FabSwingers.com forum: Straight and bi guys

By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

I'm a bi-guy and I'm always amazed by the number of straight guys that get in touch wanting to hook up - even those fellas who say "not looking for guys" on their profiles. I'm wondering if fellas dont admit being bi coz women prefer not to hook up with bi- or bi curious guys? Doesn't bother me, but wondering if this happens a lot to other bi or gay fellas?

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I think there's a current thread about this - I get messages from guys who say they are straight - it's up to them how they label themselves but the ones I've met are definitely in breach of the Trades Descriptions Act lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We get loads of messages from 'straight' guys ... maybe trying it on to meet the Mrs. But as we don't meet people who fib on their profiles, we just block

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By *pikeyMan
over a year ago

chester

I get them also not that am anything special lol

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Yeah,I agree Shoot! The ones I've met are also definitely not straight! It's all good, but it makes me think that it's always worth winking at a straight guy because it might be he isn't all that straight after all eh?!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Because some make such a song and dance about not meeting bi guys, some guys are so stupid and desperate for a shag that they lie....

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Right _iew, so it is that some guys are reacting to pressure so they lie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's straight and there's fab straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me dishonest bi guys are real problem

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"Yeah,I agree Shoot! The ones I've met are also definitely not straight! It's all good, but it makes me think that it's always worth winking at a straight guy because it might be he isn't all that straight after all eh?! "

I'm reluctant to wink at guys who describe themselves as straight because I don't want to cause any offence, although my sense is that men who are secure with themselves take it all with humour. Places such as this are hopefully safe and if you do wink at the wrong guy he's not going to take offence.

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

Warks.

I'm bi curious but it's not something I'll explore on here. putting it up and opening messages up to men results in unwanted and downright unacceptable first messages.

Just my story

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Right I see Floyd, I can understand that. Unacceptable first messages are just that, unacceptable, I think, whoever they are from.

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By *idzguyMan
over a year ago

coventry

I get lots of messages from guys even though there profile says straight. Most of these messages are on a weekend evening when alcohol has maybe loosened their inhibitions a bit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constantly getting hit on by guys wanting a Mr blowjob from us both. Never happens though.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

When we say the Mrs doesn't play with other men, they can't get their head around that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of men switch what they are so that they can get with certain people on this site which is completely wrong. It comes from desperation.

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By *elshbi2Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Agree with law and order be honest that's what part of this site is about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found a lot of the bi curious guys put straight as otherwise it limits their meets with straight couples.

Just because we state bi curious doesn't mean hubby will jump on everyone we meet.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We have found a lot of the bi curious guys put straight as otherwise it limits their meets with straight couples.

Just because we state bi curious doesn't mean hubby will jump on everyone we meet."

Same goes for bi or straight or anything I think, although some people go with the flow in the moment, we don't have the same taste in men .... so very rarely do we both play with the same man

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Right, so do you think its more straight couples that wont meet bi- men or straight women who prefer not to meet bi- men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right, so do you think its more straight couples that wont meet bi- men or straight women who prefer not to meet bi- men? "

I won't meet bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The good ones are the profiles that say straight but then you see them giving verifications to guys about their "amazing night together". Ha. So funny.

Each to their own. Makes you wonder what else they're lying about.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We only meet bi men

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Right, did you have a bad experience or just a preference thing?

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Yeah, I've seen that once or twice too - kinda funny. i just get what the big deal is either way - especially on a site like this one!

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

"We only meet bi men"
so do we

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Haha .... this could be a good thread to meet new couples ....

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

Well I wish there were a few couples like you down in the south west!

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By *ndwhynotMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

TBH I get more meet requests on here from "str8" guys than anyone else and most admit to a little (and sometimes a lot) of guy on guy experience. They also tend to be 'bottom'. I am very discrete and would never betray the trust these guys put in you.

I have met one or two couples where the guy turned out to be bi (even though they have straight on their profile) which was a bonus for me.

I am sure having bi or curious on your profile may reduce the number of meets from pure straight couples / or some women but I would rather lay my cards out right from the start. I do play 'straight' if that is the agreement.

I will not deny my sexuality just to get sex. I get plenty of fun being (maybe it should be despite??) myself. I am not worried about being judged by people on a site celebrating sexual freedom, if you are happy with the local football team pulling a train on your missus but find the concept of a man touching another mans penis abhorrent then that is fine. I won't judge you and I won't touch your penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think us putting gay puts a lot of guys off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got lots of messages from bi guys lol when we point out we won't meet bi guys they inform us they aren't lol

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"I'm a bi-guy and I'm always amazed by the number of straight guys that get in touch wanting to hook up - even those fellas who say "not looking for guys" on their profiles. I'm wondering if fellas dont admit being bi coz women prefer not to hook up with bi- or bi curious guys? Doesn't bother me, but wondering if this happens a lot to other bi or gay fellas? "

Constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi but J have filtered out single guys because the shear number of guys purly messaging "wanna suck now" or "want to fuck you now".

I'de had enough and now if I fancy chatting to a single guy.....I nessage them first.

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Recently I looked at the verifications on the profiles of a number of tv's.

Having been members on and off for a number of years I'm already pretty cynical but I was genuinely gobsmacked by the number of verifications from "straight" guys lavishly praising their sexual activities.

In nearly 100% of the examples I looked at these "straight" guys did not post publicly the verification they got in return.

They preferred to keep hidden the fact they had sex with a tv!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to describe Mr as straight when we first started using Fab, because he played straight for the purposes of what we were looking for at the time, and I didn't like the idea of a bisexual MMF threesome in any case. However following a number of bisexual MMFs, which just happened, I realised I was now comfortable with this type of play, so we decided it would make more sense to change his status from straight to bicurious. As far as we're concerned this reflects the way we sometimes play at this stage in our journey. But what my husband or myself really are in our sexuality is absalutely none of anybody's business, and we don't see why Fab members are obligated to disclose their sexuality. No wonder people lie if they are not given the option to keep their sexuality private should they wish. We will discuss our personal and private interests and our boundaries with prospective playmates as we see relevant. Anything else is a meaningless label.

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Personally I think labels are a useful place to start in response the simply massive numbers of profiles and alternatives there.

If I had the time to correspond individually with them then I would agree that labels are pointless.

I firmly believe that it's not unreasonable on a swingers sex site to expect an honest description of someone's sexuality.

Clearly there are a great many who are prepared to lie about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think labels are a useful place to start in response the simply massive numbers of profiles and alternatives there.

If I had the time to correspond individually with them then I would agree that labels are pointless.

I firmly believe that it's not unreasonable on a swingers sex site to expect an honest description of someone's sexuality.

Clearly there are a great many who are prepared to lie about this."

Maybe there should be the 4th option when ticking the box of 'not willing to disclose'. That way people who wish to keep that aspect of their sexuality private have the right to do so, but they are not deceiving people either. Then for those members who feel it's important to know someone's sexuality at first communication can then have the option of either asking them or passing them by. For us it's a detail that is not relevant for us to know until much much later if ever.

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

That's a really good point Mrs- why should members have to disclose their sexuality? Especially as it seems it's common for guys, to define themselves in a way that gets more meets for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are potentially meeting with a bi guy and my partner (male) is straight but we don't mind aslong as the guy doesn't come onto him in anyway because he would be really uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's a really good point Mrs- why should members have to disclose their sexuality? Especially as it seems it's common for guys, to define themselves in a way that gets more meets for them"

For us it's more of a sexual interest, more of a description of the way we might play. But the list of our sexual interests is not exhaustive and it would be impossible to describe all of them on our profile. And why should we disclose every single interest on our profile? This journey for us has been evolving. We used to have 'cuckolding' on our list of interests. We removed it because people got the wrong idea about us an also because we rarely play that way any more. Are we also lying because we removed 'cuckolding'? If we choose to stop doing bi MMFs then it would make sense to describe ourselves as people who play straight. But at the end of the day it is our choice which sexual interests to disclose to all and sundry and which to keep private for the purposes of Fab.

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

"We are potentially meeting with a bi guy and my partner (male) is straight but we don't mind aslong as the guy doesn't come onto him in anyway because he would be really uncomfortable

Sure, but those kinda details are usually sorted out before the meet right? As in what you're into etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are potentially meeting with a bi guy and my partner (male) is straight but we don't mind aslong as the guy doesn't come onto him in anyway because he would be really uncomfortable

Sure, but those kinda details are usually sorted out before the meet right? As in what you're into etc?

Yeah we have sorted it all out and the guy totally understands and is happy with it all and so are we, we always make sure everyone knows all the details before a meet

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By *queeze789 OP Man
over a year ago

Paignton

"We are potentially meeting with a bi guy and my partner (male) is straight but we don't mind aslong as the guy doesn't come onto him in anyway because he would be really uncomfortable

Sure, but those kinda details are usually sorted out before the meet right? As in what you're into etc?

That's cool then,

Yeah we have sorted it all out and the guy totally understands and is happy with it all and so are we, we always make sure everyone knows all the details before a meet "

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