FabSwingers.com forum: The age old question. Why do we do this?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I go thru fits and starts with the lifestyle. I find there's a few things that appeal to me.

Mainly as a single female I think it's the safer option to meet people. Especially by making meets in public and at clubs.

However after a recent life event I realised it's the escapism I find comforting. By meeting someone either socially, sexually or whatever the effort involved voids the emotions I don't want to feel. Of course they don't just disappear but they slide down the hill rather than random falling if you get my meaning.

Plus a good meet where your both, clean, efforts made and that first smile you pass holds that endorphin you get from exercise or great sex.

What are your thoughts. I don't suppose it really is a question.

By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i just like a lot of sex, mainly.

when i split with my ex, of course not having to deal with feelings was perfect, especially as i have avoidant issues already.

i did spend plenty of 2016 working on myself, and understanding myself more.

i'm becoming the person i was before that ex fucked my head right up, and i'm finding this a lot less appealing and looking to meet men elsewhere who are looking for something more substantial than the BS they feed me on here.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go thru fits and starts with the lifestyle. I find there's a few things that appeal to me.

Mainly as a single female I think it's the safer option to meet people. Especially by making meets in public and at clubs.

Plus a good meet where your both, clean, efforts made and that first smile you pass holds that endorphin you get from exercise or great sex.

What are your thoughts. I don't suppose it really is a question. "

I get this. At this stage in my life I'd rather avoid emotional attachments and everything that goes with them. I'm not saying that might not change in the future, but I have kids and an ex wife. The kids are my main focus in life, and the ex probably kept part of my soul in the settlement