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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol thats what happens lol...anything for a bitta fanny lol-maybe they ran out of cock requests hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would that spoil it for the good guys. If you've decided not to meet them, just block after you've sent your reply, or if you look at profiles, block as you go

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

So they have changed their profile to fit in with what you want, and you still don't want them? Sheesh!

Seriously though, it may well be that they are happy to play by your rules and thats the only way they know to show you that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

browse again is all i can say

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "

A bit like guys who play with barebackers who then remove the barebackers from their verifications then message back saying "Is that better?"

You can't not know what you already know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "

sorry to burst your bubble but many of the 'straight' guys you meet might actually be bi or curious

i get maybe 10 meet requests a week from 'straight' guys

at the end of the day, bi, gay, straight are all labels.

everyone has the absolute right to dip their toe in the water experimentally.

some will be brave, others will 'hide' behind the straight label and hope for discretion from the other party.

and some guys curiosity does change with the wind. it comes, it goes, it comes, it goes

the other thing is some blokes come on here expecting this nice rosey world of sexual liberalisation and realise that in actual fact things aren't as rosey as they first thought the might be

so the bi or bi-curious suddenly becomes straight

so i am sure that there is no great conspiracy to 'ruin it' for anyone - it's just the way things are !

maybe it is your personal perceptions that are a little naive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have just noted in your profile that you express an interest in exploring your own bi curiousity yet seem set on demonising curious men ?

double standards maybe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have just noted in your profile that you express an interest in exploring your own bi curiousity yet seem set on demonising curious men ?

double standards maybe ?"

Yep, double standards sounds to mind.

p.s.... I hope one of her veri's doesn't see this rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also seems true that nearly every bi-sexual guy on this and every other site is absolutely convinced that there is no such thing as a "straight" guy, and that all men who "think" they are straight, simply need the oportunity to sample the delights of man on man to be converted forever.

Now, we do not meet Bi guys either, because I (and yes I'm a bi female) have a phobia about guys, sticking it to guys, however we don't deny their right to have their own fun with like minded people. We do however resent having someone elses sexual preferences rammed down our throat because "we want it really, we just don't realise"!!!!!!

It's the same principal as the male idea that all lesbians can be converted if only they could be given a good seeing to!

The bi, bi-curious and gay community are by and large, the pushiest and most insistent part of the swinging community, always determined to force people to see things their way. It's very strange.

Before all the bi-guys start screaming, we simply quote the facts as we see it after 10 years of swinging and it is our personal opinion. If someone says that don't want to meet people under 30, that would be accepted. Don't like meeting people with tattoos? No problem! But, say you don't want to meet bi-guys and you will be totally ignored! We can post several thousand messages to proove it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It also seems true that nearly every bi-sexual guy on this and every other site is absolutely convinced that there is no such thing as a "straight" guy, and that all men who "think" they are straight, simply need the oportunity to sample the delights of man on man to be converted forever.

Now, we do not meet Bi guys either, because I (and yes I'm a bi female) have a phobia about guys, sticking it to guys, however we don't deny their right to have their own fun with like minded people. We do however resent having someone elses sexual preferences rammed down our throat because "we want it really, we just don't realise"!!!!!!

It's the same principal as the male idea that all lesbians can be converted if only they could be given a good seeing to!

The bi, bi-curious and gay community are by and large, the pushiest and most insistent part of the swinging community, always determined to force people to see things their way. It's very strange.

Before all the bi-guys start screaming, we simply quote the facts as we see it after 10 years of swinging and it is our personal opinion. If someone says that don't want to meet people under 30, that would be accepted. Don't like meeting people with tattoos? No problem! But, say you don't want to meet bi-guys and you will be totally ignored! We can post several thousand messages to proove it!"

i don't wanna 'convert' anyone

i will also only rarely make the first move with a bloke message wise

so please don't include me in your generalisations

and am sure there are many other bi blokes on here who act in just the same manner / have the same mind set as i do

btw was that rant part of the treatment for your 'phobia' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was not ranting, just saying it how it is. Your post is typical in that it states clearly that you believe most "straight" guys are secretly bi.

If you have looked at our profile, then you must be able to see how clearly we have stated " No Bi-guys" and yet, if we advertise for a meet, 75% of the replies we get will be from bi men, usually telling us that we don't need to worry as they are happy to "play" straight! We also get a good few from guys who have altered their profiles to fit our requirements, and then change it back at a later date!

Are you suggesting that this is NOT being pushy or dishonest??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trust me there are some not so nice folk out there so just more on and forget x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

some people will say what they think people want to hear to make themselves more popular..... which is in effect why I hate the "advice of changing profiles threads"...

we have seen bi guys suddenly become straight.... we have seen married guys suddenly become single.... and so on and so on...

there are nice guys out there.... and the nice ones do tend to stand out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I have to say ive never encountered any problems with bi men since ive been on here,not one has ever said that they will try and convert hubby,none have changed their profile to try and suit what we want,they have all been polite and repsectful in messaging

But thinking about it,we don't seem to have any problems with anyone that gets in touch with us

I must be doing something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say ive never encountered any problems with bi men since ive been on here,not one has ever said that they will try and convert hubby,none have changed their profile to try and suit what we want,they have all been polite and repsectful in messaging

But thinking about it,we don't seem to have any problems with anyone that gets in touch with us

I must be doing something wrong "

But your profile doesn't say "no bi guys", so you wouldn't have the same problem. And as to trying to "convert" your hubby, that isn't actually what I said.....try looking at the earlier post on this thread where a bi guy clearly states his belief that there is not really any such thing as a "straight" guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was not ranting, just saying it how it is. Your post is typical in that it states clearly that you believe most "straight" guys are secretly bi.

If you have looked at our profile, then you must be able to see how clearly we have stated " No Bi-guys" and yet, if we advertise for a meet, 75% of the replies we get will be from bi men, usually telling us that we don't need to worry as they are happy to "play" straight! We also get a good few from guys who have altered their profiles to fit our requirements, and then change it back at a later date!

Are you suggesting that this is NOT being pushy or dishonest??????"

what i said was i get a lot of messages off 'straight' guys who message me for meets

so yes, those guys are evidently bi or maybe straight but curious

what other explanation would you put on it ?

i am not applying that to every man by a long chalk

so by your own assumption, my attitude is far from 'typical' of your ideas of how the majority of bi-men think

i can't comment on the messages you get from other people only on my own attitude / outlook

as for being pushy / dishonest though it works both ways

my profile makes it clear that i am not up for anal yet i have at least 2 messages this week alone from 'straight' guys that wanted me to fuck them

how would you explain that away ?

(both offers were declined i hasten to add)

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I have to say ive never encountered any problems with bi men since ive been on here,not one has ever said that they will try and convert hubby,none have changed their profile to try and suit what we want,they have all been polite and repsectful in messaging

But thinking about it,we don't seem to have any problems with anyone that gets in touch with us

I must be doing something wrong

But your profile doesn't say "no bi guys", so you wouldn't have the same problem. And as to trying to "convert" your hubby, that isn't actually what I said.....try looking at the earlier post on this thread where a bi guy clearly states his belief that there is not really any such thing as a "straight" guy. "

I was'nt referring to your post but the whole thread and was giving my own opinion of my experience on here x

Ive never felt the need to say on our profile what we don't want,what I usually do when im looking for new playmates is state what we do want as I personally think that makes better reading and that seems to get me good results so im happy

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Dipper has a point though ( although I think maybe the "every" word in the first sentance should be " some " )

But the point is right all the same, there are a lot of "bi" threads that have been on these forums that people have said that straight people are supressing their sexuality in some way and do really want to try someone of the same sex.

I personally can understand why members think it is insulting....as if we don't know our own mind. I know mine, gimmee cock only !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It also seems true that nearly every bi-sexual guy on this and every other site is absolutely convinced that there is no such thing as a "straight" guy, and that all men who "think" they are straight, simply need the oportunity to sample the delights of man on man to be converted forever.

Now, we do not meet Bi guys either, because I (and yes I'm a bi female) have a phobia about guys, sticking it to guys, however we don't deny their right to have their own fun with like minded people. We do however resent having someone elses sexual preferences rammed down our throat because "we want it really, we just don't realise"!!!!!!

It's the same principal as the male idea that all lesbians can be converted if only they could be given a good seeing to!

The bi, bi-curious and gay community are by and large, the pushiest and most insistent part of the swinging community, always determined to force people to see things their way. It's very strange.

Before all the bi-guys start screaming, we simply quote the facts as we see it after 10 years of swinging and it is our personal opinion. If someone says that don't want to meet people under 30, that would be accepted. Don't like meeting people with tattoos? No problem! But, say you don't want to meet bi-guys and you will be totally ignored! We can post several thousand messages to proove it!"
We have exactly the same thing from cpls with bi females, who constantly tell me they can make me bi!!!!! sooooooo annoying!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

dipper...

just one quick question...

Unless they tell you they are bi or bi curious (so they may not have even played with other men yet... isn't that what the "curious" means?) how would you tell..... just out of interest?

do they have some sort of "mark" so you can instantly tell? .....

in truth you are relying on people being honest..... but before you say verifications let me say this..

I have met couples for 3somes where the bloke is bi, and they know my boundries so we never play...

I have met single guys in clubs where i'd be happy to verify then because they are indeed nice guys, wouldn't dream of playing with them.... but again people read so much into them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dipper...

just one quick question...

Unless they tell you they are bi or bi curious (so they may not have even played with other men yet... isn't that what the "curious" means?) how would you tell..... just out of interest?

do they have some sort of "mark" so you can instantly tell? .....

in truth you are relying on people being honest..... but before you say verifications let me say this..

I have met couples for 3somes where the bloke is bi, and they know my boundries so we never play...

I have met single guys in clubs where i'd be happy to verify then because they are indeed nice guys, wouldn't dream of playing with them.... but again people read so much into them....

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Errr.......when you have a verification (met in person) from one single guy to another that descibes "great sex"????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say ive never encountered any problems with bi men since ive been on here,not one has ever said that they will try and convert hubby,none have changed their profile to try and suit what we want,they have all been polite and repsectful in messaging

But thinking about it,we don't seem to have any problems with anyone that gets in touch with us

I must be doing something wrong

But your profile doesn't say "no bi guys", so you wouldn't have the same problem. And as to trying to "convert" your hubby, that isn't actually what I said.....try looking at the earlier post on this thread where a bi guy clearly states his belief that there is not really any such thing as a "straight" guy. "

i hope that isn't directed at me ?

if it is, i would read my posts again because at no point have i stated that there is no such thing as a straight guy !

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

but again dipper... unless people slip up... you are relying in the most part on people being honest....

I reckon you have played with more bi guys than you even imagine.... just because as people have said before "some people will say whatever they have to to get there leg over"

so when you go dogging... is the first question you ask all your potential playmates..."are you in any point bi... or potentially bi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that don't want to meet people under 30, that would be accepted. Don't like meeting people with tattoos? No problem! But, say you don't want to meet bi-guys and you will be totally ignored! "

I disagree - my profile says I don't want to meet under 38s. Does it stop them messaging me and when I say no, messaging me again saying I won't be disappointed if I just give them a chance? No of course it doesn't. Likewise the heavily tattooed men who also hassle me even though my profile says I dislike heavy tatts.

I hear what you're saying about bi men and I'm not disputing your personal experience but I can assure you they are not the only group who think it's ok to push and push.

I used to just reply with a thanks but no thanks and delete, or just delete, but I now routinely block anyone who doesn't interest me purely to stop the endless barrage of people who won't take no for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

how it spoils it for the gen guys is quite simple, when you are messed about like this, the trust of the gen guys is then questioned, hence why a lot of single guys who are genuine cant get meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its got nothing to do with double standards, its to do with my sexualality, i am bi, and want to explore this side, surely if my preference is not to entertain bi, or bi-curious men, then that is my right,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how it spoils it for the gen guys is quite simple, when you are messed about like this, the trust of the gen guys is then questioned, hence why a lot of single guys who are genuine cant get meets"

but in your opening post, u consciously cite the example of 'bi' guys being the main issue.

it was that bit i have the issue with.

i think you have to look closely at all profiles on here & more than once.

you have to make your own decisions on a person from a stand alone aspect.

there will always be people who abuse sites like this and you can't tar everyone with the same brush (well, you can, but it's unfair)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its got nothing to do with double standards, its to do with my sexualality, i am bi, and want to explore this side, surely if my preference is not to entertain bi, or bi-curious men, then that is my right, "

and a lot of men want to explore their bi side too

but as you quite rightly say, it is your choice whether to entertain or not

where i think the double standard comes in is how you demonise bi males as being the source of misery for straight single males and then in your profile say 'i am bi'

it's like saying i'm bi but i won't mess you about cos i'm a woman, but oh, look out for them bi men cos they are bad news

if that wasn't your intention then let it be said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so why is it that so many men who are bi, state that they are str8 on their profile, and only after much probing, no pun intended, will tell you they are bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so why is it that so many men who are bi, state that they are str8 on their profile, and only after much probing, no pun intended, will tell you they are bi?"

i would hazard a guess at :

1. stigma and

2. fear of losing / not getting meets with women

but who am i to say ?

i'm bi and couldn't give a monkeys who finds it offputting or offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "

Maybe part of the 'problem' is that your very first verification is from a bi-guy.

Guys just see that and think.... ahhhh so it's not all bi-guys this bi woman dislikes.

So they decide to push their luck...... many couples and females will put in bold letters at the top of their profile, No single guys.... No single guys..... but at the end of their profile say.... We will contact you when we want one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too can see Dipper's point.

From personal experience the most pushy men I've encountered are bi men. I have on my profile "no bi men". Their problem was I was seeking straight men for anal play, and to a man they all said "good luck with that one!" any man into anal play was bi, so why didn't I want to meet bi men?

It comes to something when others think they have the right to dictate to you who you take to your bed. My other half is straight but submissive in the bedroom. Even after four years together he still turns every colour under the sun with the things I get him to do. I have to move the mirrors or blindfold him sometimes, because if he catches sight of himself he loses his erection - !

The bi men I've played with in the past have enjoyed the anal play, but I've not, as I like the look of "shame", the nervousness of straight men enjoying something they feel taboo.

I know not all bi men are into anal, that's not the point, the point is from my experience those I've met have been and enjoyed it...to my detriment, so I chose not to.

However, according to some bi men I'm delusional, as there's no such thing as a straight man, and as Rugger's has said, that's been said more than once on these forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I too can see Dipper's point. "

you would !


" From personal experience the most pushy men I've encountered are bi men "

* note to other bi men

can you stop being 'pushy' please

you really aren't doing my argument any good here at all !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "

About 95% of the guys I meet are 'straight' or 'male-half' of couples, hence few verifications as they don't verify back. If you think avoiding 'bi-curious' guys is a filter, you are greatly mistaken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile.

About 95% of the guys I meet are 'straight' or 'male-half' of couples, hence few verifications as they don't verify back. If you think avoiding 'bi-curious' guys is a filter, you are greatly mistaken"

See, once again, a bi guy who insists that "most" guys are secretly bi and gagging to feel another guys cock! My whole point being, that no straight man, or couple, can ever win this argument, as the bi males KNOW without any doubt that all men are the same as they are.

I will rush home now to inform my hubby, that he has been secretly needing cock for the last 30 years or so. I'm sure he'll be pleased to know that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile.

About 95% of the guys I meet are 'straight' or 'male-half' of couples, hence few verifications as they don't verify back. If you think avoiding 'bi-curious' guys is a filter, you are greatly mistaken

See, once again, a bi guy who insists that "most" guys are secretly bi and gagging to feel another guys cock! My whole point being, that no straight man, or couple, can ever win this argument, as the bi males KNOW without any doubt that all men are the same as they are.

I will rush home now to inform my hubby, that he has been secretly needing cock for the last 30 years or so. I'm sure he'll be pleased to know that!"

Read it again dipper, that is not what it says. 95% of the people I meet describe themselves as 'straight'. That is only a small fraction of this site, and probably an even smaller fraction of the 'vanilla' world. Most men are straight with no interest in other men, however a hell of a lot claim to be, who aren't, is what I wrote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile.

About 95% of the guys I meet are 'straight' or 'male-half' of couples, hence few verifications as they don't verify back. If you think avoiding 'bi-curious' guys is a filter, you are greatly mistaken

See, once again, a bi guy who insists that "most" guys are secretly bi and gagging to feel another guys cock! My whole point being, that no straight man, or couple, can ever win this argument, as the bi males KNOW without any doubt that all men are the same as they are.

I will rush home now to inform my hubby, that he has been secretly needing cock for the last 30 years or so. I'm sure he'll be pleased to know that!"

he didn't insist anything

nor did he use the term 'most' men

what he said was that a great deal of the meets he has off here come from profiles where they label themselves 'straight'

that is also my experience and like the previous poster said, under such situations there are rarely verifications due to the 'sensitive' nature of the meet.

i understand that the majority of men on here like only women but 'some' (not most) also like a bit of cock on the side too

i think what he was trying to say is that irregardless of what their status might be and irregardless of what verifications show on a profile, very few people on here can wholeheartedly guarantee that the guy isn't also meeting other men as well as women &/or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile.

About 95% of the guys I meet are 'straight' or 'male-half' of couples, hence few verifications as they don't verify back. If you think avoiding 'bi-curious' guys is a filter, you are greatly mistaken

See, once again, a bi guy who insists that "most" guys are secretly bi and gagging to feel another guys cock! My whole point being, that no straight man, or couple, can ever win this argument, as the bi males KNOW without any doubt that all men are the same as they are.

I will rush home now to inform my hubby, that he has been secretly needing cock for the last 30 years or so. I'm sure he'll be pleased to know that!

Read it again dipper, that is not what it says. 95% of the people I meet describe themselves as 'straight'. That is only a small fraction of this site, and probably an even smaller fraction of the 'vanilla' world. Most men are straight with no interest in other men, however a hell of a lot claim to be, who aren't, is what I wrote."

oops sorry mate

at least i did read & interpret your message correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which give the bi-guys (the ones who admit to it) the right to contact couples that specifically ask them not to do so?

Or to change their profile to straight in a deliberate attempt to deceive?

Yes?

Because that is what this thread is really about, before bi guys started trying to justify such actions on the basis that they know that the straight guys are lying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or to change their profile to straight in a deliberate attempt to deceive?

"

I understand the original message.

And yes, deception is wrong - but does go on - and not just by bi men

What I am trying to get across is that just because some male profiles say 'straight' and only have verifications from women it does not mean that that person is being entirely honest with potential meets.

Profiles can be cleverly crafted to make us believe 1 thing when in fact the actual may be a whole different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which give the bi-guys (the ones who admit to it) the right to contact couples that specifically ask them not to do so?

Or to change their profile to straight in a deliberate attempt to deceive?

Yes?

Because that is what this thread is really about, before bi guys started trying to justify such actions on the basis that they know that the straight guys are lying!

"

To be fair, I think most don't even read profiles, so don't even know they are not wanted. I have filters for various things (age etc), but it still doesn't stop people outside of these messaging. I always read profiles, but never message unless I pretty much fit in with their requirements. I would never message a straight guy or non-bi couple, unless contacted first. You've lost me again with your last line though, as it has nothing to do with the straight guy lying, but rather trying to fit in with the couple & shag the female.

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over a year ago

I'm talking about all the "straight" guys you have met, that are not!

This is what the bi-guys use an an excuse for ignoring the "no bi" request or changing their profile. Also I would heartily disagree about not reading the profile, as around 80% of the bi guys that contact us, start their message with "I am bi, but happy to play straight" or something similar!

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over a year ago


"I'm talking about all the "straight" guys you have met, that are not!

This is what the bi-guys use an an excuse for ignoring the "no bi" request or changing their profile. Also I would heartily disagree about not reading the profile, as around 80% of the bi guys that contact us, start their message with "I am bi, but happy to play straight" or something similar!"

Ohhhh, I thought you meant they assumed the straight guy in the couple was deceiving himself! It might have something to do with your 'bi' verification though. I sometimes look at veri's to see if I am similar to the others the couple usually meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have just checked my verifications, if you care to point out which one is bi, as I can't find him?

We even check to make sure there are no bi pointers that we can find in a straight profile. We even chat to doggers to try and suss out if they are truly straight.

Met on guy who tried to grab my husbands cock while we were playing, and I was sick on him! So it's something we take seriously.

I should point out that my husband is in no way homophobic, it is me.....and it is a REAL phobia!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Same problem, different symptom....dishonesty. people lie to get what they want. Can debate all day and it won't change anything. Most get found out.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOTE TO SELF: I must stop sending cock pics to cpls when its the str8 male thats on lolol

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over a year ago


"NOTE TO SELF: I must stop sending cock pics to cpls when its the str8 male thats on lolol"

Was that funny?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Met on guy who tried to grab my husbands cock while we were playing, and I was sick on him!

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Wow he really did get his cum uppance....

Mistress x

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over a year ago


"NOTE TO SELF: I must stop sending cock pics to cpls when its the str8 male thats on lolol

Was that funny?"

Oh come one ffs...

I had a guys trying to fondle my balls andshaft my cock into a lovely person at a party...how do u think I felt???- er...well soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I should point out that my husband is in no way homophobic, it is me.....and it is a REAL phobia!"

so are you homophobic ?

ie you couldn't or wouldn't want be in the platonic company of a bi or gay male ?

or is just seeing two men in the act (with or without a female present) that you have the phobia about ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

when they write to you and state they are Bi/Bi Cur and you are not interested.... BLOCK THEM.

then they can't write to you again.

It really isn't that difficult surely..

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"when they write to you and state they are Bi/Bi Cur and you are not interested.... BLOCK THEM.

then they can't write to you again.

It really isn't that difficult surely.."

Don't let on it's that easy!....

What on earth will people have to moan about if we make it too easy for them?

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

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"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "
yes but their verifications all state how great they are at sucking cock!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I should point out that my husband is in no way homophobic, it is me.....and it is a REAL phobia!

so are you homophobic ?

ie you couldn't or wouldn't want be in the platonic company of a bi or gay male ?

or is just seeing two men in the act (with or without a female present) that you have the phobia about ?"

I cannot cope with seeing or contemplating male on male contact. Even writing and reading some of these posts sets off a gag reflex. And actually seeing any such behavior really makes me be sick. It is completely irrational, as I am well aware, that's why they call it a phobia. It is NOT something I can control, I wish I could! On the odd meet where something has happened and I have reacted, it has been grossly unpleasant and embarassing for ALL concerned, believe me.

The mental picture that these circumstances or the company of bi men produces make me feel ill.

I hope that is OK by you as there is nothing I can do about it.....but frankly if you don't think it's Ok then that is your problem as there is STILL nothing I can do about it!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

There was a woman character in Little Britain who was sick at the thought of persuasions she couldn't cope with.

And they based their characters on real life... So it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust me! I'm living testament that it happens. That's why I get so upset when the bi's either try to force me to see things their way, or try to convince me to think otherwise or, far worse, try to trick me!

I don't resent bi guys as such, but I do resent the attitude of most of them that I MUST see things their way.....and I can't.

Genuinly believe in "each to their own" but why can't they get that "their own" IS NOT MINE!!!!!!!!!!

Now watch the rants I get!

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over a year ago


"Have just checked my verifications, if you care to point out which one is bi, as I can't find him?

We even check to make sure there are no bi pointers that we can find in a straight profile. We even chat to doggers to try and suss out if they are truly straight.

Met on guy who tried to grab my husbands cock while we were playing, and I was sick on him! So it's something we take seriously.

I should point out that my husband is in no way homophobic, it is me.....and it is a REAL phobia!"

It was the original op's veri's I meant

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Trust me! I'm living testament that it happens. That's why I get so upset when the bi's either try to force me to see things their way, or try to convince me to think otherwise or, far worse, try to trick

Now watch the rants I get!"

I am the biggest advocate for honesty on a profile... Saves any hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust me! I'm living testament that it happens. That's why I get so upset when the bi's either try to force me to see things their way, or try to convince me to think otherwise or, far worse, try to trick me!

I don't resent bi guys as such, but I do resent the attitude of most of them that I MUST see things their way.....and I can't.

Genuinly believe in "each to their own" but why can't they get that "their own" IS NOT MINE!!!!!!!!!!

Now watch the rants I get!"

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had that before were a guy contacted us but on his profile he was straight so we reply back to him not interested so a few days later he contacted us again and this time around he had on his profile being bi lmao


"why do the bad guys ruin it for the good guys, i have had guys message me for a met, i check their profiles, notice they r bi-curious or bi, i tell them i am not interested, so a cpl days later, they try me again, and have removed the bi part on their profile. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorant generalisations (straight or bi) irritate me to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust me! I'm living testament that it happens. That's why I get so upset when the bi's either try to force me to see things their way, or try to convince me to think otherwise or, far worse, try to trick me!

I don't resent bi guys as such, but I do resent the attitude of most of them that I MUST see things their way.....and I can't.

Genuinly believe in "each to their own" but why can't they get that "their own" IS NOT MINE!!!!!!!!!!

Now watch the rants I get!

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label"

Have you actually read your own profile!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I should point out that my husband is in no way homophobic, it is me.....and it is a REAL phobia!

so are you homophobic ?

ie you couldn't or wouldn't want be in the platonic company of a bi or gay male ?

or is just seeing two men in the act (with or without a female present) that you have the phobia about ?

I cannot cope with seeing or contemplating male on male contact. Even writing and reading some of these posts sets off a gag reflex. And actually seeing any such behavior really makes me be sick. It is completely irrational, as I am well aware, that's why they call it a phobia. It is NOT something I can control, I wish I could! On the odd meet where something has happened and I have reacted, it has been grossly unpleasant and embarassing for ALL concerned, believe me.

The mental picture that these circumstances or the company of bi men produces make me feel ill.

I hope that is OK by you as there is nothing I can do about it.....but frankly if you don't think it's Ok then that is your problem as there is STILL nothing I can do about it!"

it doesn't offend me in any way but it does explain why you are so agitated by bi-men.

as you say, phobia's are irrational & can't be controlled.

i'd be off like a shot if faced with anything vaguely reptilian. (the meets themselves or their pets lol)

but,in future, if any bi men do contact you, just say 'i'm not interested but i know a lovely man in manchester ...'

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label"

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?"

my suggestion would be (altho the poster may disagree) because it's another way of getting some more random cock or a MMF with a bi male.

being totally honest and frank i joined for totally mercenary reasons & had memberships on another 3/4 sites too.

but i have to say, my mindset has been completely altered.

i love being on this site and have chatted to some truly lovely people.

i have also had a number of great meets with genuine folk and i am looking forward to meeting some of the people socially that i have chatted to / bantered with.

i love the forums - they're like a roller coaster of wit, sarcasm, bitterness, sadness, horniness and just outright good fun.

anyway the end result is all my other profiles (elsewhere) have been deleted and you lovely people now have my full attention (whether u want it or not haha)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole point of this thread, boils down to the fact that a hell of a lot of bi guys won't take no for an answer.

We always block bi-guys on contact, however an awful lot will then try again on their alternate profile (a lot of bi guys have them) which is often a "straight" profile. The point is that they will persist even when it is blatantly obvious that their target is not interested!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?

my suggestion would be (altho the poster may disagree) because it's another way of getting some more random cock or a MMF with a bi male.

)"

But that is swinging, and he seems so against it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The whole point of this thread, boils down to the fact that a hell of a lot of bi guys won't take no for an answer.

We always block bi-guys on contact, however an awful lot will then try again on their alternate profile (a lot of bi guys have them) which is often a "straight" profile. The point is that they will persist even when it is blatantly obvious that their target is not interested!"

Dipper, it happens, from couples /females straight and bi men.

Some people will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want and some people won't take no for an answer....I doubt if that will change.

The only way to deal with it is ignore...we do. Nothing on a swinging site is worth getting het up for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole point of this thread, boils down to the fact that a hell of a lot of bi guys won't take no for an answer.

We always block bi-guys on contact, however an awful lot will then try again on their alternate profile (a lot of bi guys have them) which is often a "straight" profile. The point is that they will persist even when it is blatantly obvious that their target is not interested!"

add to that the fact that a lot of bi guys just don't know what the fk they want

so sometimes yeah it will be downright subterfuge - sometimes it'll be this week i feel like being straight lol

after several years of soul searching i've made my mind up now !

was i straight / gay / bi / straight but wanted some occasional cock ?

and it took some answering, however ...

you can see my profile is quite candid as to what i am looking for / will do.

some guys may still be in the soul searching stage.

i'm not advocating anyone not taking 'no' for an answer by any stretch, so please don't misinterpret that

i am merely offering other potential reasons as to why someone would change their sexual status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only het up, because the action keeps being justified, by the people who do it! It's anoying. Frankly, it can only harm the credibility of the male bi/gay community, but they can't seem to see that. One guy on here has gone out of his way to point out that he is 99.9% straight and does not consider himself bi, but look at his (publicly available) profile! The attitude of "I'll say and do anything" as long as they can get a free fuck from some form of human can only harm the status of the whole community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole point of this thread, boils down to the fact that a hell of a lot of bi guys won't take no for an answer.

We always block bi-guys on contact, however an awful lot will then try again on their alternate profile (a lot of bi guys have them) which is often a "straight" profile. The point is that they will persist even when it is blatantly obvious that their target is not interested!

add to that the fact that a lot of bi guys just don't know what the fk they want

so sometimes yeah it will be downright subterfuge - sometimes it'll be this week i feel like being straight lol

after several years of soul searching i've made my mind up now !

was i straight / gay / bi / straight but wanted some occasional cock ?

and it took some answering, however ...

you can see my profile is quite candid as to what i am looking for / will do.

some guys may still be in the soul searching stage.

i'm not advocating anyone not taking 'no' for an answer by any stretch, so please don't misinterpret that

i am merely offering other potential reasons as to why someone would change their sexual status."

Change their status? What, for one message, then change it back again????

It's a bit naive to suggest they do that because they have doubts of their sexuality. They change back and forth that quickly to suit the profile they are trying to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Change their status? What, for one message, then change it back again????

It's a bit naive to suggest they do that because they have doubts of their sexuality. They change back and forth that quickly to suit the profile they are trying to meet!"

Possibly !

BUT it does also happen for less 'devious' reasons too.

All I am asking is that you try to accept that possibility and secondly accept that it is not only bi / gay men who alter their profiles to suit a potential meet.

Perhaps, also, it is less noticeable or harder to spot amongst swinging couples ?

ANYONE on this site could make a profile read whatever they want to.

To a degree, we have to put faith in our own judgement when meeting someone.

You obviously have deep rooted issues with bi / gay men which are far beyond these forums.

I have tried 'reasonably' to provide a better understanding of the psyche of 1 bi man (i.e. me), but you persist in discrediting the entire community on the basis of a few people who have 'tried it on' with you message wise.

That, I fear, is not a fair message to be sending out.

We could discuss this topic endlessly and end up going round in circles and still get no closer to seeing each others point of _iew.

Where's Kofi Annan when you need him ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm as far as i'm concerned people should not alter there profiles for a meet. If you are bi be proud of it! But if you change your profile to get a meet with a couple you are lying to yourself, them, and anyone else involved...

tbh i've not run into the pushy crowd. I've been messaged by gay and bi guys, but after a thanks but i'm straight message we've just chatted on here (lovely fella's lol). Even at clubs I've ended up in mmf 3somes where the guy is bi, but after chatting first i never felt uncomfortable at all... Most people do respect boundaries i've found.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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With respect Isosuckfun.....

The simple fact is some people mail others wether they match their profile or not,be that couples/fems/straight or bi guys...... it has nothing to do with the "psyche" of a bi guy and I am struggling to understand why you think it is relevant, unless you think allowances should be made.

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over a year ago


"With respect Isosuckfun.....

The simple fact is some people mail others wether they match their profile or not,be that couples/fems/straight or bi guys...... it has nothing to do with the "psyche" of a bi guy and I am struggling to understand why you think it is relevant, unless you think allowances should be made.

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your opening point is my point exactly.

there will always be people that 'push it' on sites like this irregardless of sexual persuasion.

the lady i was having the open discussion with seems intent on pressing home that bi guys are the worst offenders and ruin the fun for everyone else (well at least they do for her)

i was asking that she doesn't tar all bi men with the same brush when not all of us are as 'devious' as she obviously believes.

so that's where the psyche bit comes in - cos, I, for one do most certainly not conduct myself in such a manner.

as for allowances, i am not suggesting that any be made for anyone, again irregardless of persuasion or status.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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To be fair, she mentioned bi men as they are who she isn't looking for...if we were to get annoyed with the same problem we would have been complaining about couples or fems.

But it was your post about how bi men may be confused about their sexuality from one week to the next so why they may be changing their profile and I thought you were asking people to understand this, ie make allowances.

But obviously I read it wrong if it wasn't what you meant xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair, she mentioned bi men as they are who she isn't looking for...if we were to get annoyed with the same problem we would have been complaining about couples or fems.

But it was your post about how bi men may be confused about their sexuality from one week to the next so why they may be changing their profile and I thought you were asking people to understand this, ie make allowances.

But obviously I read it wrong if it wasn't what you meant xx"

it wasn't what i meant by a long chalk

the confusion about sexuality is a bigger issue than people give it credit for though.

it's not something you will see widely discussed either as most people in that position choose to keep it internalised.

i battled with it for 5 years or more before i accepted it and probably another 5 before i was ok with not shying away from it publically.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I am guessing it can't be easy for some no....but that wasn't really the issue here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust me! I'm living testament that it happens. That's why I get so upset when the bi's either try to force me to see things their way, or try to convince me to think otherwise or, far worse, try to trick me!

I don't resent bi guys as such, but I do resent the attitude of most of them that I MUST see things their way.....and I can't.

Genuinly believe in "each to their own" but why can't they get that "their own" IS NOT MINE!!!!!!!!!!

Now watch the rants I get!

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Have you actually read your own profile!!!!!!!!!!"

Have to admit - I nearly choked after reading his profile too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am guessing it can't be easy for some no....but that wasn't really the issue here xx"

very true

mind you, i've seen quite a few forums open up about one thing and get sidetracked into another.

i love seeing how conversations develop

love seeing other peoples points of _iew put across (whether i agree with them or not)

and i love sharing soapboxes or better still fighting over one

and contrary to what some people might think, i don't always think i'm right and am open to reasoned (and sometimes unreasoned) responses and reactions.

some people make far more sense than i ever will

others however talk complete twaddle

some talk sense in 1 forum and twaddle in another

that's why i am fastly becoming a self confessed forum addict

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

For the record I know threads go off on a tangent and wasn't saying this one was any different.

I just couldn't understand the connection of people sending mails to peoples confusion of sexuality.

Maybe it could be a good thread starter though.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?"

it is the same type of _iew that you encounter in swinging clubs... especially from the married 'single' guys who go.

It is interesting having a conversation with someone who wants to play with others, but would never consider bringing their other halves "to this sort of place" after all, god forbid them sharing in this "seedy activity" (i have actually heard those phrases being used)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with isosuckfun in that I totally understand what he is saying.

It's interesting because many posts earlier I made the same points as him - that it's not just bi men who are pushy. I've experienced the same from MF couples, younger men and heavily tattooed men, none of whom I'm interested in. Yet no one reacted to my comments! Which does rather make me think people have had a pop at isosuckfun just because he's been upfront about his bisexuality.

He's absolutely right that all bi men are being tarred with a brush that clearly does not apply to all of them.

I also understand his point about confusion over one's sexuality. I experienced this myself in my teens and 20s, firstly denying my innate for need for BDSM and later wondering if I was gay - the latter caused huge mental torment as I've never fancied women and for a brief while wondered if I was a gay man trapped in a female body and might be a TS. So I can really understand why some people on here might chop and change their profiles with some regularity - even now my sexuality fluctuates and after deliberately avoiding vanilla sex for 25 years because it was unsatisfying and causing the above torments I have in the last few years come to embrace it again. Not always but I certainly don't shy away from it as I did before.

I do understand what the OP's issues are (as I've also already acknowledged earlier) but the answer for her is simple. Just block them and stop moaning. Sorry, OP, but you are starting to sound like a stuck record now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the fact that we're all different individuals should tell you that we can all read profiles, and or approaches from third parties, very differently.

We take what we read on profiles with a big pinch of salt. If we fancy the people, we will decide whether or not to meet them.

I can't understand why, if you're not interested in a particular approach from a particular profile, that you would want to waste your time and come on here and moan about it.

People will not always be honest on their profile, and if an individuals integrity is so important to you, perhaps you should question whether or not you should be here at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with isosuckfun in that I totally understand what he is saying.

It's interesting because many posts earlier I made the same points as him - that it's not just bi men who are pushy. I've experienced the same from MF couples, younger men and heavily tattooed men, none of whom I'm interested in. Yet no one reacted to my comments! Which does rather make me think people have had a pop at isosuckfun just because he's been upfront about his bisexuality.

He's absolutely right that all bi men are being tarred with a brush that clearly does not apply to all of them.

I also understand his point about confusion over one's sexuality. I experienced this myself in my teens and 20s, firstly denying my innate for need for BDSM and later wondering if I was gay - the latter caused huge mental torment as I've never fancied women and for a brief while wondered if I was a gay man trapped in a female body and might be a TS. So I can really understand why some people on here might chop and change their profiles with some regularity - even now my sexuality fluctuates and after deliberately avoiding vanilla sex for 25 years because it was unsatisfying and causing the above torments I have in the last few years come to embrace it again. Not always but I certainly don't shy away from it as I did before.

I do understand what the OP's issues are (as I've also already acknowledged earlier) but the answer for her is simple. Just block them and stop moaning. Sorry, OP, but you are starting to sound like a stuck record now.

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I totally agree and understand where your coming from. Sexual preferences change or grow with maturity and understanding your own sexual needs and bounderies. My sexual preferences have changed since my teens even my twenties. I am more comfortable in my own body what I want and dont want what I like and dont like etc and Im not ashamed of asking what I want either. And thats why I love the siwinging scene it gives me an opertunity to explore my sexuality without the fear of being judged. And in general I love the open mindedness of most people.

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over a year ago


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I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?"

I don't have strong _iews against swinging, I just know I couldn't do it if I was in a relationship where I was in love with someone. I actually see this more as an adult contact than anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why would that spoil it for the good guys. If you've decided not to meet them, just block after you've sent your reply, or if you look at profiles, block as you go"

ha ha just love that expression, block-as-u-go! special x

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over a year ago


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I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?

I don't have strong _iews against swinging, I just know I couldn't do it if I was in a relationship where I was in love with someone. I actually see this more as an adult contact than anything else"

Words fail me.................

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over a year ago


"

I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?

it is the same type of _iew that you encounter in swinging clubs... especially from the married 'single' guys who go.

It is interesting having a conversation with someone who wants to play with others, but would never consider bringing their other halves "to this sort of place" after all, god forbid them sharing in this "seedy activity" (i have actually heard those phrases being used)"

I am a single guy Fabio. What I am saying that when I wasn't, I wouldn't share my partner. As far as I am concerned, I am meeting unattached people for casual NSA fun. If they have partners, that is their conscience, not mine.

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over a year ago

my suggestion would be (altho the poster may disagree) because it's another way of getting some more random cock or a MMF with a bi male.

I have had several MMF's, but on only one occasion paid any attention to the male. This was at the females request. As to my profile, that is what I am looking for when looking for a meet on here. I have several female FB's who I meet regularly, and occasional one-night stands. But occasionally, I want casual sex with a man, so meet via here, as it would not be possible to be discrete any other way.

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over a year ago


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I believe in each to their own too. I never approach anyone that isn't a 'match' unless they approach me first. I don't 'get' a lot of things in swinging too, ie cuckolding. I don't actually 'get' swinging itself by people in long-term relationships, if you have a partner you love, why on earth would you want to share them? I was married 17 years, would never dream of sharing that, or cheating. I don't actually consider myself bi either. I live a completely straight life 99.9% of the time, but on occasion, have sex with men. Its not my label

Can I ask why are you on a swinging site if you have so strong _iews against swinging?

I don't have strong _iews against swinging, I just know I couldn't do it if I was in a relationship where I was in love with someone. I actually see this more as an adult contact than anything else

Words fail me................. "

I doubt that very much

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

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I've heard this before... 'I'll play with couples but wouldn't share if I had one'.

You're totally missing it aren't you.

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over a year ago


"I've heard this before... 'I'll play with couples but wouldn't share if I had one'.

You're totally missing it aren't you.

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No, you are missing it. I would not PLAY if I had one

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over a year ago


"I've heard this before... 'I'll play with couples but wouldn't share if I had one'.

You're totally missing it aren't you.

No, you are missing it. I would not PLAY if I had one"

Its all about personal choices. Everyone is on here for there own reasons.

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over a year ago


"I've heard this before... 'I'll play with couples but wouldn't share if I had one'.

You're totally missing it aren't you.

No, you are missing it. I would not PLAY if I had one

Its all about personal choices. Everyone is on here for there own reasons."

See.....now you've been told......you are perfectly entitled to your own opinion! He will give it to you whenever you need it!

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over a year ago


"I've heard this before... 'I'll play with couples but wouldn't share if I had one'.

You're totally missing it aren't you.

No, you are missing it. I would not PLAY if I had one

Its all about personal choices. Everyone is on here for there own reasons.

See.....now you've been told......you are perfectly entitled to your own opinion! He will give it to you whenever you need it! "

Assuming you mean me, I have never tried to tell anyone what to think. I have stated my own circumstances, and have always used 'I' in posts. Most posts are quite valid, even if I don't necessarily agree.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think this has run it's course now.

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