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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I'm a friend whore xxx

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"
yes I really wish there was an option not to receive either of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is often redundant... Il wink back but unless you are going to message me there's little point. However, recently I've started to send a little message to say thanks for the wink, if you'd like to know more get in touch and a few have then messages to say more (something they wouldn't have done if I'd just winked back).. Maybe they are shy!

Friends request however should only been sent once you've built at least a little rapport

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I usually say thank you for a wink, but a random friend request of someone who has been on the site for like 8 minutes is a joke

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

If you have friend only photos you can bet there picture hunters

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We usually just leave the request sitting there,so they can't send it again.Winks can just be ignored if they haven't read our profile etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to get overly annoyed about. We leave the requests there and ignore them.

Unless they look hot and we might accept them, quick perv, and remove.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete them all no need to get annoyed about it though

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We tend to just look at thier profile and figgre out if we have met them at a club.. only get annoyed if the profile is hidden, as why would we click yes to just a name.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

Really annoyed ?

Seriously ?

We only look at our requests when we are expecting one otherwise it's easily ignored.

I don't we have ever looked at the winks bit.

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By *dstar01Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Whats the problem with a wink??? Its a wink not a molestation.. a mere wink... saying no more than hi i like what i have seen read... maybe you like me see what happens !!! Jesus its a friggin wink.... friends request is purely that a request.... ignore it... delete it you dont have to accept it... my life how far ip are we ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend invites, yes.

Winks, no.

We love winks and we use them ourselves too although we have recently been informed that lots of folk don't look at them.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no but then i'm not that easily annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

Wink we don't mind but friends request outta the blue pisses us right off!!! We even mention it on our profile!!!

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Wink are fine as a show of interest and we sometimes wink back if its mutual or just to acknowledgement. Friends request without message is

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's on our profile so they just get ignored

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

Never had the pleasure of either would be nice to occasionally have an unsolicited message lol x I appreciate women get hundreds for us guys the odd one would be nice

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We don't get annoyed, we just ignore. Every now and then we'll respond with a message but that usually ends up with no reply. I guess it's people wanting to know what our private pictures are like. M

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We've had a few winks, mainly off guys who obviously haven't bothered to read our profile.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Bulk delete these we only friend people we have met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

don't get mad, get even...

don't delete either request...it stops them from sending another ever again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the wink sometimes if I'm over there age limit (just),just in case I can swing them round ...friends requests i leave until we've chatted some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind receiving winks, as I interpret them as someone signifying their interest / testing the water, where they may be a little too shy to message.

Random friend requests though, without having messaged first, strike me as a little creepy. I often wonder if these are perhaps an attempt to see my 'friends only' pics - despite me having several pictures on display on my profile. It's really difficult to know why someone would send a friend request out of the blue, but if they haven't messaged me first, my response is likely to be either to simply ignore it or even to block them

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We found that the number of unsolicited requests was proportional to how many friend only pics we had. When we removed them all to private for a couple of weeks it was zero. Now its a couple a week, but we are quite filtered up.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend invites I accept, look up their pics and then delete .

Winks wise, if the profile has no pictures I ignore it regardless of veri's. If they do have pictures I may wink back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friend invites I accept, look up their pics and then delete .

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I do this! When theyre offline and can't peek at mine!

I hate when after 2 messages I get an "ive added you as a friend". Not even a do you want to be friends?! I reply "that's nice )

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

no. because i don't look at requests or winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind having friend request's or winks as it's a sign that people have looked at me and nice message would be nice as well, I like to send a wink and a message and if I get a reply back and after a few message's I might ask if it's OK to send a friend request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get annoyed at unsolicited friend requests. We don't accept them, either. We just see it as part of the normal Fab experience, just like the 'hows u' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good, though. In fact, we wish Fab had a feature that could to switched on to only enable messaging after winks have been exchanged.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

My system is accept the winks as just what they are, same as if a person winked to you in a bar. Hotlist is reserved for people I fancy and would like to meet. friends list is just that, it cntains the names of people I have met, genuinely like and have become friends.

My daughter has about 600 "friends" on her facebook page, pity they didn't get asked to lend a few pounds every five minutes, as I'm yet to see one of them d so..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at friend requests so more fool them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get inundated but I don't let it annoy me. I simply bulk delete them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friend invites I accept, look up their pics and then delete .

I do this! When theyre offline and can't peek at mine!

I hate when after 2 messages I get an "ive added you as a friend". Not even a do you want to be friends?! I reply "that's nice )"

I usually ask, so far with 100% success rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But would you question yourself if you received no winks and no mail ?....just playing devils advocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks are unfairly maligned. It's because they are viewed so dismissively here that I don't send them. It's a shame because they're pretty harmless and just lets you know somebody quite likes you. I'm beginning to think messages are going the same way as many here view them with equal disdain.

As for friend requests, well I've had one, so I guess I'm Billy no mates.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Anyone else get really annoyed when you get a friend request and a wink and have never even had a message of someone?"

Nope doesn't bother me. I just simply take the wink as a compliment and ignore the friend requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just block random friend requests. 90% of them of them recieved are from profiles with no profile pic, or questionable pics, no verifications, and little to nothing on their profile write up.

Usually fake profile picture hunters hoping to get access to your private pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just block random friend requests. 90% of them of them recieved are from profiles with no profile pic, or questionable pics, no verifications, and little to nothing on their profile write up.

Usually fake profile picture hunters hoping to get access to your private pics.

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We don't have that problem as we have blocked those with no photos and unverified ones! Xx

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