"I'm new to this type of site, but having been here for 6 weeks now, and having had a fair amount of mail, I've found, so far, that from reading a message and the profile of the sender I usually get a fairly strong sense straight off of either, 'I think I might like to meet this person and would like to chat further to see' or 'I am not interested in this person'.
However, this evening I got a message from someone which left me with neither feeling. It's the first time that's happened here.
I realised, (whilst trying to work out what I wanted to know about the person, and what I should ask), that the people who get a 'no thanks' reaction do so because of something they say in their message or profile. Those that inspire the 'potentially interested' response do so because they don't say anything to put me off, and also say something to interest me.
The person who messaged me tonight didn't say anything to put me off, but also didn't say anything that made me feel I might like to meet them. I went to respond to the person, intending to ask more about them, and then realised I didn't actually know what I wanted to know!
I can identify some of the things that put me off fairly easily but I don't know what it was about the messages and profiles that have interested me that triggered the interest.
I suppose so far something, either negative or positive has leapt out at me, and I haven't had to think about what I actually want to know.
It took me a while to write a reply and when I did all I could say was that I was interested in learning more about him.
So, getting finally to my point (it had to happen eventually), what do you want to know about people when they contact you, and what do you like to see in profiles and in messages to help ypu decide if you might, or don't, want to meet someone?"
Hello and welcome. I like a face pic first off. I like to see who I am speaking to and know whether or not Im going to waste their time. They may be lovely to speak to but if I dont fancy them it isnt going to happen. I like to know that they are within the limits on my profile and where their interests meet ours. I also ask what they do for a job, and what they are interested in life. We also like them to have transport and know that they are after friendship with benefits not just a one off. Also very important that they play safe only. Do ask other questions as time goes on but I guess they would be the first few messages exchanged normally. Usually get a feel for a person by then.
Mistress x |
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