FabSwingers.com forum: House meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

I've never met in people's houses. When I was previously on here as a single I told my vanilla friend. I also told her the time I was planning on being home etc xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

Yes I do. I always let someone know where I'm going and get them to check up on me.

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By *amianoMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I don't I try and keep my meet discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I tell my mum I know this sounds mad but she's my best friend n she knows most things about me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet at someone house because of this reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never even thought about that but it's a fair point to make

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By *aughtyminx300Woman
over a year ago

london

I have a female fab friend and we share when and where any meets are and arrange a catch up time just so someone knows where we are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never even thought about that but it's a fair point to make "

I never used to until I had a really bad experience. This is going to be my first visit to someone's house since that incident.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a female fab friend and we share when and where any meets are and arrange a catch up time just so someone knows where we are "

That's a great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A a rule I don't usually meet at someone's house, unless I have enough personal info on them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never even thought about that but it's a fair point to make

I never used to until I had a really bad experience. This is going to be my first visit to someone's house since that incident."

Sorry to hear that. Hope this time makes up for it an you have a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never even thought about that but it's a fair point to make

I never used to until I had a really bad experience. This is going to be my first visit to someone's house since that incident.

Sorry to hear that. Hope this time makes up for it an you have a lot of fun "

Thank you, that's very kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if this thread should be closed. I'm just not sure if anyone should be informing the world if they don't let others know where they are when they go on a meet. It may make them vulnerable to anyone who wants to make use of this information.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always tell someone where I'm going. I only go to someone's house when I'm pretty sure they are not loons but let's face it there's no real way of knowing is there? Even if you've told someone where you are what good is that if you find you need some help?

I always clock where the knife rack is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always tell someone where I'm going. I only go to someone's house when I'm pretty sure they are not loons but let's face it there's no real way of knowing is there? Even if you've told someone where you are what good is that if you find you need some help?

I always clock where the knife rack is

At least the police would know where to look for my body.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

If your unsure or just want to be careful about any meet social, club, hotel, whatever...

Send yourself an email, leave a note under your pillow or tell a trusted friend. Simple but very effective.

P.S. I usually go for the email to myself, easy and I just delete it when I get back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont meet in someones house or hotels on first meets.

I prefer to get go know someone properly before I choose to take things any further or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

We have never been to a house meet, and don't ever intend to go to one, unless it is with someone we already know very well.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

Yes absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont meet in someones house or hotels on first meets.

I prefer to get go know someone properly before I choose to take things any further or not.

I enjoy sex with strangers. I don't need to feel I know someone properly before I have fun. I live dangerously I know, but I love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont meet in someones house or hotels on first meets.

I prefer to get go know someone properly before I choose to take things any further or not.

I enjoy sex with strangers. I don't need to feel I know someone properly before I have fun. I live dangerously I know, but I love it."

Yes we are all different .

What ever makes you happy is what counts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont meet in someones house or hotels on first meets.

I prefer to get go know someone properly before I choose to take things any further or not.

I enjoy sex with strangers. I don't need to feel I know someone properly before I have fun. I live dangerously I know, but I love it.

Yes we are all different .

What ever makes you happy is what counts. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont meet in someones house or hotels on first meets.

I prefer to get go know someone properly before I choose to take things any further or not.

I enjoy sex with strangers. I don't need to feel I know someone properly before I have fun. I live dangerously I know, but I love it.

Yes we are all different .

What ever makes you happy is what counts. "

But the 'what makes her happy / living dangerously' is what sparked this thread, or am

I missing the point....

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I always tell a friend where I'm going whether it be a social meet, hotel meet or own home meet. Whilst not necessarily safer someone always knows where I am and when I should be home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One advantage of being a couple that only meet together is it feels the risk is lower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people we play with privately we trust as we trust as our vanilla friends and most of them we know their full names and even where they work. They are all very normal decent people, and if we had any doubt we would not be playing with them in that capacity and stick to clubs.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would if I was on my own. Although not sure I'd meet outside of a club environment at all if I was on my own

Ruby

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

No never will go to anyone's house for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of interest because I've noticed a lot of people leave similar comments .

If you don't meet at their/ your home and taking clubs out of the equation , I assume you are meeting at a hotel ? How is that safer ? (I'm not saying ignorant I'm genuinely interested in people's thoughts )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel safer in a hotel because there are more people around. If anything were to happen I'd scream and kick up a big fuss and hopefully be heard. Hotels have cctv so if things happened the man would be seen arriving and leaving.

This is just a few of my reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The people we play with privately we trust as we trust as our vanilla friends and most of them we know their full names and even where they work. They are all very normal decent people, and if we had any doubt we would not be playing with them in that capacity and stick to clubs.

Mrs"

That would be too close to home for me. I need to meet people totally separate from my vanilla life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel safer in a hotel because there are more people around. If anything were to happen I'd scream and kick up a big fuss and hopefully be heard. Hotels have cctv so if things happened the man would be seen arriving and leaving.

This is just a few of my reasons."

That makes sense . I only asked as I feel safer meeting at home ( I know where the knives are lol) but I get that it's not suitable for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of interest because I've noticed a lot of people leave similar comments .

Nothing is 100% safe, I go with my gut instinct & so far it hasn't let me down.

Before I arrive I've checked the place out on the website & when I'm there I'll make sure I'm seen in public with & without the person I'm meeting. If I've driven there then my car is also clocked on cctv too. On the way to the room I've noted where the exits are via the lifts / stairs.

In someone's house it's not mutual ground so I feel they have the upper hand so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

Always. My friend and I do it for each other. If nothing else she can hide the evidence if it all goes horribly wrong!

Who needs their kids finding you tied to the bed? Pmsl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

That would be too close to home for me. I need to meet people totally separate from my vanilla life."

We keep our swinging friends and vanilla friends separate, but we treat them and trust them on the same level.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mrs

That would be too close to home for me. I need to meet people totally separate from my vanilla life.

We keep our swinging friends and vanilla friends separate, but we treat them and trust them on the same level. "

Ah right. Sorry I misunderstood your post. My bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never even thought about that but it's a fair point to make

I never used to until I had a really bad experience. This is going to be my first visit to someone's house since that incident."

All smart phones have a way for friends to trace and keep a eye on where you are I phone use friend finder and Samsung uses you google account might be best to set this up with trusted friend. Also putting 999 as a speed dial and taking any locks off your phone and keep it close by. But probably the safest way to meet specially for single women is public first.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Yep, definitely.

Although, I will always tell that friend of any meet,

Always better to be safer than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always clock where the knife rack is

That's a good call!

So far I've only had meets at my house and the first time I've met someone I've met them at a pub 5 minutes down the road to check they're not gonna murder me.

So doing that it's quite easy to check in with friends, they know what pub I'm at, they know that I'm having someone back to mine, and they know which friend to call if I'm in trouble. And god help anyone who makes me send that sos text, cause I wouldn't want to be on the other end of the hell that would turn up on my door!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think telling someone is wise as is meeting socially in public first. However people can be attacked and murdered by people they know well too. I don't think its ever totally safe. That said nothing in life is and if we thought that way no one would go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meet at my house as weirdly that feels safer for me. I tell my friends who live close by and they text throughout the evening. I met one guy at his house but had chatted lots first and it turned out we had mutual friends in common but my most dodgy meet was meeting a guy in a field shelter at 11pm. It was exciting but looking back very dodgy. Luckily it turned out well but I do always chat alot before I meet someone so I can build up a picture of them and their character first and I follow my gut, hasn't let me down yet!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some very good advice. Thank you everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think telling someone is wise as is meeting socially in public first. However people can be attacked and murdered by people they know well too. I don't think its ever totally safe. That said nothing in life is and if we thought that way no one would go anywhere. "

Its damage limitation.

Behave irresponsibly and you put yourself at higher risk of something bad happening.

Take the necessary safety steps to try and protect yourself and the likely hood of putting yourself in dangers isnt as high.

Obviously this isnt 100% guaranteed but it lessens that risk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its damage limitation.

Behave irresponsibly and you put yourself at higher risk of something bad happening.

Take the necessary safety steps to try and protect yourself and the likely hood of putting yourself in dangers isnt as high.

Obviously this isnt 100% guaranteed but it lessens that risk."

It's all about calculated risks and using your gut instinct. Mine has only let me down once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its damage limitation.

Behave irresponsibly and you put yourself at higher risk of something bad happening.

Take the necessary safety steps to try and protect yourself and the likely hood of putting yourself in dangers isnt as high.

Obviously this isnt 100% guaranteed but it lessens that risk.

It's all about calculated risks and using your gut instinct. Mine has only let me down once."

And you ended up marrying him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its damage limitation.

Behave irresponsibly and you put yourself at higher risk of something bad happening.

Take the necessary safety steps to try and protect yourself and the likely hood of putting yourself in dangers isnt as high.

Obviously this isnt 100% guaranteed but it lessens that risk.

It's all about calculated risks and using your gut instinct. Mine has only let me down once.

And you ended up marrying him

Excuse me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree totally with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

Hey OP, when I go to someone's house I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe calls like that are totally sensible.

If you haven't got a sufficiently discreet pal for that, simply make a note of who you are meeting and exactly where and leave it behind at home and let your meet know you've done that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do

I have a local fab friend who I trust 100%

He has all my fab details if he shoukd ever need to log onto my account

I text him to let him know when I arrive at a meet or when a meet arrives at mine. I text him when the meet has finished.

And he also has a key to my house so to let himself in if I was ever in any danger.

People say that it's a little extreme but I don't think anyone can be too careful

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I very rarely go to someone's home..usually bcz they don't accommodate lol

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons."

Sent you a PM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When meeting at people houses, does anyone ever tell a trusted friend of the postcode of where they are going?

I'm thinking for safety reasons.

Sent you a PM"

Thank you. Much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Safe calls like that are totally sensible.

If you haven't got a sufficiently discreet pal for that, simply make a note of who you are meeting and exactly where and leave it behind at home and let your meet know you've done that.

Think that may be a bit too risky in my circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do home meets I feel more relaxed in a hotel than somebody's home

I always tell somebody where I'm going though, I have a very good female friend I met through swinging and when I meet at an hotel I always tell her who I'm meeting and where and visa versa

If people see that as indiscrete I don't apologise as I see my safety as coming first, surely men don't really expect women to meet total strangers off of sex site and not tell anybody where they are going

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Safe calls like that are totally sensible.

If you haven't got a sufficiently discreet pal for that, simply make a note of who you are meeting and exactly where and leave it behind at home and let your meet know you've done that.

Think that may be a bit too risky in my circumstances

Can you imagine hubby finding note whilst dusting lol,

You could let one of your friends on here know and that you'll PM them afterwards

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Safe calls like that are totally sensible.

If you haven't got a sufficiently discreet pal for that, simply make a note of who you are meeting and exactly where and leave it behind at home and let your meet know you've done that.

Think that may be a bit too risky in my circumstances

Can you imagine hubby finding note whilst dusting lol,

You could let one of your friends on here know and that you'll PM them afterwards

Couldn't really explain it

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Safe calls like that are totally sensible.

If you haven't got a sufficiently discreet pal for that, simply make a note of who you are meeting and exactly where and leave it behind at home and let your meet know you've done that.

Think that may be a bit too risky in my circumstances

Can you imagine hubby finding note whilst dusting lol,

You could let one of your friends on here know and that you'll PM them afterwards

Couldn't really explain it

Err probably not

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