FabSwingers.com forum: do you feel guilty?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

That's why I don't knowingly do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Yes.

So I avoid it.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I wouldn't do it so I avoid the guilt.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mans marital status doesn't concern me. If it concerns you then don't meet them, simple.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is possibly feeling the same too now. I would, so that's why I avoid cheating or encouraging others to do it.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I won't meet attached guy's. ..and so no guilt

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No because he would have claimed to be single.

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By *annylickerMan
over a year ago

Chester-le-Street

There maybe reasons as to why he's on here, take the time to ask then you can still politely decline

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By *aughtySxTV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

No it makes me harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

That's why I don't knowingly do it

this

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I won't meet attached guy's. ..and so no guilt

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how do u know you are not being lied too though.

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By *rince Charming 69Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

Well I don't have a partner,

I am a single man,

So come and fuck my brains out any time,

And have a clear concience afterwards!

Result!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There maybe reasons as to why he's on here, take the time to ask then you can still politely decline "

But that would be wasting his time and ours. Neither of us have a problem with people being on here without their partners knowledge, it's none of our darn business. Their personal circumstances are none of our business either since it's not going to change our mind.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

one of many threads to read.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/565340

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a differcult one tbh most of me says no but we'll I'll leave it there. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

That's why I don't knowingly do it

THIS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Why do something that makes you feel guilty? Surely that detracts from the point of enjoying it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know."

Agree you don't always know.

What confuses me is, why is the other woman always to blame? It's not like the husband is innocent and merely tripped and fell into another woman's virgina!

lol. They know what they're doing and they plan it.

I wouldn't mind seeing a married guy, if his wife knew and didn't mind what he was doing. For example she's no longer interested in sex but doesn't want to end her marriage. Rare situation I know.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I'm my own moral guardian - not anyone else's! I wouldn't see someone who's in a relationship regularly (because I'm a soft shite and don't want to get hurt or hurt anyone else!) but I have as one-off's!

Everyone has their reasons for what they choose to do! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. I find it exciting and a huge turn on. I'm open minded enough to realise that many people have varying reasons for being unfaithful.

If it makes you feel guilty then you shouldn't be doing it, that's all there is to it.

I never do anything that I would feel bad about afterwards, it has to be fun and make you feel good, or else what's the point.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I would.

That is why I don't knowingly do it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know.

Agree you don't always know.

What confuses me is, why is the other woman always to blame? It's not like the husband is innocent and merely tripped and fell into another woman's virgina!

lol. They know what they're doing and they plan it.

I wouldn't mind seeing a married guy, if his wife knew and didn't mind what he was doing. For example she's no longer interested in sex but doesn't want to end her marriage. Rare situation I know."

I don't think the other woman is to blame. I do think that if you knowingly get involved in something that might hurt another person you need to be adult enough to accept personal responsibility for any fall out that ensues though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel guilty about anything I do. It's fun only.

I don't ask people's marital status and I don't care , it's their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know.

Agree you don't always know.

What confuses me is, why is the other woman always to blame? It's not like the husband is innocent and merely tripped and fell into another woman's virgina!

lol. They know what they're doing and they plan it.

I wouldn't mind seeing a married guy, if his wife knew and didn't mind what he was doing. For example she's no longer interested in sex but doesn't want to end her marriage. Rare situation I know."

I suggested that to my ex husband but he refused. I'm happier now. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know.

Agree you don't always know.

What confuses me is, why is the other woman always to blame? It's not like the husband is innocent and merely tripped and fell into another woman's virgina!

lol. They know what they're doing and they plan it.

I wouldn't mind seeing a married guy, if his wife knew and didn't mind what he was doing. For example she's no longer interested in sex but doesn't want to end her marriage. Rare situation I know.

Very true.

I dated a guy from a real dating site a few years ago. Turned out he was already in a relationship and dumped her when he decided he did actually want me and no longer her. Believe me I didn't know! I only found out on our third date (3wks after we met) because he had a phone call whilst we were out. Her could blatantly hear get crying down the phone. I asked him who was on the phone. That's when he dropped the bombshell he was actually in a relationship when we met but wanted out and recently dumped his gf for me!

. After hearing that poor girl crying and finding out what kind of person I was dating, I couldn't carry on seeing him and ended it. Yes he actually did go back to his ex and she took him back!

. Shocking..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel guilty for sure if I knew and even if I didnt. I have seen the fallout of cheating and it was horrendous to watch the impact it had on the unsuspecting spouse and their children.

No way in hell am I contributing to that. That's just me though.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't feel guilty about anything I do. It's fun only.

I don't ask people's marital status and I don't care , it's their business."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. I find it exciting and a huge turn on. I'm open minded enough to realise that many people have varying reasons for being unfaithful.

If it makes you feel guilty then you shouldn't be doing it, that's all there is to it.

I never do anything that I would feel bad about afterwards, it has to be fun and make you feel good, or else what's the point."

Couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

She went out alone every thursday night,aparently to visit her mother. Actually, she had some fun and sex. It was her evasion from fucking reality, her energy to keep fighting for his husband. She couldn't say to him because surely, he'd commit suicide.

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem..."

There will always be specific situations like that and I agree things aren't always as they seem. Surely though anyone who doesn't want to meet a married person...whatever their personal circumstances deserves to have their preference respected too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't feel guilty at all XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem..."

We would have politely explained that we totally feel for her and her situation and that we respect her choices. However, we just don't meet married people who are playing alone without their partners knowledge. That's a hard and fast rule for us..no matter what the situation.

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to probe into the personal lives of those I meet. I don't really see it as any of my business. I feel no guilt if a guy wants to cheat on his partner. It isn't my guilt to carry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't a dating site it is for people for whatever' the reason looking for fun / Sex . If you feel guilty then say no .

Everyone has there own personal reasons for being here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend not to probe into the personal lives of those I meet. I don't really see it as any of my business. I feel no guilt if a guy wants to cheat on his partner. It isn't my guilt to carry. "

Wanna fuck like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend not to probe into the personal lives of those I meet. I don't really see it as any of my business. I feel no guilt if a guy wants to cheat on his partner. It isn't my guilt to carry.

Wanna fuck like?

Are you asking because I won't be probing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite partial to a married man.

I don't ask questions, it's none of my business and I never feel guilty. My bad?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I'm quite partial to a married man.

I don't ask questions, it's none of my business and I never feel guilty. My bad? "

I know *exactly* what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend not to probe into the personal lives of those I meet. I don't really see it as any of my business. I feel no guilt if a guy wants to cheat on his partner. It isn't my guilt to carry.

Wanna fuck like?

Are you asking because I won't be probing?

No probing? Oh I'll look elsewhere then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend not to probe into the personal lives of those I meet. I don't really see it as any of my business. I feel no guilt if a guy wants to cheat on his partner. It isn't my guilt to carry.

Wanna fuck like?

Are you asking because I won't be probing?

No probing? Oh I'll look elsewhere then

...muppet!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes so I wouldn't do it,wouldn't like it done to me.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem..."

Unfortunately on here, people judge without knowing facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X"

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Anyone who is on here runs the risk of meeting cheaters. Fact. People use the word "knowingly" to ease their conscience. If people felt that strongly, they shouldn't be putting themselves in a situation where the risks are high.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem..."

We would have said thanks but no thanks. Anything else would be a pity fuck and no one should be disrespected like that.

If you don't meet married people playing away then you don't meet them. If they lie there is little you can do, but if they tell the truth then they have respected you and you should do the same in return.

Just because we would not meet someone who is cheating, it does not mean we would be un-civil towards them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People use the word "knowingly" to ease their conscience. If people felt that strongly, they shouldn't be putting themselves in a situation where the risks are high."

We don't use 'knowingly' to ease our conscience we use it to indicate that we can't possibly know if every man we meet is telling the truth when he says he's single.

You say above that people judge without knowing the facts...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

People use the word "knowingly" to ease their conscience. If people felt that strongly, they shouldn't be putting themselves in a situation where the risks are high.

We don't use 'knowingly' to ease our conscience we use it to indicate that we can't possibly know if every man we meet is telling the truth when he says he's single.

You say above that people judge without knowing the facts..."

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

I don't knowingly kill people but no doubt I've bought something or done something somewhere which has contributed to the death of someone. But taking your standard I'm just easing my conscience, I may as well be out there chopping up bodies myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride."

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use the word "knowingly" to ease their conscience. If people felt that strongly, they shouldn't be putting themselves in a situation where the risks are high.

We don't use 'knowingly' to ease our conscience we use it to indicate that we can't possibly know if every man we meet is telling the truth when he says he's single.

You say above that people judge without knowing the facts..."

No, you can't possibly know, yet still happy to play.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical."

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical.

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss"

Precisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

We have only met couples, two couples to be precise and so I'm pretty sure they're not ha ha.

We do intend to meet singles and we will ask them to respect us and please either let us know if they are involved or just block us etc.

Of course there is nothing we can do if they lie etc but we will do everything we can to prevent it knowingly.

A close family member almost killed herself after she found out her husband had been having an affair. Not suicide or anything, she just stopped eating, exercised like crazy everyday and went to extreme lengths to try and make herself feel like she could 'compete' with the woman he had been seeing.

It was so sad to watch her and see her desperation.

The woman in question not only knew he was married but she also knew his wife. She got what was coming to her in the end but that didn't stop the destruction.

Their children were heartbroken, they cried, they rebelled and the relationship between themselves and their father was never fully fixed. Seeing their mum cry was crazy hard for them.

But hey, as long as people are having a good hours fun then what's the harm right?

I won't be uncivilised to anyone who cheats or knowingly meets married people but in no way would I risk causing that sort of harm or being party to it.

If that makes me judgemental and such then so be it. I'm sorry.

Eve. X

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical."

Do you drive a car?

Yet I'm sure you would claim not to knowingly kill anyone.

But basically if you drive you are out there every day a killer on the loose. There is the direct effect of possibly knocking someone down, then your petrol fumes slowly killing kids and old people, then there are the companies who sell that petrol to you and all the bad things they do. Same principle in fact worse as there is nothing you can do about it.

At least if you say you do not wish to meet cheaters you have made an attempt to prevent that happening.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

But it's quite hypocritical how quickly an attached person will "scoff" at, use the eye rolling emoji or just dismiss someone, that does/would feel guilt over something like meeting them, especially when they asked not to be judged themselves, because they have their reasons for being here. They have their reasons for not wanting to meet you and guilt could be one of them, so If you want respect for your choice to play away, give it to others for Making the choice not to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Not at all. Not my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

We have only met couples, two couples to be precise and so I'm pretty sure they're not ha ha.

We do intend to meet singles and we will ask them to respect us and please either let us know if they are involved or just block us etc.

Of course there is nothing we can do if they lie etc but we will do everything we can to prevent it knowingly.

It was so sad to watch her and see her desperation.

The woman in question not only knew he was married but she also knew his wife. She got what was coming to her in the end but that didn't stop the destruction.

Their children were heartbroken, they cried, they rebelled and the relationship between themselves and their father was never fully fixed. Seeing their mum cry was crazy hard for them.

But hey, as long as people are having a good hours fun then what's the harm right?

I won't be uncivilised to anyone who cheats or knowingly meets married people but in no way would I risk causing that sort of harm or being party to it.

If that makes me judgemental and such then so be it. I'm sorry.

Eve. X"

Yes, that's a tragic story, and I hope she is now recovered.

But my point still stands that people in swinging are putting themselves in a position where the probability of having sexual relations with a cheater is high, whether people want to accept it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Not at all. Not my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

I do make people aware, but I also respect that not everyone wants to disclose their relationship status. There is no rule anywhere that says you have to. It's up to the individual.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People use the word "knowingly" to ease their conscience. If people felt that strongly, they shouldn't be putting themselves in a situation where the risks are high.

We don't use 'knowingly' to ease our conscience we use it to indicate that we can't possibly know if every man we meet is telling the truth when he says he's single.

You say above that people judge without knowing the facts...

No, you can't possibly know, yet still happy to play. "

Yes, in this case your judgement is correct we do what we can to avoid meeting a guy who has an unwitting partner.

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over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical.

Do you drive a car?

Yet I'm sure you would claim not to knowingly kill anyone.

At least if you say you do not wish to meet cheaters you have made an attempt to prevent that happening. "

I have to drive. No one has to swing. It's a choice. They choose to be in an environment that has a high proportion of cheats. Totally different scenarios.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

I do make people aware, but I also respect that not everyone wants to disclose their relationship status. There is no rule anywhere that says you have to. It's up to the individual."

People don't have to no,but its v dishonest to meet people and not disclose it.Plus like curvymam says there are generally clues when someone is cheating.If in doubt no meet would happen .

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

I do make people aware, but I also respect that not everyone wants to disclose their relationship status. There is no rule anywhere that says you have to. It's up to the individual."

Where there did I infer that everyone must disclose their status? I didn't

But I do feel it's better for all parties if people do so an informed choice is available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

I do make people aware, but I also respect that not everyone wants to disclose their relationship status. There is no rule anywhere that says you have to. It's up to the individual.

People don't have to no,but its v dishonest to meet people and not disclose it.Plus like curvymam says there are generally clues when someone is cheating.If in doubt no meet would happen ."

Dishonesty, on here, well I never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did feel guilt when I met an attached guy in the past and it killed my enjoyment of the experience so I no longer do (to the best of my knowledge)

Also realistically speaking, I like to have a good long session usually overnight and I can only occasionally accommodate and those are factors a good majority of of attached people can't offer me

I do make people aware, but I also respect that not everyone wants to disclose their relationship status. There is no rule anywhere that says you have to. It's up to the individual.

Where there did I infer that everyone must disclose their status? I didn't

But I do feel it's better for all parties if people do so an informed choice is available"

Yes it would, but it's never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all .... not one bit .

It's way better he cheats with people like us where it really is nsa .

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss"

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)"

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an icy wind blowing through this thread..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss"

Awwww, so you've never gone along with Santa or the tooth fairy ? That's sad.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss

Awwww, so you've never gone along with Santa or the tooth fairy ? That's sad."

Hardly the same as lying and cheating on my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's an icy wind blowing through this thread..

Is there? I thought it was an interesting grown up debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss

Awwww, so you've never gone along with Santa or the tooth fairy ? That's sad.

Hardly the same as lying and cheating on my partner "

True, but it's still lying.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I have to drive. No one has to swing. It's a choice. They choose to be in an environment that has a high proportion of cheats. Totally different scenarios."

Nope you choose to drive, you could choose otherwise. It's exactly the same.

My point is you can only control what you can control. I choose to drive sensibly to minimise the risk of causing harm to others.

We choose to swing in a way that reduces the risk of harm to others. Ie safe sex, soft swinging, being open about not wanting to facilitate cheaters.

I don't know if someone will puncture a condom or rip it off during sex. If they do they have not respected us or our choices. Similarly we don't know when talking to people if they are lying about their attachment status, but that would be them again not respecting us.

Nothing to do with easing conscience.

Simply about being able to control your controllables.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss

Awwww, so you've never gone along with Santa or the tooth fairy ? That's sad.

Hardly the same as lying and cheating on my partner

True, but it's still lying."

But there are varying degrees of lies ,we are never gonna agree on this subject .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

..............

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Do you think that woman was dishonest in real life?

If you don't meet "cheaters", are you that honest in real life? (Rhetorical question)

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss

Awwww, so you've never gone along with Santa or the tooth fairy ? That's sad."

Really?

Hardly the same thing ha ha. One is to instill joy and magic in a child's life.

The other is to fuck people behind their respective partners back and maybe bring upset and tears to a child.

Polar opposites on the lying spectrum.

Again, I'm not judging you for what you choose to do. Just don't judge me for what I choose not to do.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew a woman whose husband was paraplegic since several years. He weighted 25 stones and suffered a deep depression. She had to work and take care of him, every day every week, every year...

Was she a cheater? What would you have done if she'd have proposed you sex?

Things are not always what they seem...

We wouldn't hold it against her but we just don't want to be a part of it either.

Eve. X

How do you know you haven't already met cheaters? Some of your meets easily could of been.

Now who is judgemental?

Telling people what they should or shouldn't do?

Strange that you have jumped into that moral police mode that you normally deride.

I haven't judged. I'm just making a point that if people are so against cheating, yet they put themselves in a situation which highly increases chances of meeting cheaters. It's hypocritical.

I don't get why you say that,people cheat in Every walk of life .If you date full stop you run the risk of meeting cheats ,as they are dishonest in real life too.

Miss

Precisely

So basically your stance on this is;

It's the spouses fault that somone cheats

and then its the people they decive into meeting thems fault too.

But the cheat bears no liability for dishonestly deciving people into having sex with them?

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Sue won't meet married men.

Had friends who were innocently taken in by a married guy, said he was single.

One day an irate wife turned up at the door saying he was having an affair with her.

She'd had him followed!

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Yes I do ,

Why do these threads always turn around ?I'm not deceiving anyone and don't in everyday life.

Miss"

No, they don't turn around. It is just different opinions, since is a controversial a recurrent subject.

But it is interesting your assertiveness about your total honesty in real life. This world needs more people like you...

There was a smart man 2000 years ago that had his doubts about human honesty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sue won't meet married men.

Had friends who were innocently taken in by a married guy, said he was single.

One day an irate wife turned up at the door saying he was having an affair with her.

She'd had him followed!

And the man never noticed he was being followed ? How stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting point though if the person has made it clear that thier consent to sexual activity is conditional based on the other person not being married/cheating and that if they knew the person was cheating they would not consent.

And the Cheater then continued to lie and persuade the other that they where not cheating and they have sex.

The person could well have a case for rape by deception.

The written communication on hete would provide wuite decent evidence that the consent was conditional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would've felt guilty and repulsed.

It's pretty easy to tell if someone is cheating. Apart from the obvious things like not being able to meet or talk at certain times; it's my experience that cheaters want you to know they're attached. Probably to ease their own guilt; by having someone who's prepared to sleep with them who knows they're cheating, helps validate their actions.

It seems that the 'married to a disabled person', is an excuse for cheating that's rolled out quite often. Like that makes the cheater some sort of Saint who's earnt the right to cheat. I rather see it that the disabled person, just like a non - disabled person, deserves someone who doesn't feel so bad about being married to them, they need to escape it.

Either way, nothing to do with being closed minded, for me it's about not being willing to give a liar the most intimate part of me.

Not that I'm meeting anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rationale and justifications some use on these cheating threads are just fucking ridiculous and alien to me on almost every level

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"I would've felt guilty and repulsed.

Either way, nothing to do with being closed minded, for me it's about not being willing to give a liar the most intimate part of me.

Not that I'm meeting anymore

I really respect your point. The case of the woman with the disabled husband I related above is totally real, not an excuse.

What would you have done in her situation? Abandon him or abandon your deepest needs?

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By *ick71Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would've felt guilty and repulsed.

Either way, nothing to do with being closed minded, for me it's about not being willing to give a liar the most intimate part of me.

Not that I'm meeting anymore

I really respect your point. The case of the woman with the disabled husband I related above is totally real, not an excuse.

What would you have done in her situation? Abandon him or abandon your deepest needs?"

I think there are two sides to every story. I'm sure he wouldn't want to be married to someone who wanted to cheat on him and felt trapped by being married to him. He wasn't offered the opportunity to leave her or lose his weight or get psychological help (you seem to imply he wasn't mentally stable) or even agree to her cheating. You do know being paralyzed doesn't prevent you from having full, penetrative sex?

It's not a question of abandoning, but of respecting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

This has been a very informative post and not for the obvious reasons .

Knowledge of intent is absolutely a lovely thing to know in my humble opinion

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I really respect your point. The case of the woman with the disabled husband I related above is totally real, not an excuse.

What would you have done in her situation? Abandon him or abandon your deepest needs?

It's not a question of abandoning, but of respecting him. "

As far as I know, he received all the medical support available. And more support from his wife that none of us could imagine...

But still, didn't she deserve a espace for herself? So dishonest and liar was she...?

I knew her for several years and I can tell you that could teach to all of us some lessons of honesty, respect and sacrify for one person...

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over a year ago

No I don't feel any guilt...that's for him to bear not me. It doesn't give me an extra thrill, but it often suits me as I know both of us are only interested in discreet NSA meets.

I'm upfront about my relationship status so generally guys are with me. And if they're not and I later find out it still doesn't bother me. I don't ask questions as to 'why', it's none of my business. Just as if a guy asks me personal questions I'll shut him down.

As long as everyone abides by their own moral standards and doesn't try to inflict their opinions and judgements on others, what's the issue? Live and let live.

In a club you could meet and unwittingly play with fraudsters, thieves, drug users, sexual predators and all manner of criminals, yet still some holier-than-thou posters view cheaters as the lowest of the low. Meet or don't meet, it's everyone's personal choice and I would never try to convince otherwise.

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over a year ago

I really respect your point. The case of the woman with the disabled husband I related above is totally real, not an excuse.

What would you have done in her situation? Abandon him or abandon your deepest needs?

It's not a question of abandoning, but of respecting him.

As far as I know, he received all the medical support available. And more support from his wife that none of us could imagine...

But still, didn't she deserve a espace for herself? So dishonest and liar was she...?

I knew her for several years and I can tell you that could teach to all of us some lessons of honesty, respect and sacrify for one person..."

Neither of us are going to change the other's mind.

I don't think anyone 'deserves' anything to the cost of anyone else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do"

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I think this is a huge misrepresentation.

No one said cheaters are lowest of the low. If someone wants to start a thread about playing with sexual predators then I'm sure people would state that they would rather not fuck a pedophile or rapist.

And I imagine they would be far less civil about those people than someone who is cheating.

I don't like it that people cheat, but I can be civil about it. And I am not holier than thou about it. I rarely talk about it to be honest, but if you come on a thread about cheating expect to find views on it.

If you start a thread about who would be happy to swing with a rapist I would be far less civil about them and have little to no respect for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not this old subject again

must be a Tuesday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really....that sounds like a him problem rather than a me problem...we're here for fun...up to th what they do in their private life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do"

Fuck him and send him home

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them. "

Exactly, it's one of the first questions I ask, and it usually becomes apparent before long regardless. That's one of the main reasons I like to meet people who can accommodate at home to be honest - only then can you be certain sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting point though if the person has made it clear that thier consent to sexual activity is conditional based on the other person not being married/cheating and that if they knew the person was cheating they would not consent.

And the Cheater then continued to lie and persuade the other that they where not cheating and they have sex.

The person could well have a case for rape by deception.

The written communication on hete would provide wuite decent evidence that the consent was conditional "

If someone met me, reporting me for rape would be the last thing on their mind as they'd of had such a damn good amazing time

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Not one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no what is sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel sorry for both of the woman

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house."

You have to pick the right single males for sure, but in my view it is safer than meeting someone in an anonymous hotel room - after all, I have their home address in all my data records, you could be meeting anyone in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I understand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I meet outside the house first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

In a hotel if you scream you're more likely to be heard than in someone's house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

In a hotel if you scream you're more likely to be heard than in someone's house. "

Nobody will do anything about it. I've done heavy BDSM in hotels many times.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I meet outside the house first meet "

For sure, a social first - I prefer to just to meet one or two people regularly anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do"

Say 'thanks, but no thanks'. Then leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a huge misrepresentation.

And I imagine they would be far less civil about those people than someone who is cheating.

If you start a thread about who would be happy to swing with a rapist I would be far less civil about them and have little to no respect for them."

'Some' posters. I didn't point fingers at anyone - you didn't even catch my attention. Most manage to stay civil. There are however a few I could name on this thread alone who pounce on every cheating thread to make their disgust abundantly clear - despite their own unconventional sexual practices.

You missed my point about meeting and playing with criminals and undesirables in clubs...without CRB checks and credit searches nobody would ever know a person's background, but from comments it appears that if a guy passes the 'not married and cheating' test then it's fine to fuck them.

And as if anyone would ever start a thread about meeting rapists and paedophiles...that's a ridiculous notion and absolutely nothing to do with this post. But those that play in clubs take the risk that they might.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

There life not our problem xx we do not judge xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

In a hotel if you scream you're more likely to be heard than in someone's house.

Nobody will do anything about it. I've done heavy BDSM in hotels many times."

Exactly, they are anonymous places full of anonymous people. I prefer to select my meets carefully, but of course a serial killer is going to murder you wherever you are lol, at least my way the police will know who to lock up and whee to find him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

In a hotel if you scream you're more likely to be heard than in someone's house.

Nobody will do anything about it. I've done heavy BDSM in hotels many times."

Maybe not. But there even less chance of someone doing something about it in a hotel. Plus hotels have cameras so if anything did happen, the person would be seen on camera entering and leaving, so I could identify him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about consent. Consent from everyone involved.

If someone is cheating, their partner does not consent to them playing with me. Therefore I do not want to play, because the encounter is not consensual for everyone.

I don't have a problem meeting criminals. Everyone has broken the law. Some people were just dumb enough to get caught.

I would not play with someone if I got an inkling that they take drugs (nor if they smoke). I generally ask during the social if they are into that kind of thing. If they say 'sometimes' or 'yes' then it's a no go.

Do not confuse an interest in 'unconventional sexual practices' with 'has no standards' or 'doesn't require consent from everyone'. Just because people like spanking, doesn't mean they don't have personal morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what happens when you arrange a meet with a guy. You have not asked about his attached status and he hasnt brought it up but he turns up to the meet with his wedding ring on. What would you do

Most people who don't want to meet married men or women ask before they meet them.

I don't feel safe going to a single males house.

In a hotel if you scream you're more likely to be heard than in someone's house.

Nobody will do anything about it. I've done heavy BDSM in hotels many times.

*simething about it in a house I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do as many checks as possible to ensure they aren't going behind someone's back. I've caught so many out its unreal - Hubby has nicknamed me Miss Marple! I wouldn't just take their word for it as easy as that would be. Most of the hottest men are married though so I sometimes question being on my moral high horse but then I think about the pain of if and when the other person involved found out. I may not know them personally but I still try to avoid hurting anyone if possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are millions of sexless relations who live together for reasons but are not together sleep in separate beds that's what they say... I always seem to pick am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you feel guilty about sex with a married man.

Hows it get to serial killers

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Do you feel guilty about sex with a married man.

Hows it get to serial killers

An attempt at justification....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about sex with a married man.

Hows it get to serial killers

Threads do go random at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about consent. Consent from everyone involved.

If someone is cheating, their partner does not consent to them playing with me. Therefore I do not want to play, because the encounter is not consensual for everyone.

I don't have a problem meeting criminals. Everyone has broken the law. Some people were just dumb enough to get caught.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about consent. Consent from everyone involved.

If someone is cheating, their partner does not consent to them playing with me. Therefore I do not want to play, because the encounter is not consensual for everyone.

I don't have a problem meeting criminals. Everyone has broken the law. Some people were just dumb enough to get caught.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would any of these women and men that are cheating on their spouses or get a kick out meeting married people, be pissed if they found their own partner had been having sex with other people behind your back?

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's all about consent. Consent from everyone involved.

If someone is cheating, their partner does not consent to them playing with me. Therefore I do not want to play, because the encounter is not consensual for everyone.

I don't have a problem meeting criminals. Everyone has broken the law. Some people were just dumb enough to get caught.

I don't need my husband's consent to do what I want with my body...so saying having sex with me is non-consensual for all parties doesn't wash with me. And I'm not in the least confused...cheaters are allowed to be judgemental too."
i understand why blokes cheat but can i ask why women who cheat don't invole your husband's but would rather completely disrespect them instead.alot of guys can't handle seeing another guy giving there partner a good time and olso to be honast alot of guys are just assholes and blame it on being more visual, being one of the boys etc.so is it the same for woman or is there a totally different dynamic to it.I would have thought your husband's would much prefer to be part of this rather than be left out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

That's why I don't knowingly do it

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

It's all about consent. Consent from everyone involved.

If someone is cheating, their partner does not consent to them playing with me. Therefore I do not want to play, because the encounter is not consensual for everyone.

I don't have a problem meeting criminals. Everyone has broken the law. Some people were just dumb enough to get caught.

I don't need my husband's consent to do what I want with my body...so saying having sex with me is non-consensual for all parties doesn't wash with me. And I'm not in the least confused...cheaters are allowed to be judgemental too.i understand why blokes cheat but can i ask why women who cheat don't invole your husband's but would rather completely disrespect them instead.alot of guys can't handle seeing another guy giving there partner a good time and olso to be honast alot of guys are just assholes and blame it on being more visual, being one of the boys etc.so is it the same for woman or is there a totally different dynamic to it.I would have thought your husband's would much prefer to be part of this rather than be left out."

So you understand why blokes cheat but not why women do....what's the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are millions of sexless relations who live together for reasons but are not together sleep in separate beds that's what they say... I always seem to pick am "

lucky you

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why on earth do something that makes you feel guilty?!!

I don't play "nice" so married men avoid me. Only one tried to slip through the net, but turned up with "gifts" he wanted me to use straight away, a cloying soap and perfume combo. Turned out to be his wife's brands. Wanted me to use them to prevent a scent trail.

He and his "gifts" were summarily ejected from my house!

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

No.

I get an extra-special kick.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

If you asked me when I fist came on here I would of said its a definite No to meeting a Woman in a relationship,

What's changed my opinion ?

1) I don't know their circumstances,

2) I could just as easy sleep with them at a club without knowing their marital status,

3) They are on a site looking for sex and in most cases it would be them asking me,

4) I don't know their partner and unlikely to ever come into contact with him,

Yes I know they are trivial reasons for doing it especially the last one,

As for feeling guilty, Only if I did know who he was or met him somehow, I probably wouldn't do it then, Its to close to home,

But its all still down to circumstances, When and where and my own state of mind at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank"

I've been cheated on many a time. Never did I blame the girl. Laid the blame firmly at the man's door where it belongs in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i understand why blokes cheat but can i ask why women who cheat don't invole your husband's but would rather completely disrespect them instead.alot of guys can't handle seeing another guy giving there partner a good time and olso to be honast alot of guys are just assholes and blame it on being more visual, being one of the boys etc.so is it the same for woman or is there a totally different dynamic to it.I would have thought your husband's would much prefer to be part of this rather than be left out."

You don't know anything about me, my husband or our relationship so how you can say you think my husband would prefer to be part of it is beyond me.

Why are the reasons women cheat any different from a man's?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do

No.

I get an extra-special kick.

In the balls from the wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things are never as black and white as some seem to think they are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would any of these women and men that are cheating on their spouses or get a kick out meeting married people, be pissed if they found their own partner had been having sex with other people behind your back?

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X"

In answer to your first question, no probably not, because I'm not a hypocrite.

And to the second, yes, which is why I'm incredibly discreet, meet privately, don't post recognisable photos and won't share face pics straight off.

Never thought you were a troll as your comments have been reasoned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you feel guilty about having sex with a man who has a partner and she doesn't know? I do"

Dont do it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X"

I don't get a kick / thrill out of meeting married men.

I wouldn't be pissed off if I found my OH on here, it would make for an interesting conversation that's for sure. I would be pissed off if he was stupid enough & bought it to our door, i.e. cheating with someone we knew.

As for my children's feelings, they don't need to know the nitty gritty of our relationship, there's more than just cheating that can drive a marriage apart.

I could ask you how your children would feel if they found out about their parents being very open on a sex site for example.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X

I don't get a kick / thrill out of meeting married men.

As for my children's feelings, they don't need to know the nitty gritty of our relationship, there's more than just cheating that can drive a marriage apart.

I could ask you how your children would feel if they found out about their parents being very open on a sex site for example.....

Pretty sure that if my children found out I were on here, they wouldnt be as pissed as finding out I was going behind their daddy's back..guaranteed.

However, we plan to have stopped doing this by the time our children are old enough to be thinking about sex in general.

I mostly meant that if you were found out and your partner left, leaving your children to have to choose between you both etc. Have you considered how they may feel about you then?

Eve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X

In answer to your first question, no probably not, because I'm not a hypocrite.

And to the second, yes, which is why I'm incredibly discreet, meet privately, don't post recognisable photos and won't share face pics straight off.

Never thought you were a troll as your comments have been reasoned. "

Well thank you. I do find it an interesting topic as it's so completely different to my own set of wants/needs etc. It makes for a good debate I guess ha ha.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No it makes me harder "

See this I don't get, I get that it's taboo and so on, but there's a victim. Surely it would feel better to have someone leave their partner for you, instead of having the opportunity for someone to find out he's been cheating and be upset feel betrayed.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"Things are never as black and white as some seem to think they are on here."

Sometimes they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But op would you play with a woman who was cheating on her husband or do your standards allow that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your husband consents to you guys having an open relationship (even if you don't need to tell him what you're doing), then you're not cheating, so therefore it's no a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not really because its him thats cheating on his wife but if i get a message from someone saying they are married i say no thanks usually. you dont always know.

Agree you don't always know.

What confuses me is, why is the other woman always to blame? It's not like the husband is innocent and merely tripped and fell into another woman's virgina!

lol. They know what they're doing and they plan it.

I wouldn't mind seeing a married guy, if his wife knew and didn't mind what he was doing. For example she's no longer interested in sex but doesn't want to end her marriage. Rare situation I know."

Not as rare as you would imagine. By shear chance we know two men who have no sex with their wives, but also have tacit approval to play away. Presumably to maintain the other aspects of their relationship which matters to them both.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I don't as I'm doing exactly what they are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X"

Having been on the receiving end of cheating its not nice, my ex husband was seeing a woman we used to meet together behind my back, he ended up leaving me for her and me and my three kids were left homeless

But life goes on

I'm sure I've played with loads of married guys, how can you possibly know who's single and who's married? Ask them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is amazing here on Fab!Because you disagree with something you are judgemental!

Swinging does not means cheating!

Open minded is not a open passport to accept everything!

Family,loyalty , honesty means a lot to me! Here is okay to fuck family,to betray your own,not consider or protect your own!

I don't care about your situation, I don't meet half couple,married men! The reasons I am meeting only couples lately!Once a cheater always a cheater!

I am entitled to decide who I want to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is amazing here on Fab!Because you disagree with something you are judgemental!

Swinging does not means cheating!

Open minded is not a open passport to accept everything!

Family,loyalty , honesty means a lot to me! Here is okay to fuck family,to betray your own,not consider or protect your own!

I don't care about your situation, I don't meet half couple,married men! The reasons I am meeting only couples lately!Once a cheater always a cheater!

I am entitled to decide who I want to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is amazing here on Fab!Because you disagree with something you are judgemental!

Swinging does not means cheating!

Open minded is not a open passport to accept everything!

Family,loyalty , honesty means a lot to me! Here is okay to fuck family,to betray your own,not consider or protect your own!

I don't care about your situation, I don't meet half couple,married men! The reasons I am meeting only couples lately!Once a cheater always a cheater!

I am entitled to decide who I want to meet! You got married if is sexless or not,is not my business! You made your bed lie on it!

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"No it makes me harder

Some people certainly get kicks out of it, I don't go out looking for a Woman in a relationship but I have found out at a later date that they was in one,

If I was in a relationship I wouldn't sleep with anyone else, But its very easy saying that without knowing my future, And yes I would feel very upset if she done it behind my back, Hypocritical I know

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By *bi_scotlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've got to admit I used to prefer meeting married men purely for reasons of discretion. I figured they had as much (or more) to lose if anyone found out about our meets and that made me feel more secure as I'm not out to friends, family etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X

I don't get a kick / thrill out of meeting married men.

As for my children's feelings, they don't need to know the nitty gritty of our relationship, there's more than just cheating that can drive a marriage apart.

I could ask you how your children would feel if they found out about their parents being very open on a sex site for example.....

Pretty sure that if my children found out I were on here, they wouldnt be as pissed as finding out I was going behind their daddy's back..guaranteed.

However, we plan to have stopped doing this by the time our children are old enough to be thinking about sex in general.

I mostly meant that if you were found out and your partner left, leaving your children to have to choose between you both etc. Have you considered how they may feel about you then?

Eve. "

It wouldn't necessarily signify the end of our relationship though, it's much more deep rooted than all this.

I can't predict what my children's feelings towards me would be but I think the overall hurt would be the same regardless of how our relationship ended & they wouldn't have to choose.

It's interesting that you're thinking of stopping all this when your children are older.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank

I've been cheated on many a time. Never did I blame the girl. Laid the blame firmly at the man's door where it belongs in my opinion

It takes 2 to tango, if she was told he was single then she has to take it at face value, but if she sleeps with him knowing forewell his is attatched then she is no better than him and i would love to see her explain herself to the other womans kids when she is found out.

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank

I've been cheated on many a time. Never did I blame the girl. Laid the blame firmly at the man's door where it belongs in my opinion

Frank"

Who would do that though?

Who taking their kids to meet the woman dad cheated with for an explanation?

That would make you a pretty shitty mum in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The views being expressed on this thread are very interesting to me because:

A) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have met other people that I know to be married (and who don't hide that fact); and

B) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have messaged ME all compliments and charm.

At least own what you do and who you do it with instead of presenting the acceptable "all cheaters are scum!" face to the forum but then meeting or messaging in private.

And to answer the original question, no I don't feel guilty or I wouldn't do it. But there are things my conscience stops me doing which others would be happy to, so it's just a question of finding what you're comfortable with and avoiding people or situations which make you feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those with children, have you considered their feelings should you happen to get caught?

Not being a troll, I am just genuinely interested as to how it works for you?

Eve. X

I don't get a kick / thrill out of meeting married men.

As for my children's feelings, they don't need to know the nitty gritty of our relationship, there's more than just cheating that can drive a marriage apart.

I could ask you how your children would feel if they found out about their parents being very open on a sex site for example.....

Pretty sure that if my children found out I were on here, they wouldnt be as pissed as finding out I was going behind their daddy's back..guaranteed.

However, we plan to have stopped doing this by the time our children are old enough to be thinking about sex in general.

I mostly meant that if you were found out and your partner left, leaving your children to have to choose between you both etc. Have you considered how they may feel about you then?

Eve.

It wouldn't necessarily signify the end of our relationship though, it's much more deep rooted than all this.

I can't predict what my children's feelings towards me would be but I think the overall hurt would be the same regardless of how our relationship ended & they wouldn't have to choose.

It's interesting that you're thinking of stopping all this when your children are older.

Fair point, I was just curious is all.

We aren't planning to stop for the children but because we have plans is all. We still have 5-6 years until then.

We don't plan to swing forever. We were faithful to each other for almost ten years and we plan to do so again in time.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who honestly can say all their meets where single or had permission answer no one unless you k ow them on a personal level you can't vouch for their word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who honestly can say all their meets where single or had permission answer no one unless you k ow them on a personal level you can't vouch for their word"

Yes but the point is the...

Knowing they are attached !

Thats the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The views being expressed on this thread are very interesting to me because:

A) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have met other people that I know to be married (and who don't hide that fact); and

B) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have messaged ME all compliments and charm.

At least own what you do and who you do it with instead of presenting the acceptable "all cheaters are scum!" face to the forum but then meeting or messaging in private.

Oh I agree and definitely know a few on here that fall into cat A & B...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who honestly can say all their meets where single or had permission answer no one unless you k ow them on a personal level you can't vouch for their word

Yes but the point is the...

Knowing they are attached !

Thats the difference."
but no one can know that 100% it's easy to say you are if that's what your meet is looking for or deny it if they're not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who honestly can say all their meets where single or had permission answer no one unless you k ow them on a personal level you can't vouch for their word

Yes but the point is the...

Knowing they are attached !

Thats the difference.but no one can know that 100% it's easy to say you are if that's what your meet is looking for or deny it if they're not"

If thats the case then you have a clean conscience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The views being expressed on this thread are very interesting to me because:

A) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have met other people that I know to be married (and who don't hide that fact); and

B) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have messaged ME all compliments and charm.

At least own what you do and who you do it with instead of presenting the acceptable "all cheaters are scum!" face to the forum but then meeting or messaging in private.

Oh I agree and definitely know a few on here that fall into cat A & B...

Probably the same ones. Some of the category A ones surprised me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who honestly can say all their meets where single or had permission answer no one unless you k ow them on a personal level you can't vouch for their word

Yes but the point is the...

Knowing they are attached !

Thats the difference.but no one can know that 100% it's easy to say you are if that's what your meet is looking for or deny it if they're not

If thats the case then you have a clean conscience. "
I live by the credo your business is yours and mine is mine what I dont know or divulge won't hurt

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank

I've been cheated on many a time. Never did I blame the girl. Laid the blame firmly at the man's door where it belongs in my opinion

Frank

Who would do that though?

Who taking their kids to meet the woman dad cheated with for an explanation?

That would make you a pretty shitty mum in my opinion "

Bettys kids have met the woman who slept with there dad and was introduced to her by their dad. The kids dont like her and she is always known as the "other woman" amongst many other colourful names. They see her as the reason mummy and daddy are no longer together and thats why they will never accept her

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The views being expressed on this thread are very interesting to me because:

A) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have met other people that I know to be married (and who don't hide that fact); and

B) there are halves of some of the couples claiming on this thread to abhor those who meet married people who have messaged ME all compliments and charm.

At least own what you do and who you do it with instead of presenting the acceptable "all cheaters are scum!" face to the forum but then meeting or messaging in private.

Oh I agree and definitely know a few on here that fall into cat A & B...

Probably the same ones. Some of the category A ones surprised me!"

and that, dear reader, is why I avoid meeting those from the forum. Those that shout loudest against something are often the biggest culprits. ...it's all just words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not something we would do, having both been cheated on in previous relationships we know just how it feels when you find out that the person you thought loved you is actually a 2 timing scumbag.

In my opinion the minute you cheat too you have no right to complain as you become the cheater/homewrecker. I just feel sorry for the partner/kids who pick up the pieces from someones quick thrill

Frank

I've been cheated on many a time. Never did I blame the girl. Laid the blame firmly at the man's door where it belongs in my opinion

Frank"

Why does anyone have to explain their actions to other people's children....

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