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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "If they're married or attached they don't tick my boxes. Simple. | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes | |||
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"Ok let's say their not cheating and there other partner knows and you've had confirmation from their partner. Would you care? "Yes we would. Why go to all the trouble of seeking confirmation that they were allowed out to play? | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
"I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached. Thanks for clarifying | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "Wouldn't bother me in the slightest | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying "That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for. Miss | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "Not bothered at all. Its got nothing to do with us on here why they are meeting without partners, its their decision. | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. " Do you believe those that say they are single ? | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "the problem is that they don't normally volunteer that information first off...so based on that, yes I would care | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me "*could | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ?"  | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
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Do you ever play in clubs?"Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple. | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "if i knew upfront then yes. | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. " | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ?" Yes. I take people at their word. I'm aware that many people lie about it, but I'm actually really pleasantly surprised at the number of people who have just said that they're cheating if they are. I can't do much more than ask. It's about appeasing my own conscience. | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me "Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
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Do you ever play in clubs?
Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple."Id be interested to know how you can establish they are a proper couple? | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ? Yes. I take people at their word. I'm aware that many people lie about it, but I'm actually really pleasantly surprised at the number of people who have just said that they're cheating if they are. I can't do much more than ask. It's about appeasing my own conscience." So as long as you've asked the question then it's all fine, as long as they give you the right answer | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all "actually its a swingers site... otherwise it would be called fabsex | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex "And swinging is primarily about sex | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex " This. I'm sick of reading 'it's a sex site'. No, it isn't. And that's not a valid excuse for being a shit to another. | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all "I don't think of it as a sex site but a swingers site and I can blame him because mine is one of those profile the OP mentions | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
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Do you ever play in clubs?
Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple.
Id be interested to know how you can establish they are a proper couple?"Erm by asking questions? Seeing wedding rings. Asking about how they met etc, just the same as people ask us. Dont know why I even bother replying to your posts. | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
I don't think of it as a sex site but a swingers site and I can blame him because mine is one of those profile the OP mentions "Ah. Well. Yes. I have standards. If you don't like them I have others | |||
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"You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex
And swinging is primarily about sex "I've been told several times it's 80% social and 20% sex. That's what the single guys who don't do well don't get | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
I don't think of it as a sex site but a swingers site and I can blame him because mine is one of those profile the OP mentions
Ah. Well. Yes.
I have standards. If you don't like them I have others "I wasn't expecting you | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ? Yes. I take people at their word. I'm aware that many people lie about it, but I'm actually really pleasantly surprised at the number of people who have just said that they're cheating if they are. I can't do much more than ask. It's about appeasing my own conscience. So as long as you've asked the question then it's all fine, as long as they give you the right answer "If that's how you see it. As I said, I can't do much more than ask. Sometimes I get the feeling people are cheating and just not telling me. At that point I wouldn't meet them either. I'm not naive, I know people will lie. Often I can tell, but I can't swear I've been 100% right in the past. What I won't do is knowingly help someone cheat. Plenty of people have no problem saying they are cheating, and they understand my reluctance to aid in the endeavor. I can't be someone else's moral compass - if they want to cheat that's up to them and I dont have an opinion on their life. But I have an opinion on my own life, and I choose not to have sex with people who I know are cheating. | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ? Yes. I take people at their word. I'm aware that many people lie about it, but I'm actually really pleasantly surprised at the number of people who have just said that they're cheating if they are. I can't do much more than ask. It's about appeasing my own conscience. So as long as you've asked the question then it's all fine, as long as they give you the right answer
If that's how you see it. As I said, I can't do much more than ask. Sometimes I get the feeling people are cheating and just not telling me. At that point I wouldn't meet them either.
I'm not naive, I know people will lie. Often I can tell, but I can't swear I've been 100% right in the past. What I won't do is knowingly help someone cheat. Plenty of people have no problem saying they are cheating, and they understand my reluctance to aid in the endeavor.
I can't be someone else's moral compass - if they want to cheat that's up to them and I dont have an opinion on their life. But I have an opinion on my own life, and I choose not to have sex with people who I know are cheating. " All of the above!
I'm attached but play solo sometimes with the full knowledge of my partner. No-one should need to doubt me as it's all explained on my profile which can be easily cross referenced etc etc.
Personally, I fully accept I have no right to judge how anyone else conducts themselves and Fab has really made me stop and think about the myriad reasons someone may cheat (including quite sad and impossible situations I've discussed) but prefer not to play with people who are going behind someone else's back ... though it's a small risk, I just don't want any ensuing drama to ever come back and bite me on the bum should they get found out or confess and tell all in an attack of the guilts. That's not to say, being totally honest, that I haven't been tempted occasionally when I've hit it off with someone who turns out to be attached but I know myself well enough to know I'd feel bad and would therefore rather live with fleeting disappointment instead of self reproach. | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex
This. I'm sick of reading 'it's a sex site'. No, it isn't. And that's not a valid excuse for being a shit to another."It's a swinging site. Swinging is primarily about sex, so however you want to flower it up, it is a sex site. | |||
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"We don't meet people for sex who are cheating on their partner. We usually ask before a meet, and we've turned down both men and women for this reason. Do you believe those that say they are single ? Yes. I take people at their word. I'm aware that many people lie about it, but I'm actually really pleasantly surprised at the number of people who have just said that they're cheating if they are. I can't do much more than ask. It's about appeasing my own conscience. So as long as you've asked the question then it's all fine, as long as they give you the right answer
If that's how you see it. As I said, I can't do much more than ask. Sometimes I get the feeling people are cheating and just not telling me. At that point I wouldn't meet them either.
I'm not naive, I know people will lie. Often I can tell, but I can't swear I've been 100% right in the past. What I won't do is knowingly help someone cheat. Plenty of people have no problem saying they are cheating, and they understand my reluctance to aid in the endeavor.
I can't be someone else's moral compass - if they want to cheat that's up to them and I dont have an opinion on their life. But I have an opinion on my own life, and I choose not to have sex with people who I know are cheating. "That's fine. If I'm asked outright I always say I'm married, but then it does say that on my profile too. I do understand and respect that people don't want to play with cheaters. The same as there are a lot of people who are happy to play with cheaters. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and boundaries. | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
Miss
Do you ever play in clubs?
Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple.
Id be interested to know how you can establish they are a proper couple?
Erm by asking questions? Seeing wedding rings. Asking about how they met etc, just the same as people ask us. Dont know why I even bother replying to your posts."Well why do you bother then if that's how you feel. It's your perogative as to whether you do or don't. If people went pretending to be a couple it's so very easy to have a pre planned story. Your methods are flawed. | |||
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"Yes because I don't want a phone call from their OH asking who I am. " How would that happen ? Why give out your phone number  | |||
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"You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex
And swinging is primarily about sex
I've been told several times it's 80% social and 20% sex. That's what the single guys who don't do well don't get "Maybe because it's only 20% that can get meets. It you look at the statistics, majority are single men who struggle for meets, so its going to only be a low percentage about sex. | |||
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"Yes because I don't want a phone call from their OH asking who I am. How would that happen ? Why give out your phone number "Well I'm thinking differently to the question you asked but if you meet someone you think Is single and they are actually attached , it happens. I've had it happen. I like a phone call to check someone is real and sounds like I'd get on with them. I can block them if they're a nut case. | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
Miss
Do you ever play in clubs?
Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple.
Id be interested to know how you can establish they are a proper couple?
Erm by asking questions? Seeing wedding rings. Asking about how they met etc, just the same as people ask us. Dont know why I even bother replying to your posts.
Well why do you bother then if that's how you feel. It's your perogative as to whether you do or don't.
If people went pretending to be a couple it's so very easy to have a pre planned story. Your methods are flawed."That was Jack's post, The point is we don't knowingly help people cheat,there's a difference.If people admit they are cheats and that has happened,they are turned down and blocked.some people will lie sadly ,if we are ever unsure we wouldn't agree to meet. Miss | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE?
If someone's profile says 'no married or attached' then a married or attached man cannot tick all their boxes
I didn't make myself clear in my initial post. What I meant in looks, chemistry and you get on. Then they tell you that their attached.
Thanks for clarifying
That would be an instant block,hated this on my single profile especially when they knew it wasn't what I looked for.
Miss
Do you ever play in clubs?
Yes, with couples after we have chatted and established they are actually a couple.
Id be interested to know how you can establish they are a proper couple?
Erm by asking questions? Seeing wedding rings. Asking about how they met etc, just the same as people ask us. Dont know why I even bother replying to your posts.
Well why do you bother then if that's how you feel. It's your perogative as to whether you do or don't.
If people went pretending to be a couple it's so very easy to have a pre planned story. Your methods are flawed.
That was Jack's post,
The point is we don't knowingly help people cheat,there's a difference.If people admit they are cheats and that has happened,they are turned down and blocked.some people will lie sadly ,if we are ever unsure we wouldn't agree to meet.
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "Yes, have turned down people who otherwise would tick all our boxes for a meet because they are married and their partner does not know, it just isn't something we wish to get involved with, not our cup of tea. | |||
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"To those that accept playing with married if their partner knows, do they have to bring a note? "no, but we would want to chat/meet with their partner first, we have done on a couple of occasions. We wouldn't just go on someone's word, plenty of other people to play with to bother with it. | |||
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"Yes And the married guys wanting bareback are in my opinion scum. " | |||
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"Yes because I don't want a phone call from their OH asking who I am. How would that happen ? Why give out your phone number "Maybe because you met a guy a few times, got to know and trust him? This does happen and I don't want it either. | |||
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"You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex
And swinging is primarily about sex
I've been told several times it's 80% social and 20% sex. That's what the single guys who don't do well don't get
Maybe because it's only 20% that can get meets. It you look at the statistics, majority are single men who struggle for meets, so its going to only be a low percentage about sex."I was talking abut swinging, not the site stats. | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "Yes | |||
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"I prefer married and playing away. But I don't discriminate or pre-judge, so I would meet other people without asking why they weren't married and playing without their partner." Wait.... Didn't you just post single female on the other thread? | |||
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"I dislike being told AFTER I have spent time and energy meeting them. " But ok if they tell before??? | |||
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"We're neutral on this. Personally don't believe in cheating, but at the same time we aren't judgmental, particularly when you don't know all the circumstances - and don't wish too either. We are all adults on here, so if an individual, male or female, decides to look for extra marital sex that is their choice. We don't go searching for married people, neither do we discriminate against someone whom contacts us that is married. We think that is fair and reasonable." Fair enough | |||
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"I care in so much as married and attached men are harder to schedule and more restricted in what they can do and where they can be seen, generally speaking. Easier to go for a single and more relaxed chap. Their private lives are none of my concern unless it affects me, that's their lookout. Selfish I suppose. " agreed...it's something that does annoy me, when pepople(ok married men we will say),ask why they cant get meets...pretty simple..their time will be limited, might have to answer the wife phoning(now I've heard that during a gangbang), most of the time its gonna be a quick fuck n go. Fair enough it can work...but as a proper single guy, my time is only really limited by work and how long I can spend away from my cat | |||
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"I should qualify that by saying we don't actually care that they're here and married that's for them to care about." Brava! | |||
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"I dislike being told AFTER I have spent time and energy meeting them. But ok if they tell before???" That depends. I have met married men who tell their partners and married men in clubs at times. We all have our reasons for being here. I dont want to get in the firing line in anyone's relationship. As mentioned above it is harder to meet attached people as there are then three schedules to juggle. This game is complex enough as it is. | |||
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"We wouldn't ask too many questions. This is a nsa site. We don't agree with cheating but we're not here looking for boyfriends or girlfriends and we don't need to know the details of someone's relationship. Most people on here have been to a club. I doubt many have come across anyone walking round announcing they're married but playing away. " apparently it's different in a club though | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single" If they're not cheating then I don't see it as a problem at all. | |||
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"I cancelled a second meet 2 weeks ago because he was showing signs of being married. When I asked out right he admitted it. He thought he play me
Can't blame a man for trying . You are on a sex site after all
actually its a swingers site...
otherwise it would be called fabsex
This. I'm sick of reading 'it's a sex site'. No, it isn't. And that's not a valid excuse for being a shit to another."Amen | |||
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"A lot of profiles say no married or attached. But what if you got a message from a guy/girl who ticks all your boxes but they say they married. WOULD YOU CARE? "Yes, because first of all, liars are a massive turn off to me and secondly if they tick that many boxes, I'd be likely to fall for them, and that'd be a disaster if they are attached. | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single If they're not cheating then I don't see it as a problem at all." And if they are not cheating, they wouldn't mind me coming to their home when their wife is present. If they do, then I will assume that they are cheating and as accomplished liars, are lying to me | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single" Sorry I misread you. Unless you have access to background checks then it's impossible to know if someone is cheating. If they state they're cheating and that bothers you then you don't speak to them. | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single Sorry I misread you. Unless you have access to background checks then it's impossible to know if someone is cheating. If they state they're cheating and that bothers you then you don't speak to them. " I agree. They lie to the person they live with so it will be quite easy for them to fool me. If they admit that they are cheaters then, here, I just block them and in a club, will tell them that they are not for me There are certain signs I look for. And sometimes that may mean that I don't meet someone who is not a cheater. So be it | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single Sorry I misread you. Unless you have access to background checks then it's impossible to know if someone is cheating. If they state they're cheating and that bothers you then you don't speak to them. " Background checks? Some very basic searching on Google and social media is often enough | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single Sorry I misread you. Unless you have access to background checks then it's impossible to know if someone is cheating. If they state they're cheating and that bothers you then you don't speak to them. I agree. They lie to the person they live with so it will be quite easy for them to fool me. If they admit that they are cheaters then, here, I just block them and in a club, will tell them that they are not for me There are certain signs I look for. And sometimes that may mean that I don't meet someone who is not a cheater. So be it" What sign do you look for??? | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single" this but you can only do so much to check | |||
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"I don't meet cheaters. Trouble is that cheaters lie. If they can lie to their partners, I am certain that I must have met some married men who lied to me about being single Sorry I misread you. Unless you have access to background checks then it's impossible to know if someone is cheating. If they state they're cheating and that bothers you then you don't speak to them. I agree. They lie to the person they live with so it will be quite easy for them to fool me. If they admit that they are cheaters then, here, I just block them and in a club, will tell them that they are not for me There are certain signs I look for. And sometimes that may mean that I don't meet someone who is not a cheater. So be it What sign do you look for??? "There are many little lies they tell and little restrictions that they have. Sometimes he may not be a cheater, but I'd rather err on the side of caution | |||
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"This thread soon turned to people talking about married guys .. Most ladies I've chatted too and met on the few times I've been on here over the past 10 years we're attached or married . But I suppose single guys are a throw away commodity on here and as such are treated that way . I actually am a single guy through my own choice and im loving life . But if for whatever reason people need sex from outside a marriage that really is there business." Absolutely; it is their business if they want to cheat It only becomes my business when a cheater lies to me and I unknowingly get involved. Leave me out of it and I couldn't care less | |||
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Such is the way with uncomfortable truths. I just find it amusing (and so 1990s) that everyone's moralising about only meeting people who are unattached when the whole site (indeed the whole web) is clearly riddled with people pretending to be something they aren't.
Thinking you can be moral in such a quagmire of untruths is just pompous and absurd. The only way to be truly moral on here is to play with attached people where the consent of their partner can be confirmed. Everything else is just delusional back patting. The web isn't real. We all know it. And to simply naively trust what someone says about themselves on it is merely willful self delusion. It's 2017 not 1997. Facebook is riddled with fake profiles fake news etc. Surely everyone can see this now? Please tell me I'm not the only one  | |||
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