FabSwingers.com forum: First house party

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're hosting our first ever house party and want to make sure it's amazing for our guests (and hopefully us!) We're looking for a couple of naughty ice breakers to set the mood early before orgy/hot tub/tea&coffee/more orgy.

Any suggestions from those who've run or attended fantastic house parties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite people you think will get along but avoid a clique, introduce people to each other, the fun will soon start....

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By *even inchesMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Naked twister

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good shout to start things off

What about games to get things moving, little blindfold teases etc? We've been to a few house parties and there is usually a long period where it feels like a vanilla party and then the pending period where everyone is waiting for a sign to move things along.

Just observations from previous bit we'd love to hear from those with great ideas and experiences

Thanks to those who've posted so far

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Games are ok unless you get people who aren't up for that. Then it would be awkward.

Whenever we've had get togethers, people mingled just fine, happy to chat over a drink.

Porn playing is also a marmite scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think games that force you in to sexual situations aren't conducive to a good party, you are clearly going to have people there that aren't going to fancy each other, and if in the game they have to do something it makes for a very awkward moment,

Maybe look at more vanilla games that get people together and talking rather than something more sexual or risque

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

The house party sounds fun...

We have only done club visits so far (Vanilla Alternative) but like the idea of a house party as much for a social chat and a giggle scenario. I think inviting compatible couples, having some nice music and some good conversation and the rest should flow from there...

We are not far from Peterborough so do feel free to ping us an invite if we meet your requirements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not have a Chair of Pleasure or Pain where people draw a card at random and take whatever is on it...?

You can ask them (making it clear there's no obligation to take part) if they are up for it...that way anyone not keen on cracking on can sit it out....

To make pressure less, you can let the victim nominate whoever they want to administer the card treatment!

Just make sure you're ready to step in if the nominated one declines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some parties I have been to have had the brave hosts and some guests dress a little provocatively to get things going.

Or you could put a little ice-breaker show on? It doesn't have to be too explicit or hard-core, just warm things up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thought, pretty obvious really - when you invite people be upfront and say that you find endless chit-chat at parties dull and your ideal vibe is one where everyone cracks on. Those who don't like that won't come, those who do will....play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have quite few parties and find that we tell people to arrive at 8 and naked by 9.

A few drinks and chat about what clubs we go to etc.

At 9 I generally tell everyone to get naked and help the man nearest to me to get undressed and suck him off. That generally starts party off and everyone joins in.

People generally don't want to sit and chit chat for hours! We all know why we are there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And always dress provocatively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We oftern hold parties and tend to find letting people chat, mingle in there own time works well. Adding games to break the ice can make some people feel uncomfortable best to let everyone just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I think games that force you in to sexual situations aren't conducive to a good party, you are clearly going to have people there that aren't going to fancy each other, and if in the game they have to do something it makes for a very awkward moment,

Maybe look at more vanilla games that get people together and talking rather than something more sexual or risque"

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By *elticcurlsWoman
over a year ago

london

I hosted one party where we had the ladies draw a symbol on themselves (wherever on their body they were comfortable with) and then the boys had a card and had to collect all the symbols. The boys had to work to persuade the girls to give up their symbols and the girls could demand what they wanted in return. It ended with quite a lot of massages, some forfeits and was a good ice breaker. People could play as much as they wanted to or ignore it if they chose.

Just a suggestion, go with whatever you think will suit the group. I find it's handy to have some game options ready and then you can decide on the night whether you want to use them. All the best!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the responses. TBH we hadn't considered that some people may feel uncomfortable with ice breakers, but it's a point we'll take on board.

Really we just want the night of go well and everyone who comes to enjoy themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have quite few parties and find that we tell people to arrive at 8 and naked by 9.

A few drinks and chat about what clubs we go to etc.

At 9 I generally tell everyone to get naked and help the man nearest to me to get undressed and suck him off. That generally starts party off and everyone joins in.

People generally don't want to sit and chit chat for hours! We all know why we are there.

We like this idea as it sets an easy 'out' time for anyone not feeling it but let's people know that the evening will progress without worrying about who makes the move. When at a party it always seems to be Moose who strips off first to get things moving!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not put "Naked or Nickers by Nine" on the invite? That'll sort the sheep out from the players

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We go to parties regularly and we aren't into games, albeit some people like that. We find that introducing people to each other and having a drink and chatting, will soon get people moving, if they want to!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for all the responses. TBH we hadn't considered that some people may feel uncomfortable with ice breakers, but it's a point we'll take on board.

Really we just want the night of go well and everyone who comes to enjoy themselves.

From personal experience I would say make it very clear from the invitation stage how you're planning on the party going and ensure that the people attending are likely to gel on paper at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the responses. TBH we hadn't considered that some people may feel uncomfortable with ice breakers, but it's a point we'll take on board.

Really we just want the night of go well and everyone who comes to enjoy themselves.

From personal experience I would say make it very clear from the invitation stage how you're planning on the party going and ensure that the people attending are likely to gel on paper at least."

We've seen games like beer pong go down a treat, it's a game everyone is present for, but doesn't necessarily need to play as you can make it team based. We played boys V girls and it was great. Each time a ball lands in a cup, the losing side loses a an item of clothing, I would suggest having an order to this though, as we let the winning side dictate the item and were left in shoes and socks. No man looks good in just those. Haha.

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By *isst123Couple
over a year ago

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How about this: 10-20 minutes into the party, a klaxon is sounded, and the last person to take all their clothes off gets fired out of a cannon.

Too much?

Also, do you have a cannon?

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By *isst123Couple
over a year ago

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Just reading through some of the suggestions above. Some interesting ideas

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By *ernowbCouple
over a year ago

Truro

At a few clubs we have been to its normal dress code until a certain time then everyone gets changed into sexy wear...could be a idea to state on the invite "dress code starts at x" ....that way everyone has time to have a social drink and all getting changed at the same time will change the mood if nothings happened already.....by the way we could do with a party invite lol!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Why not put "Naked or Nickers by Nine" on the invite? That'll sort the sheep out from the players

Now I know why I hate house parties

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Why not put "Naked or Nickers by Nine" on the invite? That'll sort the sheep out from the players

Now I know why I hate house parties "

Maybe you haven't been to the right one yet

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Why not put "Naked or Nickers by Nine" on the invite? That'll sort the sheep out from the players

Now I know why I hate house parties

Maybe you haven't been to the right one yet

Trust me, naked is not for me ..... Mr loves being naked but it is a real turn off for me seeing naked bodies, just not sexual at all (except his)

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

Cards against Humanity always break the Ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you do have the "Nickers" option

Which can look far hotter.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cards against Humanity always break the Ice. "
very true. Loser loses an item of clothing.

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By *ittyskitchenWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I recently went to QSLF party-brilliant formula- quick social lots fucking!

Very clear from start what was expected. Arrive 8-8.30. Dress down by 9, everyone was playing by 9.05!!! Brilliant. I for one find games a bit cringy. I'd rather just get stuck in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you attend a party, the general expectation is to play?

Balls to that ha ha! If we don't find someone that we click with and find attractive then we won't play, we need more than half an hour to relax into it and find someone we feel comfortable with too.

Not sure I'd like to waste an evening to leave at 9 because we don't think we want to fuck anyone.

Think we will stick to clubs ha ha..

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cards against Humanity always break the Ice. very true. Loser loses an item of clothing.

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this is how we always get started with our friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How about this: 10-20 minutes into the party, a klaxon is sounded, and the last person to take all their clothes off gets fired out of a cannon.

Too much?

Also, do you have a cannon?"

Alas, no cannon. We have time to find one on eBay before the next party though.....

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I recently went to QSLF party-brilliant formula- quick social lots fucking!

Very clear from start what was expected. Arrive 8-8.30. Dress down by 9, everyone was playing by 9.05!!! Brilliant. I for one find games a bit cringy. I'd rather just get stuck in "

QSLF definitely the most non-stop play you will see anywhere!

Sally

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

So if you attend a party, the general expectation is to play?

Balls to that ha ha! If we don't find someone that we click with and find attractive then we won't play, we need more than half an hour to relax into it and find someone we feel comfortable with too.

Not sure I'd like to waste an evening to leave at 9 because we don't think we want to fuck anyone.

Think we will stick to clubs ha ha..

Eve. X"

Totally agree with you guys on this one. The party we went to had no-one the least bit attractive to me and I told the hosts this would be the case in advance. Nevertheless they still continued to pressure me a..a..awful experience

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So if you attend a party, the general expectation is to play?

Balls to that ha ha! If we don't find someone that we click with and find attractive then we won't play, we need more than half an hour to relax into it and find someone we feel comfortable with too.

Not sure I'd like to waste an evening to leave at 9 because we don't think we want to fuck anyone.

Think we will stick to clubs ha ha..

Eve. X"

Its why we don't go to parties any more.

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By *lushmanMan
over a year ago

newark

Just show them hot tub someone will get in naked everyone follows suit

When and we're is party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going round the room asking people to take it in turns to tell the group about themselves always helps people relax...... oh and name badges!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you attend a party, the general expectation is to play?

Balls to that ha ha! If we don't find someone that we click with and find attractive then we won't play, we need more than half an hour to relax into it and find someone we feel comfortable with too.

Not sure I'd like to waste an evening to leave at 9 because we don't think we want to fuck anyone.

Think we will stick to clubs ha ha..

Eve. X

It's interesting this. I suppose one can split parties into two: normal parties "with the option", and full-on parties with intent to play.

Of course even with the latter spark matters. Really down to careful selection or indeed only getting together people who have played before and liked it. Now that might be the best approach...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you attend a party, the general expectation is to play?

Balls to that ha ha! If we don't find someone that we click with and find attractive then we won't play, we need more than half an hour to relax into it and find someone we feel comfortable with too.

Not sure I'd like to waste an evening to leave at 9 because we don't think we want to fuck anyone.

Think we will stick to clubs ha ha..

Eve. X

If this was us at a party, and we knew we weren't going to play, I'd totally just end the night early. Thank the host, but explain I was unlikely to play, and I didn't want to ruin their vibe. On the pressure side that's a hard one, because you not wanting to play could make any flirting or attempt at getting you to want to play appear pushy. This is why we'd never do that. It's why a natural spark needs to exist in swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of this ideas astound me the qslf nights round like our worsed nightmare, we like to flow in to the night and let play happen organically if at all, anywhere that forces play on you isn't for us, even if there are people there We find physically attractive after a chat with they might not be for us personality wise,

We need to have a bit of a connection at least

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

The party we attend has a social and play environment, which I, personally prefer. No one should be expected to play, whether or not there is someone there they want to play with. It is always helpful to have people there, who will get the party going, so to speak and create an atmosphere, but I think we are all adult enough to create our own

atmosphere and have a good. Also don't agree with the get your clothes off at a certain time!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"The party we attend has a social and play environment, which I, personally prefer. No one should be expected to play, whether or not there is someone there they want to play with. It is always helpful to have people there, who will get the party going, so to speak and create an atmosphere, but I think we are all adult enough to create our own

atmosphere and have a good. Also don't agree with the get your clothes off at a certain time!"

*good time*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow. Well that has split opinion hasn't it? Feel like I need to clear a couple of things up since we've reached the stage where assumptions are flying think and fast!

We're hosting a Party for people we find attractive through conversation and pictures, which is how initial contact is made on FAB. As with any meet, we hope that when were all in the same room, we all find each other attractive and want to progress things to a more intimate level. If anyone doesn't find anyone else attractive, we'd hope that we're all adult enough to say something rather than 'go with the flow' and just carry on. The idea of 'arrive by 8, naughty by 9' is not only to move the evening along if there is a point where people are unsure if it's OK to progress but also to give everyone a visible way out which gives them enough time to go to plan B, maybe a club or other meet rather than lose the whole night.

Our intention has been to get some fun, relaxed people together and make it as easy as possible to have a good night. As with any other meet, whatever we do won't suit everyone on FAB, we do hope it suits the couples we've invited who we believe will get on with each other as well as us.

Phew, well I feel better, how about everyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find the chocolate (or flavoured lube)

Blindfold someone and dab spots of chocolate spread or lube in hard to find places on their chosen person. The blindfolded person has to lick it off. It has to be something strong smelling though or they won't find it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Find the chocolate (or flavoured lube)

Now that is an idea we can approve of!

Thanks for the suggestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" strong smelling though or they won't find it"

Can we PLEASE not go here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your party

we are sure you'll all have a fun evening with the effort you've put in

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