up with being told I was an ugly count anyway, or how I should be grateful because they can do far better than me or being told its my loss etc I just stopped replying to guys I had no interest in

But then you get called ignorant and stuck up so you really can't win

i didn't know you were a count! i'm impressed!

Trust you to spot my typo CUNT "

i just read your post's thoroughly is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The women who have turned me down in the past have been polite and gracious. I seem to pick them well, maybe?

Treat them like a lady and they seem to return the respect.

(You bet i'm a white knight, it's better than being a tw.t)

"

Go and feed your horse, it's teatime

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I was once told that I'm too old and too short....

Mike

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"Maybe you've never experienced this before as your profile asks them to just delete. "

Lol I haven't read it in a long time so forgot it was there - thanks, I'm actually gonna remove that now!!

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"A delete or block is about as honest a rejection as it gets, isn't it?"

no because you don't know the reason with that

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By *teveNW81Man
over a year ago

wigan

I think I'd rather just be ignored and rejected rather than someone tell me I wasn't attractive as well as being rejected! Seems like rubbing salt into the wound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"
yes we have been told no for a variety of reasons. But would prefer to just be told not for us. Rather than mrs to big.. or promiscuous..

We just tend to say sorry but not for us and wish them well.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"I try too reply but sometimes it's not possible

" sorry darling not for me but happy swinging "

No one has too be rude

But then you get knob heads turn round and say why what's wrong with me ! Why am I not for you bla bla bla "

yeah and that's why I so like the rejection I got because it was fantastically specific - to be honest I find personally the "not for me" one mildly irritating as its so general. Just a personal opinion.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"Maybe you've never experienced this before as your profile asks them to just delete.

Lol I haven't read it in a long time so forgot it was there - thanks, I'm actually gonna remove that now!! "

Actually I've just read it agin and you're not quite right - I've written: "If I'm "not what you are looking for" please don't message me back unless you specify what it is you're looking for (which is always interesting) - just delete no worries."

So by saying that I'm avoiding having my hopes falsely raised with a reply that says "thanks but no thanks" or if I do get one at least I get the reason which is interesting and informative - so for example in this case because of my face.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

We always say thank you for the wink

Or if not

Sorry not for us happy swinging

X

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me there are a number of people I know socially in the scene but I have never approached to play.

Why not you might ask because first of all, it may ruin the dynamics we have at present.

Don't get me wrong I would love to play with them but it just doesn't feel right to ask. If it happens it happens if not we will chat and flirt but no more

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

OP very cute!!!

But, we tend to not respond if we don't fancy the person... too many messages to get through. Plus, they get into a ping pong of messages once you say "no thank you" ... so it's easier to say nowt x

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"For me there are a number of people I know socially in the scene but I have never approached to play.

Why not you might ask because first of all, it may ruin the dynamics we have at present.

Don't get me wrong I would love to play with them but it just doesn't feel right to ask. If it happens it happens if not we will chat and flirt but no more "

I'm completely with that logic Mike x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm always polite in messages of rejection, unless the guy is an idiot who didn't even read the profile.

OP it's a common theme on here to tar a whole sex or segment with the same brush.

Not all women are rude, not all single guys are douche bags and not all couples think us singles shouldn't be here

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"For me there are a number of people I know socially in the scene but I have never approached to play.

Why not you might ask because first of all, it may ruin the dynamics we have at present.

Don't get me wrong I would love to play with them but it just doesn't feel right to ask. If it happens it happens if not we will chat and flirt but no more "
Yeah best let them invite you if they are couples but doesn't sound like they are interested. Would be awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just responded to a middle-aged woman seeking a meet and have to say for the first time in years I got a really fantastic honest turn down of "sorry, facially you're not for me, sorry". I thanked her for her absolute honesty which I think is brilliant. Never had that kind of honesty on here it's normally either a delete (or even block) or an positive response. Just wondering if others have had positive - and like mine specific - rejections. Like I said I actually think it's a good thing!!"

Really you are gorgeous and lovely smile!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I prefer an honest rejection or just a "no thanks" and I always respect them.

If I get a message saying something like "sorry you are not my type but good luck" I always thank them for a polite rejection and likewise wish them luck

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

Nice to see she was honest and upfront. There's nothing more annoying than when someone says they'll meet then goes silent. We've had it happen and it's irritating.

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