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By *7m_london OP   Man
over a year ago

southeast london/kent border

From past experience and many other couples and singles on here one way or another someone has been let down from a planned meet, weather it is just a social or meeting up to have full blown fun straight to the point, this obviously is very frustrating for genuine swingers on here where there is proper planning from booking a hotel to driving a number of miles to reach a certain destination so this is always time and money involved no matter what, it really does spoil it for the genuine people on here and I think there should be a name and shame negative feedback, who thinks this is a good idear?

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

You spelt whether wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who says people wont lie? Its one persons word against the other. You could say i didn't turn up while I could insist I was there but you weren't.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Nope won't work. Been covered so many times before.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"From past experience and many other couples and singles on here one way or another someone has been let down from a planned meet, weather it is just a social or meeting up to have full blown fun straight to the point, this obviously is very frustrating for genuine swingers on here where there is proper planning from booking a hotel to driving a number of miles to reach a certain destination so this is always time and money involved no matter what, it really does spoil it for the genuine people on here and I think there should be a name and shame negative feedback, who thinks this is a good idear? "

what would be the point fella a gentleman never tells be it good bad or indifferent .

every thing becomes a he said she said they said cluster fuck when you go down such a route in my opinion .

just absorb the negative which normally takes a few days then just move on lesson learned and a little bit wiser after the facts would be my advice .

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

We're here to have fun not score points. If you can't handle a meet let down then Fab might not be for you.

It happens, it's part of swinging on here and instead of complaining about time wasters we should all learn from our mistakes and improve our selection processes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope won't work. Been covered so many times before. "

It could be done, it would just require a rediculous amount of manpower, privacy invasion and a massive tech upgrade on fabs side.

You'd have to have a solid way to verify which couple told the truth, and have records of all communication between them.

It's doable, just not worth the hassle, and don't even get me started on nasty comments.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not good,would be too easy for people to abuse it .

Report and block them

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would get abused and ruin fab.

There's no way around it, bad things happen to nice people.

Block, avoid and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many unhinged people on here who would use it for revenge or to be a bit of a cunt.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Too many unhinged people on here who would use it for revenge or to be a bit of a cunt. "

oh so true .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting as a couple twice we were let down by some bloke in london, both time booked a hotel, travelled down and then nothing, 27M London was his name. Spo yeah lets put him at top of the list.

What's your thoughts OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this because I wouldn't send you a pair of my worn boxers

Adam

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

only way you could make it work is have a calender where all parties mark they are going before hand then if anyone fails to turn up a negative mark can be left but no text or if everyone turns up a veri can be left .works on modeling sites but would take a lot of work by the site owners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree. I travelled a fair distance and paid for a hotel only for a no show and no explanation. The said "gentleman" has 6 verifications... all of which are webcam. A negative verification would balance this up.

I have, however, learned my lesson and now ignore webcam veris.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I tend to agree. I travelled a fair distance and paid for a hotel only for a no show and no explanation. The said "gentleman" has 6 verifications... all of which are webcam. A negative verification would balance this up.

I have, however, learned my lesson and now ignore webcam veris. "

what is this true Jesus the mind boggles back bone is all that's needed.

if you don't want to play say so if your not feeling it say so

never string anyone on that's my motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From past experience and many other couples and singles on here one way or another someone has been let down from a planned meet, weather it is just a social or meeting up to have full blown fun straight to the point, this obviously is very frustrating for genuine swingers on here where there is proper planning from booking a hotel to driving a number of miles to reach a certain destination so this is always time and money involved no matter what, it really does spoil it for the genuine people on here and I think there should be a name and shame negative feedback, who thinks this is a good idear? "

Nah. Bitterness can be a bitch

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"When I was meeting as a couple twice we were let down by some bloke in london, both time booked a hotel, travelled down and then nothing, 27M London was his name. Spo yeah lets put him at top of the list.

What's your thoughts OP?"

Yes let us down too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was meeting as a couple twice we were let down by some bloke in london, both time booked a hotel, travelled down and then nothing, 27M London was his name. Spo yeah lets put him at top of the list.

What's your thoughts OP?"

He arranged to meet me 5 times but never showed

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"When I was meeting as a couple twice we were let down by some bloke in london, both time booked a hotel, travelled down and then nothing, 27M London was his name. Spo yeah lets put him at top of the list.

What's your thoughts OP?

He arranged to meet me 5 times but never showed"

Said he could accommodate, then gave us the wrong address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op stole our car

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The op stole our car"

He stole our time....

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"The op stole our car

He stole our time...."

He stole my innocence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they say keep your messages - if they dont show report to the powers that be with the evidence - if the same people re-offend then something is done about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better to reinforce the postive behaviour in life & ignore the negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From past experience and many other couples and singles on here one way or another someone has been let down from a planned meet, weather it is just a social or meeting up to have full blown fun straight to the point, this obviously is very frustrating for genuine swingers on here where there is proper planning from booking a hotel to driving a number of miles to reach a certain destination so this is always time and money involved no matter what, it really does spoil it for the genuine people on here and I think there should be a name and shame negative feedback, who thinks this is a good idear? "

Sorry but this has been covered many many times. In my experience the majority of men on fab do not meet but love to arrange meets and laugh as you sit around waiting.

You can tell admin but they can do little about it. Eventually you will get fed up like me and leave. Good luck though. You may find the odd genuine person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From past experience and many other couples and singles on here one way or another someone has been let down from a planned meet, weather it is just a social or meeting up to have full blown fun straight to the point, this obviously is very frustrating for genuine swingers on here where there is proper planning from booking a hotel to driving a number of miles to reach a certain destination so this is always time and money involved no matter what, it really does spoil it for the genuine people on here and I think there should be a name and shame negative feedback, who thinks this is a good idear?

Sorry but this has been covered many many times. In my experience the majority of men on fab do not meet but love to arrange meets and laugh as you sit around waiting.

You can tell admin but they can do little about it. Eventually you will get fed up like me and leave. Good luck though. You may find the odd genuine person. "

I don't think they get off on not meeting, I think it's a case of cyberballs when they're hidden behind a screen, or in a relationship and bottled out last minute or no longer had the free time. Some probably do get off on setting up a meet and feeling naughty, but then wank themselves into oblivion and have no urges to help the confidence. Assholes basically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would never work. There are people who would abuse the system and lie.

All it would take is for someone to take a dislike to a person and then name and shame them.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

You only need to look at Tripadvisor, or even club reviews here on fab, to see how many negative reviews are obviously false. There are many more reasons people will give false bad feedback rather than good.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Duck no, for all the "swingers are open minded" you hear, our time swinging has taught us are they fuck!

We're a large group of humans and for all the fun sex that glues on, as a society we are just as bitchy as any other.

I've known couples who won't meet others based purely on friends lists, let alone who actually fucked who and left a review.

People would get negetive feedback of people they havnt even heard of lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any naming and shaming is wrong sorry.

It is open to abuse.

Report and block is the only way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We used to be members of an exhibitionist and voyeur site. People would make outrageously spiteful comments towards each other with no provocation. If naming and shaming was allowed the same would happen.

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