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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys just wanted some opinions really, I know a lot of women/couples have a large variety of single men to choose from which makes it hard for us single guys, but being and Asian and a single guy makes it twice as hard, just for some clarification just wanted to know why Asians aren't people's cup of tea? I know some people have preferences which is everyone's right but is there things that some Asian men have done that puts people right off? Shame really because minority spoil it for the majority, anyway happy swinging guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one go jihad on me half way through saying how he hates America and the west will fall. The best passion killer ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've not had good experiences. A bit selfish and veering a bit towards notches on the bed post type encounters.

A generalisation, of course, but that's our experience.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man

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By *addy Bears KittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

It is Russ here. I have to say that I have only had good experiences with Asian men at parties and clubs. Kitten and I played with a delightful friend on Saturday. My ex wife has had some great meets with charming, intelligent Asian men who were total gentlemen. These men were true old school gentlemen.

As a masseur, some of my favourite clients are also Asian men.

So, unlike other posters, I have only good things to say.

Russ x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I treat Asian men like I treat other men - if they are attractive to me and fulfil my meet criteria I'll meet them. If they're not, I won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm afraid after the first responses I am getting the jist of it, and I won't lie some Asians guy don't know how to behave and that spoils it for the majority of us well mannered Asian guys, really does make me angry, at the end of the day this is a swinging site everyone who is on here is not just looking for sex but good company too, many guys forget that, so just to put it out there I hope ppl do give Asian guys a chance and realise not every person is the same...my introduction to the world of fab and swinging In General has been a hard path..but hopefully some lady or couple will take a chance on me and I will show them that we are not all the same..

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

UK

Everyone has a type. Ultimately it's the woman's/couples choice who and what they want inside of them. If they do or don't prefer Asian men then what can you do really. (This is purely from a shallow and look perspective.)

I certainly don't come to far fetched assumptions and conclusions on someone's behaviour due to how much melanin someone has in their skin.

But if people have gained bad experiences due to some outrageous behaviour then it's up to the rest to show them that 'they' are the anomalies.

You could be purple, you could asshole or a great guy there's certainly no correlation with skin colour.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

To be completely honest I just don't find Asian men attractive on the whole. Nothing to do with behaviour or anything else. X

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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura


"I'm afraid after the first responses I am getting the jist of it, and I won't lie some Asians guy don't know how to behave and that spoils it for the majority of us well mannered Asian guys, really does make me angry, at the end of the day this is a swinging site everyone who is on here is not just looking for sex but good company too, many guys forget that, so just to put it out there I hope ppl do give Asian guys a chance and realise not every person is the same...my introduction to the world of fab and swinging In General has been a hard path..but hopefully some lady or couple will take a chance on me and I will show them that we are not all the same.."

(Mrs) off op topic..... you're hiding behind a shadow! Come out from the dark side and show yourself

Even if it's only your picture from the neck down. It's just a suggestion, as we always pass single guys with no pics by

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys I've put a profile pic up now!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


".....

If they do or don't prefer Asian men then what can you do really. (This is purely from a shallow and look perspective.)

....."

Can you explain this? What is shallow about me not wanting to f**k with someone I find unattractive?

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

UK


".....

If they do or don't prefer Asian men then what can you do really. (This is purely from a shallow and look perspective.)

.....

Can you explain this? What is shallow about me not wanting to f**k with someone I find unattractive?"

Well there's nothing wrong with being shallow. First impressions are important and genuinely tend to be what they look like.

But also hinting that attraction also tends to include more than just looks.

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

UK

It wasn't suppose to come across negatively!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man"

????

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


".....

If they do or don't prefer Asian men then what can you do really. (This is purely from a shallow and look perspective.)

.....

Can you explain this? What is shallow about me not wanting to f**k with someone I find unattractive?

Well there's nothing wrong with being shallow. First impressions are important and genuinely tend to be what they look like.

But also hinting that attraction also tends to include more than just looks."

I think you have missed the point of swinging. It is about sex with a relative stranger that one finds attractive. Most women (not all), like myself, visit clubs and look for physical attributes which we find attractive; facial features, height, body shape, colour of eyes, hair, etc. I am not interested in what he does for a living or whether he is still living with parents or not. Although that too puts me right off

Do you have always sex with women you find ugly? If not, then are you shallow?

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

UK

There's not just one way to conform to swinging. Granted I agree that physical attraction is important but I much prefer to have a social meet first to see if I can at least hold a conversation with the person and they are not completely rude before the next steps.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man

????"

OP why the question marks?

You asked what puts people off meeting Asian men and the poster shared some things she has experienced. I think it's pretty clear and not too hard to understand.

I too have experienced similar bad behavior from asian men. On one occasion my neighbour, who had always behaved in a gentlemanly way towards me previously, decided he would grope my ass and boobs. This was in front of his wife and children and my partner at the time. Downright rude and disrespectful both to me and his family. In fact it was not just rude, it was a sexual assault.

I too am very wary of meeting asian men. I don't rule them out completely but the guy would have to really be something special to stand any chance with me.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"There's not just one way to conform to swinging. Granted I agree that physical attraction is important but I much prefer to have a social meet first to see if I can at least hold a conversation with the person and they are not completely rude before the next steps. "

Did you think you are the only one who has a conversation with people. Everyone holds a conversation before jumping into bed. But most only hold a conversation with someone they find physically attractive. Why would I want to start a conversation with someone I do not find attractive at all?

Difference probably is that you not being shallow, hold a conversation with people who you find unattractive and as long as they are not rude to you, have sex with them. Is that right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man

????

OP why the question marks?

You asked what puts people off meeting Asian men and the poster shared some things she has experienced. I think it's pretty clear and not too hard to understand.

I too have experienced similar bad behavior from asian men. On one occasion my neighbour, who had always behaved in a gentlemanly way towards me previously, decided he would grope my ass and boobs. This was in front of his wife and children and my partner at the time. Downright rude and disrespectful both to me and his family. In fact it was not just rude, it was a sexual assault.

I too am very wary of meeting asian men. I don't rule them out completely but the guy would have to really be something special to stand any chance with me."

Sorry guys it was supposed to be a thumbs up don't know where the ??? Come from but I do respect your opinion guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man"

This ^^^^^

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Personally I don't like the double standards I have seen displayed by Asian males towards white women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Asian men are just my cuppa tea. I've met a few and I'm supposed to be meeting one tomorrow, who I've met a number of times, over the years.

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By *is_Collared_SubWoman
over a year ago

London

Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men."

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with Asian guys. Full stop

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I don't like the double standards I have seen displayed by Asian males towards white women."

Yes, so if I was treated disrespectfully by one white person I wouldn't think all white people are the same because I see more than colour I see a person, and each person has different thoughts and behaves differently..

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!"

Nobody knows what each Asian, White or Black man thinks

One's opionions are based on experience

If most White men I came across were pushy, smelly, uncouth and liars, I would stay clear of them. True that not each and every one of them will carry those traits but I will not want to expose myself anymore to that kind of nonsense just to give a chance to the next one who comes along

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!

Nobody knows what each Asian, White or Black man thinks

One's opionions are based on experience

If most White men I came across were pushy, smelly, uncouth and liars, I would stay clear of them. True that not each and every one of them will carry those traits but I will not want to expose myself anymore to that kind of nonsense just to give a chance to the next one who comes along"

I understand your point of view but again, Asian men tend to get put into one bracket more than other races, this is what hurts, a social would be a good idea first to see if one Asian guy is 'just like the rest' or is he a decent well behaved, well mannered and respectful person.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

OP you asked for the reasons why people won't meet Asians. You can't change them one at a time - that way madness lies. You should concentrate your efforts on contacting suitable people who don't have restrictions on their profiles that exclude you. Maybe attend socials and/or clubs so you meet more people face to face, where they are less likely to make snap judgements based on your race.

If you insist on trying to change people's preferences you're going to end up disillusioned very quickly.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Personally I don't like the double standards I have seen displayed by Asian males towards white women.

Yes, so if I was treated disrespectfully by one white person I wouldn't think all white people are the same because I see more than colour I see a person, and each person has different thoughts and behaves differently.."

The biggest problem is too many Asian men treat ladies disrespectfully. It's not that there are no nice asian guys out there - I know for a fact that some are lovely. Its because there are so many assholes they outnumber the good guys.

Instead of dwelling too much on the people who don't want to meet you because you are Asian why not focus on those who do like to meet Asian men. Concentrate on being one of the good guys. If enough Asian men behave this way it might just change opinions eventually.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!

Nobody knows what each Asian, White or Black man thinks

One's opionions are based on experience

If most White men I came across were pushy, smelly, uncouth and liars, I would stay clear of them. True that not each and every one of them will carry those traits but I will not want to expose myself anymore to that kind of nonsense just to give a chance to the next one who comes along

I understand your point of view but again, Asian men tend to get put into one bracket more than other races, this is what hurts, a social would be a good idea first to see if one Asian guy is 'just like the rest' or is he a decent well behaved, well mannered and respectful person."

Well, I don't have the time for socials and neither do I want the exposure of meeting an unknown in the world out there. That applies to every ethnicity

I meet people in clubs and what I have seen in clubs puts me off from even engaging in a conversation with an Asian man

Sorry OP; you sound like a nice kinda guy and I don’t think it is fair for some of us to be so turned off by Asian men. But you asked for reasons and I sure you asked for these reasons because you know that Asian men are viewed negatively

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!

Nobody knows what each Asian, White or Black man thinks

One's opionions are based on experience

If most White men I came across were pushy, smelly, uncouth and liars, I would stay clear of them. True that not each and every one of them will carry those traits but I will not want to expose myself anymore to that kind of nonsense just to give a chance to the next one who comes along

I understand your point of view but again, Asian men tend to get put into one bracket more than other races, this is what hurts, a social would be a good idea first to see if one Asian guy is 'just like the rest' or is he a decent well behaved, well mannered and respectful person.

Well, I don't have the time for socials and neither do I want the exposure of meeting an unknown in the world out there. That applies to every ethnicity

I meet people in clubs and what I have seen in clubs puts me off from even engaging in a conversation with an Asian man

Sorry OP; you sound like a nice kinda guy and I don’t think it is fair for some of us to be so turned off by Asian men. But you asked for reasons and I sure you asked for these reasons because you know that Asian men are viewed negatively"

No need to be sorry each person has their own opinion and it's good people are sharing them so I can slowly start my crusade to improve the reputations of single Asian men, but it sounds like a losing battle to be honest ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I don't like the double standards I have seen displayed by Asian males towards white women.

Yes, so if I was treated disrespectfully by one white person I wouldn't think all white people are the same because I see more than colour I see a person, and each person has different thoughts and behaves differently..

The biggest problem is too many Asian men treat ladies disrespectfully. It's not that there are no nice asian guys out there - I know for a fact that some are lovely. Its because there are so many assholes they outnumber the good guys.

Instead of dwelling too much on the people who don't want to meet you because you are Asian why not focus on those who do like to meet Asian men. Concentrate on being one of the good guys. If enough Asian men behave this way it might just change opinions eventually."

Thanks for your opinion and input I wish their was people who liked Asian men lol please point me in that direction lol

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Personally I don't like the double standards I have seen displayed by Asian males towards white women.

Yes, so if I was treated disrespectfully by one white person I wouldn't think all white people are the same because I see more than colour I see a person, and each person has different thoughts and behaves differently.."

Actually I am originally from South London, I have seen first hand how loads of Asian men operate in their private lives with white women. Been there seen it, not for me.

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By *iceguyteddyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Its mainly old fashioned prejudice it sucks as ive experianced this 1st hand on this site with vile racist remarks

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

There you go OP; it is all to do with racism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys just wanted some opinions really, I know a lot of women/couples have a large variety of single men to choose from which makes it hard for us single guys, but being and Asian and a single guy makes it twice as hard, just for some clarification just wanted to know why Asians aren't people's cup of tea? I know some people have preferences which is everyone's right but is there things that some Asian men have done that puts people right off? Shame really because minority spoil it for the majority, anyway happy swinging guys!!"

I think alot of Asians have put alot of women and couples off because their behaviour has been quite pushy rude aggressive and disrespectful.

I know obviously not all Asians will have those character traits but unfortunately quite alot of women and couples have had bad experiences with those types of Asians and so its put them off from meeting or playing with them.

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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura


"Thanks for the advice guys I've put a profile pic up now!! "

(Mrs)

Nice pic

I haven't got a preference on ethnicity. I wouldn't ever go out to pull a white guy, or black/Asian/Chinese man/woman

I'm sure if we met you in a club and my Mr was comfortable with you also I would play with you. I don't group people from the same creed together, so just because one Asian guy is disrespectful doesn't mean the next one will be the same. This thinking is shallow imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys just wanted some opinions really, I know a lot of women/couples have a large variety of single men to choose from which makes it hard for us single guys, but being and Asian and a single guy makes it twice as hard, just for some clarification just wanted to know why Asians aren't people's cup of tea? I know some people have preferences which is everyone's right but is there things that some Asian men have done that puts people right off? Shame really because minority spoil it for the majority, anyway happy swinging guys!!

I think alot of Asians have put alot of women and couples off because their behaviour has been quite pushy rude aggressive and disrespectful.

I know obviously not all Asians will have those character traits but unfortunately quite alot of women and couples have had bad experiences with those types of Asians and so its put them off from meeting or playing with them."

I also dated an Indian girl and she wont date Asians guys for same reason as I mentioned previously. She said they treat women like shit , even fellow Asian women. Its apparently a cultural thing so she said ??

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

You see the comments, unfortunatley asian culture has no respect for women.... they are just a homemaker and general skivvy, they have hardly any rights in an asian faith.... sad but true.

Tar and brush come to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man"

I'm fairness, other races can be guilty of that and what is the ratio of Asian men you meet to others. I get the preference thing just commenting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have asian heritage (pakistani dad an absolute pig of a man) and he is the embodiment of a c u next tuesday, but I'd say all my sexual experiences have been positive (they always come back for more), but then I wasn't bought up by my dad and have nothing to do with him. I absolutely give my all in the bedroom and love giving pleasure it's the biggest turn on and I think I'm pretty good at it ;-P What is their not to love? It's fecking amazing! It's sad though that a whole continent of people get tarred with a negative brush! When. I think about it, we are all individuals and a product of our experiences! But I'm not really a good measure because my experiences with asian people are very limited and the ones with my muslim asain family are very negative in my opinion, that's just the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man

I'm fairness, other races can be guilty of that and what is the ratio of Asian men you meet to others. I get the preference thing just commenting"
Exactly I get the similar negative feelings towards a lot of the polish men I've met and of course English ones too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just me 2 pence for you. Every man is different although a lot share similar charactet traits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys just wanted some opinions really, I know a lot of women/couples have a large variety of single men to choose from which makes it hard for us single guys, but being and Asian and a single guy makes it twice as hard, just for some clarification just wanted to know why Asians aren't people's cup of tea? I know some people have preferences which is everyone's right but is there things that some Asian men have done that puts people right off? Shame really because minority spoil it for the majority, anyway happy swinging guys!!"
You'll do alright have patience me old fruit

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You see the comments, unfortunatley asian culture has no respect for women.... they are just a homemaker and general skivvy, they have hardly any rights in an asian faith.... sad but true.

Tar and brush come to mind "

Exactly which Asian culture are you talking about? 'Asian' covers one subcontinent and one of the largest countries in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a time when I would have said the same as many of the posters above would have said, and to be honest I'd still be slightly wary as I think there can be a huge cultural differences and past experiences have left me feeling less than respected by a number of Asian men. However; we did meet an absolute lovely Asian man in a club once so would be a lot more open minded un future.

So my advice to you would be is get out to clubs and socials and meet people, let them get to know what sort of person you are and your ethnicity won't be an issue to lots of people.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"My experience of Asian men has been anything but positive. In the vanilla world, mainly at work, I have experienced sexism, rudeness, selfishness, treating women like lower class citizens and also one man who tried to bully his female colleagues . In the swinging world I have experienced all of this (except the bullying) plus poor hygiene, an over inflated sense of entitlement and treating women like free prostitutes.

Now I know that not all Asian men are like this and I also know that many men of other racial groups also behave in this manner. However, because of my experiences I would be very unlikely to meet an Asian man

I'm fairness, other races can be guilty of that and what is the ratio of Asian men you meet to others. I get the preference thing just commenting"

If you read the second paragraph you will see that I already stated that men of other races also behave in this manner.

As for the ratio of Asian men I have met........I used to live in a suburb which had a very high proportion of Asian residents, I would estimate approximately 90% Asian. I spent 10 years living in that suburb. In that time I was sexually propositioned, shouted at, groped, verbally abused, spat at, pushed over........all by Asian men while trying to do some shopping in the local Asian supermarket!

I work in an industry where the majority of qualified professionals are Indian and Pakistani. In the two years that I have been with my current employer they have employed just one none Asian qualified professional who no longer works there. Again I have experienced women being treated poorly and being given less respect than their male colleagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this sounds like a cry for A sympathy fuck, i wonder how many girls and couples you have messaged who said yes they are ok with you?,

you never seen anyone post why dont asian girls share there body with whites or black i think your wrong,

your turning or trying to turn the site into something its not,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had any more problems with Asians than anybody else,

Its the person that counts, nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

girls have a choice to say who they wish to have sex with if they dont want anyone other than a white english man whats the prob? its there right to say who can have sex not for others to bring race to it i cant believe the site allowed this post on the forum's.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"girls have a choice to say who they wish to have sex with if they dont want anyone other than a white english man whats the prob? its there right to say who can have sex not for others to bring race to it i cant believe the site allowed this post on the forum's."

Why? There are dozens of posts by white men about women wanting BBC. This one is no different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see the comments, unfortunatley asian culture has no respect for women.... they are just a homemaker and general skivvy, they have hardly any rights in an asian faith.... sad but true.

Tar and brush come to mind "

That is exactly what my white British husband was like, and his brothers and some of his friends. I don't stay clear of white men because of them.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

Tar and brush come to mind

That is exactly what my white British husband was like, and his brothers and some of his friends. I don't stay clear of white men because of them. "

Finally someone speaks sense !!!

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"...I won't lie some Asians guy don't know how to behave and that spoils it for the majority of us well mannered Asian guys.."

And that's half the problem. Several people have stated their personal experiences. Mix that in with the ASian culture that includes the practises of forced and aranged marriages of girls as young as 10 or 11, honour killings, acid thrown in womens faces, the convictions of Asian gangs for grooming vulnerable white girls in Rochdale, Rotherham, Oxford, Telford etc, not to mention the gang rapes that we hear about in India, and the mass sexual molestation rampage that Asian and African assylum seekers went on, in Cologne and other German cities, not that long ago, and you can see why, with all that in mind, it's just too much hard work sorting out the wheat from the chaff.

Don't feel particularly picked on. There were football fans who were treated as hooligans in the recent past, no matter how well behaved they personally were. Anyone wearing a team scarf was banned from shopping centres and pubs, and supporters coaches were banned from motorway service stations. This is just what happens when you belong to a grouping that has a bad reputation.

The fact is that life is too short, and people's instincts are to play the percentage game, and to go for what they know and trust, that they can enjoy and that won't harm them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"this sounds like a cry for A sympathy fuck, i wonder how many girls and couples you have messaged who said yes they are ok with you?,

you never seen anyone post why dont asian girls share there body with whites or black i think your wrong,

your turning or trying to turn the site into something its not,"

After reading your comment u deserve a pat on the back sir ???? I don't want a sympathy fuck..far from it all I want is feedback and to answer your question I have had people messaging me, just to give their point of view and no I haven't asked them, fancy a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Tar and brush come to mind

That is exactly what my white British husband was like, and his brothers and some of his friends. I don't stay clear of white men because of them.

Finally someone speaks sense !!!"

I agree with the comments ..I have faith ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

grow up i used to take my wife for mfm i chose white men only and so did she its the couples choice or the girls choice, not for you to make them feel they must go with asian of feel racist so grow up and dont reply i wont even read this posting again, and to be honest i would never have sex with a asian girl they do nothing for me black girl are lovely so are white but thats my choice nothing to do with someones creed as a person, i cant believe you have been allowed this posting i wont ever come on the forums again reading such utter rubbish,

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"grow up i used to take my wife for mfm i chose white men only and so did she its the couples choice or the girls choice, not for you to make them feel they must go with asian of feel racist so grow up and dont reply i wont even read this posting again, and to be honest i would never have sex with a asian girl they do nothing for me black girl are lovely so are white but thats my choice nothing to do with someones creed as a person, i cant believe you have been allowed this posting i wont ever come on the forums again reading such utter rubbish,"

Promise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Tar and brush come to mind

That is exactly what my white British husband was like, and his brothers and some of his friends. I don't stay clear of white men because of them.

Finally someone speaks sense !!!

I agree with the comments ..I have faith ??????"

Please dont take this feedback you asked for personally.

As its not directed at you .

It's people responding to your opening question with their own personal views and opinions on your topic thats all

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

sucks to be asian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sucks to be asian "
Yarp sucks to be neo nazi but every dog has his day

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

so who's the neo nazi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so who's the neo nazi? "
No one? I dunno. What? Hitler! Who's the asian?

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By *lider1Couple
over a year ago

oldham

My Mrs is Asian and she has told me in no uncertain terms, that she would never have sex with an Asian man. Now considering my wife was brought up amongst the Asian community when to a predominately Asian school, well to me that speaks volumes. The reasons she gives us their disrespect of women etc.

Initially her family made her life hell when she told them she wanted to marry a white guy, yet to her it was much better going through that, than an arranged marriage.

Considering now half my family is Asian I can understand her point of view. It's usually hard for an Asian woman to get remarried after divorce etc as a massive portion of Asian males look at these women as damaged goods.

Having said that I've met a few Asian guys that don't share the same negative view on women p but they seem to be in the minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"grow up i used to take my wife for mfm i chose white men only and so did she its the couples choice or the girls choice, not for you to make them feel they must go with asian of feel racist so grow up and dont reply i wont even read this posting again, and to be honest i would never have sex with a asian girl they do nothing for me black girl are lovely so are white but thats my choice nothing to do with someones creed as a person, i cant believe you have been allowed this posting i wont ever come on the forums again reading such utter rubbish,"

I hope the couple who verified you read this

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"grow up i used to take my wife for mfm i chose white men only and so did she its the couples choice or the girls choice, not for you to make them feel they must go with asian of feel racist so grow up and dont reply i wont even read this posting again, and to be honest i would never have sex with a asian girl they do nothing for me black girl are lovely so are white but thats my choice nothing to do with someones creed as a person, i cant believe you have been allowed this posting i wont ever come on the forums again reading such utter rubbish,

I hope the couple who verified you read this "

Wowza!!!

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By *izzlemoonMan
over a year ago

Bath

I see this thread from time to time 'is it because i'm {insert identity}?'. To me it comes across as a whine borne of frustration at being judged and rejected and taking it personally as if another persons opinon matters.

The bottom line is if there isn't mutal attraction for whatever reason it isn't going to happen, that's life. People have reasons which are valid for them and that's valid enough because it's their choice.

Why waste your energy stressing about percieved slights and just wait until you find someone you click with rather than waiting for the pot to boil so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I treat Asian men like I treat other men - if they are attractive to me and fulfil my meet criteria I'll meet them. If they're not, I won't."

Common sense prevails . Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Think there is a reluctance from the general public to meet Asian men and I understand why due to all the factors mentioned and perhaps in some cases covert racism. But I think getting over the initial hurdle is difficult for Asian men then after that it is down to those people to mutually respect each other and get out of a meet something they both enjoy and take each person at face value without then reverting back to the race / colour issue.

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By *igris_PardusCouple
over a year ago

Bracknell


"Hi guys just wanted some opinions really, I know a lot of women/couples have a large variety of single men to choose from which makes it hard for us single guys, but being and Asian and a single guy makes it twice as hard, just for some clarification just wanted to know why Asians aren't people's cup of tea? I know some people have preferences which is everyone's right but is there things that some Asian men have done that puts people right off? Shame really because minority spoil it for the majority, anyway happy swinging guys!!"

My man is!!

HK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both Asian, not a single Asian however would point out that both get plenty of attention on here and when we are out and about. We think it comes down to how you put yourself across. Manners don't cost, it's really as simple as that.

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By *is_Collared_SubWoman
over a year ago

London


"Here's the issues I have with Asian men in general.

1) most wouldn't want their wife, daughter or sister being promiscuous but expect a white woman to be.

2) They aren't very alpha compared to other races of men.

How do you know what each single asian man expects a white person to be? And how can one colour be more alpha than the other one? I know it's your opinion which I respect, this is 2017, all I wanted to know from this thread is why people have been put off by Asian men, no put lying us into one basket and think we are all the same!!"

It's visible on here. Amazing amount of single Asian males, much smaller ratio of Asian men sharing their Asian wives. It's also visible in the way women are treated within those cultures.

It seems to me as though they want to enjoy the liberal sexual world of white Europeans then return to their oppressed wives once they're done fucking a slutty white girl.

As for the alpha thing, much of it is to do with physique, black, White, Latin, Arab guys tend to have stronger looking bodies. See Rugby, Football, Boxing, MMA not too many guys from In the indo-chine region. Also, there's a charisma/confidence thing that I found to be mostly absent when travelling through the area.

It's a generalisation based on my experience and I have come across rare anomalies.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Personally, I would not entertain a meet with an Asian guy this is not because of race but, their attitude towards women. The fact is many have very different attitudes towards sex which I consider offensive as a woman.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

There is always atleast one t*ssp*t on these threads who tries to liken a preference to racism

OK; here goes; I have no intention to speak with an Indian/Asian man at a club, let alone want him to do anything with me; I am simply not attracted to the facial features and their behaviour is off-putting. If that means that this t*ssp*t thinks I am a racist, then so be it. Do I look as if I care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what planet are you on ? whats it to do with nazi ? some white girls have respect for them selves and who they sleep with, you cant force then with silly comments like you placed on here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From seeing previous threads and post in the forum on this topic, it's is very clear that the vast majority of people have had bad experiences with Asian men who have grown up in a "typical" Asian community. It is sad to say that the Asian community do still to this day have a very backwards view of what is acceptable for a male and for a woman.

I myself have an Asian mother and a white father and have brought up by the both of them being told that everyone is equal and that women should always be treated with respect and should never be looked down upon because they are a woman. This is something that I have always followed and believe. It sounds cheesy to say but this is made clear when I have a meet as I will always make sure I am there on time, I don't mess people around by saying let's meet and then not showing up, and I always do love to make sure the woman I'm with gets a lot of fun and pleasure (often taking advantage of the fact women can have multiple orgasms)

However, it is the general consensus from the vast majority that the few "typical" Asian men that act in a way the degrade and belittle women have ruined it for the vast majority. As I can totally understand, if you have numerous bad experiences with Asian men you will assume all are the same or you will stop meeting Asian men to avoid this behaviour.

At the end of the day everyone is entitled to their own opinions and simply not everyone is attracted to the same sort of people. Although the vast majority or Asian men have ruined it, there are still people out there that don't assume everyone is the same.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"...

However, it is the general consensus from the vast majority that the few "typical" Asian men that act in a way the degrade and belittle women have ruined it for the vast majority. As I can totally understand, if you have numerous bad experiences with Asian men you will assume all are the same or you will stop meeting Asian men to avoid this behaviour.

...

"

Good post

Couple of things; if an Asian guy tries to behave in that manner with me, he gets a tight slap across the face; I did that to one at AbFab where he touched me without my permission. The idiot started to back away, grinning like a fool all the time

I don't think that all Asian men are that way. Just the majority at clubs; thing is that I can't be bothered to give the next one a chance just in case he isn't the same as the last c*nty one

I know lots of Indian/Asian men in my everyday life. They are mostly, regular folk. I work with them and socialise with a few; not a problem. But put most Indians in a club and they go nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Good post

Couple of things; if an Asian guy tries to behave in that manner with me, he gets a tight slap across the face; I did that to one at AbFab where he touched me without my permission. The idiot started to back away, grinning like a fool all the time

I don't think that all Asian men are that way. Just the majority at clubs; thing is that I can't be bothered to give the next one a chance just in case he isn't the same as the last c*nty one

I know lots of Indian/Asian men in my everyday life. They are mostly, regular folk. I work with them and socialise with a few; not a problem. But put most Indians in a club and they go nuts"

Thanks Josie, just wanted to share my view. But

I know what you mean, it is purely the fact they have cultural views and have been brought up in a way that makes them believe they have a right to act that way with women of any colour. Unfortunately, the majority of women that experience this in clubs are white women, as you very rarely see a Asian woman in a club. It's the general thing they see a partially clothed or naked woman and assume they have touching right.

As I said before and I will say again, the few that act this way ruin it for the rest.

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By *iceguyteddyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Whatever that's BS

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By *iceguyteddyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

True

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