FabSwingers.com forum: Might as well give up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I might as well give up on here as I'm having no luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were verified a week ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I still might as we'll give up

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"I might as well give up on here as I'm having no luck "

Blimey...! Good luck with this post so soon after your other one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negativity doesn't tend to attract well on fab dude.

Your update isn't a great way to get positive attention for a start as although frustrating not always getting answeres it makes you seem entitled which I'm sure you are not that way.

Perhaps try putting a torso pic or something on your public folder to tempt your audience a bit more and if it's not working you could try spicing up or changing your profile write up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For heaven's sake get a grip man. Sulky will get you nowhere XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up then. Nobody likes a whinger.

Or maybe, just maybe, show a little more patience and try something new to improve your luck.

Brutal? yes.

True? yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How much patience would you show had the profile over a year neglected it for most of that year as was with a gf as a couple on here so only now I'm really starting to use it would clubs and socials be good to attend x

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP Fab is not the be all and end all to meet potential partners. Maybe give the site a miss for a while.

But as a poster above stated lose the negativity on your profile. No one like someone who complains. Positivity breeds positivity. That's only my opinion though.

Good luck whatever you decide

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you suggest attending socials and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still might as we'll give up "

What about now? Still fancy giving up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I still fancy giving up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you are on a right downer today chin up your still alive and yes try a social or a club but go with a positive attitude (kat) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you suggest attending socials and clubs "

You've been told this is a good idea before.

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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Try putting a few body pics up on your public pics and keep trying.

No one likes a winger!!!

Remember thee is about 50 men to one lady on here so you need to be special to get a reply.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Would you suggest attending socials and clubs "

Socials opened up a lot for me. But how about just traditional dating sites but being honest about what you are looking for? Fab is merely just one site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I still fancy giving up "

Give up then.

Listen to the advice and chat to the people that are trying to help. People who give up will never succeed in what they wanted to achieve. 100percent failure if you give up.

I sound like s councillor again. I need to stop this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I'm on a massive downer but I don't know why if I had money id go to chams to cheer myself up tonight by I'm skint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I'm on a massive downer but I don't know why if I had money id go to chams to cheer myself up tonight by I'm skint "
chin up and yeah chams is good cant go till next sunday xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can't go till mid march x I prefer darlaston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't go till mid march x I prefer darlaston "
only one we go too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still might as we'll give up "

ok....bye

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By *enniwrenCouple
over a year ago

United Kingdom

Quite honestly if you're feeling a little low then being on here isn't going to do you any favours. It looks like men get a LOT of rejections and even a "meet & fuck" isn't going to make you feel better if you're down. Why don't you go away for a while and deal with whatever is making you feel low, then come back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer it in darlaston less clicky even if it is a 2.5 hr drive x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah might do but don't know what's making me feel down x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

" had the profile over a year neglected it for most of that year "

I think there lies the problem. You need to develop a site persona to be successful really. Participate in the forums positively, chat in the cam rooms and keep your photos fresh. You may not get lucky from a few new photos but if you can stay in people's eyeline, so to speak, then you stick in their minds.

Negative threads will achieve the same thing but for the wrong reasons.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer it in darlaston less clicky even if it is a 2.5 hr drive x"
that's a long trip but worth it its only an hour for us xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes deffo worth it can you message me privately to discuss chams x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes deffo worth it can you message me privately to discuss chams x"
no sorry as we have all single men blocked xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night"
sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only go on sundays xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend it's about patience, it's not a log in n arrange a meet. As a single guy myself included, I take time to read profiles and if I meet the criteria will craft an appropriate message with pics attached. You need to have a life other than fab. As has been suggested by others I would say is great advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx"

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night"

Smooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friend it's about patience, it's not a log in n arrange a meet. As a single guy myself included, I take time to read profiles and if I meet the criteria will craft an appropriate message with pics attached. You need to have a life other than fab. As has been suggested by others I would say is great advice."

Yes good advice I may add keeping your profile fresh and occasionally spicing it up if it's not working for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok yes would love too meet you there one Sunday Kat hoping to go 26th of March xx I know it's a long way off ATM but would love to see you there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

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hi there mr fett

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That may work for you but I don't bother reading profiles and send copy and pasted messages, seems to work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok yes would love too meet you there one Sunday Kat hoping to go 26th of March xx I know it's a long way off ATM but would love to see you there x"
ok well I will keep it in mind xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were verified a week ago

yes by someone who has met him a few times - hope shes not reading his post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

hi there mr fett

xx"

Hey darlin good to see you out and about on the forum spreading positivity and hope xx

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

There are plenty of socials held in south wales that are inexpensive to attend

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

"Give up then. Nobody likes a whinger.

Or maybe, just maybe, show a little more patience and try something new to improve your luck.

Brutal? yes.

True? yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah it's just everytime I say I'm attending something crops up mainly me being a dj

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Well you've had meets, and loads of replies to threads. Despite that and some moany threads, which you still got positive advise in you are going to give up?

Only you can decide, but it's not a good ploy to post and hope people are going to say 'please stay'

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah it's just everytime I say I'm attending something crops up mainly me being a dj "

So plan your diary better

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well you've had meets, and loads of replies to threads. Despite that and some moany threads, which you still got positive advise in you are going to give up?

Only you can decide, but it's not a good ploy to post and hope people are going to say 'please stay'

MrB"

Oh my Mr B that's a rather delightfully distracting profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

hi there mr fett

Hey darlin good to see you out and about on the forum spreading positivity and hope xx

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you know me fett like to spread myself about abit xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

hi there mr fett

Hey darlin good to see you out and about on the forum spreading positivity and hope xx

you know me fett like to spread myself about abit xx"

Heheheee I'm not sure that came across as it should hun but yes Mwaaa

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over a year ago

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Oh my Mr B that's a rather delightfully distracting profile pic

Thanks, but I have to admit it isn't me

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

hi there mr fett

Hey darlin good to see you out and about on the forum spreading positivity and hope xx

you know me fett like to spread myself about abit xx

Heheheee I'm not sure that came across as it should hun but yes Mwaaa

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lol mwahhhhhh xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 threads started in an hour,no wonder your not getting any meets,spending far too much time in forums and on Fab generally ??

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

I genuinely think you need to get out & see your mates or family today! Be round people who accept you for you and make you feel good about yourself.

FAB isn't a place for that, it can be cruel,harsh and full of rejection.

Looking at this thread you're craving someone to talk to today.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and find your dummie haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How much patience would you show had the profile over a year neglected it for most of that year as was with a gf as a couple on here so only now I'm really starting to use it would clubs and socials be good to attend x"

You have a recent veri, suggesting that you have had a meet recently.

You are complaining that you've had the profile for over a year, but have neglected it for much of that time - so you've not been putting in any effort for most of your time here and already you feel you should give up.

Well, go on then. We hate whingers here.

I've been here for around 4 years. My last meet was over a year ago, and I have been far more active on fab than you have, and being pro-active in trying to get meets but the planets just haven't aligned properly for me of late.

Should I 'Give up' or should I remain positive and carry on interacting with people.

Negativity ain't my style.

I think you need to ask yourself what your expectations of the site were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my Mr B that's a rather delightfully distracting profile pic

Thanks, but I have to admit it isn't me

MrB"

Hehee all the same a rather sexy pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a couples profile that's why I neglected my single one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok could I add you a friends so we could possibly arrange to meet in chams one day/night sorry don't add singles either however would be happy to see you there sometime xx

Hey Kat

There you go op some positivity right there

Capitalise on that spread the positive vibe and stay a little thick skinned as not all will respond or agree with you but positivity will always attract the right interest and attention

hi there mr fett

Hey darlin good to see you out and about on the forum spreading positivity and hope xx

you know me fett like to spread myself about abit xx

Heheheee I'm not sure that came across as it should hun but yes Mwaaa

lol mwahhhhhh xx"

Hehe

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By *oyle_45Man
over a year ago

Worthing

As a single male, you need a thick skin, a lot of patience and a bit of luck on here but isn't that similar to life in general.

I read people's profiles carefully, consider their location and if I think I'm suitable then I send them a nice message (not copy and paste) normally with a face and torso pic.

Unfortunately I rarely get a reply due to younger, fitter males with bigger dicks but I accept that and wait until someone else takes my fancy.

I've reached the point where I am fed up with the site a few times and I find a short break of a month or two is very cathartic.

My best advice is to get out and meet people at clubs or socials because then you are selling the "real" you rather than the one you try to put into words l. That will help you to strike up friendships that will continue within the site and open up new avenues for you.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

If I was you Id put out a little look at me thread before you go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What you mean

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

I'd say just give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a couples profile that's why I neglected my single one "

Ok so turn things around

put that smile on your face and into your interactions and you will be surprised at the difference if you keep it up and at it

Hehee you know what I mean

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, I'm getting a bit confused here.

You've had recent veris, but you've posted loads of 'can't get a meet threads anyway'

You now say you've a gf most of the time on here.

In this thread you say 'should I try a club' but then later in the thread say you prefer Darlastaon as it's less clicky, implying that you have experience of both.

Good luck in whatever you are looking for.

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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Alright fella, this is definitely not the place to get sympathy. Just look at it this way, this place is full to the brim of single blokes. Stand out, be original and the rest will come naturally. Moaning about it is like a rocking horse, gives you something to do but gets you nowhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No the recent veri was from a female I met in chams when part of a couple I'm now single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a couples profile that's why I neglected my single one "
just out of interest what happened to the couples profile? xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We deleted if when we split

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We deleted if when we split "
ah ok I see xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Didn't think there was much point keeping it as we wernt together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't think there was much point keeping it as we wernt together x"
true xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be easier just to leave mate.

I'm always confused as to why people say they are going to leave ? (Well not really confused, we all know) just delete your account if your not happy or sort yourself out and rewrite your profile and put up a pic or two for the ladies and couples to look at.

With a massive ratio swing of men to ladies you need to stand out a wee bit, telling ladies to shower before a meet and all that won't be getting them all in a flutter. It's all about effort.

Guys make it harder than it needs to be, think out of the box, if you can't get a meet within a month of being in fab then something is seriously wrong .

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Vote leave

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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Might be easier just to leave mate.

With a massive ratio swing of men to ladies you need to stand out a wee bit, telling ladies to shower before a meet and all that won't be getting them all in a flutter. It's all about effort.

Guys make it harder than it needs to be, think out of the box, if you can't get a meet within a month of being in fab then something is seriously wrong . "

I've literally just message some girl, saying why say leave on your status and not leave. Call me a cynic but it's a call for help/sympathy.

Life could always get worse, so what someone rejected you, didn't meet whatever. On the grand scheme of thing it's inconsequential, life's too fleeting to worry about daft stuff like this.

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