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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Genuine ssbbw'a only

What are your experiences using fab and going to clubs? Do you suffer abuse from men by private message on here? Have you been abused by guys at clubs? How much genuine attention do you actually receive? Any men who actually know what an ssbbw is? Go for it......

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By *rShinyKnickersMan
over a year ago

BARRY

I'm still waiting for my first ssbbw experience on here!

And in my opinion, those who send abuse aren't worth the effort as they're usually mouth breathing dickheads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been to a club so can't reply to that side. Have had two rude messages that have mentioned size.

One was an initial message, the other was after i declined a meet.

My height and my size will put some off, i realise that, but some men like it.

I avoid those who fetishize it.

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By *addy Bears KittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

My Kitten would probably be considered SSBBW and she gets nothing but positive attention in clubs and at parties. She is very popular.

Our friend Marina, most definitely SSBBW also gets sone extremely good attention. She has some favourites and has an excellent time, usually at Route69. She is maz81 on here.

In my experience, the largest of ladies get some of the best attention at clubs.

Russ x

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

Is this a "look at me" thread? Ok. I'm looking! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only rudeness I've experienced is from other women in clubs about my size. Any rude messages I've had off men on here were on my single profile and they never mentioned anything about my size.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never had a rude message. Only that they like my figure. No idea bloody why. I think pics can be deciveing. Ive had a few meets. I dont like to meet single guys (i would) but i think they would see me and run a mile. I just don't believe what they say. Ive had a bad experience in a vanilla club which is what plays on my mind. But im learning to toughen up i guess.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Obviously not a bbw or ssbbw - but it still makes me sad and cross that anyone should contact someone on here purely to insult them - and I hope admin deal with them very firmly!

All I'd say is that, for those of you who may have confidence issues, many clubs run bbw events fairly regularly and they seem to be very well attended!

Also - as I think I suggested on one of Curvy Mama's threads - why not arrange BBW/appreciaters socials too? If anyone feels insecure about their size or others perception of it - then 'safety in numbers' should be a good thing!

There's obviously a great level of interest for BBW's on fab itself, hence the number of threads on the topic, but I understand that if you feel a little insecure or vulnerable in yourself then it will take a LOT of reassurance from others to change that! To an extent I felt the same about my age when I joined fab (convinced I was 'past it!')

Anyway - off to work so huge hugs and have a great day everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had rude messages and I'm big and tall! But I also tend to think that the really hot guys that message me are looking for me as a tick of their who I've fucked list, e.g. Older, younger, fat and so on. So I tend not to reply to them.

I've been to clubs, although with my ex bf and never had a problem.

I've had some very successful meets off of here and never had a bad word said, admittedly a couple of people I've never heard from again so I'm not sure if that's due to be being too wobbly, crap in bed (I just don't belive that! Haha) or my wit and charm isn't as witty and charming as I think. But I don't take it to heart unless they have fed me lines, so now I take it all with a huge pinch of salt until it's proved otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, a lot of men on here say they love the fuller figure curvy lady etc, yet the vast majority of women here who say they are curvy, fuller figured etc are just big boobed with hips, or big bottomed etc.

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing is, a lot of men on here say they love the fuller figure curvy lady etc, yet the vast majority of women here who say they are curvy, fuller figured etc are just big boobed with hips, or big bottomed etc.

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves."

I agree with that

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

I agree with that"

I agree also

Ive never had bad comments at clubs, but as with a lot of women on here the only time I get negative comments is when I say no thanks, one went as far as to say I should be grateful as not only was I fat I was ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves."

I've got brave and my profile pic shows the rolls on my tummy, I also have more pics for friends to see. I'm quite honest about not being curvy but big bum, wobbly tummy and no thigh gap unless I'm laid with my legs akimbo!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves."

From another thread:

I'm not attracted to them per se. It's just that I'm not only turned on by a woman's body. Say something funny/sexy/insightful and you have a good chance of getting me turned on.

Anyone can do THAT, right?

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

Is this a "look at me" thread? Ok. I'm looking! x

Nope not a look at me lol. Just curious particularly after you were only one of two guys that actually bothered to speak to me at bbw @Chams

I personally have had abuse by message and at clubs. Been blanked at a bbw event

I'm curious if anyone else has experienced the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had both end of the spectrum. Abuse on here and in clubs then at other events more attention than I ever thought of

I believe I'm class as a ssbbw at a UK size 24 and myself been as large as a size 36

Think each club experience is different and try not to dwell on the negative events

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Never gotten any abuse on here from guys for my preference.

Played with ssbbws in real life but not met one from here.

Been to a club but there weren't any ssbbws present.

I used to get teased by my mates for liking bigger girls but was never malicious.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up"

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us are blessed with extra goodness to share x

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Some of us are blessed with extra goodness to share x"

Yes master Yoda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

I agree with that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of us are blessed with extra goodness to share x

Yes master Yoda. "

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met several ladies who could be classed as ssbbw, and really appreciate the fulller figure. As for the abuse: ignore them and flaunt it! X

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By *knick45Man
over a year ago

Bristol

All the ladies on this post are real honest sexy ladies. What else could someone want. I'd be priveledge to meet of any any of you anywhere. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

Is this a "look at me" thread? Ok. I'm looking! x

Nope not a look at me lol. Just curious particularly after you were only one of two guys that actually bothered to speak to me at bbw @Chams

I personally have had abuse by message and at clubs. Been blanked at a bbw event

I'm curious if anyone else has experienced the same "
i find when on rare occasion ive gone to any events minus my partner .. ive been ignored a lot. Seems single ladies arent quite as sort after as it seems..

Ive been called alsorts but rarely abused in clubs. Had a sly comment from the odd woman here and there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

Everyone suffers abuse whether a tiny Tim or a SSBBW love, I find it about embracing our bodies and fantasties. Always remember that there is someone for everyone, I may meet a man who may not be my cup of tea as much as they aren't mine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only rudeness I've experienced is from other women in clubs about my size. Any rude messages I've had off men on here were on my single profile and they never mentioned anything about my size.

Doll x "

I agree completely. Whilst I am not SSBW (super size BBW?), I am a size 16 and I have heard a woman (I use that word very loosely) in a club berating anyone above size 16 as being obese. Admittedly, she has a slim, boyish figure but that does not give her the right to comment at all on other women's size. Beauty is very much subjective. I think an ugly, critical personality is much worse than being overweight. At the end of the day, larger ladies are still beautiful but an ugly personality is permanent.

All ladies should be proud of who they are and how they look and those people who think it is not right or attractive to be larger need to take a good, long look in the mirror!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only ever had one abusive message. I was told I'd just be a sympathy shag anyway (after telling him twice we weren't interested).

I'm not happy with the weight I've put on, and I do have the big belly and its all you see as I don't have the boobs to distract away from it, so yeah sometimes I do feel like I would be a sympathy shag, but thats down to my issues.

That said though, I'm thick skinned so didn't let it bother me.

I can lose weight, he's the one with the real problem

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my early days on fab I did have one guy who turned up for a social and said I didn't realise how big you are.

I don't carry a lot of weight on my face so the face pic is deceiving.

I changed my profile to spell it out and put a massive arse pic on there.

I also never fuck on the first date so they get to see me in the flesh on a social and know what they are getting

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it. "

Not having a bad day, just trying to get a point over that there are very shallow people on here and at clubs. The bbw thread you refer to is confined to a few people, anyone else posting on it IS ignored - I've noticed others posting on there and no response. I find that rude. If people want to just talk to each other then there is private messaging. The forums are for everyone

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I can say though that having been to the Curvy Club I can safely say that Dee runs a great event. People are friendly and non judgemental there.

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Had some rude messages on here and some comments in clubs but just had to swallow it and keep moving. Before here i wouldnt have taken it so easily but you do get thicker skinned.

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By *atrionaSavageWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've had the odd bit of abuse but mainly from people I've turned down and never to my face as yet!

I class myself as a BBW and make sure I've got some pics up that show my belly etc. That way no one can say they didn't realise what I looked liked.

I used to be a lot more embarrassed by my size until I kept getting worshipped by genuine bbw lovers. Now I embrace myself and enjoy my body for the pleasure it gives me and others.

Cat xx

Ps you looked great at Chams OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can say though that having been to the Curvy Club I can safely say that Dee runs a great event. People are friendly and non judgemental there. "

I sat with you chatting at Chams on BBW night, I was out alone and you are a lovely Lady and you looked great, hope to see you at Curvy club sometime.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves."

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?"

SSBW. I'm a uk dress size 26. But i am 6ft 2 also, so it's spread out a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?

SSBW. I'm a uk dress size 26. But i am 6ft 2 also, so it's spread out a bit. "

Not sure if you were talking about me or in general?

If in general then i'd say a BBW would have quite a belly on themawith obvious fat rolls and a SSBBW would have a very large belly that hangs a bit and multiple fat rolls.

Obviously depends on height etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?

SSBW. I'm a uk dress size 26. But i am 6ft 2 also, so it's spread out a bit.

Not sure if you were talking about me or in general?

If in general then i'd say a BBW would have quite a belly on themawith obvious fat rolls and a SSBBW would have a very large belly that hangs a bit and multiple fat rolls.

Obviously depends on height etc.

I was asking you and anyone else who wanted to answer . Thank you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it twice. Once a single bloke who wrote 'massive' I replied with '?' He wrote 'you'.

Then one from a couples profile telling me if I was slimmer he'd let me fuck his wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think 18/24 is bbw 26 and over ssbbw and if people don't like you as you are then stuff em xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves."

I'm not an SSBBW but I'm size 18 and my fat belly is on display for all to see.

I think I look bigger in person.

I worry that these men that claim they like " a few curves" will be put off when they see me in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

I'm not an SSBBW but I'm size 18 and my fat belly is on display for all to see.

I think I look bigger in person.

I worry that these men that claim they like " a few curves" will be put off when they see me in the flesh

I'm a size 16. My belly looks bigger than yours, but I am short.

I always try to keep my belly covered for sex, rather my skirt was pulled up than pulled off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?

SSBW. I'm a uk dress size 26. But i am 6ft 2 also, so it's spread out a bit. "

Well a lady taller than me, love it! But similar sizes!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

What are your experiences using fab and going to clubs? .......

Is this a "look at me" thread? Ok. I'm looking! x .....

Nope not a look at me lol. Just curious particularly after you were only one of two guys that actually bothered to speak to me at bbw @Chams

I personally have had abuse by message and at clubs. Been blanked at a bbw event

I'm curious if anyone else has experienced the same "

Okay I was at that event. Did I get loads of guys coming up to speak to me? No. But I did not make the effort and make eye contact or say hi myself.

Don't take it personally. I can imagine it would be difficult for a guy. No one likes being rejected so they might wait for signals that you are interested first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

What are your experiences using fab and going to clubs? .......

Is this a "look at me" thread? Ok. I'm looking! x .....

Nope not a look at me lol. Just curious particularly after you were only one of two guys that actually bothered to speak to me at bbw @Chams

I personally have had abuse by message and at clubs. Been blanked at a bbw event

I'm curious if anyone else has experienced the same

Okay I was at that event. Did I get loads of guys coming up to speak to me? No. But I did not make the effort and make eye contact or say hi myself.

Don't take it personally. I can imagine it would be difficult for a guy. No one likes being rejected so they might wait for signals that you are interested first. "

I agree with this, I have reverently lost a fair bit of weight I've gone from a size 24 to a size 12, when i was a size 24 i had little confidance and hardly got any attention at club's but then I never made an effort to talk to people due to my lack of confidence, since dropping 6 dress sizes I feel much better about myself and I make more of an effort to speak to guys I like and the result is I get far more men paying me attention

Is this because I'm slimmer now or because I'm now showing men I like them?

When I was bigger I have to say any negative comments I had in club's always came from women rather than guys

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

On a sidenote, any bbws or ssbbws want to contact me feel free, I'm an actual admirer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

I honestly don't think anyone on the BBW chat threads is deliberately ignored. Sometimes comments are missed but that happens on ALL threads. I think if anyone posts in a thread and expects to be fawned over straight away then they will think others are rude if their post isn't commented on straight away. It's a case of give and take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

Out of interest what would you class as BBW and SSBW then ?

SSBW. I'm a uk dress size 26. But i am 6ft 2 also, so it's spread out a bit.

Well a lady taller than me, love it! But similar sizes! "

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On a sidenote, any bbws or ssbbws want to contact me feel free, I'm an actual admirer

I would if closer to you

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Ssbbw wow, are we just going to keep adding letters. Is btw not enough now, or do ssbbw look down on bbw, as not real women.

Waiting for some guy to start with "omg I love ssbbw, I'm scared I'll break a bbw" like they do on bbw posts bout none btw women.

Then eventually the ssssssbbw will happen and the war will really get going

So many damn labels theirs days, why can't we just stick to "ooh wow she is hot"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chams is hit and miss for everyone me included.

All I did was talk at the last event

Majority of men who say the like bbw genuinely do

Others wanma try it once

But the hate or abuse is usually ones who want u but can't have u

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

I've personally always said hi to the OP when she's occasionally popped into the chat threads, as I do to most. She's just unfortunately never came back and engaged in the chat with us on those occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ssbbw wow, are we just going to keep adding letters. Is btw not enough now, or do ssbbw look down on bbw, as not real women.

Waiting for some guy to start with "omg I love ssbbw, I'm scared I'll break a bbw" like they do on bbw posts bout none btw women.

Then eventually the ssssssbbw will happen and the war will really get going

So many damn labels theirs days, why can't we just stick to "ooh wow she is hot""

So true

Not all ssbbw are hot likewise to all slim women

There will always be a personal preference

Think when curvy women are calling themselves bbw and men expect the curves not the tummy role

That's when it gets abusive

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Ssbbw wow, are we just going to keep adding letters. Is btw not enough now, or do ssbbw look down on bbw, as not real women.

Waiting for some guy to start with "omg I love ssbbw, I'm scared I'll break a bbw" like they do on bbw posts bout none btw women.

Then eventually the ssssssbbw will happen and the war will really get going

So many damn labels theirs days, why can't we just stick to "ooh wow she is hot"

So true

Not all ssbbw are hot likewise to all slim women

There will always be a personal preference

Think when curvy women are calling themselves bbw and men expect the curves not the tummy role

That's when it gets abusive"

Indead, I just find the world has gone title mad.. btw, ssbbw, gay, trans, lgtbq (or what ever letters it is now) apparently 74+ genders... why the need for so many labels.

Live life have fun

Your either sexy or your not, fortunately in this world everyone is sexy to someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ssbbw wow, are we just going to keep adding letters. Is btw not enough now, or do ssbbw look down on bbw, as not real women.

Waiting for some guy to start with "omg I love ssbbw, I'm scared I'll break a bbw" like they do on bbw posts bout none btw women.

Then eventually the ssssssbbw will happen and the war will really get going

So many damn labels theirs days, why can't we just stick to "ooh wow she is hot""

Unfortunately that is not the way of the world. Having been thoroughly depressed by a "natural breasts v augmented breasts thread" it is clear that people on Fab like categories. I suppose from the woman's point of view having categories should prevent any misunderstanding as to physical requirements at any meeting (subject to the- do people read profiles issue?).

It is very clear that people have strong preferences on Fab and are ready to get aggressive in defence of their preferences. Therefore any description which aids people to find what they want is to be welcomed, provided that the label is seen as descriptive and has no negative aspects.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

I've never understood why size gets the abuse. I have a bbw friend on here and she gets so much abuse when she says no and even when she chooses to ignore the people she is not interested in. She is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met, but here size makes her an easy target for those that can't handle reduction. Maybe you should just reply “sorry your cock is too small“ and get the abuse in first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You rarely see big bellies and rolls of flesh (which i take as being a BBW/SSBBW), so you're not sure if they truly like big women or just women with curves.

I'm not an SSBBW but I'm size 18 and my fat belly is on display for all to see.

I think I look bigger in person.

I worry that these men that claim they like " a few curves" will be put off when they see me in the flesh

I'm a size 16. My belly looks bigger than yours, but I am short.

I always try to keep my belly covered for sex, rather my skirt was pulled up than pulled off

Me too. I pull my dress down under boobs but dress up. Hate my belly

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

no rude messages. have had a few that see the fetish side of it or the guys that think I sit here for hours on end waiting for that one message and I have to drop everything and go running. clubs I am a fan of a bbw night as think it's less pressure and I am a lot less defensive as we all go for the same reason. though I have been to some and thought if she's a bbw then what the hell am I. lol

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I've never understood why size gets the abuse. I have a bbw friend on here and she gets so much abuse when she says no and even when she chooses to ignore the people she is not interested in. She is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met, but here size makes her an easy target for those that can't handle reduction. Maybe you should just reply “sorry your cock is too small“ and get the abuse in first

the abuse isn't about her or her body. it's because she said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the abuse isn't about her or her body. it's because she said no "

Agree, for some men they can't handle rejection so have to send a message back putting you down, of course being over weight makes the target of abuse easy, just call her a fat bitch, but even if your not over weight they will find something to put you down about

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots of rude and abusive messages when I had single female profile part of the reason I got rid of it, as far as clubs go we have only been once and it was a good experience for us both. Mrs

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

the abuse isn't about her or her body. it's because she said no

I agree size is too easy a target for the weak, I'm not the most attractive man on the planet but people just say no thanks you're not my type, never had any abuse about my looks.

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

there is only power in words when you give it to them. fat is a small descriptive term that's all.

just remember are you really bothered what someone says when they are throwing there teddies out the pram because they have been told no

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Ssbbw?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

Having popped my head back in to the thread last night and the odd nosey moments, there are a few people on there who in reality could message in private, so I could see why the op would be put off and feel like they have been ignored. for some people, posting on forums is a big step and trying to join in with people who obviously have a connection and their own private jokes etc is off putting, even for hardened forum posters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine ssbbw'a only

Ahh this will be the thread you mentioned darlin

Yes of course ssbbw - super sized big beautiful woman

As with many things there's always positive and negative try to ignore the negative focus on the positive and have fun

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

Yes was nice to see you pop back and I agree something's are best kept private I can get quite flirty on there but when I think it could be becoming too much I usually switch to Kik or Pm for that, as I like to think it makes people feel a bit more welcome on there and that way and a bit less "cliquey" as I'm sure it could easily be viewed that way otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are positive and believe your beautiful I believe you receive a more positive reception

Chin up

I agree with this op. You've recently posted what could be seen as two negative posts, on this thread and the bbw one, maybe you're having a bad day but I agree, be positive, you got it so flaunt it.

That's what I do on any thread with more than a few back and forth messages between myself and others. Perhaps others could follow that lead, because as you say, it does come across as very cliquey. Always hard to jump in on a conversation like that.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I largely get ignored in regular clubs (or chased by those who think because I'm big, I'm desperate and will do anyone). Was once told I'm too skinny at a BBW party.

Can't please all the people all of the time

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

The two lovely ladies I spoke to at Chams - it was a pleasure chatting with you. I overcame my fear of approaching a guy first that day and chatted to and flirted etc etc with several but none were interested, didn't even want to chat so I eventually gave up. I'm a very sociable person as those that know me will confirm. I have no trouble at all at clubs local to me, in fact they are a lot more friendly It's a shame as the staff at Chams are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

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Im sure ive spoke to you on the thread about chams don't think I must of saw you as im sure if I had I would of said hello xx

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

Im sure ive spoke to you on the thread about chams don't think I must of saw you as im sure if I had I would of said hello xx"

We spoke on the bbw @ Chams event post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

Im sure ive spoke to you on the thread about chams don't think I must of saw you as im sure if I had I would of said hello xx

We spoke on the bbw @ Chams event post

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ah yes I remember and if I have missed you on the bbw thread I do apologize xx

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"On a sidenote, any bbws or ssbbws want to contact me feel free, I'm an actual admirer

I would if closer to you

Damn. Checking right move now.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I'm an SSBBW, and I've only had one negative message and it didn't mention my size at all, only my disability! I'm an above knee amputee. Besides that one message, my experience of the site is very good and I get a fair bit of attention on a daily basis. I've never been to a club, as it doesn't appeal to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

Aww your more than welcome on the BBW chat thread

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I've never seen any responses to my comments on the bbw threads hence why I haven't gone back into it.

I don't expect to be 'fawned' over at all, that's not me.

I've tried a fair few times to join in the conversations but been ignored. Since I posted on there about it people have now responded. It is very hard breaking into an established thread.

I was quite happy to sit and listen to you ladies chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of us are blessed with extra goodness to share x"

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By *ellbound_GhoulwarpWoman
over a year ago

Fifth Circle of Hell

Ive had a few nasty messages too, im a size 22 jeans but leggings can be a size 18 and 24 top always for comfort.

Most of the guys I see are slim and very good looking which always put me off but they clearly enjoy what I have as they keep coming back

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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago

My Dungeon Room

Ive had some awful messages on here over the years and I've gotten abuse on coffee meets saying I'm fatter than my pictures and guys walking away from me umm doh hello in my pics i wear corsets they hold a hell of a lot of me in like they are supposed to!! And of course people look different in normal clothes, ive had a lot of nasty crap thrown at me and its one of the reasons ive stopped meeting anymore from here I'm a ssbbw I'm a size 26 if people don't like it jog on no need to be nasty and rude I certainly wouldn't do it to others.

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