FabSwingers.com forum: Negative to a Wink? / Negative to a Message?

By *opeye-Olive OP Couple
over a year ago

worcester

Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

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By *5DaveMan
over a year ago

loch lomond

I usually hear nothing phew

how about wink off else where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria. "

That's why I'm ignored I'm not special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks always get ignored.....complete waste of time!

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By *opeye-Olive OP Couple
over a year ago

worcester

We tend to ignore the winks, but always respond to messages - even if it's to say "no thanks".

Some people seem to appreciate this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winks are generally deleted, and unless the person is someone i know the person is blocked. Messages, dependant on content are replied to. Unless its just a 'hi hows you' or 'gr8 pic babe' then its deleted. If message is rude, sender is blocked.

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By *opeye-Olive OP Couple
over a year ago

worcester

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria.

That's why I'm ignored I'm not special

Sure that's not true - Group hug people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks - always look at who has winked - however, if they don't take my fancy, I do tend to just ignore them xx

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria.

That's why I'm ignored I'm not special

Just looked at your profile if you messages or winked at me I certainly wouldn't ignor you xx

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

"I like winks - always look at who has winked - however, if they don't take my fancy, I do tend to just ignore them xx"

us too . we see them as an icebreaker..

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I dont respond to winks but always try to reply to a message even if it is "no thanks".

Mercedes x

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By *opeye-Olive OP Couple
over a year ago

worcester

"I dont respond to winks but always try to reply to a message even if it is "no thanks".

Mercedes x"

Us too

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria.

That's why I'm ignored I'm not special

Sure that's not true - Group hug people

it so is true

i wouldnt reply with no thanks to a wink but always try to from a message

as an extra to this question, whats the point of winking if you dont have any pics??? how do i know if i want to wink back or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't acknowledge winks, I just delete.

If I got a message from someone who met my criteria and I didn't fancy them I sent a nice message. When I was meeting I had on my profile I wouldn't respond to anyone outside my criteria: and I never did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of the winker, i may well wink back. See if he's interested enough to send a message and take it from there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes perve from a wink unless its obvious they are not in my preferred age group, then I mass delete

Messages similar though i often respond even if its to tut at them for claiming to have read my profile when clearly they havent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We tend to ignore the winks, but always respond to messages - even if it's to say "no thanks".

Some people seem to appreciate this."

Doesn't matter though does it, if your not going to meet them anyway?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

i ignore all winks, but try to reply to all messages that are not simply fancy a fuck or hi how are you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't see anything wrong at all with winks, some folks seem to be so uptight about them! I always send a message to thank them for the wink, regardless of who they are. The length of the message of course, depends of whether or not, I want to pursue it

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

"We tend to ignore the winks, but always respond to messages - even if it's to say "no thanks".

Some people seem to appreciate this."

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always respond as i feel its only polite.

first impressions and all that.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Winks and friends requests from people who have no photos in either public or private, and cant be bothered to write more than a line in their profile, are a waste of time.

Ive had 4 in a week from couples with no photos and nothing in their profile to go on. It's like advertising something on ebay, and then not telling the potential buyers anything about the thing your selling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria. "

yeahh frocks, i read ur pictures on profile and perv the part about no new single guys, its putting me off from winking but its not puttin me off from....

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

we like winks dont get enuff tho..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont reply to winks wether i like the person or not, to be honest i dont even look at whos winked at me

As for messages, if im going to be honest, if someone messages me i have no interest in then no i dont reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just ignore the winks that we don't fancy the look of, but may be tempted to wink back if we like the look of them.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I personally don't see anything wrong at all with winks, some folks seem to be so uptight about them! I always send a message to thank them for the wink, regardless of who they are. The length of the message of course, depends of whether or not, I want to pursue it"

Uptight no, too busy to reply to the 20 or so a day who cant be bothered to send a message,yes.

How many winks do you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont reply to winks wether i like the person or not, to be honest i dont even look at whos winked at me

As for messages, if im going to be honest, if someone messages me i have no interest in then no i dont reply"

bugger my filthy wink 8mths ago!!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

If someone winks and we are interested we wink back and forget about it. If a message from some who fits oir criteria we will reply either way. Simples.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

If someone winks and we are interested we wink back and forget about it. If a message from some who fits oir criteria we will reply either way. Simples.

Mistress x"

im still too shy to send u messages....or wink....but my hands are doon ma pants!!! hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason i dont reply to winks is because im very unsure about them, i always view winks and things chancers send, you know send out enough winks and someones bound to reply, so im never sure if a wink is sent because they like me or because they have just mass winked ever local woman on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reason i dont reply to winks is because im very unsure about them, i always view winks and things chancers send, you know send out enough winks and someones bound to reply, so im never sure if a wink is sent because they like me or because they have just mass winked ever local woman on the site

ok i put my winking demon to rest NN hehehehe x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

If someone winks and we are interested we wink back and forget about it. If a message from some who fits oir criteria we will reply either way. Simples.

Mistress x

im still too shy to send u messages....or wink....but my hands are doon ma pants!!! hehe"

Er....cough (crap) cough....excuse me

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks always get ignored.....complete waste of time!"

winked n got some lovely people i might end up shagging...no waste of time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er....cough (crap) cough....excuse me

Mistress x"

I love it when u hold my balls and ask me to cough like that heheheh x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x"

i was nervous, literally shitting myself! xxx

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x

i was nervous, literally shitting myself! xxx"

Understandable. Sorry I should have hidden those implements.....

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x

i was nervous, literally shitting myself! xxx

Understandable. Sorry I should have hidden those implements.....

Mistress x"

anal spreaders are illegal in the UK, ur gettin reported!!!!!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x

i was nervous, literally shitting myself! xxx

Understandable. Sorry I should have hidden those implements.....

Mistress x

anal spreaders are illegal in the UK, ur gettin reported!!!!!"

Its a fair cop... oh man in uniform....cuff me officer...flutters eye lashes.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but that is no excuse for the crap..... ew lol

Mistress x

i was nervous, literally shitting myself! xxx

Understandable. Sorry I should have hidden those implements.....

Mistress x

anal spreaders are illegal in the UK, ur gettin reported!!!!!

Its a fair cop... oh man in uniform....cuff me officer...flutters eye lashes.

Mistress x"

yes Mistress ur going down for this and getting banged behind bars, hope u enjoy my big black nightstick banging rattling between ur gaps hehhehehehhee xxx

EvilOfficerRaise

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

our messages get ignored anyways from ppl we message so wink or message dont matter to us

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I would never reply by message to a wink.

I have an elaborate wink system a bit like morse code.

one wink back = You're OK I shall be polite and return one

two winks back on consecutive days = I'm not interested.

two winks back on alternate days = I am not interested and think you are ugly

3 winks back on consecutive days = I'm interested and would like to have funky love with you

3 winks on alternate days = I like one of your friends on your friends list can you tell them?

Works a treat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

a wink i would ignore

a message i would respond to

if someone has taken time to send a message i would always take time to send one back irregardless of whether there was anything down for them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink and I don't fancy them I send a reply saying thanks but not for me or something similar, I like winks there a bit cheeky

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I look at profiles of those who wink at us but to honest we don't really tend to get very many....can't say we wink back or would contact them to say thanks for the wink but not sorry not interested.

But we do reply to most emails if they have obviously read our profile and are not just a one liner or asking us if we want to meet in a couple of hours...tend to just delete those ones.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"Pole for ideas:

If You're winked at by somebody you don't fancy, do you send a "no thank you" message?

Same if you get a message - do you send a "no thanks"?

What's the consensus?

winks are exactly that and if after checking them out and I think there may be a future in it I wink back..just as you would in a club, bar etc etc

Messages...if they have sent a well worded and considered message then I would probably reply purely out of courtesy..

as I'm not bombarded with messages or winks! and have the time to respond..

can understand why some don't though

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I would never reply by message to a wink.

I have an elaborate wink system a bit like morse code.

one wink back = You're OK I shall be polite and return one

two winks back on consecutive days = I'm not interested.

two winks back on alternate days = I am not interested and think you are ugly

3 winks back on consecutive days = I'm interested and would like to have funky love with you

3 winks on alternate days = I like one of your friends on your friends list can you tell them?

Works a treat!"

lol wink code

So it was our friends you were interested in and not us...

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I would never reply by message to a wink.

I have an elaborate wink system a bit like morse code.

one wink back = You're OK I shall be polite and return one

two winks back on consecutive days = I'm not interested.

two winks back on alternate days = I am not interested and think you are ugly

3 winks back on consecutive days = I'm interested and would like to have funky love with you

3 winks on alternate days = I like one of your friends on your friends list can you tell them?

Works a treat!"

Wanted to try your theory out but got too confused!

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read every single message I get... I couldn't possibly respond to each one I just don't have the time, and to be honest most are not worthy of a reply anyway.

I never even get to check my winks... by the time I've dealt with everything else on this site I barely have time to do any actual shagging!!

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

we reply to all messages we delete winks.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We might wink back to the few winks we find interesting, which says 'balls in your court, now write us a decent message', but otherwise we'd delete undesired winks.

Messages we triage into three tiers - how's yous/fucks todays/shag nows/free to chats (deleted on sight). Then the saw your profile and liked it type messages with less content, maybe nervy and a bit tongue-tied but an expressed interest (given a thanks and a short response to coax a longer answer next time). Oh, and longer careful more expressed forms of interest penned uniquely with perhaps an undertone that floats our boat(which get a full response and getting to know over many messages, leading ultimately to a bodily fluid exchange and damp undies all round

)...

Wolf (ooh look a new smiley :P)

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By *opeye-Olive OP Couple
over a year ago

worcester

"We might wink back to the few winks we find interesting, which says 'balls in your court, now write us a decent message', but otherwise we'd delete undesired winks.

)...

Wolf (ooh look a new smiley :P)

Very Impressed! Advanced Message Analysis - Think we should write a computer prgaram using your methods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uptight no, too busy to reply to the 20 or so a day who cant be bothered to send a message,yes.

Unfortunately no, I don't receive 20 or so winks everyday but then, sending a message to say 'thanks for the wink' etc, takes all of 1 minute to type. The choice of course is completely yours, whether you want to or not but as you said, because someone has winked, you automatically assume it's because they can't be bothered to write a message

How many winks do you get

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By *rey AreaMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I always reply with a "thank you for the wink" or the message but than I try to give a gentle let down, after all its only polite and it could just so easily be you that's getting the KB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always reply with a "thank you for the wink" or the message but than I try to give a gentle let down, after all its only polite and it could just so easily be you that's getting the KB"

Of course you guys think it's polite to always respond! We thought that when we first joined but it quickly got boring/annoying/irritating responding (trying to please everybody) responding to 30+ messages a day ......roughly 2/3's were one-liners or copy and pasted messages from folk that hadn't bothered reading our profile

Think about it... 30 a day, 210 a week, 870 a month.... it got tedious

(obviously we didn't actually count but all a rough guestimate).

We are here for fun... not to be trying to let chancres down politely over and over again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks are ignored unless they come from someone already on our friends list.

With messages, they get ignored unless someone meets our criteria.

That's why I'm ignored I'm not special

Who said that???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore winks that aren't for me,

If they don't hold my gaze then I don't reply x

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I would never reply by message to a wink.

I have an elaborate wink system a bit like morse code.

one wink back = You're OK I shall be polite and return one

two winks back on consecutive days = I'm not interested.

two winks back on alternate days = I am not interested and think you are ugly

3 winks back on consecutive days = I'm interested and would like to have funky love with you

3 winks on alternate days = I like one of your friends on your friends list can you tell them?

Works a treat!

lol wink code

So it was our friends you were interested in and not us...

Nooo it was you! FFS it's a simple system how could you get it wrong!

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By *rey AreaMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Exactly what I do

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holy resurrected thread!!

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