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"I have to say it would fit my lifestyle perfectly too. I'm very keen to explore the experience. " Same here | |||
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"I've been a bull to more than one couple but perhaps the best experience was being a bull to a couple in Bournemouth for several years. They have since moved but it was an amazingly intense and fulfilling period. I can honestly say that I watched them grow closer together every single time she and I spent time together (sometimes with him there, sometimes away from him but with a flow of texts and photos driving him spare). If you're looking for someone to be a bull make certain he's done it before, isn't after a quick shag and understands (this is the most important bit) that he's there for the couple's sake, not just the woman. Took me a long time to realise that." Thank you. That's very insightful xx | |||
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"I dont really understand it. Thick i know " It's very fascinating and I suppose you could argue ultimately about submission. So I do understand that most males would find it really hard to understand it's attraction. I mean how can a man that loves his partner, prepare her and take her to another man. Willingly leave her to have fun or watch if asked. Then leave without joining in. The fun for him starts after that. When I would have to describe in great detail my thoughts and feelings, the pleasure I had with the bull. That's the trigger for a cuckold. It's self denial with a deeply connective and loving love-making ending. That's if I'm understanding this right. Hence my post. | |||
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"Yes this is our thing too, hubby isn't a sub though.. I'm married but live a single life too x" Are you happy to explain how it works for you. Either here or privately? | |||
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"It means different things to different people and couples will have their own ideas. Best for any particular encounter to check everyone understands how it is intended to work. " I quite agree which is why I'm asking for other peoples experiences, both good and bad. | |||
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"Yes this is our thing too, hubby isn't a sub though.. I'm married but live a single life too x" This is almost exactly how it works for us as well. I've had several so called "bulls" message saying we should change our name as this isn't cuckolding but as has been said already its whatever works for you. All we can say is our relationship is stronger than ever, and we are having FUN!!! | |||
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"It means different things to different people and couples will have their own ideas. Best for any particular encounter to check everyone understands how it is intended to work. " | |||
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"I think it only works if you're in a committed reationship or married. I've been cuckolded a few times, sort of an extention of a threesome for us. Sue knows I find it tremendously erotic and horny to see her with another man and for her this is an added bonus. Either watching her have sex or if she goes off on her own I can't think of a bigger turn on." Are you able to explain to me why this has the effect it does for you. I see what I would get out of it but don't fully appreciate what the cuck gets. | |||
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"I think it only works if you're in a committed reationship or married. I've been cuckolded a few times, sort of an extention of a threesome for us. Sue knows I find it tremendously erotic and horny to see her with another man and for her this is an added bonus. Either watching her have sex or if she goes off on her own I can't think of a bigger turn on. Are you able to explain to me why this has the effect it does for you. I see what I would get out of it but don't fully appreciate what the cuck gets. " pm me if you want to know anything.i have commented just to give you a brief insight. | |||
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"Yes this is our thing too, hubby isn't a sub though.. I'm married but live a single life too x This is almost exactly how it works for us as well. I've had several so called "bulls" message saying we should change our name as this isn't cuckolding but as has been said already its whatever works for you. All we can say is our relationship is stronger than ever, and we are having FUN!!! " I don't see that submissiveness on behalf of the male is a requirement. It may be the case that the husband DOES want to be belittled and humiliated but there's a sliding scale all the way from caging and chastity to just being interested in what the wife did while with another man. The key is for everyone concerned to know beforehand exactly what's required. Then again, that would be a good mantra for ALL swinging. | |||
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"I think it only works if you're in a committed reationship or married. I've been cuckolded a few times, sort of an extention of a threesome for us. Sue knows I find it tremendously erotic and horny to see her with another man and for her this is an added bonus. Either watching her have sex or if she goes off on her own I can't think of a bigger turn on. Are you able to explain to me why this has the effect it does for you. I see what I would get out of it but don't fully appreciate what the cuck gets. " we have done this a few times over the years for us it has to b black guys .Both of us together and red on her own | |||
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"I think it only works if you're in a committed reationship or married. I've been cuckolded a few times, sort of an extention of a threesome for us. Sue knows I find it tremendously erotic and horny to see her with another man and for her this is an added bonus. Either watching her have sex or if she goes off on her own I can't think of a bigger turn on." This is the only way it would work for me . | |||
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"Yes this is our thing too, hubby isn't a sub though.. I'm married but live a single life too x Are you happy to explain how it works for you. Either here or privately? " Yes sure.. message me x | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you " Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. | |||
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"I think it only works if you're in a committed reationship or married. I've been cuckolded a few times, sort of an extention of a threesome for us. Sue knows I find it tremendously erotic and horny to see her with another man and for her this is an added bonus. Either watching her have sex or if she goes off on her own I can't think of a bigger turn on. Are you able to explain to me why this has the effect it does for you. I see what I would get out of it but don't fully appreciate what the cuck gets. pm me if you want to know anything.i have commented just to give you a brief insight." Sent you a pm. | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. " Exactly... The traditional definition of a cuckold is simply a word for the husband of a wife that has had sex with someone other than him. Everything else mentioned in this thread is a meaning that has been layered onto the word by some people and which has no agreed definition. All options are available to all couples according to whatever works for them and their 'bull'. | |||
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"All options are available to all couples according to whatever works for them and their 'bull'." Totally agree. I've been lucky enough to have sex with several couples and there is no set behaviour. The sub, voyeur cuckhold you met the first time may have turned into an enthusiastic participant the next time you meet. It keeps it fun... | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. I do find it all very interesting. However grasping that I cannot pigeon hole the scenario. Exactly... The traditional definition of a cuckold is simply a word for the husband of a wife that has had sex with someone other than him. Everything else mentioned in this thread is a meaning that has been layered onto the word by some people and which has no agreed definition. All options are available to all couples according to whatever works for them and their 'bull'." | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. " That's exactly it. Have you discussed it with your friend? Did he say what elements he wants to explore? Happy to chat in private if you'd prefer. J | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. That's exactly it. Have you discussed it with your friend? Did he say what elements he wants to explore? Happy to chat in private if you'd prefer. J " Thank you. If you have any in sight. Good or bad please feel free to message me. | |||
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"I'm seeking a cuckold relationship but most who contact me live in the fantasy, porn version. I'm not a performing monkey for someone else's kicks. It's all about me getting my rocks off as and when I feel like it " They are the best relationship. Problem is you're both constantly horny even the most inappropriate times. | |||
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"There's a few experts on this thread already. Basically anyone trying to impose a certain definition don't really know, beware of that advice if I were you Thank you. I think I'm getting the measure of cuckolding. It's a sliding scale isn't it? What works for one won't for another. Fundamentals are I suppose working out what works for the couple at the heart of it. That's exactly it. Have you discussed it with your friend? Did he say what elements he wants to explore? Happy to chat in private if you'd prefer. J Thank you. If you have any in sight. Good or bad please feel free to message me. " I tried to message you but outside your age range. Message me if you would like to chat a bit more. | |||
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"As a guy who likes to watch his wife, it turns into the most horny sex afterwards. The pre and post event is soooo good. I prefer her to cum home and wake me up. " I absolutely can not sleep when Wifey is out playing. With the adrenaline racing as fast as the imagination sleep just isn't possible. Even when she came home at 4 in the morning I was still wide awake and buzzing with anticipation | |||
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" We keep pushing our boundaries and going further with it. We thought it was called hotwifing as no humiliation is included xx" They do seem to be the two generally accepted terms so as to differentiate between the two areas of play. | |||
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"As a guy who likes to watch his wife, it turns into the most horny sex afterwards. The pre and post event is soooo good. I prefer her to cum home and wake me up. I absolutely can not sleep when Wifey is out playing. With the adrenaline racing as fast as the imagination sleep just isn't possible. Even when she came home at 4 in the morning I was still wide awake and buzzing with anticipation " Me too, I'll often drop off then wake up super horny. She has woken me up before getting undressed next to me, then she went to sit on my face and said "look what I've brought home" her pussy was dripping. | |||
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""Me too, I'll often drop off then wake up super horny. She has woken me up before getting undressed next to me, then she went to sit on my face and said "look what I've brought home" her pussy was dripping. "" | |||
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"Fabulous thead - some gorgeous hotwives and couples that I've added to my hotlist! " It's fascinating...... and not bad experiences. Only warnings of what to look out for. Xx | |||
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"So has your friend mentioned what elements of cuckolding he likes or how far he would like it to go? " Only really touched the surface. I've firstly been gleaming as much information. Knowledge and other people's experiences are really appreciated. I full understand the role of a cuck. I fully understand my part to play. At the moment we've touched on the preparation, finding the right bull, the need to discuss inadequacy and humiliation. Faithfulness to my only. I'm sure there's lots more talking to do too xx | |||
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"So has your friend mentioned what elements of cuckolding he likes or how far he would like it to go? Only really touched the surface. I've firstly been gleaming as much information. Knowledge and other people's experiences are really appreciated. I full understand the role of a cuck. I fully understand my part to play. At the moment we've touched on the preparation, finding the right bull, the need to discuss inadequacy and humiliation. Faithfulness to my only. I'm sure there's lots more talking to do too xx" can't message you as you only take messages from site supporters | |||
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"So has your friend mentioned what elements of cuckolding he likes or how far he would like it to go? Only really touched the surface. I've firstly been gleaming as much information. Knowledge and other people's experiences are really appreciated. I full understand the role of a cuck. I fully understand my part to play. At the moment we've touched on the preparation, finding the right bull, the need to discuss inadequacy and humiliation. Faithfulness to my only. I'm sure there's lots more talking to do too xx" I'm very much a cuck, if I could find a friend to cuck me!! But its less about humiliation for me, than seeing her derive pleasure. I need a woman that wants to see other guys and totally on her terms, when she wants regardless of my presence or not. She expects me to be loyal and we agree this from the outset.. The absolute pleasure for me is knowing and hearing about her pleasures and freedom.. I obviously want to get my lady friend to myself as well sometimes but even that should be on her terms | |||
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"We have been on the scene for over 10 years now and we've never been stronger. We continue to push boundaries and now find we are at the more extreme end of the cuckold spectrum. It works very well for us but as the scene seems to be evolving and a lot more people seem to be trying their hand at cuckolding it's becoming increasingly harder to find genuine bulls. It's almost as if it's the new fad and you get messages like 'I'll fuck you hard while you husband watches' or 'I'm a bull, I'll fuck you'. We have now turned our attention to other couples & ladies who enjoy assisting me in dominating and humiliating my cuck. I rarely meet guys anymore unless they are well verified or actually read my profile and verifications and understand what I'm looking for. I can't be arsed meeting novices. :-" Do you or your cuck miss the dynamic you get from a bull or do you find meeting couples gives you the same thing? | |||
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"So has your friend mentioned what elements of cuckolding he likes or how far he would like it to go? Only really touched the surface. I've firstly been gleaming as much information. Knowledge and other people's experiences are really appreciated. I full understand the role of a cuck. I fully understand my part to play. At the moment we've touched on the preparation, finding the right bull, the need to discuss inadequacy and humiliation. Faithfulness to my only. I'm sure there's lots more talking to do too xx" Sounds like a good plan. So him being sub and having some humiliation is something you both like or more so him? It can be hard to find that balance where you both want it. But it should be fun trying! | |||
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"We have been on the scene for over 10 years now and we've never been stronger. We continue to push boundaries and now find we are at the more extreme end of the cuckold spectrum. It works very well for us but as the scene seems to be evolving and a lot more people seem to be trying their hand at cuckolding it's becoming increasingly harder to find genuine bulls. It's almost as if it's the new fad and you get messages like 'I'll fuck you hard while you husband watches' or 'I'm a bull, I'll fuck you'. We have now turned our attention to other couples & ladies who enjoy assisting me in dominating and humiliating my cuck. I rarely meet guys anymore unless they are well verified or actually read my profile and verifications and understand what I'm looking for. I can't be arsed meeting novices. :- Do you or your cuck miss the dynamic you get from a bull or do you find meeting couples gives you the same thing?" Not really. The couples we are meeting at the moment seem to understand what we're looking for better than the so called Bulls. We are content. | |||
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"We have been on the scene for over 10 years now and we've never been stronger. We continue to push boundaries and now find we are at the more extreme end of the cuckold spectrum. It works very well for us but as the scene seems to be evolving and a lot more people seem to be trying their hand at cuckolding it's becoming increasingly harder to find genuine bulls. It's almost as if it's the new fad and you get messages like 'I'll fuck you hard while you husband watches' or 'I'm a bull, I'll fuck you'. We have now turned our attention to other couples & ladies who enjoy assisting me in dominating and humiliating my cuck. I rarely meet guys anymore unless they are well verified or actually read my profile and verifications and understand what I'm looking for. I can't be arsed meeting novices. :- Do you or your cuck miss the dynamic you get from a bull or do you find meeting couples gives you the same thing? Not really. The couples we are meeting at the moment seem to understand what we're looking for better than the so called Bulls. We are content. " Excellent. That's what it's all about. | |||
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"OK so I'm a guy who does enjoy being used as a cuckold/service helper haha. I recently split from my misses for cheating on me " You split from your wife for cheating on you, but think you're a cuckold? That does sound confused... | |||
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"I've been a bull to more than one couple but perhaps the best experience was being a bull to a couple in Bournemouth for several years. They have since moved but it was an amazingly intense and fulfilling period. I can honestly say that I watched them grow closer together every single time she and I spent time together (sometimes with him there, sometimes away from him but with a flow of texts and photos driving him spare). If you're looking for someone to be a bull make certain he's done it before, isn't after a quick shag and understands (this is the most important bit) that he's there for the couple's sake, not just the woman. Took me a long time to realise that." Absolutely fantastic post, I've been involved with cuck couples long-term, some of them wanted interaction between me and the husband, some wanted me to be a living vibrator... Point is is takes all sorts, understand the couple that have invited you into their lives, appreciate what they're after from the experience and make suggestions regarding their lifestyle. Don't assume you know what people want without talking, and don't assume they've been utterly open about their desires. Don't be a dick, just use one. | |||
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"Fascinating thread on a subject important to me! First thing I would say is that there are as many versions of cuckoldry as there are cuck couples - and whatever is right for them is right, full stop. I had a long term relationship with a couple where all 3 of us just "suited" - he and I both straight and we all had a really fantastic time. Thank you. That's so informative. Please private message me with the website. Xx Cuckoldry is a wife-centric activity - the cuck husband is generous enough to want her satisfied in ways he cannot, the wifelover (not so keen on the term "bull") is an enabler, his job is to keep both halves of the couple happy. His role is to SERVE their needs - even if they want dom stuff! What is in it for the cuck - well, I have thought about this quite a lot... I think that the cuck experiences an amazing rush of conflicting emotions - jealousy, anger, humiliation at the same time as arousal/lust, love for his wife, pleasure - all at the same time. This conflict leads to an incredible intensity of emotion - and that is the thing that hooks him into it... Just my opinion. I must admit I found that having hubby watch makes the whole thing so much naughtier, so taboo that I find it wonderful. If you are interested there is a specialist site I will refer you to but probably best not flag other sites here Good luck, have fun - stay away from the guys who think it's all about shagging the mrs - it's so, so much more " | |||
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