FabSwingers.com forum: Embarrassing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we tried our first club the other week managed to go back with another couple and I (male) got stage fright and nothing down below worked.

I generally get like that with a new partner so not sure swinging can work for me? Love the thought of it though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it get to you. We all have bad days and you can pleasure people other ways. It's not like you've hindered anyone's fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we tried our first club the other week managed to go back with another couple and I (male) got stage fright and nothing down below worked.

I generally get like that with a new partner so not sure swinging can work for me? Love the thought of it though! "

Qouldn't worry about it. It can happen to anyone, doesn't mean it will happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we tried our first club the other week managed to go back with another couple and I (male) got stage fright and nothing down below worked.

I generally get like that with a new partner so not sure swinging can work for me? Love the thought of it though! "

A thread similar in The Lounge at the moment. It happens sometimes. Some good comments over there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry, this is very common. Maybe practice using condoms with your Mrs at home. Just soft swap to start with and if you're concentrating on the other woman then you won't feel under pressure to be hard. Take things slowly and maybe even just play with your Mrs in the same room as other couples to start with. x

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

You are not the first and will not be the last, happens often with newbies, give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just find some people that you're comfortable with and try out different things with them. Going in for full sex at a club can be daunting.

Don't think of it as embarrassing, though. A lot of it is mental and the more you're embarassed and the more pressure you put on yourself the more likely it is to happen. Think positively and try out different types of play until you're comfortable.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If you enjoyed it otherwise, don't let it put you off.

As others have said, it's not unusual the first time. We had the same, but no problems since.

Nita

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By *riendly FiresCouple
over a year ago

Beverley

Alcohol, medications particularly some types of antidepressants and antihistamine can impact and present as stage fright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let this minor hiccups gets into you- world of swinging is exciting and sometimes overwhelming when you have certain experiences for the first time...during ourfirst meet in the club - I came within seconds when the women put my cock in her mouth -how embarrassing i would have felt ?... worst was more than 3 couples were watching us play - but that's when you need to realise swinging is not about " just you " or whether you can get your cock up or cum quick or cum at all - it's also about the rest of 3 other individuals too - you can give and receive pleasures to and from the other 3 parties without getting your cock involved .... so enjoy this lifestyle and experience new things and everything will fall in place -

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