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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One liner messages or one word messages. It's just an ice breaker to see if the other is interested, not a job application like a few profiles insist on.

Is that just me thinking it or is there way to many people treating a sex session like a job and not fun in getting to know another person they fancy?

Thoughts ?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

have a decent profile blurb and it probably will work.

don't forget the person you're messaging probably already had a lot of messages that day too so probably is gonna reply to something better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldnt reply or even check the profile of the sender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny you say that because I generally find the men that send one word or one line messages end up making you feel like you are in a job interview ... just ends up being one dull question after another. Be creative and want to be noticed or get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend what the one liner or one word message said I suppose.

If there was a face pic attached, and had a decent profile, I'd be more inclined to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though"

Simply because it implies either a lack of interest or a lack of intelligence.

When messaging people i like the convo to flow naturally and effortlessly.

A one word message would mean us having to make the effort to reply with something to get the convo going, why should we bother doing that when theres plenty of other messages potentially more stimulating to choose from.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though"

If you logged in and had 20 messages, 19 said just hi and 1 had a nice introduction, they'd clearly read your profile and matched what you were looking for, where would your time go? If you got chatting to the 1, would you even bother with the rest? Would you have the time to check the other 19 profiles?

Then do this day after day, week in week out....tedious isn't the word for 1 word or 1 paragraph messages. Sorry but that's the reality for some on here and 20 messages is conservative in some cases.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though

If you logged in and had 20 messages, 19 said just hi and 1 had a nice introduction, they'd clearly read your profile and matched what you were looking for, where would your time go? If you got chatting to the 1, would you even bother with the rest? Would you have the time to check the other 19 profiles?

Then do this day after day, week in week out....tedious isn't the word for 1 word or 1 paragraph messages. Sorry but that's the reality for some on here and 20 messages is conservative in some cases. "

That's a very fair point I guess.

I have to say I click the profile and if they look hot I'll read the profile before I make my decisions. I guess I would not risk missing a good catch, they could be brilliant but sadly unfortunate when it came to education. Not something I mind if they have character.

Plus I fall short of 5 message a day let alone 20 haha.

Must up my game lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One liner messages or one word messages. It's just an ice breaker to see if the other is interested, not a job application like a few profiles insist on.

Is that just me thinking it or is there way to many people treating a sex session like a job and not fun in getting to know another person they fancy?

Thoughts ? "

Meh

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By *tud63Man
over a year ago

Skelmersdale

I always send hi as firather messages am I bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a one word message there's only one thing I can do with it - delete!!

And that's coming from a single male - those of us who have to put in that extra effort and have the toughest time getting meets.

I'm sorry (well, actually I'm not) but if you can't string more than a few words together to form a sentence then communication is going to be exceedingly troublesome.

The way I look at it is this.

If you are messaging someone, you are clearly interested in them, and the purpose of contacting them is to hopefully get them interested in you.

So you need to put in the effort.

Try to think about messages more like writing a letter than having a face to face or phone conversation.

Get what you want to say in your first message. Give them something to get their teeth into.

If they feel that communicating with you is akin to getting blood out of a stone, they simply won't bother.

Let's take the example of the 'Hi' message

Let's imagine, just for a moment that they come back with a response 'Hello'

Where do you go next?

What if they're not online for a few days?

A simple conversation could take weeks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I receive a one word message there's only one thing I can do with it - delete!!

And that's coming from a single male - those of us who have to put in that extra effort and have the toughest time getting meets.

I'm sorry (well, actually I'm not) but if you can't string more than a few words together to form a sentence then communication is going to be exceedingly troublesome.

The way I look at it is this.

If you are messaging someone, you are clearly interested in them, and the purpose of contacting them is to hopefully get them interested in you.

So you need to put in the effort.

Try to think about messages more like writing a letter than having a face to face or phone conversation.

Get what you want to say in your first message. Give them something to get their teeth into.

If they feel that communicating with you is akin to getting blood out of a stone, they simply won't bother.

Let's take the example of the 'Hi' message

Let's imagine, just for a moment that they come back with a response 'Hello'

Where do you go next?

What if they're not online for a few days?

A simple conversation could take weeks.

"

So from what I gather this is a really frustrating subject for some, including yourself sir.

I'm not sure why it's frustrating but I do understand that you feel it should be treated like a job interview. Different views from different people, Point taken thank you. definitely should not encourage Labelling your self as a single male in that context. The way you use it sounds slightly degrading. Big your self up dude.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I hate the 'hi, hi, how are you, I'm good thanks how are you, good thanks' bullshit of 5 messages of nothing meaningful before even starting with people I know let alone from strangers! Say hi then say what you want to say so they can send you at least a meaningful reply.

Add 'I hope you're well' if you feel the need to, make the assumption they are. If all not fine then someone's hardly going to tell a stranger and said stranger probably doesn't actually want to know or care but are conditioned to ask this pleasantly!

Or am I just a very direct northerner?!!

Put it on a plate for me...show me you're the person I want to meet then I'll chat, not the other way round. And those who say just ask me anything..,grrr. Too many messages for all that nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate the 'hi, hi, how are you, I'm good thanks how are you, good thanks' bullshit of 5 messages of nothing meaningful before even starting with people I know let alone from strangers! Say hi then say what you want to say so they can send you at least a meaningful reply.

Add 'I hope you're well' if you feel the need to, make the assumption they are. If all not fine then someone's hardly going to tell a stranger and said stranger probably doesn't actually want to know or care but are conditioned to ask this pleasantly!

Or am I just a very direct northerner?!!

Put it on a plate for me...show me you're the person I want to meet then I'll chat, not the other way round. And those who say just ask me anything..,grrr. Too many messages for all that nonsense. "

I did just try to send you a one liner just for jokes luckily I can't message you as I'm not in the range of what you accept messages. Missed opportunity haha. Probably lucky for me really, you might have kicked off

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though

If you logged in and had 20 messages, 19 said just hi and 1 had a nice introduction, they'd clearly read your profile and matched what you were looking for, where would your time go? If you got chatting to the 1, would you even bother with the rest? Would you have the time to check the other 19 profiles?

Then do this day after day, week in week out....tedious isn't the word for 1 word or 1 paragraph messages. Sorry but that's the reality for some on here and 20 messages is conservative in some cases. "

Exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So from what I gather this is a really frustrating subject for some, including yourself sir.

I'm not sure why it's frustrating but I do understand that you feel it should be treated like a job interview. Different views from different people, Point taken thank you. definitely should not encourage Labelling your self as a single male in that context. The way you use it sounds slightly degrading. Big your self up dude. "

Now where in my post did I say it should be treated like a job interview?

I didn't. Nor do I think that.

As someone else said earlier - the back and forth short, one line messages are more akin to a job interview.

What I'm looking for is good communication - something or a dying art it seems.

As for your comment about me 'Labelling myself as a single male in that context'. I have absolutely no idea what you mean. Your statement lacks, er, context.

My comment about putting in effort was a generic one in respect of the sheer number of single men on fab compared to women and couples. It certainly wasn't personally related to me.

I have absolutely no difficulty in stringing a number of sentences together to form a well constructed message - as you may have gathered from the length of my forum posts.

I have no need to 'big myself up' thank you very much young man. Your comment appears to suggest that I have low self esteem, which could not be further removed from the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we allways want too get too know a person first before comitting too some fun and then when we see some pics we make the next move not until then if they have patience it may be rewarded and sign of being pushy and we hit delete button have fun ..........................

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I hate the 'hi, hi, how are you, I'm good thanks how are you, good thanks' bullshit of 5 messages of nothing meaningful before even starting with people I know let alone from strangers! Say hi then say what you want to say so they can send you at least a meaningful reply.

Add 'I hope you're well' if you feel the need to, make the assumption they are. If all not fine then someone's hardly going to tell a stranger and said stranger probably doesn't actually want to know or care but are conditioned to ask this pleasantly!

Or am I just a very direct northerner?!!

Put it on a plate for me...show me you're the person I want to meet then I'll chat, not the other way round. And those who say just ask me anything..,grrr. Too many messages for all that nonsense.

I did just try to send you a one liner just for jokes luckily I can't message you as I'm not in the range of what you accept messages. Missed opportunity haha. Probably lucky for me really, you might have kicked off "

Nah I'd just delete it. I have high filters for a low bullshit inbox

But here's a hi just to make your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very impersonal, and something that tends to be done by the type of men who scour this site looking for a free shag. Which is not a service I provide! Maybe I'm being harsh, but even if I was to accept I'm wrong, there is simply not enough in the word 'hi' to generate interest when we have enough to be getting on with on the swing scene.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother with any words. Why you put a and attach a pic to the message, in a "Have some of that!" way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother with any words. Why you put a and attach a pic to the message, in a "Have some of that!" way. "

To be fair, I fail to see the distinction between a 'Hi' message and a wink - which you've actually managed to highlight perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is a bit bigger than one worded messages.

I agree that an effort to show interest is needed in the beginning of course but given the circumstances (this being a swinging site with a huge male presence) as a single male you need to set yourself apart from the crowd.

Unfortunately this is flawed by the psychological aspect of lack of physical presence and feeling you get from meeting someone in person. There are people I have met whom at first look I've not been attracted to but after conversation and a chemistry that you feel in person I've found myself more attracted to.

I guess my point is this feels like anew argos catalogue where you are not quite sure what you are getting till you actually meet. So you never really know what approach is going to work unless you make the effort and are completely honest with what you are looking for or expect.

That being said don't be put off by first impressions unless there is a huge no no or turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off here for 4 years and been lucky enough to get plenty of meets, here is a one word message that got me a meet

And a couple of 2 word messages that got me meets

"Phwoar" that worked???

"What's occurring" that worked???

"Dinner date" that worked???

Some like them some don't

I've also written a bleeding essay that got ignored???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One liner messages or one word messages. It's just an ice breaker to see if the other is interested, not a job application like a few profiles insist on.

Is that just me thinking it or is there way to many people treating a sex session like a job and not fun in getting to know another person they fancy?

Thoughts ? "

no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn't approach somebody face to face and say simply hi and leave it at that? You'd make more of an effort surely? Put the same effort into an opening message and you may not fall at the first hurdle...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if the one liner is

'Hi how are you'

Or

'Let me stick my tiny hairy cock in your arse'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One liner messages or one word messages. It's just an ice breaker to see if the other is interested, not a job application like a few profiles insist on.

Is that just me thinking it or is there way to many people treating a sex session like a job and not fun in getting to know another person they fancy?

Thoughts ? "
A wink would be better to gage interest and if winked back then a proper message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most popular atm seems to be just "hi" although I did have just "xx " sent this wk. None have been replied too and I didn't bother checking their profiles either.

A simple message can stand out but one word is not a conversation starter ever !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate the 'hi, hi, how are you, I'm good thanks how are you, good thanks' bullshit of 5 messages of nothing meaningful before even starting with people I know let alone from strangers! Say hi then say what you want to say so they can send you at least a meaningful reply.

Add 'I hope you're well' if you feel the need to, make the assumption they are. If all not fine then someone's hardly going to tell a stranger and said stranger probably doesn't actually want to know or care but are conditioned to ask this pleasantly!

Or am I just a very direct northerner?!!

Put it on a plate for me...show me you're the person I want to meet then I'll chat, not the other way round. And those who say just ask me anything..,grrr. Too many messages for all that nonsense.

I did just try to send you a one liner just for jokes luckily I can't message you as I'm not in the range of what you accept messages. Missed opportunity haha. Probably lucky for me really, you might have kicked off

Nah I'd just delete it. I have high filters for a low bullshit inbox

But here's a hi just to make your day "

Dammit haha, I've been one worded in a message, this day has turned out so bad lol.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Have a look at what people in your potential target audience are saying. If you are trying to meet up with people who say "no one liners" or have replied on here stating their preference for a "proper" introduction, then surely the best thing to do is to boost your chances by giving them what they are hoping for and expecting?

It's just like if a profile says "no cock shots please". You wouldn't send them one would you?

There comes a point where looking into the why's and wherefore's of why one word messages are unpopular becomes a bit by-the-by. It is what it is, so why not adapt and thrive?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Can I ask why you would not even click you profile of the sender, what's the massive put off.

A character trait you don't like of this maybe?

Some people I would say just struggle to get chatting. Just my opinion though"

Personally I just feel like it's laziness

I find with the one word/line messages if you do respond they continue along the same line & I end up doing all the work but if your approaching me it should be you initiating and keeping the chat flowing not me, now I just delete the messages straight away as they aren't worth the effort

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By *he_Raggedy_DoctorMan
over a year ago

Some where in West Sussex

If in sending your first message your treating it like a job interview should my first message read like a CV ? Listing all my previous " employments " ? May be listing all my " skills " ? Lol wouldnt that be funny ? Lol

Trouble is no matter how much you put in to your first message you would be very lucky if it even gets read

Still like job interviews you keep going as this time may be its the one

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Interesting OP how you keep saying it's like a job interview. It's not.

It's about creating attraction for you with a total stranger. One that you are looking to have sex with even. Maybe even go to their house.

It's a lot more important to put the effort in than a job interview

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

To most a 1 liner or 1 word message isn't worth replying to.

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

One liners get deleted especially if it's 'I need my cock sucking' or 'wanna fuck'. If a guy makes the effort to put together a decent message with the requested face pic then I always reply. Doesn't matter if they don't appeal, I give them the courtesy they showed me. I personally find majority of single guys on here just use the site for booty calls. They have no interest in swinging and/or don't actually know what swinging is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'up for a quickie' or 'fancy a fuck?' seems to go down well or something along those lines. Straight to the point. No messing about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have a look at what people in your potential target audience are saying. If you are trying to meet up with people who say "no one liners" or have replied on here stating their preference for a "proper" introduction, then surely the best thing to do is to boost your chances by giving them what they are hoping for and expecting?

It's just like if a profile says "no cock shots please". You wouldn't send them one would you?

There comes a point where looking into the why's and wherefore's of why one word messages are unpopular becomes a bit by-the-by. It is what it is, so why not adapt and thrive?

"

Just to make the point, I'm not a one line kinda guy I just see people writing this in their profiles along with things like people don't read profile comments. Just sounds silly to write something that is intended for people that don't read anyways lol. Just asking where and why the standards are set by so many so similar even if they don't know each other. As for adapting, just be your self, don't adapt for others and if some one gets on with you then happy days, if not then it's not the end of the world lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi hows you xxx

hello x

ill meet

hello sexy

hi sweetie

hi honey

ill ruin you

ill ruin you pussy

ill have you gaggin

hi hows your day

ect ect ect all get deleted and I get 100s of these a week complete waste of my time let alone theirs

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

I personally love to go in great detail about very naughty erotic subjects

one word or even, one single sentence message, just doesn't cut it for me after all we're all here for fun, check me out then message me anything & you'll see what I mean

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

We've had huge convos with guys which in the end lead to nothing and ended up meeting some great one liners. We always at least read the profile of people who have messaged us. You just never know who you may miss out on! Each to there own I guess.

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