FabSwingers.com forum: Becoming too attached...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok. I will confess. This has happened to me on fab and yep it's hurtful when I thought a regular monthly meet has turned out to be the opposite and I have been met with a wave of indifference. I know this is not a dating site but emotions and sex always go hand in hand for me and I now wish I had never taken things further. I have looked at his profile online and he doesn't get in touch. I have never chased after him in any way as it is not my policy to do any running. However deep down I know if he was keen he would be suggesting a meet. I have continued to meet others of course but I would have been happy to just meet him really...Just one of the pitfalls of having sex I guess...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i chase if i think they're worth it. have to do too much and i'll lose interest. know what you mean about being put last, but plenty of guys will put you first...even if only for a little while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't change your "policy" on not doing the running then he may never know how you feel eh? Why not tell him?

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Yes been there ... and even not so long ago thought we had met a real sound guy as a reg that turned out to not be as we we led to believe

I am still of the belief that lots (and I don't mean all) women find sex an emotional thing ... whether it's friendship or more especially as a single

Wish you well Hun and I know exactly how you feel xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a thin line between playing it cool and waiting for them to come running and appearing too disinterested for them to think it is worth pursuing.

Perhaps a casual 'hi, how have you been?' sort of message would get a response and then you can gauge whether it is cool, warm or hot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes been there ... and even not so long ago thought we had met a real sound guy as a reg that turned out to not be as we we led to believe

I am still of the belief that lots (and I don't mean all) women find sex an emotional thing ... whether it's friendship or more especially as a single

Wish you well Hun and I know exactly how you feel xx "

Yep I need to have an attachment to enjoy sex. My old fb used to say that only men see sex as a sporting activity! Another saying that comes to mind is that men play at love to get sex and women play at sex to get love...Not sure I agree totally with that though!

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By *ixedblkinjectionMan
over a year ago

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"There is a thin line between playing it cool and waiting for them to come running and appearing too disinterested for them to think it is worth pursuing.

Perhaps a casual 'hi, how have you been?' sort of message would get a response and then you can gauge whether it is cool, warm or hot!

Cannot agree more!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a thin line between playing it cool and waiting for them to come running and appearing too disinterested for them to think it is worth pursuing.

Perhaps a casual 'hi, how have you been?' sort of message would get a response and then you can gauge whether it is cool, warm or hot!

That's a good point. I tend to prefer guys to do the running as I hate the idea of coming over as too keen... Especially as I've become older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes been there ... and even not so long ago thought we had met a real sound guy as a reg that turned out to not be as we we led to believe

I am still of the belief that lots (and I don't mean all) women find sex an emotional thing ... whether it's friendship or more especially as a single

Wish you well Hun and I know exactly how you feel xx

that's not a saying I've heard before but its quite a good analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes been there ... and even not so long ago thought we had met a real sound guy as a reg that turned out to not be as we we led to believe

I am still of the belief that lots (and I don't mean all) women find sex an emotional thing ... whether it's friendship or more especially as a single

Wish you well Hun and I know exactly how you feel xx

Well I'm a guy and can understand where your coming from. To me it's not a sport.

Some people I think, can get emotional. Some see it as just sex. At least your honest. And that goes a long way.

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"Yes been there ... and even not so long ago thought we had met a real sound guy as a reg that turned out to not be as we we led to believe

I am still of the belief that lots (and I don't mean all) women find sex an emotional thing ... whether it's friendship or more especially as a single

Wish you well Hun and I know exactly how you feel xx

That's a good saying and quite possibly true ... when you find a connection it's great

I had a couple of fb's when I was single and we never had any expectations from each other but we're amazing friends ... when I got together with Mr Inked all of a sudden they couldn't even be friends for whatever reason. So i see it that it was the great sex that made us friends in their eyes ... where in my eyes our friendship made great sex

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