FabSwingers.com forum: Negative people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people moan on about situations in life yet won't do anything to change it?

If something isn't right, act upon it instead of being negative.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Why do people moan on about situations in life yet won't do anything to change it?

If something isn't right, act upon it instead of being negative.

I agree but fear and lack of confidence stops most from doing something about there predicament so they just settle for moaning about it instead.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Because some prefer to be in the victim situation, that's their preferred position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree to an extent but changing a situation isn't always that easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to an extent but changing a situation isn't always that easy"

No one ever said it was easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing in life is easy

Not even Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe moaning is their way of letting off steam to help them cope with their situation until they feel able to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to an extent but changing a situation isn't always that easy

No one ever said it was easy. "

Sometimes even impossible

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Or maybe asking for advice in the forum is their way of dealing with it.

I take it OP you've never had to deal with something so terrible it stopped you in your tracks and frazzled your brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people moan on about situations in life yet won't do anything to change it?

If something isn't right, act upon it instead of being negative.

100% agree, like your attitude x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or maybe asking for advice in the forum is their way of dealing with it.

I take it OP you've never had to deal with something so terrible it stopped you in your tracks and frazzled your brain."

Probably more than you've ever even thought about actually, just im a positive person and believe life is what you make it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree to an extent but changing a situation isn't always that easy

No one ever said it was easy.

Sometimes even impossible "

I believe there aren't many things that are impossible, except of course some illnesses etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course op it depends on who is in your inner circle. If you have negative influences in your life regardless of how positive you think you are you can be brought down and end up being a negative person.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Or maybe asking for advice in the forum is their way of dealing with it.

I take it OP you've never had to deal with something so terrible it stopped you in your tracks and frazzled your brain.

Probably more than you've ever even thought about actually, just im a positive person and believe life is what you make it. "

I'm the same but I don't look down on people who don't have my strength when faced with a crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cringe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or maybe asking for advice in the forum is their way of dealing with it.

I take it OP you've never had to deal with something so terrible it stopped you in your tracks and frazzled your brain.

Probably more than you've ever even thought about actually, just im a positive person and believe life is what you make it.

I'm the same but I don't look down on people who don't have my strength when faced with a crisis."

Nor do I. I'm sure most people don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course op it depends on who is in your inner circle. If you have negative influences in your life regardless of how positive you think you are you can be brought down and end up being a negative person. "

Depends on your own mental attitude.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Shooosh, it is such a sexy positive thing....

All those ladies rushing to engage with "poor me".

The by-product is very sexy...

Well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you have to step outside your comfort zone and do what you think will please you, not just moan that you aren't getting what you want. Me, I'm trying something new tomorrow...wish me luck when I go to my first gay sauna for their Tgirl day (Greenhouse, Luton if anyone's interested) gulp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because some prefer to be in the victim situation, that's their preferred position. "

Agree, they play the victim which leads them to a negative place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes you have to step outside your comfort zone and do what you think will please you, not just moan that you aren't getting what you want. Me, I'm trying something new tomorrow...wish me luck when I go to my first gay sauna for their Tgirl day (Greenhouse, Luton if anyone's interested) gulp!"

Good luck though I'm sure you won't need it. Well done for taking the bull by the horns and going for what you want. This is the sort of positivity I'm talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

So what's your advice to someone who's fallen in the trap of always being negative?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

Obviously nothing ever is straightforward. But the some people moan on about the same old situations, yet won't do anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

Obviously nothing ever is straightforward. But the some people moan on about the same old situations, yet won't do anything about it. "

So what do you suggest they could do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

So what's your advice to someone who's fallen in the trap of always being negative?"

Start thinking positive, take stock of life, write a list of what they'd like to change and start making steps to change it.

Start with tiny baby steps, only one tiny footstep a day if needs be, but sitting around being negative will never do anyone any good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have posted something similar before OP

but I don't know how you think they can change it if they don't have your sunny disposition and maybe don't have family or friends with whom to rely on to help them..

its not always as straightforward as just picking yourself up...

Obviously nothing ever is straightforward. But the some people moan on about the same old situations, yet won't do anything about it. "

won't or can't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people believe happiness is something that comes to you if certain things happen. Instead, happiness is a muscle that needs regular exercise, regardless of what the world throws at you. It's a gift you give yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people believe happiness is something that comes to you if certain things happen. Instead, happiness is a muscle that needs regular exercise, regardless of what the world throws at you. It's a gift you give yourself

Very well said. Loving the positive attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely, OP, you realise that every single person's situation is personal to them and therefore we can't really cast judgement. Some people get themselves so stuck in a rut, that they don't know the way out. Some have no support and find it difficult to gain the strength to change their situation. Some just like to have a little moan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental illness has a huge influence on how people live their lives. Non of us can physically see it - you never know what people are dealing with inside

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Because some prefer to be in the victim situation, that's their preferred position. "

Like whom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree to an extent but changing a situation isn't always that easy

No one ever said it was easy. "

No one ever said it would be this hard,

Guess the song!!

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