FabSwingers.com forum: Perfectly Imperfect

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like quirks in people. A little oddity, something a little different that sets them apart from everyone else. That tiny thing that most probably won't notice. I will though.

There is no hard and fast rule as to what this can be. It could be anything. A little scar, or birthmark. It could be a little nervous twitch or a piercing that catches my eye. It could be a simple tattoo, even a bad one.

I like the things that make us all different. In essence, I like imperfections in people. It's what makes you perfectly imperfect.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

That's one of the nicest things I've ever read on the forums.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's one of the nicest things I've ever read on the forums.

Thank you.

Glad you like x

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

I like so called imperfections too, I've a fondness for fellas with a bit of a beer gut, or loads of body hair. Also love scars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Freaky eye pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like so called imperfections too, I've a fondness for fellas with a bit of a beer gut, or loads of body hair. Also love scars

I've more scars than I can count, can't even remember how I got most of em. Fortunately most are tiny. Especially the one on my willy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Freaky eye pic"

Ditto lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with this!

So many woman are worried about there imperfections, a bit larger here or there, perhaps some cellulite etc! But I love all that!

I don't want to have sex with a stereotypical ideal model! I want a real woman, who's body has a real story to tell!

I'm with the OP here, ladies be confident in you imperfections, You're all perfect in you're own different ways!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Further to my previous comments,

What is really sexy, when a woman excepts her 'imperfections' and has the confidence to be intimate with no hang ups!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I totally agree with this!

So many woman are worried about there imperfections, a bit larger here or there, perhaps some cellulite etc! But I love all that!

I don't want to have sex with a stereotypical ideal model! I want a real woman, who's body has a real story to tell!

I'm with the OP here, ladies be confident in you imperfections, You're all perfect in you're own different ways!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I totally agree with this!

So many woman are worried about there imperfections, a bit larger here or there, perhaps some cellulite etc! But I love all that!

I don't want to have sex with a stereotypical ideal model! I want a real woman, who's body has a real story to tell!

I'm with the OP here, ladies be confident in you imperfections, You're all perfect in you're own different ways!

Well said you

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

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Exactly OP

Let's celebrat the imperfections that are perfect

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By *ntriguedx2Couple
over a year ago

wigan

Ere ere ..And why not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's kinda cool, I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is normal or so we think until we get to know them.

Unfortunately most don't allow that to happen for reasons listed above....unfortunate as this is what sets us apart and what attracts us to those who genuinely interested as opposed to the fuck and go mentality some have on here. Don't get me wrong. .. some can't cope with anyone knowing their name or what they like for fear of allowing anyone close.... I find that very bizarre that being fucked isn't being vulnerable yet asking questions sets them on edge at times.

The things that make us different are the things we should celebrate in each other and ourselves. Be comfortable in them and others will too.

Happy fabbing. Thanks OP...Nice post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ere ere ..And why not...

Glad you agree

Regards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyone is normal or so we think until we get to know them.

The things that make us different are the things we should celebrate in each other and ourselves. Be comfortable in them and others will too.

Happy fabbing. Thanks OP...Nice post. "

To be honest I'm very guarded of late but that's due to recent experiences. I'm not saying I'm going to be like this forever however at this moment in time I really really don't want a significant other in my life.

Perhaps I will thaw a little as time passes perhaps not. Nothing is ever as clear as we would like it to be.

But I'll still look for those perfect imperfections.

Regards

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx"

To em even

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hear you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars and stretch marks are lightning bolts I like to think cause we are miracles of nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hear you

I think most women hate something about themselves... I'd change that much there wouldn't be much left lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

To em even"

Don't worry about it.... mine got fat after I ate to much I'd swap for skinny any day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's one of the nicest things I've ever read on the forums.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

To em even

Don't worry about it.... mine got fat after I ate to much I'd swap for skinny any day xx"

I've just looked at your photos. Sod off your bloody lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

To em even

Don't worry about it.... mine got fat after I ate to much I'd swap for skinny any day xx

I've just looked at your photos. Sod off your bloody lovely x"

You've a good eye OP!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Scars and stretch marks are lightning bolts I like to think cause we are miracles of nature

Scars and stretch marks are the signs that we have lived and struggled. Or in my case sometimes been dumb.

I'll not wish one away

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

"I like quirks in people. A little oddity, something a little different that sets them apart from everyone else. That tiny thing that most probably won't notice. I will though.

I like the things that make us all different. In essence, I like imperfections in people. It's what makes you perfectly imperfect."

That is such a nice thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite poem...

A Beautiful Heart by Tafadzwa Mohondiwa Mugari

One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town

proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect.

There was not a mark or a flaw in it.

Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen.

The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said,

'Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine.

'The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart.

It was beating strongly... but it was full of scars...

it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in...

but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges.

In fact... in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing.

The people stared... how can he say his heart is more beautiful... they thought?

The young man looked at the old man's heart... and saw its state and laughed.

'You must be joking, ' he said.

'Compare your heart with mine...mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears.

''Yes'... said the old man...

'yours is perfect looking but...I would never trade with you.

You see... every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love...

I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them...

and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart...

but because the pieces aren't exact...I have some rough edges... which I cherish...

because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away...

and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me.These are the empty gouges...

giving love is taking a chance.Although these gouges are painful...they stay open...

reminding me of the love I have for these people too...

and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting.

So now do you see what true beauty is? '

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks.He walked up to the old man...

reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart...and ripped a piece out.

He offered it to the old man with trembling hands.

The old man took his offering... placed it in his heart...and then took a piece from his old scarred heart...

and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart.

It fit... but not perfectly... as there were some jagged edges.

The young man looked at his heart...not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever...

since love from the old man's heart flowed into his.

They embraced and walked away side by side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My favourite poem...

A Beautiful Heart by Tafadzwa Mohondiwa Mugari

One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town

proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect.

There was not a mark or a flaw in it.

Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen.

The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said,

'Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine.

'The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart.

It was beating strongly... but it was full of scars...

it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in...

but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges.

In fact... in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing.

The people stared... how can he say his heart is more beautiful... they thought?

The young man looked at the old man's heart... and saw its state and laughed.

'You must be joking, ' he said.

'Compare your heart with mine...mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears.

''Yes'... said the old man...

'yours is perfect looking but...I would never trade with you.

You see... every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love...

I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them...

and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart...

but because the pieces aren't exact...I have some rough edges... which I cherish...

because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away...

and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me.These are the empty gouges...

giving love is taking a chance.Although these gouges are painful...they stay open...

reminding me of the love I have for these people too...

and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting.

So now do you see what true beauty is? '

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks.He walked up to the old man...

reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart...and ripped a piece out.

He offered it to the old man with trembling hands.

The old man took his offering... placed it in his heart...and then took a piece from his old scarred heart...

and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart.

It fit... but not perfectly... as there were some jagged edges.

The young man looked at his heart...not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever...

since love from the old man's heart flowed into his.

They embraced and walked away side by side.

Thank you for sharing this

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

A very rare and beautifully written post. Amongst all the noise in the other posts, this stands out. -M

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By *ambanCouple
over a year ago

kingswinford

What a beautiful piece of writing. Thank you for sharing.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP and other posters, in my opinion you have hit the nail on the head.

The little things that make people unique (although not always comfortable for themselves to accept) are great. Thinking about it, I remember ex's from these. Like a fab tattoo on ones leg, a small scar on a face with another, the list goes on.

Although I am not totally enamoured with my flabby stomach and large scar, the fact that my partner strokes it whilst in bed, has actually made me more comfortable with my imperfections.

Refreshing thread OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely up beat thread!

Even though there are things about my body I am not too fond of I love my stretch marks... I have them because me and my husband produced 2 wonderful people....without them we would not have our children!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread, some wonderful observations and an excellent bit of blank verse.

Strive not to be perfect but to be the best you you can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

To em even

Don't worry about it.... mine got fat after I ate to much I'd swap for skinny any day xx

I've just looked at your photos. Sod off your bloody lovely x"

Awww thank you for the compliment xxx

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Marilyn Monroe said

"Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius. Its better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring."

While I don't love my flaws, I'm certainly not boring.

Thank you OP for encouraging everyone who reads this to think a little kinder of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's one of the nicest things I've ever read on the forums.

Thank you.

Totally agree! It's nice when people look beyond the obvious and notice the detail which makes you, you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like so called imperfections too, I've a fondness for fellas with a bit of a beer gut, or loads of body hair. Also love scars

I'm three for three on that one haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure its an imperfection but only one person has ever mentioned it - never knew it myself but apparently when i walk i swing my shoulders -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

We all hate our own. It's a shame we can't view ourselves through others eyes. It sometimes doesn't matter how often you tell someone they're amazing, they always still listen to that one person who tells them they're not. It's a shame x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

I hate my legs. They got skinny after the bike accident so I can't run anymore. But hey they still carry me around and I've kinda gotten used to do xxx

To em even

Don't worry about it.... mine got fat after I ate to much I'd swap for skinny any day xx

I've just looked at your photos. Sod off your bloody lovely x

Awww thank you for the compliment xxx

Welcome lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have 4 daughters. From as early as I can remember I used to stand in front of a mirror holding them, looked at them and told them how beautiful they were. I got them to say it to themselves from when they were learning to speak and especially at moments when things were hardand tough.

They reminded me of it not that long ago when we were together. My eldest says she now uses has a mirror is her class and gets each child ever so often to look in the mirror for a little bit and then say it those words to themselves.

It may sound a bit mushy but it helped my girls in many many ways with self respect and self worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a dodgy eye (a result of facial palsy in my 20's)

The OH loves it

Mind you, he also has a thing for guys with earing aids

I like sticky out ears - not big ears - just ears that stick out rather than lying flat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have 4 daughters. From as early as I can remember I used to stand in front of a mirror holding them, looked at them and told them how beautiful they were. I got them to say it to themselves from when they were learning to speak and especially at moments when things were hardand tough.

It may sound a bit mushy but it helped my girls in many many ways with self respect and self worth."

Not mushy at all its lovely

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

On outside I am

Normal to look at but inside there is two of me .

I don't hide it anymore . I have an alter ego that is completely different then cute little Flower.

They don't mix ever .

I used to live few year just as my alter ego and hiding Real me .

It's very complicated and only few people can understand me .

Most often I think I am a freak but now I try to explain to people as I don't like lies and want everyone to know Me as whole .

It can be very lonely life living like this but for now it's only way I know .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a belly.

I have tried to get rid of it and it is smaller than it used to be but remains stubborn.

I've learned to love it as part of me.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

What a wonderfully refreshing thread to read through and OP you seem to be very good at starting such threads, please don't stop!!

Maybe we shouldn't call them 'imperfections' though, rather refer to them as 'perfections' as they are what make each of us who we uniquely are after all.

I know I have things I don't like about myself, as we all do, every last one of us, but can see others might see them differently so looking at them positively is the right way to go. Some things can't be changed and are inherently "you".

Where they can be changed, if you want to change them enough then you'll do so when the time is right.

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Aw nice sentiment everyone has flaws I think and things they don't like about themselves we are different and unique and beautiful in our own ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On outside I am

Normal to look at but inside there is two of me .

I don't hide it anymore . I have an alter ego that is completely different then cute little Flower.

They don't mix ever .

I used to live few year just as my alter ego and hiding Real me .

It's very complicated and only few people can understand me .

Most often I think I am a freak but now I try to explain to people as I don't like lies and want everyone to know Me as whole .

It can be very lonely life living like this but for now it's only way I know . "

Well you definitely have an appeal. I messaged you months ago and winked a few days ago lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite phrase for describing myself. I started using it when I felt I had go to the point of total self-acceptance. That doesn't mean I don't want to learn, improve or change things about myself but rather that I love myself as I am right now. I have been considerably more content ever since

Lovely thread OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with what you say I don't mind others imperfections they make each of us who we are , scars birthmarks, stretch marks etc... but I hate my own...

Your right it is a shame.... I think when you hate something about yourself and then someone mentions it I myself start to think see I was right it is ugly, odd or to big/ small I then hate it even more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My favourite phrase for describing myself. I started using it when I felt I had go to the point of total self-acceptance. That doesn't mean I don't want to learn, improve or change things about myself but rather that I love myself as I am right now. I have been considerably more content ever since

Lovely thread OP

Although I say it the other way around Imperfectly perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all flawed to perfection...when we realise who we are then we are perfectly us...our imperfections are the things that make us interesting and make us stand out from everyone else...I love looking at peoples faces... even the least conventionally attractive faces have beautiful features...pretty eyes, beautiful lips, lovely skin etc....you don't love someone because they are beautiful...they are beautiful because you love them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we are our own worse critic's

Things I dislike about my own body I look at other women with the same 'problems' and don't bat an eye lid, I thimk we look for the best in other people and the worse in ourselves

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