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By *igharry OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Hey guys and gals!

So iv been on fab for around a year and although iv not had any meets i have attended a few clubs and met some awesome people, So i am a little familiar with the scene. Now whilst i was doing this i was a single male and i took notice of how couples are welcomed in the swinger scene so much and i always thought to myself i hope i get a girl whos into this shit too!

So then i meet a beautiful and sexy ebony woman who i later fall in love with and who really wants to show me a louis theroux documentary about sex clubs, and then starts googling sex clubs local to us. At this point i was really excited, but then she suddenly decided that she doesnt want to do it any more. Ffs!

Now a year later i bought the subject up again and she was still adamant on not wanting to come because shes christian and it says something about no orgies in the bible.

I respect her religion etc but iv really really wanted to do this for a long time X_X.

So what do you guys think? Am i a douche for wanting it? Or if any couples had a similar moment before and could share how they got over it that would be awesome! Might inspire me to figure out how i can get her around to the idea again

Any other comments or advice are also appreciated x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

she considered it and changed her mind. You need to accept that and work out how you can continue your relationship under those circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys and gals!

So iv been on fab for around a year and although iv not had any meets i have attended a few clubs and met some awesome people, So i am a little familiar with the scene. Now whilst i was doing this i was a single male and i took notice of how couples are welcomed in the swinger scene so much and i always thought to myself i hope i get a girl whos into this shit too!

So then i meet a beautiful and sexy ebony woman who i later fall in love with and who really wants to show me a louis theroux documentary about sex clubs, and then starts googling sex clubs local to us. At this point i was really excited, but then she suddenly decided that she doesnt want to do it any more. Ffs!

Now a year later i bought the subject up again and she was still adamant on not wanting to come because shes christian and it says something about no orgies in the bible.

I respect her religion etc but iv really really wanted to do this for a long time X_X.

So what do you guys think? Am i a douche for wanting it? Or if any couples had a similar moment before and could share how they got over it that would be awesome! Might inspire me to figure out how i can get her around to the idea again

Any other comments or advice are also appreciated x"

yes you are a douche...

well you did ask

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By *igharry OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Okay cool, thanks for the honesty lol

No biggie tbh theres plenty more to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are.

Respect her wishes and don't try to persuade her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest you're a twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys and gals!

So iv been on fab for around a year and although iv not had any meets i have attended a few clubs and met some awesome people, So i am a little familiar with the scene. Now whilst i was doing this i was a single male and i took notice of how couples are welcomed in the swinger scene so much and i always thought to myself i hope i get a girl whos into this shit too!

So then i meet a beautiful and sexy ebony woman who i later fall in love with and who really wants to show me a louis theroux documentary about sex clubs, and then starts googling sex clubs local to us. At this point i was really excited, but then she suddenly decided that she doesnt want to do it any more. Ffs!

Now a year later i bought the subject up again and she was still adamant on not wanting to come because shes christian and it says something about no orgies in the bible.

I respect her religion etc but iv really really wanted to do this for a long time X_X.

So what do you guys think? Am i a douche for wanting it? Or if any couples had a similar moment before and could share how they got over it that would be awesome! Might inspire me to figure out how i can get her around to the idea again

Any other comments or advice are also appreciated x"

I giggled at couples are welcomed on the swinger scene, well duh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect your girlfriends choices. And yes you are a douche.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest you're a twat"

I was going more along the lines of fantasist, but yours works too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest you're a twat

I was going more along the lines of fantasist, but yours works too. "

Ooo would you like you fantasise over me??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest you're a twat

I was going more along the lines of fantasist, but yours works too.

Ooo would you like you fantasise over me??"

Awwww honey, I do so! Regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest you're a twat

I was going more along the lines of fantasist, but yours works too.

Ooo would you like you fantasise over me??

Awwww honey, I do so! Regularly "

Pops off for a lady wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to fly against the face of popular opinion here and say 'no, you're not a douche' for wanting it to happen but don't pursue it if she really doesn't want to. You have to respect her opinion.

It's always very easy for swinging couples etc who are out there enjoying a hedonistic lifestyle together to criticise others for dreaming / hoping for the same! I can absolutely understand you wanting to enjoy the scene with her and it's good that you talked about it.

But if she's adamant it's no, don't harass her or force her into something she doesn't want to do - not everyone feels the same way about sex and swinging.

Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest you're a twat

I was going more along the lines of fantasist, but yours works too.

Ooo would you like you fantasise over me??

Awwww honey, I do so! Regularly

Pops off for a lady wank "

Ohhh see! I'm fantasising right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what hell of a lot a people do on here any way ...go with some one else lol

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By *ogerjessica6866Couple
over a year ago

bradford/keighly

Agree if you have talked a nd discussed and she chooses not to ,that is her choice and you abide by it..............From a religious point the bible only forbids Jews from revealing (getting naked) as the gentiles do so ,anyone not Following the great sky fairy ,it's game on lol

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