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I will be back to discuss this very topic with those who respectfully voice a opinion after I've done another level on halo wars 2 I'm addicted to that god dam game at the minute  | |||
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"with some people yes. this applies to men messaging me specifically. most men think complimenting my looks means anything to me and introduce themselves to me that way, not with something about themselves. this already tells me they think women enjoy compliments from men. many men think i do not need to see their appearance, this tells me they think promiscuous women will fuck anything. some of the messages i get presume i am interested in the guy despite never interacting with him previously, this presumes i will fuck anyone who approaches me. men i've told i'm not interested in ignore that and repeatedly message me until blocked. presumes i don't know what i want, possibly as a woman, although i am aware they might have issues of their own that makes them act like they have severe memory loss. i have had meets where the guy was not interested in my needs or safety. disgusting and shows that some men think promiscuous women mean nothing and are just objects to be used. a lot of what i said presumes certain men are predatory. am i sexist? idk. i am aware i have objectified myself with pics, this doesn't mean i wanna fuck everything and anything. it means i'm open to that with some people." a lot of what you said is a form of objectification which is sexism mixed up with lack of respect shown to you as a woman because of your own choices . this is post is only interested in whether you think objectification is sexism I happen to think it is and that objectification is a dangerous thing but that's a discussion for next Friday not this one . do you think when a guy objectifies you he is displaying sexism when he does it in a disrespectful way with a opening message of lets say hi darling I'd love to fuck that pretty little arse off of you . | |||
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"I work doing a 'mans' job and am the only woman here. I feel and hear the sexist every day. I've lost promotions over it. I feel fab is one of the only places were women have the upper hand and I'm enjoying it. " do you really have the upper hand on here if all the attention is based around objectification turning you into not a person just a object to be chase for sex by guys clever enough to just say what they know you want to here ...? | |||
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"To a degree there is some sexism on here, on both sides though. But such is life. I think most of the time it's dealt with very well. " yes people on here as a whole do a good job of pointing out hypocrisy when they see it even if by doing so you will be called negative for doing so by some xx ps how are you today did the meet from the other day ask for seconds  | |||
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"do you think when a guy objectifies you he is displaying sexism when he does it in a disrespectful way with a opening message of lets say hi darling I'd love to fuck that pretty little arse off of you ." no. he is just expressing his thoughts to me and thinks, possibly because i am open sexually with being on here and having a profile that expresses i am, that it's ok to say things like that to me. presuming i am sexually open is not a problem on a sexual site and neither sexist. the darling bit is probably sexist though. if he presumed i'd fuck him as a sexually open female that's the problem, like if he said 'you free tonight so i can fuck that pretty little as of yours'. this is what a lot of guys do. and i know it's not just me but all women, bi men, and TV tend to get this from the people i've chatted to on here. | |||
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"do you think when a guy objectifies you he is displaying sexism when he does it in a disrespectful way with a opening message of lets say hi darling I'd love to fuck that pretty little arse off of you . no. he is just expressing his thoughts to me and thinks, possibly because i am open sexually with being on here and having a profile that expresses i am, that it's ok to say things like that to me. presuming i am sexually open is not a problem on a sexual site and neither sexist. the darling bit is probably sexist though. if he presumed i'd fuck him as a sexually open female that's the problem, like if he said 'you free tonight so i can fuck that pretty little as of yours'. this is what a lot of guys do. and i know it's not just me but all women, bi men, and TV tend to get this from the people i've chatted to on here." I would argue that by being honest with such a message he is showing deep routed sexism that he hides during every day life because I would argue it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing what sort of site she is on even what's in her profile he has by his own words showed his sexist attitude to all women . they are objects for his entertain who will be grateful for any attention from a man . | |||
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"I work doing a 'mans' job and am the only woman here. I feel and hear the sexist every day. I've lost promotions over it. I feel fab is one of the only places were women have the upper hand and I'm enjoying it. do you really have the upper hand on here if all the attention is based around objectification turning you into not a person just a object to be chase for sex by guys clever enough to just say what they know you want to here ...?" Yes I think I do. Men can consider me an object but at the end of the day.. it's all in my complete control and they are at my mercy | |||
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"I work doing a 'mans' job and am the only woman here. I feel and hear the sexist every day. I've lost promotions over it. I feel fab is one of the only places were women have the upper hand and I'm enjoying it. do you really have the upper hand on here if all the attention is based around objectification turning you into not a person just a object to be chase for sex by guys clever enough to just say what they know you want to here ...? Yes I think I do. Men can consider me an object but at the end of the day.. it's all in my complete control and they are at my mercy " really next week I'm going to post those exact words to show sexism and hypocrisy at work   | |||
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"I would argue that by being honest with such a message he is showing deep routed sexism that he hides during every day life because I would argue it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing what sort of site she is on even what's in her profile he has by his own words showed his sexist attitude to all women . they are objects for his entertain who will be grateful for any attention from a man . " i'm not sure. i know being on fab has changed me to a degree. i never objectified anyone before i came here, now i do it a lot because this environment encourages that. i can only relate to my own experience right now and how i feel is in a place where it's comfortable to objectify yourself it also feels comfortable to objectify others. it's possible many men are the same. | |||
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"I would argue that by being honest with such a message he is showing deep routed sexism that he hides during every day life because I would argue it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing what sort of site she is on even what's in her profile he has by his own words showed his sexist attitude to all women . they are objects for his entertain who will be grateful for any attention from a man . i'm not sure. i know being on fab has changed me to a degree. i never objectified anyone before i came here, now i do it a lot because this environment encourages that. i can only relate to my own experience right now and how i feel is in a place where it's comfortable to objectify yourself it also feels comfortable to objectify others. it's possible many men are the same." yes but objectification is dehumanising another human being which can and does lead to some very disrespectful behaviour displayed by both sexes towards each other online and in the club environment . but that a dozy I'm saving for next week | |||
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"I work doing a 'mans' job and am the only woman here. I feel and hear the sexist every day. I've lost promotions over it. I feel fab is one of the only places were women have the upper hand and I'm enjoying it. do you really have the upper hand on here if all the attention is based around objectification turning you into not a person just a object to be chase for sex by guys clever enough to just say what they know you want to here ...? Yes I think I do. Men can consider me an object but at the end of the day.. it's all in my complete control and they are at my mercy really next week I'm going to post those exact words to show sexism and hypocrisy at work " | |||
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"As FAB is just a group of people living in ordinary society, and sexism is still alive and kicking in society. I think we can assume it will be here too. It does not take much reading of the forums to spot." I agree. As an aside you do look very much like Rob Delaney | |||
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"I would argue that by being honest with such a message he is showing deep routed sexism that he hides during every day life because I would argue it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing what sort of site she is on even what's in her profile he has by his own words showed his sexist attitude to all women . they are objects for his entertain who will be grateful for any attention from a man . i'm not sure. i know being on fab has changed me to a degree. i never objectified anyone before i came here, now i do it a lot because this environment encourages that. i can only relate to my own experience right now and how i feel is in a place where it's comfortable to objectify yourself it also feels comfortable to objectify others. it's possible many men are the same. yes but objectification is dehumanising another human being which can and does lead to some very disrespectful behaviour displayed by both sexes towards each other online and in the club environment . but that a dozy I'm saving for next week "i only don't objectify women as i have no sexual interest in them but i still don't think i'm being sexist. sometimes i do fall into the all men are shit thing that goes on on here because of some men on here, i try not to do that as i do know that is sexist to generalise men -and it's not really true either that all men are shit. | |||
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"I would argue that by being honest with such a message he is showing deep routed sexism that he hides during every day life because I would argue it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing what sort of site she is on even what's in her profile he has by his own words showed his sexist attitude to all women . they are objects for his entertain who will be grateful for any attention from a man . i'm not sure. i know being on fab has changed me to a degree. i never objectified anyone before i came here, now i do it a lot because this environment encourages that. i can only relate to my own experience right now and how i feel is in a place where it's comfortable to objectify yourself it also feels comfortable to objectify others. it's possible many men are the same. yes but objectification is dehumanising another human being which can and does lead to some very disrespectful behaviour displayed by both sexes towards each other online and in the club environment . but that a dozy I'm saving for next week
i only don't objectify women as i have no sexual interest in them but i still don't think i'm being sexist.
sometimes i do fall into the all men are shit thing that goes on on here because of some men on here, i try not to do that as i do know that is sexist to generalise men -and it's not really true either that all men are shit."its natural to generalise when lets say 9 out of ten messages area bit disrespectful god id do the same I have in the past you do not have to objectify though, I rarely read profiles we have chat on here over what 4 or 5 exchanges and I have not looked at your profile because I prefer to allow someone's thoughts to determine if I like them not there body or looks . I'm the same when it comes to who I will or will not explore the idea of sex with . | |||
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"its natural to generalise when lets say 9 out of ten messages area bit disrespectful god id do the same I have in the past you do not have to objectify though, I rarely read profiles we have chat on here over what 4 or 5 exchanges and I have not looked at your profile because I prefer to allow someone's thoughts to determine if I like them not there body or looks . I'm the same when it comes to who I will or will not explore the idea of sex with ." yeah thanks, it is hard not to generalise at times but i'm aware of it and try not to. i became a little emotionally dead, or fatigued maybe, after splitting with someone in 2014 and happily started objectifying men since that. but since august 2016 i am changing back to myself and doing similar to you by trying to get to know guys and don't really care about their looks. unfortunately a lot of guys are still leaving me feel used and don't really wanna be friends (i feel) so if i want to change even more i know fab isn't the place to do that as it's hurting me, their lies are. and i'm well aware true friendship takes time and is more complicated than something instant. | |||
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"its natural to generalise when lets say 9 out of ten messages area bit disrespectful god id do the same I have in the past you do not have to objectify though, I rarely read profiles we have chat on here over what 4 or 5 exchanges and I have not looked at your profile because I prefer to allow someone's thoughts to determine if I like them not there body or looks . I'm the same when it comes to who I will or will not explore the idea of sex with . yeah thanks, it is hard not to generalise at times but i'm aware of it and try not to. i became a little emotionally dead, or fatigued maybe, after splitting with someone in 2014 and happily started objectifying men since that. but since august 2016 i am changing back to myself and doing similar to you by trying to get to know guys and don't really care about their looks. unfortunately a lot of guys are still leaving me feel used and don't really wanna be friends (i feel) so if i want to change even more i know fab isn't the place to do that as it's hurting me, their lies are. and i'm well aware true friendship takes time and is more complicated than something instant." I got slaughter in a thread of mine on here this week for complaining about fakes who are not what they say the are in my opinion so incompatible who turn nasty and call me fake because I have no wish to play with them. so say no thank you to sex invitation
you can find what you want but you have to stay true and strong .I had a period where I played with the unsuitables over and over again it drained me they suck my energy but they gave me none in return it was a totally selfish thing they took from me but gave me nothing back in return I had made a silly mistake I convinced ,myself I was using them but the true was as I was getting nothing I needed in return so I was the one being used . | |||
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"its natural to generalise when lets say 9 out of ten messages area bit disrespectful god id do the same I have in the past you do not have to objectify though, I rarely read profiles we have chat on here over what 4 or 5 exchanges and I have not looked at your profile because I prefer to allow someone's thoughts to determine if I like them not there body or looks . I'm the same when it comes to who I will or will not explore the idea of sex with . yeah thanks, it is hard not to generalise at times but i'm aware of it and try not to. i became a little emotionally dead, or fatigued maybe, after splitting with someone in 2014 and happily started objectifying men since that. but since august 2016 i am changing back to myself and doing similar to you by trying to get to know guys and don't really care about their looks. unfortunately a lot of guys are still leaving me feel used and don't really wanna be friends (i feel) so if i want to change even more i know fab isn't the place to do that as it's hurting me, their lies are. and i'm well aware true friendship takes time and is more complicated than something instant. I got slaughter in a thread of mine on here this week for complaining about fakes who are not what they say the are in my opinion so incompatible who turn nasty and call me fake because I have no wish to play with them. so say no thank you to sex invitation
you can find what you want but you have to stay true and strong .I had a period where I played with the unsuitables over and over again it drained me they suck my energy but they gave me none in return it was a totally selfish thing they took from me but gave me nothing back in return I had made a silly mistake I convinced ,myself I was using them but the true was as I was getting nothing I needed in return so I was the one being used ."anyone who is abusive isn't worth interacting with, i think. and their opinion means nothing. i'll try find that topic though and have a nosey. the sex is good and doesn't drain me, i can easily move on also as i'm under no qualms when i'm being used and why, just the friendship just isn't there or is on a superficial level for their benefit. i think it's partly down to me also as i have issues that i'm choosing the wrong guys and struggling to maintain friendship. sorry to change the subject, i'm working on the above.
i think i'm also too much focused on objectification to add anything more about sexism on fab. would be good if others had opinions to read and think about. | |||
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