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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're nervous about jumping in, arrange socials to start with to get to know people in advance. Read profiles carefully (a most underrated activity on here) to see if there is any common ground. Don't be afraid to delete messages which are clearly not going to lead to successful meets.
You have to have skin like a rhino, the social skills of a diplomat, the intuition of a witch, and the patience of a saint. If you expect one successful meet out of 100 messages you'll probably get on OK."
This is good advice. I used to be way too polite and reply to every message, but now I tend to delete and block the ones who make little or no effort with their initial message, but still reply with a polite no thank you to anyone who's clearly put some thought in. I often block people we're clearly never going to be interested in, if they repeatedly message us.
I also tend to steer clear of people who aren't verified as genuine (at the very least, photo verified...it's easy enough to do after all).
You have to be a bit ruthless in order to protect your enjoyment on the site unfortunately, and trust your gut instinct...if someone doesn't feel right, the chances are they're not!
Another thing I would say, is if you get an abusive message from anyone (sadly, it does happen), don't take anything they say personally...just report the message, delete it and block the sender. What they say most likely has nothing to do with you as a person, but everything to do with them not being able to accept that someone's not interested.
Having said all of that, it's worth sticking with it, there are some lovely, very sexy people here who genuinely want to have fun. It just takes a bit of time and patience to find what you're looking for.
Good luck!
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Ok ok...i jest...patience is prob the best way forward
Those are accurate numbers in my experience, and that's with lots of filters too.