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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this "I think the first thing you must do is define success. As many people will have a differing idea to what this equates to. Personally I have had a couple of meets, and am chatting to a handful of people. That seems successful to me. Others would probably _iew this as an abysmal failure. | |||
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"Go to socials. Take rohipnol. " Definitely socials and clubs too yes I agree there  | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I think the first thing you must do is define success. As many people will have a differing idea to what this equates to.
Personally I have had a couple of meets, and am chatting to a handful of people. That seems successful to me.
Others would probably _iew this as an abysmal failure. "Very true perspective is key indeed, I think as long as the individual is happy with their "success" that's the main thing, glad you've had success too dude | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I think the first thing you must do is define success. As many people will have a differing idea to what this equates to.
Personally I have had a couple of meets, and am chatting to a handful of people. That seems successful to me.
Others would probably _iew this as an abysmal failure. "
I have fun on the forums. I've met people over the years. Obviously I'd like to meet more (or more often really) but I'm pretty happy. | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I think the first thing you must do is define success. As many people will have a differing idea to what this equates to.
Personally I have had a couple of meets, and am chatting to a handful of people. That seems successful to me.
Others would probably _iew this as an abysmal failure.
I have fun on the forums. I've met people over the years. Obviously I'd like to meet more (or more often really) but I'm pretty happy."Awesome love this positive outlook man this I feel is what the fab experience is all about having fun and keeping positive  | |||
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"Be the player, not the played." Interesting do you mean take the lead and play your way not fitting I to others ideals? | |||
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"Success is what you make it. There are some lovely people on here waiting to be met, it's just takes a little patience. The main thing I find is to take everything with a pinch of salt as there as some great pretenders on here who can talk the talk but don't necessarily deliver, no matter how wonderful they they think they are. Be clear on what you want, it's not picky, it's knowing who will do it for you. " Yes very good answer I like this
I think many have learned the not so easy way that not everyone is always as they seem so being on guard and vigilant to a degree is fantastic advice and being clear on preferences before meets also great advice too | |||
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"Go to socials. Take rohipnol. " ............might be a joke to you Mr but there a lot a sad n sick fcks that a take that as a good idea / on board....think Mr flippant but ????? If you had a daughter .sister / even your old dear drugged n raped would you joke about ......sad n sick curse on things that shit ....i have fallen out with a fare few people over the shit ..body builders party heads n shoters working it under the liquid ecstasy flag not using with bad Intent but i just think shit shouldn't be on market full stop no matter what the intent ...... | |||
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"Without wanting to sound like a massive twat, the only answer to outrageous success is surely to have a face, body, messaging style and personality that people you message are attracted to. Ruby" Do all really need to align for a meet to happen though? To some I think body type isn't such a big deal | |||
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"Go to socials. Take rohipnol. ............might be a joke to you Mr but there a lot a sad n sick fcks that a take that as a good idea / on board....think Mr flippant but ????? If you had a daughter .sister / even your old dear drugged n raped would you joke about ......sad n sick curse on things that shit ....i have fallen out with a fare few people over the shit ..body builders party heads n shoters working it under the liquid ecstasy flag not using with bad Intent but i just think shit shouldn't be on market full stop no matter what the intent ......" It is indeed a very serious subject that affects some more than others as you pointed out and there are some awful accounts of its usage, I'm sure the poster didn't mean to cause offense though | |||
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"Decide what it is you want, and go for it. You are the only person responsible for your own success." Very true indeed I believe we make our own fortune as such to a certain degree | |||
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"Success is what you make it. There are some lovely people on here waiting to be met, it's just takes a little patience. The main thing I find is to take everything with a pinch of salt as there as some great pretenders on here who can talk the talk but don't necessarily deliver, no matter how wonderful they they think they are. Be clear on what you want, it's not picky, it's knowing who will do it for you. Yes very good answer I like this
I think many have learned the not so easy way that not everyone is always as they seem so being on guard and vigilant to a degree is fantastic advice and being clear on preferences before meets also great advice too "Unfortunately quite a few for me, so I'm guarded and wouldn't trust anyone off of here until they've passed the lemonsqueezecake test (soon to be patented, so I can't divulge), but these forums are certainly useful filters, let alone the ones I've got set. I am who I am, and either it's liked and wanted or not. I make an effort but I'm not going to beg or alter who I am to make someone like me (spotted it a few times on here) it's taken a little while for me to realise that but I know it now. My arse is huge, my tummy wobbles and I've never had a thigh gap, but I've got cracking boobs  so I play to my strengths and am honest about the weaknesses. I think that's all you can do. | |||
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"have a vagina "Do you believe that, I think although females in general do very well compared to males in percentage or so I'm told there are also males who have a lot of success too | |||
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"Go to socials. Take rohipnol. Definitely socials and clubs too yes I agree there "It was a joke but yeah there's a grain of good advice in it..do pop along to socials and clubs and it can be easier to Get one's self across properly..it can be hard on line the more 'routes to market' you try the more likely you will be to find one that suits you | |||
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Do you believe that, I think although females in general do very well compared to males in percentage or so I'm told there are also males who have a lot of success too"...and it's quite a big step. Not one I think I'll be taking any time soon.  | |||
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"Success is what you make it. There are some lovely people on here waiting to be met, it's just takes a little patience. The main thing I find is to take everything with a pinch of salt as there as some great pretenders on here who can talk the talk but don't necessarily deliver, no matter how wonderful they they think they are. Be clear on what you want, it's not picky, it's knowing who will do it for you. Yes very good answer I like this
I think many have learned the not so easy way that not everyone is always as they seem so being on guard and vigilant to a degree is fantastic advice and being clear on preferences before meets also great advice too
Unfortunately quite a few for me, so I'm guarded and wouldn't trust anyone off of here until they've passed the lemonsqueezecake test (soon to be patented, so I can't divulge), but these forums are certainly useful filters, let alone the ones I've got set.
I am who I am, and either it's liked and wanted or not. I make an effort but I'm not going to beg or alter who I am to make someone like me (spotted it a few times on here) it's taken a little while for me to realise that but I know it now. My arse is huge, my tummy wobbles and I've never had a thigh gap, but I've got cracking boobs so I play to my strengths and am honest about the weaknesses. I think that's all you can do. "Ooo sounds interesting, any way to verify Compatibility must be a good thing and especially for more vulnerable people as a safety precaution. Definitely staying yourself is brilliant advice for anybody as if people change they may attract the wrong people who don't complement them well and I couldn't agree more the forums and threads are a good way to interact and discover if you like a person's online persona, being honest is definitely the best way forward or at least positivity for me and being honest is positive done correctly | |||
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"Patience is the key lol" Indeed building connections aren't always a fast thing | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this "I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x | |||
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"Go to socials. Take rohipnol. Definitely socials and clubs too yes I agree there
It was a joke but yeah there's a grain of good advice in it..do pop along to socials and clubs and it can be easier to Get one's self across properly..it can be hard on line the more 'routes to market' you try the more likely you will be to find one that suits you "Yes the club's and socials tend to be friendly and less trolled too | |||
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"have a vagina
Do you believe that, I think although females in general do very well compared to males in percentage or so I'm told there are also males who have a lot of success too
...and it's quite a big step. Not one I think I'll be taking any time soon.
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"I agree one needs to know what success means to them and then go for it. Be the best you can be and don't blame others or the site for your lack
(Typos)"Very true being content like beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x"Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets | |||
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"having ready supple of cake and willing to share "Well if there's cake surely there needs to be a beverage to wash it down with | |||
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If you're offering  "Watching success unfold | |||
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"Be patient, don't take it so seriously or be too desperate, try not to get jaded if you go through a spell of things not working out, don't post status updates that are negative or ugly, and always approach each new contact with a spirit of friendship and optimism " More great advice am loving this positive theme and constructive inputs very much | |||
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"LUCK??? For single guys anyway, you send the right message at the right time, the more time you spend on here the more luck you have, a decent profile and some veri's helps as well" So, what I think you're saying is 'the more I practice the luckier I get'? | |||
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"LUCK??? For single guys anyway, you send the right message at the right time, the more time you spend on here the more luck you have, a decent profile and some veri's helps as well" Yes there must be an element of chance or luck involved too that makes sense and the profile thing is actually quite a game changer once you have the right formula too, veris for some can be contentious though as some think it's good others think they can put some off but ultimately I guess again as has been mentioned be yourself and choose the way that feels right | |||
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"LUCK??? For single guys anyway, you send the right message at the right time, the more time you spend on here the more luck you have, a decent profile and some veri's helps as well So, what I think you're saying is 'the more I practice the luckier I get'?" Or the more your chances are Improved perhaps | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x
Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets "I've blocked everyone and do my own searches. I've met some great fellas most of which I've seen more than once so def working for me xx | |||
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"Don't take it seriously, the drool of desperation is not as alluring as the finesse of fun, who wants a meet with a drooling desperate misery. Sex is not visual, it's in the anticipation of the anygdala " Oh yes definitely again love this reference to positivity at least, it is an attractive quality in itself | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? " Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x
Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets
I've blocked everyone and do my own searches. I've met some great fellas most of which I've seen more than once so def working for me xx"Cool so good advice for some then
And for a perhaps better quality of meet too furnishing potential regular meets with quality rather than quantity, that sounds like success to me | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe "I'm not so sure it's that difficult in general | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this "I think a lot of men don't help their selves with crap attitudes, like statuses saying does anyone actually Fuck on this site haha Or first message fancy a Fuck  | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x
Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets
I've blocked everyone and do my own searches. I've met some great fellas most of which I've seen more than once so def working for me xx"Lucky guys | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe
I'm not so sure it's that difficult in general "It depends if you want to win a few million, or are happy with a 10 quid payout. | |||
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"LUCK??? For single guys anyway, you send the right message at the right time, the more time you spend on here the more luck you have, a decent profile and some veri's helps as well So, what I think you're saying is 'the more I practice the luckier I get'?" Like anything the more you do it the better you get? More tips - Positive attitude. Be respectful. Don't take it too seriously. Just chat normally. Message people who are looking for a meet. Do socials and clubs to get veri's. | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I think a lot of men don't help their selves with crap attitudes, like statuses saying does anyone actually Fuck on this site haha
Or first message fancy a Fuck "Seriously that actually happens  I'm surprised | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe
I'm not so sure it's that difficult in general
It depends if you want to win a few million, or are happy with a 10 quid payout."That's one way of looking at it but not sure anyone would want to be compared to a £10 equivalent, I do get your point though | |||
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"LUCK??? For single guys anyway, you send the right message at the right time, the more time you spend on here the more luck you have, a decent profile and some veri's helps as well So, what I think you're saying is 'the more I practice the luckier I get'? Like anything the more you do it the better you get? More tips - Positive attitude. Be respectful. Don't take it too seriously. Just chat normally. Message people who are looking for a meet. Do socials and clubs to get veri's. " | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe
I'm not so sure it's that difficult in general
It depends if you want to win a few million, or are happy with a 10 quid payout.
That's one way of looking at it but not sure anyone would want to be compared to a £10 equivalent, I do get your point though "lol, yes, after the event it did strike me that the analogy was not so complimentary! | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? Similar odds to winning the lottery I do believe
I'm not so sure it's that difficult in general
It depends if you want to win a few million, or are happy with a 10 quid payout.
That's one way of looking at it but not sure anyone would want to be compared to a £10 equivalent, I do get your point though
lol, yes, after the event it did strike me that the analogy was not so complimentary!
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x
Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets
I've blocked everyone and do my own searches. I've met some great fellas most of which I've seen more than once so def working for me xx
Cool so good advice for some then
And for a perhaps better quality of meet too furnishing potential regular meets with quality rather than quantity, that sounds like success to me "It's successful from my point of _iew. I've been on 3 months and had 27 meets
Also, men are more visual. I have lots of photos and a very short profile! Even then some of them can't stick to the rules! xx | |||
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"What really is it? Can it be narrowed down to a simple sentence or paragraph or is it more complicated than that? I have seen a variety of complaints about how tough it is getting meets and people decrying this as not so too, I know there will be varied answers but am interested in opinions on this
I only meet fellas I fancy. If I don't fancy you, it's not gonna happen x
Does this help with getting more meets or happier meets
I've blocked everyone and do my own searches. I've met some great fellas most of which I've seen more than once so def working for me xx
Cool so good advice for some then
And for a perhaps better quality of meet too furnishing potential regular meets with quality rather than quantity, that sounds like success to me
It's successful from my point of _iew. I've been on 3 months and had 27 meets
Also, men are more visual. I have lots of photos and a very short profile! Even then some of them can't stick to the rules! xx"That does sound successful indeed go you
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