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Would you meet someone your not 100% keen on??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I may possibly criticised for this post so sorry if it offends at all, I'm just looking for a few honest opinions??

I've met a few lovely women from this site in the past!! Some good experiences and some not so good!! With the not so good experiences I suppose you learn from them a bit, One of the reasons why I like to socialise first before anything happens, I met a lady a few months ago at her home for a coffee, She was quite nice but there didn't seem to be any chemistry at all!! SHe was kind of hard faced in conversation! All she was talking about was her work issues! How she wasn't appreciated by her peers in her job!! I'm a good listener in most situations but there was no real talk of anything naughty!! So I was unsure whether or not to meet up again after the coffee! Also when I would message her she would rarely ever reply!! But her husband who's a cuck is desperate for me to be her regular fuck buddy!! Nearly every day he's telling me to message her and she doesn't reply!! But somehow we have arranged a meet and I'm not sure about it!! This is my first propper meet this year!! So kinda caught between a cuck and a hard face!! Curious if others struggle to connect to some people and feel they need a connection if they are to play??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may possibly criticised for this post so sorry if it offends at all, I'm just looking for a few honest opinions??

I've met a few lovely women from this site in the past!! Some good experiences and some not so good!! With the not so good experiences I suppose you learn from them a bit, One of the reasons why I like to socialise first before anything happens, I met a lady a few months ago at her home for a coffee, She was quite nice but there didn't seem to be any chemistry at all!! SHe was kind of hard faced in conversation! All she was talking about was her work issues! How she wasn't appreciated by her peers in her job!! I'm a good listener in most situations but there was no real talk of anything naughty!! So I was unsure whether or not to meet up again after the coffee! Also when I would message her she would rarely ever reply!! But her husband who's a cuck is desperate for me to be her regular fuck buddy!! Nearly every day he's telling me to message her and she doesn't reply!! But somehow we have arranged a meet and I'm not sure about it!! This is my first propper meet this year!! So kinda caught between a cuck and a hard face!! Curious if others struggle to connect to some people and feel they need a connection if they are to play??"

You are allowed to use the block button OP. Personally I couldn't have sex with someone that I wasn't attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that youre questioning would make me think if you go ahead youre not going to get anything out of it. Why play for the sake of? You might as well stay at home and have a wank.

Id never play with someone I wasnt excited about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet ? Possibly for a social just to make sure.

Fuck? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even consider a social with someone I'm not 100% keen on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't even consider a social with someone I'm not 100% keen on "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not at all, I've gotten lazy with age so I don't make an effort with someone who I don't want to swap bodily fluids with 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way. Whats the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if she drives a vauxhall

No, if she drives a kia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they lived very local and I wasnt 100% sure if they were for me ? Id possibly still meet for a coffee as sometime you can be in for a pleasant suprise. So nothing to lose if its a quick local coffee.

But obviously I wouldnt meet if im nearly 100% sure that they wasnt my type.

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By *eyMrJackMan
over a year ago

Leeds

To quote Ghandi

"Sod that for a packet of crisps!!"

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I wouldn't meet, as others have said I wouldn't meet for a social if I wasn't 100% interested never mind fun

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By *anger69104Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yes I would meet socially, would either confirm they weren't for me, or they may make me think again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No absolutely not xx

Also if she isnt replying is she actually 100% into it or is her husband pushing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't waste time chatting to those I'm not interested in let alone meeting them. My time is precious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So kinda caught between a cuck and a hard face!!"

Haha I see what you did there!

Some weird dynamics going on there... Out of the three of you only the husband is excited. If you can't get her to discuss your misgivings just give up, it's unlikely you'll manage to get it up under these circumstances anyway

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sounds like it's been hard work getting to this stage. I probably wouldn't have asked more than once if she didn't reply to your message. She's probably not that interested or she feels like your hassling her, which can be an instant turn off.

I guess it depends how 'desperate' you are but personally I wouldn't be shagging anyone who I didn't feel 'it' with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op the meet that you describe sounds like a nightmare to me. Don't take one for the team just because her husband wants you too. If you have doubts walk away now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op the meet that you describe sounds like a nightmare to me. Don't take one for the team just because her husband wants you too. If you have doubts walk away now "

^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would and I have done it many times, it is a just a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be pushed into anything you're not 100% on, listen to your gut!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If there was no chemistry ,it would be a no from us.Lifes too short to have meets for the sake of it,they should be awesome .

Miss

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Meet ? Possibly for a social just to make sure.

Fuck? No

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think you've pretty much answered your own question OP - if there was no chemistry and connection when you met, and your not the type that a "shag is just a shag" as a previous poster so eloquently put it (!!) then you're not going to get anything out of it.

Walk away now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not be meeting. What's the point she doesn't seem interested and neither do you! Got to have some chemistry for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone really has been helpful!! I dont like letting people down but im pretty sure its the husband who is getting the kicks out of this situation. Getting so many mixed messages from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone really has been helpful!! I dont like letting people down but im pretty sure its the husband who is getting the kicks out of this situation. Getting so many mixed messages from them."

Sounds more to me as if the husband wants her to find someone else to whinge to 24/7

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone really has been helpful!! I dont like letting people down but im pretty sure its the husband who is getting the kicks out of this situation. Getting so many mixed messages from them.

Sounds more to me as if the husband wants her to find someone else to whinge to 24/7 "

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