FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it so hard for single men on this site

By *jlee1979 OP Man
over a year ago

bridgend

ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one is going to mail you to know more. They can't be faffed when there are plenty of peeps who explain very well what they are about, and what they can bring to the meet, on their profile.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Fill out your profile, explain to people what you are like & what you like. If you can put on a few "bum pics" then the ladies will love you I'm sure.

Enjoy anyway & happy hunting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep bum pics gets my vote lol

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By *obsrocketMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

I have met more people from this site having gone to socials and chatted on cam first, last one was the camping trip to Norfolk in May, wow what a weekend that was. Let people see you are genuine and you will get more interest, it has to be said there are a lot of single males here but you wont meet up if people dont know you are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not hard to single guys on this site, only for those who put little in their profiles, nothing therefore to tempt us ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As _obsrocket says above get yourself a cam and into chat and actually talk to people. Get out to some social events and don't get disappointed if it takes a while. Single fellas are everywhere and you need to make yourself stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with all the above, fill out your profile, i for one would not contact anyone who says email me if you want to know more!!! you need to sell yourself a little, make the women want to know more about you!

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over a year ago

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

"agree with all the above, fill out your profile, i for one would not contact anyone who says email me if you want to know more!!! you need to sell yourself a little, make the women want to know more about you!

Absolutely, you have to remember that its like window shopping, so give ladies a reason to want to look closer.

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

Also want to add that a great profile really can work wonders. We browsed one last night that was watching the mrs on cam, winked our way. It was so well written that it left us in no doubt what the guy was all about, and as for the pictures, well, she could have eaten him alive, right there and then off the screen lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no one is going to mail you to know more. They can't be faffed when there are plenty of peeps who explain very well what they are about, and what they can bring to the meet, on their profile."

Sigh, I don't know why they don't get this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

This site isn't hard for single men - only for single men who don't put the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

This site isn't hard for single men - only for single men who don't put the effort in."
its also about paitence

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

This site isn't hard for single men - only for single men who don't put the effort in."

Fully agree

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

This site isn't hard for single men - only for single men who don't put the effort in.

Fully agree

Yep no easy way but your profile says nothing about you or what you are looking for and a single pic of a toned bod but taken unimaginatively.

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By *jlee1979 OP Man
over a year ago

bridgend

ok so i have edited my profile few more pics face too hopefully this is better any opinions all feedback would be helpful

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Went blue in the face trying to read that! Does your keyboard not have full stops or capital letters???

Most people would give up before they got half way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above.

The pics look good but the text would put me off. I'm a bit confused by you saying you're very new to this when you've been registered here for more than a year.

I'd also rewrite or remove "or two women that would be the bonus lol i dont mind at all lol x" and "three somes with a guy or a girl as long as its opposite ends".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Went blue in the face trying to read that! Does your keyboard not have full stops or capital letters???

Most people would give up before they got half way!

Agreed: I did give up!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am surprised you have had no meets.

Very surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

This site isn't hard for single men - only for single men who don't put the effort in.

its also about paitence "

And using full stops. Reading a 10-line paragraph without any hurts the eyes. Total switch-off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing i found is talk to people in chat and just be charming and pleasant... there re so many "show me ya tits" messages going about that you stand out...

Also, get down a club and talk to people. Even a few bad jokes help you stand out from the stalking majority lol

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By *jlee1979 OP Man
over a year ago

bridgend

Thanks for all your input i have edited my profile broken it down a bit think it looks bit better now but any help is appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest OP I actually dont care what you say in your profile, one thing stuck out for me, your a champain thai boxer and are fit and have good stamina, I didnt read anything else. I think its great

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Oi, I thought it's just us guys that don't read profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest OP I actually dont care what you say in your profile, one thing stuck out for me, your a champain thai boxer and are fit and have good stamina, I didnt read anything else. I think its great

and they say guys are shallow... lol

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By *eaches and Cream 88Couple
9 weeks ago

Halesowen

Probably not starting the conversation are you looking for a meet would help

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By *ikesEmBigMan
9 weeks ago

Herts

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

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It's a numbers game

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By *Ci LutherMan
9 weeks ago

Cumalot

Sausage fest don’t help

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By *illythemancMan
9 weeks ago

Stockport

It’s not hard you just need to stand out from the others and chat shit like a crazy loon!

Tbf it’s confidence thsts all ….. be a daft with it too

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Chichester

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

Numbers

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By *onyjoCouple
9 weeks ago

Peterborough

Maybe because alot of single men have got all the talk but when it comes down to attending an arranged meeting they fail to show up, it may be the few but as usual it spoiles it for the many

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By *ark n kimCouple
9 weeks ago

Durham

Your years out of date pictures won't help you.

Are you 44 or 46.

Try putting more imagination into your profile,what you are looking to get out of a meet.

But as people have said organised socials are great for making connections.

We have met people at socials that we would have probably not met if it was an interaction on here.

Clubs aswell are a decent place to meet without any expectations.

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
9 weeks ago

longeaton,ng10

I know what you mean sweetheart, it's so hard on here

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By *eaches and Cream 88Couple
5 weeks ago

Halesowen

All the single men we have spoken to have ether ghosted us block or just not shown up making it hard for the legitimate men

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By *andm2006Man
5 weeks ago

Leamington spa

"All the single men we have spoken to have ether ghosted us block or just not shown up making it hard for the legitimate men"

Happy to message, with zero ghosting or blockage

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Because 90% of them speak to you like some disposable cum bucket who thinks you should be flattered by that.

Many think it's ok to discuss what they want to do with you sexually without without even seeing your face or holding a conversation and of course it's "what they want" to do.

Many little egos can't take a no thank you or not my type so it's just far easier not to reply and then you don't get the abuse that you are a fat cunt anyway after "they" 2 mins ago wanted to fuck you.

Then there's the zero effort profiles what can you expect in the bedroom when they can't even write a few lines.

Then the photos 1639 cock pics from different angles pulled back so far to gain an extra cm - who knew women were attracted to cock and cock alone.......

So to summarise many man don't have a clue about women nor do they have any idea on making a profile to attract one.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

And I CBA to fix the typos - sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

And to add it's always someone else's fault, never the guys.

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By *otgirl32Woman
5 weeks ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"ive been on this site for a year nearly and not a sniff im never crude am nice to people only rude when they are after that dont get it at all

1. Your profile pictures are very unflattering which is a pity as you probably have a very fit body. I mean, get someone to take some naked pics of you, fella

2. No naked bum pics (some of us girls love them). A sexy bum is a definite "positive" better you put it in your profile avatar (that's a personal opinion so take it with a grain of salt)

3. No face pics in profile (understandable) OR in the first message (senseless)

4. Profile could be a bit more elaborate doesn't tell me much about you

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By *eys00Man
5 weeks ago

have boots will travel

The main reason it can be hard for single men on here is because of single men on here! 😂

Have patience, put effort into messages (make them personalised, copy and paste can be seen a mile off and doesn’t scream effort) and always take the set backs on the chin and move on. It’s a fun place, hope it starts being fun for you soon!

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
5 weeks ago

Fucksville

"Because 90% of them speak to you like some disposable cum bucket who thinks you should be flattered by that.

Many think it's ok to discuss what they want to do with you sexually without without even seeing your face or holding a conversation and of course it's "what they want" to do.

Then there's the zero effort profiles what can you expect in the bedroom when they can't even write a few lines.

Then the photos 1639 cock pics from different angles pulled back so far to gain an extra cm - who knew women were attracted to cock and cock alone.......

So to summarise many man don't have a clue about women nor do they have any idea on making a profile to attract one."

This!!! So so so this!!! X

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

Anyone want to explain who you are all talking to?

This thread is more than a year old and the op hasn't been online in 2 months?

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By *eys00Man
5 weeks ago

have boots will travel

"Anyone want to explain who you are all talking to?

This thread is more than a year old and the op hasn't been online in 2 months? "

Jesus, well spotted 😂😂 He has plenty advice if he decides to come back at least!

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By *aizyWoman
5 weeks ago

west midlands

"Anyone want to explain who you are all talking to?

This thread is more than a year old and the op hasn't been online in 2 months? "

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By *ampireLoveMan
5 weeks ago

Essex

Let’s resurrect some more old threads from years ago! 😂

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By *apperleymanMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester

"Let’s resurrect some more old threads from years ago! 😂"

Well you’re a vampire lover so resurrection must be a hobby of yours.. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

"Let’s resurrect some more old threads from years ago! 😂"

A vampire suggesting resurrection? Crazy man. How do you look at yourself in the mirror every day? Oh wait!

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By *lacks and bluesMan
5 weeks ago

Surrey

Yeah it's tough for us single guys,couples only want other couples and single women so it seems.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
5 weeks ago

Dudley...kinda

This is one hell of a necro holy fuck.

We get threats of sexual assault, called entitled, ugly pigs and so on. So if y'all single guys want to swap inboxes I'll be glad to.

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By *exySenseiCouple
5 weeks ago

It seems like you need a lesson in basic economics. Supply vs demand...

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By *i_alternative_coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

cradley

A lot of the time because they just send messages like

'nice vaj'

'wonna fok nw'

'nice tits wanna suck me'

With no hello no conversation I wonder how that approach would work in a club....

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By *andystick72Man
5 weeks ago

kinky Street

Its easy

No complaints from me about fab ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

To be honest we see more getting verification in updates than couples and women .

Some guys that message us are just talkers and just want chat or pics .

Some seem genuine and don’t chat crap .

A lot of the couples that message seem shady or it is just the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Would suggest to attend clubs often, nice way to start

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By *sianpearlWoman
5 weeks ago

swindon

Perhaps it's because women have lost faith due to the fact that most guys use the site for fantasy and don't show up.

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