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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " I find men can be like that too, that I should instantly drop my knickers because they are talking to me. There are good sorts on here  | |||
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"That's not good." no its not but its rather prevalent on here in my experiences so far and is the main reason i choose not to play over 90 percent of the time . every heard of the saying lap dog grrr I'm no ones lap dag  | |||
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"OP you've been here long enough to know that the majority of posts by men moaning include a comment somewhere about women being needlessly dictatorial. Do you think you'll get different answers if you keep posting this sort of thing? Or were you looking for yet another man vs woman bust up?" this post says more about you than me I'm afraid . the question is aimed at guys who get invites to play and how they view how there treated in the build up to that play i find I'm not treated like a human being more like a number more offend than not . that doesn't appeal to my sexuality which should be easy to tell from my profile but it still doesn't stop woman or couples from trying to get me to do there bidding like a puppet on a string . | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " This works both ways you know
some of the guys attitudes are poor when it comes to arranging a meet. I find the block button works well at that point | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " yes in someways only being honest here  | |||
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"Remember the mantra; "Block and move on". "i never block i move on but i don't block because i think that says to someone being a prat you won . | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " Chin up, eat chipolatas.  | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , This works both ways you know
some of the guys attitudes are poor when it comes to arranging a meet. I find the block button works well at that point "of that i have no doubt and its wrong but I'm sure everyone who has arranged a meet with me will tell you I'm not like that at all . as for blocking i don't block i move on but i don't block . | |||
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"Remember the mantra; "Block and move on".
i never block i move on but i don't block because i think that says to someone being a prat you won ."well that nice of you to do that but i would say most do block even not even talking to the person | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , Chin up, eat chipolatas. " oh tink your cheeky brat side always makes my eyes light up and a big grin flash across my face
promise me you sexy little tease that you will never let this mad house change you  | |||
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"Some people can come across as abrupt and stand offish I guess, but then put yourself in their shoes.....as couple/single female, it's well documented on the amount of messages they get. How would you feel, when, bearing in mind, you are here to have fun as much as anyone else, you get repeatedly messed around and let down at the last minute.....that's got to cause some kind of attitude change in just about anyone.... I've been around on the scene for over 10 years as both single and couple and can see both sides to this. I find, and this is my opinion only, it's best to try to meet who you want, if they mess you about, drop it, don't let it bug you and move on. Don't stress out about things you can't control" oh i drop it and i tell them why that is when the real disrespectful behaviour starts just adding to the earlier silly mind games petty lies and the oh but its my way or the high way behaviour that got us to that point in the first place . | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , Chin up, eat chipolatas.
oh tink your cheeky brat side always makes my eyes light up and a big grin flash across my face
promise me you sexy little tease that you will never let this mad house change you "Not a chance, I'm far too obnoxious  | |||
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"Us men do have a hard time on fab I just wait for women and couples to message me " you may think that way fella but sometimes its like dear god i wish they hadn't | |||
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i never block i move on but i don't block because i think that says to someone being a prat you won ."It's not about anyone winning, it's about not having your slice of Fab cluttered up with profiles unsuitable for you | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " You can usually suss that type of attitude from their profiles if you read it. Not saying that you don't but some guys approach women and couples without considering if they fit what they're looking for or vice versa. You're right though. If you feel that way, move on. You're not going to click with everyone.  | |||
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"There dose seem to be a good few on here that think there better than the rest of us!! " That's due to being hero worshipped constantly because of the much higher proportion of men to women!! Happens on every kind of sex/chat site. | |||
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"It's not just one sex or group it's most. The thing is that 90% of people who are on here are on line and looking to meet straight away. Once you say sorry can't meet now maybe free Saturday they loose interest. There's nothing wrong in that if there free why waste the time messaging someone who can't meet when they could be messaging someone who can. Yes there are some people on here who think people should bow down to them but don't come across them that often if your having it all the time then maybe it's the way you come across that makes people like that. You can't class all women the same there's good and bad in everyone. " | |||
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i never block i move on but i don't block because i think that says to someone being a prat you won .
It's not about anyone winning, it's about not having your slice of Fab cluttered up with profiles unsuitable for you " makes sense | |||
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"But...you're getting the chance to put your dick in another man's wife. You should be jumping on one leg, woofing like a dog for them "Pmsl | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , Chin up, eat chipolatas.
oh tink your cheeky brat side always makes my eyes light up and a big grin flash across my face
promise me you sexy little tease that you will never let this mad house change you
Not a chance, I'm far too obnoxious "i for one wouldn't have you any other way even if you was over my knee  | |||
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"Yes, but not always and not as you described it op. The wording of some messages can be very insulting somehow, even though I am pretty sure it hasn't been attempted to sound that way. " totally get this feeling myself a hell of a lot of times again to do with my sexuality and people not understanding how a person like me is wired up  | |||
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"Remember the mantra; "Block and move on".
i never block i move on but i don't block because i think that says to someone being a prat you won .
It's not about anyone winning, it's about not having your slice of Fab cluttered up with profiles unsuitable for you "Exactly, if you're on here trying to score points etc. you're not here for fun. | |||
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"But...you're getting the chance to put your dick in another man's wife. You should be jumping on one leg, woofing like a dog for them "i know this is a joke post but it I'm shocked by how few couples and wpmen on here deep down think like this and cant hide that fact in there messages . there is a art to seduction so many ether don't know how to play or have just become lazy thinking all they have to do is off and well that's it really we will play dead roll over and jump through any other hops they set us to get it . sadly that kind of thought process is the biggest turn off in the world for a guy like me | |||
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"Yes, but not always and not as you described it op. The wording of some messages can be very insulting somehow, even though I am pretty sure it hasn't been attempted to sound that way. totally get this feeling myself a hell of a lot of times again to do with my sexuality and people not understanding how a person like me is wired up "See it as a filter. You're not compatible. | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " In our defence I get some disgusting messages. So its equal OP that's why us ladies are on the defence. I dnt think there is any need for anyone to be rude or think they are better than anyone but guys you invite the offish behaviour by a lot of dirty blunt messages. Mayb you need to learn we don't all fuck the first guy that asks us to meet. I get that women can be rude but sadly its your penance for being dicks sorry OP | |||
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"In our defence I get some disgusting messages. So its equal OP that's why us ladies are on the defence. I dnt think there is any need for anyone to be rude or think they are better than anyone but guys you invite the offish behaviour by a lot of dirty blunt messages. Mayb you need to learn we don't all fuck the first guy that asks us to meet. I get that women can be rude but sadly its your penance for being dicks sorry OP " Men can be very insulting, but in general, us women block and move on rather than worry about the whys and wherefores. And something that a lot of men really don't get is that, just because a woman is on here does not mean she will fancy them. And once chatting, no end of guys let down their guard and become the dicks they are. So we lose interest. Not being interested in a man, for any reason, does not make us "high and mighty"  | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , In our defence I get some disgusting messages. So its equal OP that's why us ladies are on the defence. I dnt think there is any need for anyone to be rude or think they are better than anyone but guys you invite the offish behaviour by a lot of dirty blunt messages. Mayb you need to learn we don't all fuck the first guy that asks us to meet. I get that women can be rude but sadly its your penance for being dicks sorry OP " i have seen both sides having run a couples profile before with a sub who liked blindfolded meets from time to time and i can honestly say yes rather a lot of guys do send silly immature messages . but very rarely were they arrogant full of it and up there own arses demanding there way or the high way sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype. | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , In our defence I get some disgusting messages. So its equal OP that's why us ladies are on the defence. I dnt think there is any need for anyone to be rude or think they are better than anyone but guys you invite the offish behaviour by a lot of dirty blunt messages. Mayb you need to learn we don't all fuck the first guy that asks us to meet. I get that women can be rude but sadly its your penance for being dicks sorry OP i have seen both sides having run a couples profile before with a sub who liked blindfolded meets from time to time and i can honestly say yes rather a lot of guys do send silly immature messages . but very rarely were they arrogant full of it and up there own arses demanding there way or the high way sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype." I agree loads of couples are like this. Forum posts on certain topics bring this out in couples too ....we steer away from meeting certain types of couples for this very reason | |||
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"sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype." You mean the ones who don't want to meet you? They must be full of it | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " Felt it once and stopped chatting, if your not clicking or feeling like a second best citizen move on, it's simple lol | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " I feel like a second class citizen a lot of the time. But honestly I put that down to the behaviour of other men, rather than the women and couples I talk to/meet. Much like when I was a soldier and we were banned from every bar and nightclub, because all the other soldiers fucked it up for the rest of us blokes who could have a drink without fighting or throwing up. Once I get talking I'm usually treated as an equal, if I wasn't, I wouldn't continue. But there are hoops I expect to jump through till they accept I'm who I claim to be. .. However much I dislike doing it. Something happened to me recently that I was furious about. I gave my name and phone number to a woman I was talking with. The instant I had, there was an hour long pause in talk. I suspected what was happening as it was happening and asked her in a jokey way if she was doing a background check on me. Turns out she was in the NHS and doing exactly that... I was fucking livid. She wanted to meet after it was finished... I didn't. If she'd have asked, I'd have approved. She didn't and abused her power and probably looked at dome details about me only my GP is supposed to see  | |||
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"I think that's down to the people involved rather than a particular sex. We had to block a particular country as the lady ( and I use that word rather loosely) got very bitchy and everything was going to be on her terms. Sometimes the meeting of couples can be a minefield. But perhaps I'm just too polite and have to toughen up. X " You had to block a whole country!!! Know you must get lots of replies, but as the philosopher bart Simpson put it, ay caramba!! | |||
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"sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype. You mean the ones who don't want to meet you? They must be full of it "no your assuming wrong this is about behaviour that leads me to say thanks but no thanks and then the behaviour that follows on from that . i personally don't have a problem with someone who doesn't see me in a sexual light why would i be worried about that its just a fact of life . in fact your post is very similar in its thought process to those woman and couples i have a problem with you see your assuming I'm a guy who cant pull so i should be greatful for the attention and jump do as I'm told because i don't know how lucky i am because i was picked . this post is about behaviour that leads me to say no and the reasons behind why i say no and what happens when i say no . i for one am to secure in my knowledge of myself as a man and i have to much believe in myself to ever turn nasty over rejection from a stranger who doesn't know me and will never know me pity a lot of couple and women are not that secure in themselves as it would stop all the disrespectful behaviour i and other guys get thrown at us on here if they were , | |||
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"sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype. You mean the ones who don't want to meet you? They must be full of it
no your assuming wrong this is about behaviour that leads me to say thanks but no thanks and then the behaviour that follows on from that .
i personally don't have a problem with someone who doesn't see me in a sexual light why would i be worried about that its just a fact of life .
in fact your post is very similar in its thought process to those woman and couples i have a problem with
you see your assuming I'm a guy who cant pull so i should be greatful for the attention and jump do as I'm told because i don't know how lucky i am because i was picked .
this post is about behaviour that leads me to say no and the reasons behind why i say no and what happens when i say no .
i for one am to secure in my knowledge of myself as a man and i have to much believe in myself to ever turn nasty over rejection from a stranger who doesn't know me and will never know me
pity a lot of couple and women are not that secure in themselves as it would stop all the disrespectful behaviour i and other guys get thrown at us on here if they were ,
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " No never | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , " We are the lowest of the low in the swinging hierarchy. Ten a penny a single guy apparently. I have had some clubs management treat me poorly and i had to swallow my pride and play ball begrudgingly. I couldn't be arsed driving further and paying more membership fees when in the bigger picture i could still have a good time going there. On here though i wont tolerate trying to be treated like an unpaid prostitute or second best option if they have been let down etc. Most couples i have spoke with seems to always be the man though. | |||
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"sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype. You mean the ones who don't want to meet you? They must be full of it
no your assuming wrong this is about behaviour that leads me to say thanks but no thanks and then the behaviour that follows on from that .
i personally don't have a problem with someone who doesn't see me in a sexual light why would i be worried about that its just a fact of life .
in fact your post is very similar in its thought process to those woman and couples i have a problem with
you see your assuming I'm a guy who cant pull so i should be greatful for the attention and jump do as I'm told because i don't know how lucky i am because i was picked .
this post is about behaviour that leads me to say no and the reasons behind why i say no and what happens when i say no .
i for one am to secure in my knowledge of myself as a man and i have to much believe in myself to ever turn nasty over rejection from a stranger who doesn't know me and will never know me
pity a lot of couple and women are not that secure in themselves as it would stop all the disrespectful behaviour i and other guys get thrown at us on here if they were ,
You put a lot of words in my mouth there, and I don't appreciate my opinion being twisted so you can score points."i haven't assumed anything you asked a question because you was thinking guy sore over rejection that says more about your thought process than it does about me in my opinion so i was straight with you and told you my thought process back which tells you a hell of a lot about me just like your question told me a lot about you . | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , We are the lowest of the low in the swinging hierarchy. Ten a penny a single guy apparently. I have had some clubs management treat me poorly and i had to swallow my pride and play ball begrudgingly. I couldn't be arsed driving further and paying more membership fees when in the bigger picture i could still have a good time going there. On here though i wont tolerate trying to be treated like an unpaid prostitute or second best option if they have been let down etc. Most couples i have spoke with seems to always be the man though." I M often accused of being the man in the couple when I say no to single guys | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , We are the lowest of the low in the swinging hierarchy. Ten a penny a single guy apparently. I have had some clubs management treat me poorly and i had to swallow my pride and play ball begrudgingly. I couldn't be arsed driving further and paying more membership fees when in the bigger picture i could still have a good time going there. On here though i wont tolerate trying to be treated like an unpaid prostitute or second best option if they have been let down etc. Most couples i have spoke with seems to always be the man though. I M often accused of being the man in the couple when I say no to single guys " I can imagine you do but for me as i said in my thread earlier it puts me off if i think it is just the guy being the driving force. This is after exchanging a couple of messages not the initial approval message so to speak. | |||
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"do you ever feel insulted by the behaviour displayed towards you by some women and some couples on here. i do and I'm talking about during chat the getting to know one another stage leading up to a social or meet because i do i swear most of the time its like i should be so grateful and do as I'm told because the high and mighty have lowered themselves to chat to lowly me . this is not a rant people its a observation on my part and I'm wondering have other guys experienced this or similar feeling with chatting on here and at socials. think my way or the high way kind of attitudes of coarse i always choose the high way when faced with that kind of choice , We are the lowest of the low in the swinging hierarchy. Ten a penny a single guy apparently. I have had some clubs management treat me poorly and i had to swallow my pride and play ball begrudgingly. I couldn't be arsed driving further and paying more membership fees when in the bigger picture i could still have a good time going there. On here though i wont tolerate trying to be treated like an unpaid prostitute or second best option if they have been let down etc. Most couples i have spoke with seems to always be the man though. I M often accused of being the man in the couple when I say no to single guys I can imagine you do but for me as i said in my thread earlier it puts me off if i think it is just the guy being the driving force. This is after exchanging a couple of messages not the initial approval message so to speak." Once I say its okay to meet, I do let him make the arrangements though as he has more time and the car at his disposal, plus he knows the area more than I do | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to?" A high proportion of them actually | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? A high proportion of them actually "you're one of the rare friendlies on here, you don't count.  | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? A high proportion of them actually
you're one of the rare friendlies on here, you don't count. "Bugger!! Should I not be so friendly then? | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? A high proportion of them actually
you're one of the rare friendlies on here, you don't count.
Bugger!! Should I not be so friendly then? "not with me, i love it. think i'm just getting pissed off that men are talking to me as 'friends' but really all they want is a fuck, which is understandable on a fuck site but i don't want to fuck them and was chatting as friends. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? A high proportion of them actually
you're one of the rare friendlies on here, you don't count.
Bugger!! Should I not be so friendly then?
not with me, i love it.
think i'm just getting pissed off that men are talking to me as 'friends' but really all they want is a fuck, which is understandable on a fuck site but i don't want to fuck them and was chatting as friends."Ah that might be the difference - I don't do friends requests until I've met someone and then play or socialise with them regularly hence why most of mine are friends I see regularly. At present on my list are social or kink only, no regular play partners. Think I'm getting too picky in my old age  | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? A high proportion of them actually
you're one of the rare friendlies on here, you don't count.
Bugger!! Should I not be so friendly then?
not with me, i love it.
think i'm just getting pissed off that men are talking to me as 'friends' but really all they want is a fuck, which is understandable on a fuck site but i don't want to fuck them and was chatting as friends.
Ah that might be the difference - I don't do friends requests until I've met someone and then play or socialise with them regularly hence why most of mine are friends I see regularly. At present on my list are social or kink only, no regular play partners. Think I'm getting too picky in my old age " not really, whatever works for you.
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"It's not just one sex or group it's most. The thing is that 90% of people who are on here are on line and looking to meet straight away. Once you say sorry can't meet now maybe free Saturday they loose interest. There's nothing wrong in that if there free why waste the time messaging someone who can't meet when they could be messaging someone who can. Yes there are some people on here who think people should bow down to them but don't come across them that often if your having it all the time then maybe it's the way you come across that makes people like that. You can't class all women the same there's good and bad in everyone. " I agree. Made me start to think that people were right when they said that swingers tend to mostly just be made up of sex addicts with psychological issues. People on the forum like to wax puritanical but I have become kinda put off by the sheer amount of couples who want to meet within an hour and then start suggesting I bring some cocaine/MDMA along too....
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"sadly i find that behaviour more prevalent amongst couples and single women who are clearly out of touch with reality in my opinion and have fallen for there own hype. You mean the ones who don't want to meet you? They must be full of it
no your assuming wrong this is about behaviour that leads me to say thanks but no thanks and then the behaviour that follows on from that .
i personally don't have a problem with someone who doesn't see me in a sexual light why would i be worried about that its just a fact of life .
in fact your post is very similar in its thought process to those woman and couples i have a problem with
you see your assuming I'm a guy who cant pull so i should be greatful for the attention and jump do as I'm told because i don't know how lucky i am because i was picked .
this post is about behaviour that leads me to say no and the reasons behind why i say no and what happens when i say no .
i for one am to secure in my knowledge of myself as a man and i have to much believe in myself to ever turn nasty over rejection from a stranger who doesn't know me and will never know me
pity a lot of couple and women are not that secure in themselves as it would stop all the disrespectful behaviour i and other guys get thrown at us on here if they were ,
You put a lot of words in my mouth there, and I don't appreciate my opinion being twisted so you can score points."He's right, you're falling for your own hype Worrying amount of people on here dont realize they're only being given the time of day because they on a site which dangles the concept of an extremely easy fuck. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to?" LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship . | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship ."hardly anyone talks to me without a motive (ignore the forums bit, i mean via inbox). that's where i get my opinion from. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to?" i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews "you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly. i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also). | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews
you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly.
i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also)."i find folk as they are usually, just cos they're on fab doesn't make em less people...ish
i suppose i can see the trapping of the assumption that if folk are on fab then they must be gagging i suppose, folk join with the horn etc so get a bit....lusty lol and perhaps jump the gun and just want to be in some nickers asap!
are there any more socials coming up? i've not been able to do alot of late, life's been a little testing
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews
you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly.
i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also).
i find folk as they are usually, just cos they're on fab doesn't make em less people...ish
i suppose i can see the trapping of the assumption that if folk are on fab then they must be gagging i suppose, folk join with the horn etc so get a bit....lusty lol and perhaps jump the gun and just want to be in some nickers asap!
are there any more socials coming up? i've not been able to do alot of late, life's been a little testing
"it's more the guys who talk shit and wanna be 'friends' but only ever contact me for sex. -the keep you hanging types. i like the very few guys i talk to and never fuck really, dunno why. i'm getting work started on my mouth this week (no idea how that's gonna go, it'll be finished in may), also halfway through physio for my body (the top half of my body is doing great, my knees are getting worse). i'm wondering whether to have socials round my house coz idk if i can travel to preston even. do miss having them and wanna get out more again like i was doing. | |||
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As much as people complain here about single men being messers I'd say couples and some single females here have a serious case of inflated egos and arrogance themselves. I thought swinging was for straightforward adults who knew what they wanted and would go out to get it and not be encumbered by little details here and there because hey ho, everyone says they don't want to be judged by looks or appearances but they'd judge others by theirs and their race sometimes wouldn't it? How many times I've met people who would clearly be/say stuff like "you're a great man, better than most on here" bla bla bla, but "we aren't into men like you/we wouldn't like to be anyything more than socialise with you". But it's not like they're Adonises or Aphrodites themselves!
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews
you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly.
i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also).
i find folk as they are usually, just cos they're on fab doesn't make em less people...ish
i suppose i can see the trapping of the assumption that if folk are on fab then they must be gagging i suppose, folk join with the horn etc so get a bit....lusty lol and perhaps jump the gun and just want to be in some nickers asap!
are there any more socials coming up? i've not been able to do alot of late, life's been a little testing
it's more the guys who talk shit and wanna be 'friends' but only ever contact me for sex. -the keep you hanging types. i like the very few guys i talk to and never fuck really, dunno why.
i'm getting work started on my mouth this week (no idea how that's gonna go, it'll be finished in may), also halfway through physio for my body (the top half of my body is doing great, my knees are getting worse). i'm wondering whether to have socials round my house coz idk if i can travel to preston even.
do miss having them and wanna get out more again like i was doing."The way I see it, as a guy myself if I was gonna fuck anyone, they'd know it. I don't have to beat around the bush and be like "oh I just wanna be friends" whilst secretly hoping one day I'll weasel into your knickers. This is a swinger's site FFS. There's no need for such skullduggery! | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to?" threesome this is a true observation for many on here they will say and do anything for a shag . but some of us are detached our orgasm is our own and we give it to no one who doesn't give us there true being to play with . don't message your so called friends first and you will never here from them unless they want a shag again another truth about this place and the majority of those who use it . people will try and fool you by saying no its not like that but the truth is it is and they are as you said just lying to themselves . its a world full of the selfish who only play because there randy in need of physical touch of another human being to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life . all such people offer return is a physical touch back no truths and no intimacy . such people in my opinion are trying to use the physical to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life which doesn't work it just turns you into a cold human being who gives nothing because there scared of being hurt . | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? threesome this is a true observation for many on here they will say and do anything for a shag . but some of us are detached our orgasm is our own and we give it to no one who doesn't give us there true being to play with . don't message your so called friends first and you will never here from them unless they want a shag again another truth about this place and the majority of those who use it . people will try and fool you by saying no its not like that but the truth is it is and they are as you said just lying to themselves . its a world full of the selfish who only play because there randy in need of physical touch of another human being to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life . all such people offer return is a physical touch back no truths and no intimacy . such people in my opinion are trying to use the physical to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life which doesn't work it just turns you into a cold human being who gives nothing because there scared of being hurt. " i would say half of that is a good summary of myself when i first joined, was hurt badly and not really interested in intimacy, i also was sex starved in my relationship so it was great to get loads of sex that i wanted. that's not me now. i still want loads of sex but not with loads of randoms. i can get some intimacy from here but not with anyone i'm fucking coz they just let me down and i know this isn't the place to build up trust with strangers, never mind any real intimacy. but this place was a good escape for a while, when i needed that. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? threesome this is a true observation for many on here they will say and do anything for a shag . but some of us are detached our orgasm is our own and we give it to no one who doesn't give us there true being to play with . don't message your so called friends first and you will never here from them unless they want a shag again another truth about this place and the majority of those who use it . people will try and fool you by saying no its not like that but the truth is it is and they are as you said just lying to themselves . its a world full of the selfish who only play because there randy in need of physical touch of another human being to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life . all such people offer return is a physical touch back no truths and no intimacy . such people in my opinion are trying to use the physical to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life which doesn't work it just turns you into a cold human being who gives nothing because there scared of being hurt. i would say half of that is a good summary of myself when i first joined, was hurt badly and not really interested in intimacy, i also was sex starved in my relationship so it was great to get loads of sex that i wanted. that's not me now. i still want loads of sex but not with loads of randoms. i can get some intimacy from here but not with anyone i'm fucking coz they just let me down and i know this isn't the place to build up trust with strangers, never mind any real intimacy. but this place was a good escape for a while, when i needed that." threesome can i speak freely on how i see you darling going off of your posts or would me doing that upset you , because i would not want to do that xx | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? threesome this is a true observation for many on here they will say and do anything for a shag . but some of us are detached our orgasm is our own and we give it to no one who doesn't give us there true being to play with . don't message your so called friends first and you will never here from them unless they want a shag again another truth about this place and the majority of those who use it . people will try and fool you by saying no its not like that but the truth is it is and they are as you said just lying to themselves . its a world full of the selfish who only play because there randy in need of physical touch of another human being to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life . all such people offer return is a physical touch back no truths and no intimacy . such people in my opinion are trying to use the physical to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life which doesn't work it just turns you into a cold human being who gives nothing because there scared of being hurt. i would say half of that is a good summary of myself when i first joined, was hurt badly and not really interested in intimacy, i also was sex starved in my relationship so it was great to get loads of sex that i wanted. that's not me now. i still want loads of sex but not with loads of randoms. i can get some intimacy from here but not with anyone i'm fucking coz they just let me down and i know this isn't the place to build up trust with strangers, never mind any real intimacy. but this place was a good escape for a while, when i needed that. threesome can i speak freely on how i see you darling going off of your posts or would me doing that upset you , because i would not want to do that xx" if you want to, you might not be right also but i'll take what you want into consideration. | |||
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" its a world full of the selfish who only play because there randy in need of physical touch of another human being to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life . all such people offer return is a physical touch back no truths and no intimacy . such people in my opinion are trying to use the physical to replace a lack of true intimacy in there life which doesn't work it just turns you into a cold human being who gives nothing because there scared of being hurt. i would say half of that is a good summary of myself when i first joined, was hurt badly and not really interested in intimacy, i also was sex starved in my relationship so it was great to get loads of sex that i wanted. that's not me now. i still want loads of sex but not with loads of randoms. i can get some intimacy from here but not with anyone i'm fucking coz they just let me down and i know this isn't the place to build up trust with strangers, never mind any real intimacy." This is very astute John and does apply to some but I don't see it as true for all. Like 3sum, I am on a journey from the physical because of being hurt to true intimacy. It's not always easy or a straight road though | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship ."We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere .... | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews
you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly.
i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also).
i find folk as they are usually, just cos they're on fab doesn't make em less people...ish
i suppose i can see the trapping of the assumption that if folk are on fab then they must be gagging i suppose, folk join with the horn etc so get a bit....lusty lol and perhaps jump the gun and just want to be in some nickers asap!
are there any more socials coming up? i've not been able to do alot of late, life's been a little testing
it's more the guys who talk shit and wanna be 'friends' but only ever contact me for sex. -the keep you hanging types. i like the very few guys i talk to and never fuck really, dunno why.
i'm getting work started on my mouth this week (no idea how that's gonna go, it'll be finished in may), also halfway through physio for my body (the top half of my body is doing great, my knees are getting worse). i'm wondering whether to have socials round my house coz idk if i can travel to preston even.
do miss having them and wanna get out more again like i was doing."Sorry...fell asleep on ya :/ Sounds like you're going through alot physically! And I hope it gets sorted as well as it can do! If you ever organize anything and we come you'd be very welcome to a lift
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? i'll dispute that too, couple of my best friends are from here, either of which i've played with for years, i just go visit and annoy em for chat and brews
you've chatted to me on and off over the years and been friendly.
i don't mean everyone, but the majority on here are like that. they only chat if they want something and it pisses me off. it's why i started my socials also coz i wanted more of the social thing that's supposed to go on on here (and thanks for coming to that also).
i find folk as they are usually, just cos they're on fab doesn't make em less people...ish
i suppose i can see the trapping of the assumption that if folk are on fab then they must be gagging i suppose, folk join with the horn etc so get a bit....lusty lol and perhaps jump the gun and just want to be in some nickers asap!
are there any more socials coming up? i've not been able to do alot of late, life's been a little testing
it's more the guys who talk shit and wanna be 'friends' but only ever contact me for sex. -the keep you hanging types. i like the very few guys i talk to and never fuck really, dunno why.
i'm getting work started on my mouth this week (no idea how that's gonna go, it'll be finished in may), also halfway through physio for my body (the top half of my body is doing great, my knees are getting worse). i'm wondering whether to have socials round my house coz idk if i can travel to preston even.
do miss having them and wanna get out more again like i was doing.
Sorry...fell asleep on ya :/
Sounds like you're going through alot physically! And I hope it gets sorted as well as it can do!
If you ever organize anything and we come you'd be very welcome to a lift
"thanks, i wasn't fishing for a lift i hope you know.
i'll get sorted, don't worry. was thinking to start with socials in chorley then i'm not reliant on anyone and should be able to walk down to somewhere here. dunno yet. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship .
We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere ...."I've had fuckbuddies that have been around for longer than 3 years. When I meet a couple who has met through here for a significant period of time I would start to buy the idea that Fab (and swinging in general) is a great way to cultivate serious intimacy. From my understand and numerous experiences...I have found that even most Fabber will admit (with hindsight) that relationships that started on here were, in many cases, simply ones built on convenience. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship .
We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere ....
I've had fuckbuddies that have been around for longer than 3 years. When I meet a couple who has met through here for a significant period of time I would start to buy the idea that Fab (and swinging in general) is a great way to cultivate serious intimacy.
From my understand and numerous experiences...I have found that even most Fabber will admit (with hindsight) that relationships that started on here were, in many cases, simply ones built on convenience."Did you live with your fuck buddy though? Help them nurse their relative through the end stages of a terminal disease? Go to parents evenings? Shop together? Go to family weddings and on family holidays together? Just checking, because I too have had fuck buddies which have lasted longer and I know the differences two were in their twenties and even they knew the difference | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship .
We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere ....
I've had fuckbuddies that have been around for longer than 3 years. When I meet a couple who has met through here for a significant period of time I would start to buy the idea that Fab (and swinging in general) is a great way to cultivate serious intimacy.
From my understand and numerous experiences...I have found that even most Fabber will admit (with hindsight) that relationships that started on here were, in many cases, simply ones built on convenience."Forgot to add, laugh and cry together and even recently, miss each other too much when apart .... by the way, what exactly is a relationship built on convenience? | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship .
We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere ....
I've had fuckbuddies that have been around for longer than 3 years. When I meet a couple who has met through here for a significant period of time I would start to buy the idea that Fab (and swinging in general) is a great way to cultivate serious intimacy.
From my understand and numerous experiences...I have found that even most Fabber will admit (with hindsight) that relationships that started on here were, in many cases, simply ones built on convenience.
Forgot to add, laugh and cry together and even recently, miss each other too much when apart .... by the way, what exactly is a relationship built on convenience?"Yawn. Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself. | |||
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"i just want to add something to this i am touched by my fellow men's responses to me privately over this subject. if your one of them fabbers who thinks guys don't feel and are all sex mad prats your sadly mistaken because it seems my own experiences are mirror similarly by many other guys on here popular guys i might add . " True. In fact, men are even more emotional than women. They fall in love far more easily...sooo, whenever I meet someone who thinks that he's gonna come here to get his kicks and then just waltz back into the "vanilla" world to find a "good girl"...I laugh at his naivete. BUT, once again, even emotions can be built of convenience. There is a reason the divorce rate is what it is. | |||
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"do you not just think everyone is degrading themselves anyway, even if you're both polite and 'click'/get on and banter is fun? all this just so you can wank on someone elses body/genitals... can't stand how shallow this place is and everyone seems to be in denial and happy to go along with that. how many of your friends would be friends if you weren't fucking them or intending to? LOL I find many of your posts a guily pleasure. Indeed, strongly agree with the last sentence. I am always amused by those who like to brag about their "swinging chums". Mostly seems to be merely an engagement built on either sex or money tendered for entry to some swingers club. What companionship .
We met on here and have been together coming up three years. Does this mean he gets a cheaper entry into clubs? Or he is only using me for sex? Really? Many people have met other on here that they do more than have sex with. Sex isn't that hard to find anywhere ....
I've had fuckbuddies that have been around for longer than 3 years. When I meet a couple who has met through here for a significant period of time I would start to buy the idea that Fab (and swinging in general) is a great way to cultivate serious intimacy.
From my understand and numerous experiences...I have found that even most Fabber will admit (with hindsight) that relationships that started on here were, in many cases, simply ones built on convenience.
Forgot to add, laugh and cry together and even recently, miss each other too much when apart .... by the way, what exactly is a relationship built on convenience?
Yawn.
Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself."Don't need to .... just trying to bring you down to earth. But if you are going to yawn when someone says something you disagree with, that is just plain rude. | |||
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