FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers club first time

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there,

My partner and I are going to a new swingers club that is opening up on sat night and I am a tad nervous to say the least.

Could anyone give me any advice on what to expect? and to be honest I am so unsure of how it all works?

Do people just randomly come up and ask you if they can join in or what?

Very excited but wuite confused.

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's usually just like a party really. There's often some social interaction over a drink, if you are so inclined.

It really depends who is there and what their personal qualities are, to whether or not they will come and ask you to play, but it's unlikely to happen without a little interaction first.

If you welcome those type of advances just display the fact that you are up for it, and no doubt someone will bite, lol.

Just go with an open mind, set your boundaries before you go if you feel you need to, but most of all just enjoy the experience.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

As the post above says, all applies. We are regs at our local swingers club and infact get most of our meets there now. Saves time on no show meets, or going to a house and you dont click, at least at a club there are lots of options. Have a ball you will be fine we love clubs. xxx let us know how you got on. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New club what club more info please. Just relax and enjoy even if you just go to socialise the first time just do what your comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahhhh remember our first time aaages ago lol

we nearly didnt go in! but were happy we did at the end!

loved it!

everything else has been said already further up this list.

I hope you will enjoy it!!

Sandra x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone should be pretty chilled and will probably know you are both first timers lol you will find that most experienced swingers are fairly chilled and wont pressure you at all. just go there...soak up the atmosphere and just enjoy finding out what it's all about

if the temptation takes you, then get chatting to others and mention that you are interested in playing but are unsure of how...people will be more than helpful i'm sure! you both have each other and can always just get horny watching others play and then go to a playroom by yourselves and enjoy each other.

hope you both have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you very much for all the info and support. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One more quick question. lol

What shall i wear? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One more quick question. lol

What shall i wear? x

Before you decide, check if the club has a dress code, as most do.

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By *imandkirstyCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Hi,

We love clubs, had plenty of fun at them. They can be a bit hit and miss though of course so dont worry if you have a couple of times when nothing clicks for you.

"Could anyone give me any advice on what to expect?"

2 we have been to were BYO alcohol so if you want a drink then check if you need to bring it. 1 was licensed.

Generally clubs have private play rooms as well as public play areas and sometimes dark rooms.

Private rooms are where you invite 1 or more couple/single to have some fun. Open areas (dark or not) are kinda free for all but you still should ask its ok before actually jumping on someone. You can obviously still say no in an open play area.

"and to be honest I am so unsure of how it all works? Do people just randomly come up and ask you if they can join in or what?"

Ideally, some hot couple/single will come up to you and ask how you are etc and if you want mind blowing fun lol.. in reality I have personally observed that everyone is about as scared as you to initiate conversation unless pre-arranged. But, what have you got to loose? If you see someone you like, strike up a conversation with them dont wait for them to come to you. You have nothing to loose

Good luck and just go for it

Tim

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

we find clubs work best if you already know (through fab etc) a few couples going, so you've already broken the ice.

Otherwise you can sometimes feel a bit left out. Thats when you hear people moaning about cliques etc.

Also it's best to go with no plan, and just go with the flow. We've had some great nights that way

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