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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs"
Some couples assume that they can treat a guy like an unpaid prostitute on here. If I meet a couple I want mutual respect, don't ask me to pay for the hotel room etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs Some couples assume that they can treat a guy like an unpaid prostitute on here. If I meet a couple I want mutual respect, don't ask me to pay for the hotel room etc. "

That's interesting. We tend to find that a lot of single men aren't very proactive with regards to accommodation, and tend to look to the couple to make appropriate arrangements, which we feel isn't fair. I think if a man wants to be treated equally, and not as an unpaid prostetute (which we do, though I'm aware other couple don't), the man should take equal responsibility for arrangements. We've only gone down the hotel route once, but we decided to treat the event as a night out in London. We paid because it was our room for the night. It was an exception though. We would find it very awkward booking a hotel room just for sex, and negotiating splitting the cost, so we avoid hotels for that reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs Some couples assume that they can treat a guy like an unpaid prostitute on here. If I meet a couple I want mutual respect, don't ask me to pay for the hotel room etc.

That's interesting. We tend to find that a lot of single men aren't very proactive with regards to accommodation, and tend to look to the couple to make appropriate arrangements, which we feel isn't fair. I think if a man wants to be treated equally, and not as an unpaid prostetute (which we do, though I'm aware other couple don't), the man should take equal responsibility for arrangements. We've only gone down the hotel route once, but we decided to treat the event as a night out in London. We paid because it was our room for the night. It was an exception though. We would find it very awkward booking a hotel room just for sex, and negotiating splitting the cost, so we avoid hotels for that reason."
I'm talking about expecting you to pay fully for the hotel, or messaging at the last minute thinking you can just turn up without any notice. People will do it though.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

The couples I've played have always made me feel like the most important person there. I prefer playing with couples more than singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only met one couple, and it was a great experience all round, and I plan seeing them again when our diaries align. It was quite focused on me, and they were like a little team working together, which I liked.

That's the only time I've done it though, because no other couple I've ever had contact with made me feel like it was something I would want to get involved with - all gave me the impression I'd be some sort of performing added extra to their experience rather than wanting me to really be involved. I don't want to be a bit part.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We have had a grand total two different ladies join us for a Mff 3some. One of those we enjoyed very much as the lady invovled informed us she did too, but will remain a one off I think as at the time I think she just wanted to dabble a little.

The other we are still good friends with now and we all had a great time on more than one occasion.

What we look for is to include someone equally in our play together. Chat, laugh and giggle together. Then later share each other physically in a way that everyone gets off on, whatever that maybe. We don't have anything beyond the 'civilised' boundaries when we are playing with ladies. We'll happily discuss any fantasies they have too. We want every to have as much fun and feel as welcome as anyone else involved at that moment in time, kinda of become a 3some rather than a couple playing with a single.

Convincing others of that.... not so easy lol.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Apologies for the typos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of meeting couples is mostly good but sometimes you can feel more like a spare part

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Generally as good as with singles. I think that's because I'm quite good at finding out if we'd be compatible or not fairly early on. I'm not interested in being a sort of tittilation piece brought in as a present to one half; unless we are all playing I have no interest in it.

I've only had one bad play meet since I started swinging and that was with a couple where the woman turned out to be more of a pillow princess than the rampant bisexual she'd been portrayed as being. That fucked me off and being the hotheaded 22yr old I was then, I quickly got dressed and left.

I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally as good as with singles. I think that's because I'm quite good at finding out if we'd be compatible or not fairly early on. I'm not interested in being a sort of tittilation piece brought in as a present to one half; unless we are all playing I have no interest in it.

I've only had one bad play meet since I started swinging and that was with a couple where the woman turned out to be more of a pillow princess than the rampant bisexual she'd been portrayed as being. That fucked me off and being the hotheaded 22yr old I was then, I quickly got dressed and left.

I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage."

I would actually love to watch Marc with another woman (more than joining in myself) by its so hard to find that. Most women, understandably, just seek single men for that type of play it seems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage."

I don't think it's actually that uncommon, but because it's harder to achieve not many couples advertise this desire. I for one love either watching my husband or hearing about it. But we would not pursue this fantasy via Fab because we feel it would be too difficult to find a single lady who is willing for me to watch her with him.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I don't think it's actually that uncommon, but because it's harder to achieve not many couples advertise this desire. I for one love either watching my husband or hearing about it. But we would not pursue this fantasy via Fab because we feel it would be too difficult to find a single lady who is willing for me to watch her with him. "

Why do you feel it's difficult to find? I know myself and a few other fem friends are interested in this kind of play but the majority of profiles seem geared towards satisfying the fem of the couple - be that through mmfs or ff play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have had a grand total two different ladies join us for a Mff 3some. One of those we enjoyed very much as the lady invovled informed us she did too, but will remain a one off I think as at the time I think she just wanted to dabble a little.

The other we are still good friends with now and we all had a great time on more than one occasion.

What we look for is to include someone equally in our play together. Chat, laugh and giggle together. Then later share each other physically in a way that everyone gets off on, whatever that maybe. We don't have anything beyond the 'civilised' boundaries when we are playing with ladies. We'll happily discuss any fantasies they have too. We want every to have as much fun and feel as welcome as anyone else involved at that moment in time, kinda of become a 3some rather than a couple playing with a single.

Convincing others of that.... not so easy lol."

Totally agree. For three people to play as equals is the best way. But for that to work everybody has to get on well. Also agree that it's best not to have too many boundaries. We don't want to give a man joining us a list of dos and don't - we don't want him to feel like he's serving our needs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I don't think it's actually that uncommon, but because it's harder to achieve not many couples advertise this desire. I for one love either watching my husband or hearing about it. But we would not pursue this fantasy via Fab because we feel it would be too difficult to find a single lady who is willing for me to watch her with him.

Why do you feel it's difficult to find? I know myself and a few other fem friends are interested in this kind of play but the majority of profiles seem geared towards satisfying the fem of the couple - be that through mmfs or ff play."

I guess because it is well known that single ladies are in the minority and most sought after, therefore have a lot of choice. Also the profiles I see of single ladies looking for an MF couple, the ladies impression I get is that they will want to play with me too. And I don't think I'm sufficiently bi to please a lady. Prepared to be wrong but I don't think I could get away with requesting that she only plays with my husband and I watch. It's easier at clubs and parties, where we can get to know people in person. There is a lady who we both play with, whom we met through a male friend. I enjoy watching her with my husband. But that just evolved that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been really lucky with the couples I've met. We've always chatted for a while before meeting to make sure we all get on, and I like to make sure the women are fully bisexual and not just trying to be, to appease their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice when you know what rules each of you have got ie no anal no kissing no slapping etc you need some rules in place and need to k ow what your getting into

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I guess because it is well known that single ladies are in the minority and most sought after, therefore have a lot of choice. Also the profiles I see of single ladies looking for an MF couple, the ladies impression I get is that they will want to play with me too. And I don't think I'm sufficiently bi to please a lady. Prepared to be wrong but I don't think I could get away with requesting that she only plays with my husband and I watch. It's easier at clubs and parties, where we can get to know people in person. There is a lady who we both play with, whom we met through a male friend. I enjoy watching her with my husband. But that just evolved that way. "

Okies, I understand it better now. I'm as bi as bi can be but I've met a few couples where it really was just a meet in which the fem watched me with her partner. I do attend clubs but the assumption when I'm bi does tend to be that it will be a full threesome. I guess I should clarify in my profile that it's something I am interested in.

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

My experiences with couples have always been positive, enjoyable and memorable. I have always felt equal to everyone in the threesome and make an effort to make sure that I contribute to the equality.

I've also played with couple where sometimes there is a bi-reluctance on the female side, but this has never been a problem; we can still find plenty to enjoy as a threesome. I always talk about limits and I have helped at least one lady in a couple explore her bi side very thoroughly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs"

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My 3some experiences are generally very good, as a single man involved in MMF and MFF scenarios. I'd say that its all down to good qualification of what all three are wanting and recognising and agreeing that each of the three have their own needs. And that each of us is independent and confident in wanting and having the relationship. The 3some experiences that haven't gone particularly well for me are generally down to couple immaturity (eg newbies, insecure couples, and couples where there is a dominant partner with an insecure/unwilling partner, and unhappy couples). MMF and FFM is very complex, but through qualifying everyones' hopes ... you can generally get the right threesome relationships, and really make some great and long lasting friendships. I can't comment on club meets because they're a different paradigm .... generally just for one night sex, which though exciting sexually are generally emotionally disappointing. xxx, Mike

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It's one extreme or other but usually I have found they think it's more for them than a 50/50 thing

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I've been really lucky with the couples I've met. We've always chatted for a while before meeting to make sure we all get on, and I like to make sure the women are fully bisexual and not just trying to be, to appease their partner.

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Yes! This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I don't think it's actually that uncommon, but because it's harder to achieve not many couples advertise this desire. I for one love either watching my husband or hearing about it. But we would not pursue this fantasy via Fab because we feel it would be too difficult to find a single lady who is willing for me to watch her with him.

Why do you feel it's difficult to find? I know myself and a few other fem friends are interested in this kind of play but the majority of profiles seem geared towards satisfying the fem of the couple - be that through mmfs or ff play.

I guess because it is well known that single ladies are in the minority and most sought after, therefore have a lot of choice. Also the profiles I see of single ladies looking for an MF couple, the ladies impression I get is that they will want to play with me too. And I don't think I'm sufficiently bi to please a lady. Prepared to be wrong but I don't think I could get away with requesting that she only plays with my husband and I watch. It's easier at clubs and parties, where we can get to know people in person. There is a lady who we both play with, whom we met through a male friend. I enjoy watching her with my husband. But that just evolved that way. "

I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible "

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough."

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. "
Really I like to wink and flex my muscles to the guy watching like Patrick Bateman in American psycho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. Really I like to wink and flex my muscles to the guy watching like Patrick Bateman in American psycho "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. Really I like to wink and flex my muscles to the guy watching like Patrick Bateman in American psycho "

You're not actually that bad, are you Tunnel?

And Ruby, yes it was. I really have no interest in exhibition. I guess it's a sort of selfish ego kink for me? Meh. I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. Really I like to wink and flex my muscles to the guy watching like Patrick Bateman in American psycho

You're not actually that bad, are you Tunnel?

And Ruby, yes it was. I really have no interest in exhibition. I guess it's a sort of selfish ego kink for me? Meh. I don't know."
No just joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. Really I like to wink and flex my muscles to the guy watching like Patrick Bateman in American psycho

You're not actually that bad, are you Tunnel?

And Ruby, yes it was. I really have no interest in exhibition. I guess it's a sort of selfish ego kink for me? Meh. I don't know."

There are more kinks out there than there are words available to describe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of couples is that they sadly arent interested in me at all and rarely even reply to messages.. last meet I had arranged just before Christmas the guy cancelled citing my long hair as off-putting. Oh well, still open to offers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet a couple to play that is high on my list to do just trying to find a willing couple

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Quite simple for us, We don't do watching, it especially does nothing for me in particular.

We are more like ants, always moving, always doing something, to someone, somewhere.

S

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Apologies OP, I think my discussion on one part of my rather broad sexuality has lead to a bit of a tangent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs Some couples assume that they can treat a guy like an unpaid prostitute on here. If I meet a couple I want mutual respect, don't ask me to pay for the hotel room etc.

That's interesting. We tend to find that a lot of single men aren't very proactive with regards to accommodation, and tend to look to the couple to make appropriate arrangements, which we feel isn't fair. I think if a man wants to be treated equally, and not as an unpaid prostetute (which we do, though I'm aware other couple don't), the man should take equal responsibility for arrangements. We've only gone down the hotel route once, but we decided to treat the event as a night out in London. We paid because it was our room for the night. It was an exception though. We would find it very awkward booking a hotel room just for sex, and negotiating splitting the cost, so we avoid hotels for that reason."

I've met up with a few couples on here and all of them have be nice and have treated me fairly, in regards to paying for rooms and stuff I always offer to pay half for the rooms as otherwise it's not fair if either I or they have to pay for everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondered what people's experiences are? Do single folk find they are treated well by couples or get what they are looking for? What are couple's expectations from a single playmate? What sort of things lead to disappointment? Referring to both club and private meets.

Mrs Some couples assume that they can treat a guy like an unpaid prostitute on here. If I meet a couple I want mutual respect, don't ask me to pay for the hotel room etc.

That's interesting. We tend to find that a lot of single men aren't very proactive with regards to accommodation, and tend to look to the couple to make appropriate arrangements, which we feel isn't fair. I think if a man wants to be treated equally, and not as an unpaid prostetute (which we do, though I'm aware other couple don't), the man should take equal responsibility for arrangements. We've only gone down the hotel route once, but we decided to treat the event as a night out in London. We paid because it was our room for the night. It was an exception though. We would find it very awkward booking a hotel room just for sex, and negotiating splitting the cost, so we avoid hotels for that reason.

I've met up with a few couples on here and all of them have be nice and have treated me fairly, in regards to paying for rooms and stuff I always offer to pay half for the rooms as otherwise it's not fair if either I or they have to pay for everything"

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Agreed. I always pay half the hotel costs too.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Apologies OP, I think my discussion on one part of my rather broad sexuality has lead to a bit of a tangent. "

Oh yeah, Sorry OP, well as far as costs etc. We tend to play away so make a proper night of it, Hotel paid for by us etc. & as said in my previous post we don't really do the watching thing. Our next playmate has asked for a little FF time before full play & I'll probably go to the bar & watch rugby or something for a little while.

Watching two others play no matter what sex doesn't do a lot for me, being another involved in the play does.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think single men seem to take advantage of women in terms of trying to get all they can. Once they're done they're done and want to just go until next time. Not all but most singles.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Generally as good as with singles. I think that's because I'm quite good at finding out if we'd be compatible or not fairly early on. I'm not interested in being a sort of tittilation piece brought in as a present to one half; unless we are all playing I have no interest in it.

I've only had one bad play meet since I started swinging and that was with a couple where the woman turned out to be more of a pillow princess than the rampant bisexual she'd been portrayed as being. That fucked me off and being the hotheaded 22yr old I was then, I quickly got dressed and left.

I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I would actually love to watch Marc with another woman (more than joining in myself) by its so hard to find that. Most women, understandably, just seek single men for that type of play it seems."

Something wed like to experience too lol. The majority of ladies see that as 'performong' though.

As I said before we'll discuss it and only do what everyone wants to do so as yet we've not been lucky enough to experience that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally as good as with singles. I think that's because I'm quite good at finding out if we'd be compatible or not fairly early on. I'm not interested in being a sort of tittilation piece brought in as a present to one half; unless we are all playing I have no interest in it.

I've only had one bad play meet since I started swinging and that was with a couple where the woman turned out to be more of a pillow princess than the rampant bisexual she'd been portrayed as being. That fucked me off and being the hotheaded 22yr old I was then, I quickly got dressed and left.

I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I would actually love to watch Marc with another woman (more than joining in myself) by its so hard to find that. Most women, understandably, just seek single men for that type of play it seems."

Yeah we have been wanting to do this for sometime. Mr is happy and has watched me play a few times and really enjoys it I would like to sit and want him him with a female but again finding it hard to find

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be comfortable with any meet where someone was just watching rather than fully participating, be that the male or the female. But I'm not an exhibitionist and others are, it may be more difficult to find but I'm sure it's not impossible

I wouldn't say I'm an exhibitionist - it's just a dynamic I am interested in that happens to involve being watched by another person. I could quite happily meet the male half of the couple without the fem's presence but being aware that it will be discussed later. It's an odd sexually selfish thing for me that I can't quite analyse well enough.

Maybe exhibitionist is the wrong word. I could also happily meet the male half of a couple alone even if they would discuss it later, but it's the idea of there being another person there watching and not participating that would be the big turn off for me. "

I think with me, I have a fantasy about being forced to sit in the corner whilst my husband or lover or both enjoy a beautiful curvaceous lady and make me jealous. Obviously we're not going to advertise on Fab for a lady meet this fantasy, and even if we found an obliging lady the fantasy probably wouldn't pan out the way I hoped. However I've had variations on this eg watching my husband play at clubs/parties, and one of the hottest scenarios is when we attended a club with one of our guys and he invited his other couple. I spent the night taking it in turns for my lover's attention. Then my husband joined the kinky mix by flirting with the other lady in front of her husband whilst I was naked on the dance floor with my lover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies OP, I think my discussion on one part of my rather broad sexuality has lead to a bit of a tangent. "

Not at all. I deliberately kept my questions open to see what people would come up with and see what direction this thread would go in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only once it was akward other times it was fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies OP, I think my discussion on one part of my rather broad sexuality has lead to a bit of a tangent.

Oh yeah, Sorry OP, well as far as costs etc. We tend to play away so make a proper night of it, Hotel paid for by us etc. & as said in my previous post we don't really do the watching thing. Our next playmate has asked for a little FF time before full play & I'll probably go to the bar & watch rugby or something for a little while.

Watching two others play no matter what sex doesn't do a lot for me, being another involved in the play does.

S"

Those that are using the hotel for the night to sleep should pay. Those that are not paying should leave at the end of the evening. However if the hotel is being booked purely for the purposes of sex and not for staying over, then costs should be split. As I said before I would like to see more proactivity from single men and not assume that it is up to the couple to sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met lots of couples and almost always had a great time. There's been the odd unfortunate incident but very rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had so many bad experiences when i met couples it just put me off, i have not meet a couple for many years now, i got fed up with the back lash when one or the other got jealous and fell out, of course it was my fault! fed up with the male half trying to get me to meet him alone behind her back while shes telling me what a wonderful relationship they have, fed up with the drama of it all, single guys are just hassle free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experiences have been great......but then I check and choose appropriate profiles where I know I can fulfil their needs....and they mine.

Both cuckold fun and mmf

Lots of good fun had....long may it continue! Always up for more......

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"The couples I've played have always made me feel like the most important person there. I prefer playing with couples more than singles"

thats our preference to make the single the centre of our attention xx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"The couples I've played have always made me feel like the most important person there. I prefer playing with couples more than singles"

Think it is the focus of the dynamic.

There is something, for me, about resiprosity not a one way street, well in a tri way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quotes

thats our preference to make the single the centre of our attention xx

That's why I think it's more better meeting couples lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had so many bad experiences when i met couples it just put me off, i have not meet a couple for many years now, i got fed up with the back lash when one or the other got jealous and fell out, of course it was my fault! fed up with the male half trying to get me to meet him alone behind her back while shes telling me what a wonderful relationship they have, fed up with the drama of it all, single guys are just hassle free "

Been there and got the t-shirt too. Majority are solid though and no come back. Had the contact from both sides... But always walked away when it gets underhand or behind backs.

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only played with two couples and that was at a club both times.

They both made me the centre of attention which was lovely and on both occasions the wife watched me have sex with their husband.

I'm not sure I'd be comfortable meeting a couple away from a club environment though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've not had the pleasure of a single women join us if yet but if we did we would both make them welcome and centre of attention. We've meet a couple of single guys sometimes mr is happy to sit and watch mrs play (turns him on) sometimes he joins in and mrs pays the same amount of attention to both the single guy and mr. We make sure that everyone enjoys and is happy with fun. The couples that are into swinging but get jealous really shouldn't be swingers. We both as a couple are completely happy and comfortable with each other playing and get very turned on by seeing each other playing.

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By *ustAnotherOfMeCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I rarely get disappointed with meets. I would like to find more couples where the fem wants to watch the man but it's not that common sadly - female play seems to be all the rage.

I don't think it's actually that uncommon, but because it's harder to achieve not many couples advertise this desire. I for one love either watching my husband or hearing about it. But we would not pursue this fantasy via Fab because we feel it would be too difficult to find a single lady who is willing for me to watch her with him.

Why do you feel it's difficult to find? I know myself and a few other fem friends are interested in this kind of play but the majority of profiles seem geared towards satisfying the fem of the couple - be that through mmfs or ff play."

Is this a wind up?

Ideally that's pretty much what we're looking for...but in the short time we've been on here we've already come to the conclusion that another woman in the mix would primarily have eyes only for the lady. So much so, we updated our profile from looking for another woman to looking for a couple and see how it goes...

Being a bi-curious female (with an emphasis on the curious) and wanting to share my man, are we looking for a Holy Grail scenario?

We would both love to be proved wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as a single man i would pay for the hotel? For one they're are so many fakes looking for wank fodder. I like the hotel as a meet whether staying or not. It's nuetral territory. I think for couples with singles especially for first meets that could be a big thing. There is a bit of a stigma being the single male looking for couples, like well hes so desperate and couples have to waft through the shit to find the right one other couples are just a more likely to go good arrangement. Its similar with clubs, as a single male you dont really want to look awakward or nervous in a club while the couples are hitting it off. I don't think i'll ever go to a club i sure as hell dont want to feel that kind of anxiety but trying to find a way to break into the scene well ideas this way.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We tend to only play with single guys at clubs or parties. Far as we can tell they get exactly what they are after, but then its pretty simple as we have sat chatting to them.

Only thing wiggles has demanded is if at club, door stays open, as she loves to be watched.

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

Cant say ive ever had a bad meet with a couple but generaly meet for a drink 1st and have a chat about bounderies etc and have never been made to feel like a piece of meat. guess ive been lucky.

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