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By *onkatim OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

I go to clubs and I see ladies making such an effort with their outfits , their hair and makeup etc, why do some guys think its ok just to turn up in jeans and tshirts ??

when I go out I dress smart black trousers, black belt, ironed smart shirt,

waist coat, aftershave on and styled facial hair ( not everyones taste) but I make the effort is this a good thing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I love shirts I love a man in jeans and tshirts. I don't think they made any less effort just because they didn't dress smart.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

We're all different, I love a man in jeans and t shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it takes a bit of effort to look like you haven't made an effort haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men look hot in well fitting jeans and a t-shirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that they meet the club's dress code what does it matter to you?

I wear what I feel comfortable in and wouldn't go to a club that doesn't allow jeans.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Luckily the club we go to is dress down so as long as you're clean then

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

You've lost me here,

I go to clubs to get my kit off, not prance about in a neatly ironed shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend ages getting ready.. and nearly every time the first place we go is the hot tub lol x

I think as long as smart jeans and t shirt can look great.. x

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"it takes alot of money to look this cheap"

- Dolly Parton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand where you're coming from OP.

I appreciate a man who goes to the extra effort of dressing well,

First impressions count to me so a man wearing a shirt would definitely catch my eye more than a man in a tshirt.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I appreciate a man who makes an effort, that's my personal taste and a good looking man suited and booted will always catch my eye. Mind you a good looking man in good, well fitting jeans and a tight white tee shirt will too

However baggy jeans and old tee isn't my thing.

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By *ung DomMan
over a year ago

Dudley

I totally agree with the PO.

There are many ladies on here who are constantly bombarded with requests for outfits.

Many guys offer nothing in return.

The very least anyone can do is put on a shirt and tie and make sure they are clean and smelling great.

Level the playing field a little.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I totally agree with the PO.

There are many ladies on here who are constantly bombarded with requests for outfits.

Many guys offer nothing in return.

The very least anyone can do is put on a shirt and tie and make sure they are clean and smelling great.

Level the playing field a little."

A shirt and tie to go to a swingers club........Jeez I seriously most be going to the wrong clubs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even just being naked ladies make an effort. Shaved, lotioned, perfume, nails polished, hair styled...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie. "

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I spend ages getting ready.. and nearly every time the first place we go is the hot tub lol x

I think as long as smart jeans and t shirt can look great.. x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie. "

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As much as I love shirts I love a man in jeans and tshirts. I don't think they made any less effort just because they didn't dress smart. "

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals. "

The mankini is the way forward

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We're all different, I love a man in jeans and t shirt "

I had a request to do some new pics in suit and shirt, but when I dusted off the suits I have, it became obvious (even to me) how out of date the things I have, actually are. I rarely wear a suit, they really are for weddings and funerals for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a thing about shirts, very sexy

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals.

The mankini is the way forward "

Or those one-legged budgie-smugglers lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals.

The mankini is the way forward "

I'm gonna start a petition to make mankini wearing compulsory!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals.

The mankini is the way forward

I'm gonna start a petition to make mankini wearing compulsory! "

Now I can't get that picture out of my head

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals. "

Why?

We all like different things. None of are wrong in what we enjoy or lack imagination because it's different to other people.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I go to clubs and I see ladies making such an effort with their outfits , their hair and makeup etc, why do some guys think its ok just to turn up in jeans and tshirts ??

when I go out I dress smart black trousers, black belt, ironed smart shirt,

waist coat, aftershave on and styled facial hair ( not everyones taste) but I make the effort is this a good thing ??"
some of us like jeans and t-shirts. some clubs just insist on boxers and a towel. not everyone likes to wear suits or shirts and trousers.be clean, trimmed and smell nice and where what suits you and you are comfortably yourself in....live and let live i say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie.

yep this. Shirts and ties should be kept in the office or brought out for weddings and funerals.

Why?

We all like different things. None of are wrong in what we enjoy or lack imagination because it's different to other people."

yes I agree. ...I just don't agree that wearing a shirt and tie necessarily equates to making an effort and certainly isn't the only way, as some seem to be suggesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I appreciate someone that looks confident and comfortable.

We were at a club Friday night and I couldn't help but notice most of the women looked like they were auditioning for an 80's porn shoot.

My man and I reflect our alternative side in our dress sense, that doesn't change when swinging. We are always well groomed and 'put together' and appreciate others who don't feel the need to wear a certain outfit to be sexy.

Sexiness is evident regardless of attire

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Clubs I go to it don't matter cos we all get the same coloured towel to cover ya modesty !! No good putting ya 3 piece suit on if your gonna chuck it in a locker !!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Luckily the club we go to is dress down so as long as you're clean then "

dress down what the hell does that mean ...? does it mean i can get in with my tool belt on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the OP. If I am expected to to wear 4inch heals, stockings, a dress, nice lingerie and put on makeup etc etc if I attend a swing club, then I would have thought the men could also wear their best clothes. Doesn't have to be a suit, but nice shirt, nice shoes and smart jeans. Having said that in my experience men do dress nicely at clubs and parties, and we've yet to have a meet where the man is wearing trainers and hasn't put on a tidy shirt. And I'm pretty sure men would be the first to complain when women turn up for meets wearing the same clothes that they would go to collect the kids from school.

Mrs

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I agree with the OP. If I am expected to to wear 4inch heals, stockings, a dress, nice lingerie and put on makeup etc etc if I attend a swing club, then I would have thought the men could also wear their best clothes. Doesn't have to be a suit, but nice shirt, nice shoes and smart jeans. Having said that in my experience men do dress nicely at clubs and parties, and we've yet to have a meet where the man is wearing trainers and hasn't put on a tidy shirt. And I'm pretty sure men would be the first to complain when women turn up for meets wearing the same clothes that they would go to collect the kids from school.

Mrs"

Whos "expecting" this from you?

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I do suits for business & special occasions but feel more comfortable on swinging meets dressed casual jeans etc.

You can't polish a turd at the end of the day so people get me as they find me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the OP. If I am expected to to wear 4inch heals, stockings, a dress, nice lingerie and put on makeup etc etc if I attend a swing club, then I would have thought the men could also wear their best clothes. Doesn't have to be a suit, but nice shirt, nice shoes and smart jeans. Having said that in my experience men do dress nicely at clubs and parties, and we've yet to have a meet where the man is wearing trainers and hasn't put on a tidy shirt. And I'm pretty sure men would be the first to complain when women turn up for meets wearing the same clothes that they would go to collect the kids from school.

Mrs

Whos "expecting" this from you? "

Well with the clubs we've been to it's the dress code that women should dress in a sexy/slutty way. With private meets it's frequently been requested that I wear stockings, heels and a skirt. I have felt the need to have a 'swinging wardrobe' as a result of men expressing what they like, and I like to please the men I play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the OP. If I am expected to to wear 4inch heals, stockings, a dress, nice lingerie and put on makeup etc etc if I attend a swing club, then I would have thought the men could also wear their best clothes. Doesn't have to be a suit, but nice shirt, nice shoes and smart jeans. Having said that in my experience men do dress nicely at clubs and parties, and we've yet to have a meet where the man is wearing trainers and hasn't put on a tidy shirt. And I'm pretty sure men would be the first to complain when women turn up for meets wearing the same clothes that they would go to collect the kids from school.

Mrs"

I did just that at my last meet. ..because I had just dropped the kids at school. ...he really didn't seem to mind

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By *ung DomMan
over a year ago

Dudley

You can't polish a turd.

But you can wash it and roll it in Glitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It saddens me that some people have so little imagination that making an effort equates to shirt and tie. "

This,I'd rather see a guy look good in jeans and a tee than stood in a suit looking like his mum dragged him to a funeral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile pic is what we both wore to the club last night.

I (WB) wear jeans and plain T-shirts, but if it was to go out of an evening, I'd always team it with blazer, but that would be going out with friends etc. If I was going out, out I'd wear a "whistle n flute. The very least smart shirt under the blazer

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By *onkatim OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

looking at these answers I'm more out of touch than I thought

and in no way was I trying to say that guys that do wear jeans and tshirt don't make an effort because the ones I have seen in clubs always good and ready to mingle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile pic is what we both wore to the club last night.

I (WB) wear jeans and plain T-shirts, but if it was to go out of an evening, I'd always team it with blazer, but that would be going out with friends etc. If I was going out, out I'd wear a "whistle n flute. The very least smart shirt under the blazer "

Wow you guys look amazing! I've love to wear a corset like that at a club

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