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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably what you'd call a "quiet one". I'm quietly confident but don't feel the need to shout about it all the time. Personally I find it a bit cringeworthy when someone talks about how big their cock is or how amazing they are in bed.

I think quiet people prefer to just let their actions speak for themselves. That, plus the fact that the loudmouths have caused your expectations to drop, have probably caused you to have a few pleasant surprises when you least expected them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

Wouldn't mind you travelling and I would defo be quiet

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

I wonder if the ones that boast about how great they are go in expecting to be great. They do what they do (because what they do is fantastic) regardless of what their current partner enjoys or desires.

Those that don't boast are perhaps more likely to treat each new situation as unique and read, learn from and react to their current partner.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I'm more likely to talk myself down then big myself up, If you like what you see in person or from my actions you are less likely to be disappointed

Its a win win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marmite.... it's loved by some, and hated by others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if the ones that boast about how great they are go in expecting to be great. They do what they do (because what they do is fantastic) regardless of what their current partner enjoys or desires.

Those that don't boast are perhaps more likely to treat each new situation as unique and read, learn from and react to their current partner."

This makes sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that to be true too. The talkers aren't the walkers.

The most enjoyable and intense sex has been with men who don't talk fantasy sex talk or tell me how good they are. Some people think because we are on a sex site the conversation has to only be sexual; when that is the kind of talk that blanks my brain, if I don't know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you boast?

Once had a forumite demanding to "know how etc, etc, etc"

It's not for me to "tell" or "say" - very narcissistic to do so.

We are who we are - if you like that, great.

If not then we aren't going to fall out with you over it.

If you leave smiling and would like to smile again, then again - that's your decision.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've found that to be true too. The talkers aren't the walkers.

The most enjoyable and intense sex has been with men who don't talk fantasy sex talk or tell me how good they are. Some people think because we are on a sex site the conversation has to only be sexual; when that is the kind of talk that blanks my brain, if I don't know them. "

Have to agree with this a lot on here talk for ages then disappear when arranging meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree with you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the same experience OP. Very good thread OP and bring on all the guys who are good conversationalists and whose first message to you doesnt go along the lines of `im really horny, can you help me cum .. or I want you to sit on my face.. etc etc.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I think you are right OP. You need to watch out for those quiet ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're both very quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that to be true too. The talkers aren't the walkers.

The most enjoyable and intense sex has been with men who don't talk fantasy sex talk or tell me how good they are. Some people think because we are on a sex site the conversation has to only be sexual; when that is the kind of talk that blanks my brain, if I don't know them.

Have to agree with this a lot on here talk for ages then disappear when arranging meets!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

I think people who are truly confident in their own skin dont feel the need to brag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is a dance between two (or more) responsive sensual souls whose heights are found through moments of entwined shared passion... not a pole vault where the person with the biggest stick wins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never asked for nudes and got told that's pretty weird

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Shhhhh!

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Sometimes, it is better to enjoy the beauty of silence...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never asked for nudes and got told that's pretty weird "

I would NEVER ask for that

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By *rman82Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm saying nothing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if the ones that boast about how great they are go in expecting to be great. They do what they do (because what they do is fantastic) regardless of what their current partner enjoys or desires.

Those that don't boast are perhaps more likely to treat each new situation as unique and read, learn from and react to their current partner."

Totally got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm probably what you'd call a "quiet one". I'm quietly confident but don't feel the need to shout about it all the time. Personally I find it a bit cringeworthy when someone talks about how big their cock is or how amazing they are in bed.

I think quiet people prefer to just let their actions speak for themselves. That, plus the fact that the loudmouths have caused your expectations to drop, have probably caused you to have a few pleasant surprises when you least expected them "

A verbose post from one so otherwise reticent and understated

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By *outhernchappieMan
over a year ago

brighton

Quietly confident conversationalist here....time and place for relevant conversation topics when needed....and activities when appropriate.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Too quiet to say anything

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Sex is a dance between two (or more) responsive sensual souls whose heights are found through moments of entwined shared passion... not a pole vault where the person with the biggest stick wins "

Great answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got me......!

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

West Mids

The biggest and the most sexual organ is the brain. Stimulating that Is the priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waters run deep...

Best sex I,ve had from a gentleman on here had the least amount of waffle and heroics on his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much rather engage in conversation on the site and let my actions speak for them selves if I get to meet with the person I'm chatting withI can't really boast about being big as I'm a short arse lol so try to keep away from the size talke

As height can put some people off which is a bit shit cos where all same size laid down lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

Don't ask me, I'm shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of the quiet ones with more action than talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is classic. It's full of men boasting about how modest they are ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Irony of guys boasting how modest they are on this thread?

This place cracks me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the men who are quietly confident and don't even talk about the size of their manhood, are much better lovers than the men who send me cock pictures and brag about what they will do to me. They are usually all talk and clueless in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's too simplistic a view but is the fun not all about getting to know someone new on different levels. Talking and chatting and learning about people and listening to what they like. Everyone is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've taken a vow of silence, so ladies......

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Long live protestant work ethic....

For me, modesty sucks (as well as all the other Dingle girls)

I seriously question ones need to deceive someone by putting themselves down. We are what we are....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder if the ones that boast about how great they are go in expecting to be great. They do what they do (because what they do is fantastic) regardless of what their current partner enjoys or desires.

Those that don't boast are perhaps more likely to treat each new situation as unique and read, learn from and react to their current partner."

That's a good point

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Too quiet to say anything

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good one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with the op, we are all different, so why boast about what you will do, as until you are with someone, you won't know what floats their particular boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit quiet isn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

empty vessels make the most noise

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

Interesting conversation is the best foreplay.

I enjoy a bit of sexy chat once in a while (I am a bloke after all), but always try not to over sell.

I would hate to be a dissapointment, so keep things understated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting conversation is the best foreplay.

I enjoy a bit of sexy chat once in a while (I am a bloke after all), but always try not to over sell.

I would hate to be a dissapointment, so keep things understated. "

Think that's a pretty good M.O.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

I'm just gonna stay extra quiet on this thread

Lol

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

quiet one here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much research did you do? you would have to get a cross section of quiet to outspoken guys with a range of ages and backgrounds to draw a conclusive conclusion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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How much research did you do? you would have to get a cross section of quiet to outspoken guys with a range of ages and backgrounds to draw a conclusive conclusion.

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Yep, I completely agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a quiet one, in public. Ladies who I have had sex with have always been surprised at the adventurous side to me.

Like you in your latex Bet people who don't know you wouldn't believe you dress in latex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'm a quiet one, in public. Ladies who I have had sex with have always been surprised at the adventurous side to me.

Like you in your latex Bet people who don't know you wouldn't believe you dress in latex?"

I'm a 'lovely young lady' and a 'sweetheart' to many. Depends where you know me from

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By *ungdublinguyMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Leitrim

It's the difference between a man and a boy, the loud ones are like twelve year olds that have just discovered their cocks and swear words so talk about them non stop a man is comfortable in himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be quiet about sex or anything means you haven't built yourself up for failure ...actions speak louder than words ..and just because you had amazing sex one night and performed like a legend doesn't mean you always will ....

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I read an article about hiring people and looking for givers rather than takers.

The question they asked was who have you developed or improved.

The takers would me mention someone visible, known, they would fill the air with how great they are.

The givers would name folks unknown, describe how the developed them.

I think its the same here. The givers listen, sense, feel, use emotional intelligence, to give the other person an amazing experience. They get personal value from the other person responding positively.

The takers take their pleasure, measure good sex from themselves feeling satisfied having tucked and cum. Enjoy taking their partner, not using emotional intelligence at all. It's about getting their rocks off.

Now in sex I think there is space for both. I know I am crap, without a lot of planning (abstinence, being teased) of giving a quickie, yet often she enjoys it. I tried bukkake, but a lot of men cumming when the woman isn't I found tough. If she was cumming on a cock then I suspect I may provide.

Personally one night stands are ok, but nowhere near as good as a regular fwb. One you can get to know, to feel, to understand. Then quickies are possible, being a taker in a role play,etc.

I suspect takers cannot switch to givers but givers can listen, learn and play at takers ... But then perhaps I have bias in my views.

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"Sex is a dance between two (or more) responsive sensual souls whose heights are found through moments of entwined shared passion... not a pole vault where the person with the biggest stick wins "

love it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like, wow man, this is getting like, totally deep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed in my travels that the men who constantly chat sex, are more often than not.., pretty poor at it. And, conversely, the guys who are engaging conversationalists and/or listeners with general topics, and don't really mention sex much...tend to be mind-blowing, kinky and full of surprises!

Same thing with the guys who give you the shy smile when asked about their cocks and say that they're 'ok' got a good size....Downplay it... tend to shock me with Monster cocks!

Is it that these 'quiet' ones delight in the thrill of being mysterious...which is why they don't mention much? (Quietly confident?)

Or is it that because I haven't any expectations, it's more of a surprise? "

I just wish that some of the ladies who I chat with would read this

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