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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just cant understand why people tend to block when a polite and none offensive message is sent to someone expressing interest. specially if you think you match what they are looking for. why cant people instead just say no so that you dont send further messages. i wonder what others think about this behaviour. PLEASE DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just cant understand why people tend to block when a polite and none offensive message is sent to someone expressing interest. specially if you think you match what they are looking for. why cant people instead just say no so that you dont send further messages. i wonder what others think about this behaviour. PLEASE DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF."
we all get them nout you can do about it

just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your not what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not what they're looking for, then blocking you is a good idea - it saves you wasting your time asking them again in a few months' time, when you've forgotten that you've already approached them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you're not what they're looking for, then blocking you is a good idea - it saves you wasting your time asking them again in a few months' time, when you've forgotten that you've already approached them."

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes. "
tips is

dont moan about it there is many other topics on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially when I joined a mere nine weeks ago I answered every message and didnt block anyone, now after the same guys messaging every few weeks with identical messages I ignore and block to save them messaging again.

Im wondering though, how do you know they have blocked, have you messaged when they have not answered your first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been said, blocking is a surefire way to not get repeat responses from the same people

Being polite and saying 'thanks but no thanks' may have been the way they started off, but with so many people sending abusive messages and generally not accepting the no response they end up having to block.

With me if i get a no, or just a deleted message i block the person i sent it to. Saves me the trouble too then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This. I routinely block the second time I get emailed by someone I'm not interested in. Whether or not I reply first time (or just delete unanswered) depends on their initial message. But I definitely don't want to be repeatedly bothered by someone who doesn't fit what I'm looking for, especially if I've already said thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we block when the person keeps asking again and again after we said no a few times

think thats ok

or people who sent really weird messages

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We save the block for really persistent pests that will not take no for an answer from either of us, or are just plain offensive... life's just not long enough

Wolf

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

I wonder how many people I could get to block me in a 24 hour period?

"Guinness Book of Records? I may have an entry for you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes. "

Not half as annoying as having the same introductory message from the same guy three months apart, hence I blocked him, and sometimes guys wont take no for an answer

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"we block when the person keeps asking again and again after we said no a few times

think thats ok

or people who sent really weird messages

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

anyone who takes my fancy...

and they are welcome to return the favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point. I block people who delete my messages because my memory's rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not half as annoying as having the same introductory message from the same guy three months apart, hence I blocked him, and sometimes guys wont take no for an answer

Ah yes, the cut and paste guys! I seem to have a phenomenal memory for recalling that I saw the exact same message from someone weeks or months earlier - this is why I find it easier to delete and block. Because if someone doesn't interest me first time around, thy are not likely to later on either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many reasons to block someone - just take it as a no and move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make our criteria very obvious, so when we get a message from someone (often saying they have read our profile) that is way outside our criteria, we block them out of hand. Seems to us that in the first place they have totaly ignored our requirements and in the second place we are NEVER going to meet with them, so why not?

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

we always block guys who obviously havent read our profile, or are just chancing thier luck.

why should we waste time replying ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you don't intend your post to sound petulant: but it does! You're not entitled to a response because you think you match their criteria.

I rarely blocked: mass delete and forget worked for me.

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"specially if you think you match what they are looking for"

We get a lot of message's saying the same and yet the guy clearly isn't what's described on our profile. And sometimes the couple/girl isn't 100% on what they're looking for, they're just looking (if that makes any sense) so you can't really tell if you're what they want.

End of the day they blocked - it happens, it just means you don't end up messaging them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmm don't like their nose" BLOCK.

"mmmm not interested" BLOCK

"they live JUST outside of my local area" BLOCK

It can be as simple as that. But instead of wondering why they blocked you, wonder about all the other people you can try and talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes. "

Why is it annoying to be blocked? Did you really want to be able to mail them again (pestering people who don't want to meet you/asking "why not?"/abusing them)?

These are the main reasons why people use the block button, and if you don't want to mail them again, then it doesn't matter that you're blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes.

Why is it annoying to be blocked? Did you really want to be able to mail them again (pestering people who don't want to meet you/asking "why not?"/abusing them)?

These are the main reasons why people use the block button, and if you don't want to mail them again, then it doesn't matter that you're blocked.

i would never be abusive to anyone, afterall this is a social site why should one be abusive.

its a personal thing, i would rather if someone said no and i would happily take no for an answer. its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked.

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

We block abusive people, racists, and anyone who has winked or messaged us twice or more.

Otherwise we always try to send a polite "no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With me if i get a no, or just a deleted message i block the person i sent it to. Saves me the trouble too then"

Same here, we'll block people who message and were not interested in contacting us again (because they keep trying, or forget)

and we block people that dont reply or delete our message that we sent them, so we don't send another message to them again.

everyone using blocks for differing reasons..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure you don't intend your post to sound petulant: but it does! You're not entitled to a response because you think you match their criteria.

I rarely blocked: mass delete and forget worked for me."

We ask NOT to meet bi or bi-curious guys for example. So when a guy who has a profile clearly stating he is bi, sends us a message asking for a meet, then we block him! If you feel we are being petulant, then we're sorry, but as far as we are concerned, he is being selfish and ignorant! Simple as that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only time blocking gets me going is when cpls on the meets page state m or mm only to find when you reapy thay have blocked single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would never be abusive to anyone, afterall this is a social site why should one be abusive.

You might be happy to take no for an answer but many aren't and will keep messaging to the point of harassment. That's why many people just block as soon as they decide no. Suck it up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"the only time blocking gets me going is when cpls on the meets page state m or mm only to find when you reapy thay have blocked single males

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yes I agree with you specially when you think you fit the criteria then get blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only time blocking gets me going is when cpls on the meets page state m or mm only to find when you reapy thay have blocked single males

yes I agree with you specially when you think you fit the criteria then get blocked. "

It's a harsh but true aspect of life on Fab that it matters not a jot what YOU think. It's all down to what THEY think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would never be abusive to anyone, afterall this is a social site why should one be abusive.

You might be happy to take no for an answer but many aren't and will keep messaging to the point of harassment. That's why many people just block as soon as they decide no. Suck it up and move on. "
I was just interested to find out how others find it that's all. I'm not crying over it.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

It might seem a little annoying but remember that it is prob not due to your behaviour but the behaviour of those who mailed before you...

Dont take it personally and be glad they will not waste any more of your time.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would never be abusive to anyone, afterall this is a social site why should one be abusive.

You might be happy to take no for an answer but many aren't and will keep messaging to the point of harassment. That's why many people just block as soon as they decide no. Suck it up and move on. I was just interested to find out how others find it that's all. I'm not crying over it."

That's not how it came across to some Fabsters and, on Fab, perception is everything.

You have to accept that you'll be judged, sometimes unfairly, on everything you write on this site and be comfortable that what seems to you like an innocent contribution to debate will be construed (by some) as a personal attack on them - even if there's no obvious connection between you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure you don't intend your post to sound petulant: but it does! You're not entitled to a response because you think you match their criteria.

I rarely blocked: mass delete and forget worked for me.

Huh?!!

My comment wasn't aimed at you but the OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked."

This is where I often think that the folks that have blocked you have done you a little favour.

Why would you want to be sat there reading a profile and/or be looking at the pictures of people that have basically said 'no, we are not going to meet you' by using the blocking tool?

.....they are saving you wasting your time, now and in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only time blocking gets me going is when cpls on the meets page state m or mm only to find when you reapy thay have blocked single males

Maybe they are only interested in meeting someone off their friends list? ....just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have people who block me from seeing their profile and I don't even know who they are! I've never mailed them, _iewed their profile before etc etc!!

I don't know if some people block by mistake??

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"the only time blocking gets me going is when cpls on the meets page state m or mm only to find when you reapy thay have blocked single males

It could be they would rather contact the single male themsleves. Just because a couple/girl's interested in A single male doesn't mean they're interested in ALL single males

It could also be that you've tried to contact them at a bad time. Many times Kitty's been read to just give up because she gets fed up with some of the abuse single guys give her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have people who block me from seeing their profile and I don't even know who they are! I've never mailed them, _iewed their profile before etc etc!!

I don't know if some people block by mistake??"

If they have "single males" blocked you won't be able to see them - so no mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked.

This is where I often think that the folks that have blocked you have done you a little favour.

Why would you want to be sat there reading a profile and/or be looking at the pictures of people that have basically said 'no, we are not going to meet you' by using the blocking tool?

.....they are saving you wasting your time, now and in the future."

Agreed...I don't know why somene would want to keep checking the profile of people that don't want to meet them.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked.

This is where I often think that the folks that have blocked you have done you a little favour.

Why would you want to be sat there reading a profile and/or be looking at the pictures of people that have basically said 'no, we are not going to meet you' by using the blocking tool?

.....they are saving you wasting your time, now and in the future.

Agreed...I don't know why somene would want to keep checking the profile of people that don't want to meet them."

to see who they are meeting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked.

This is where I often think that the folks that have blocked you have done you a little favour.

Why would you want to be sat there reading a profile and/or be looking at the pictures of people that have basically said 'no, we are not going to meet you' by using the blocking tool?

.....they are saving you wasting your time, now and in the future.

Agreed...I don't know why somene would want to keep checking the profile of people that don't want to meet them.

to see who they are meeting...

Aaaah...masochism!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"its just when you check back the message or try to read the person profile again you intend to find you have been blocked.

This is where I often think that the folks that have blocked you have done you a little favour.

Why would you want to be sat there reading a profile and/or be looking at the pictures of people that have basically said 'no, we are not going to meet you' by using the blocking tool?

.....they are saving you wasting your time, now and in the future.

Agreed...I don't know why somene would want to keep checking the profile of people that don't want to meet them.

to see who they are meeting...

Aaaah...masochism!

Also probably why they keep rejoining and messaging again trying to make out they are someone different.... with same pics

Mistress x

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

When I send a message I always asked to be blocked if there is no interest in me. It's just one click on the message and therefore easier than responding with a 'no thanks'. Saves confusion and wasting their time with follow up messages.

Don't take it personally! On that occassion you didn't fit the requirements.

Good luck!

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By *latinum_geezerMan
over a year ago

Durham

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I also block no shows but mainly because i'm pissed off."

Ooooh, me too! Report the suckers too.

Let us know how you get on with your message pingpong, and if you find out (one way of the other) what sex 'she' is.

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By *latinum_geezerMan
over a year ago

Durham

Ive learnt to be very generous with the block. If my message is deleted straight away its useful to block, I may like the look of her, but she certainly doesnt appear to be impressed. No point in persistence.

I also block no shows but mainly because i'm pissed off.

Having said that, Im currently ping ponging with someone on the site. She may or may not reply, she wont delete and she'll look at my profile 10 times a day.

By my rules I should have blocked her. But i haven't because its 'fun', for now, trying to see what happens next. Or maybe she's a guy?? And no she's not on the friends list. In the end I'll prolly just ignore her but not block.

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

we block after we have established we are not for them, as our memories are really bad and we dont want to message them again... we are polite about it. and we explain it all on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer to your question is simple. They are not interested, they didn't want to reply to you, they didn't want you messaging them again so blocked. Accept it and move on.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Sometimes what people are lookign for and what people "think" others are looking for don't agree.

For example - the number of guys that email me offering a blowjob, despite my profile saying I'm not interested, is a typical example of them thinking I am.

Or as one guy suggested I get over myself as he reckons all straight black guys are secretly bi, but like I said - what one person wants and what others think they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blocked 2 guys yesterday; one who called me a timewaster because I am spending the day with my kids today and he obviously didnt believe me, the other who decided to make fun of Gloucester and me because its where I live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all how do you even know if you have been blocked?.........I can only assume you are trying to message the same people more than once? if they blank your first message, it means there NOT INTERESTED, so if you keep messaging them what do you expect! also some girls and couples get a lot of messages! some over 150 a day! why should they waist there time, messaging you to say no thanks? sounds like you would just reply to it anyway! lol

your making yourself come accross very desperate, and creepy lol

My advice is read profiles fully, if you think your a match, send a polite message, with a face and body picture. If you dont get a reply, then dont message them again.

Simple

Works for me

I dont even know who has blocked me lol and I dont give a shite! lol nor should you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have started to block peeps whose forums posts I do not like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have started to block peeps whose forums posts I do not like.

I've been doing that since day one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have started to block peeps whose forums posts I do not like.

I've been doing that since day one!

I used to be nice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have started to block peeps whose forums posts I do not like.

I've been doing that since day one!

Took us around two weeks to start that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just blocked someone who read something I wrote in the forums then messaged me to tell me what he thought was best for me.

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By *i_sSwingWoman
over a year ago

Any place 4 the right Person

If I get emails I always reply unless they do not meet the criteria I set out, or I can generally see that they have not read my profile by them not doing what I have asked for in my profile.

I wouldn't take the time to reply to someone that hadn't taken the time to raed a bit about me and that generally tells me that they are not the kind of people i want to meet up with.

There is no excuse for rude behaviour, but I would't generally waste my time on someone who wouldn't do the same for me.

Mi x

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We have loads on our block list, we have blocked two people today....why...because the first was Bi-Sexual....the first line on our profile states "We do not meet Bi-Sexual males" and the 2nd one stated on his profile "Will Not Meet Smokers"....am afraid if people are dumb enough to still send us mail after reading our profile then they are not worth our time sending a not interested response, bit hard we know...but tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all been blocked for whatever reason. I tried to look at a forumites profile cos his avatar looked quite sexy, only to find that I was blocked. I don't remember anything about the guy but he doesn't like me but so what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BLOCKED!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block people i don't want messages from. I presumed everyone did the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot have said it but when people block it is because they are not interested and don't want messages from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand when someone blocks you when it was them who made contact first! Chatting away, everything seemingly going fine, ask if they'd like to meet up for a drink (seems like logical progression to us), then we're blocked!

don't get it.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess you got a point. but i just find it annoying sometimes.

Not half as annoying as having the same introductory message from the same guy three months apart, hence I blocked him, and sometimes guys wont take no for an answer

not saying that they are wrong.

but you are a beautiful woman x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking because someone deletes your message might not be a good idea. We often delete messages from the inbox after saving them to the site supporters save folder. It may be that you don't see when a message has been saved, only that it's deleted. I should say that I'm not sure about this, but site ops would have the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No you would'nt know if its been saved at all so you have raised a good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocking because someone deletes your message might not be a good idea. We often delete messages from the inbox after saving them to the site supporters save folder. It may be that you don't see when a message has been saved, only that it's deleted. I should say that I'm not sure about this, but site ops would have the answer

wise.

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