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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My wife and I wanted to invite a cpl to our house last night and nearly posted an advert in the meets section.

What things do we need to be carefull of ? What problems have you heard of, if any, and how do you ask them to leave if things are not going right, or you have had enough ?

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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tbh I would meet them outside your home first

and then if things ok, invite them back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree meet at a pub first and if you click can take it back home.

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

We always make the first meet a Social+ i.e. it's a social in a local pub or wine bar. If we feel good we'll invite them to ours.

If there's no spark, we make some excuse about being tired etc. and go home. We then mail them to let them know we don't feel compatible.

Working well so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our very first meet the guy beat his wife up in our home....... not something we had ever thought would happen!!

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Arrange to meet them in the pub then either set your alarm on your phone (to sound like a call) or get someone to call you half hour after you arrive. You can then fake an emergency if things aren't going well or just say it was a wrong number if they are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arrange to meet them in the pub then either set your alarm on your phone (to sound like a call) or get someone to call you half hour after you arrive. You can then fake an emergency if things aren't going well or just say it was a wrong number if they are lol"

Imagine both couples getting a call at the same time!

XXXX

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Never had any probs with meets at mine but you always have to be careful

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

yikes!!!

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

when i used to swing with my ex we alway met in a pub had our own code if she was happy she would sit so you could tell she had stockings on ,you could tell how happy or not by how high skirt moved as she sat down, if she was very unhappy her time of month started !!! so we could just leave without inviting them back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when i used to swing with my ex we alway met in a pub had our own code if she was happy she would sit so you could tell she had stockings on ,you could tell how happy or not by how high skirt moved as she sat down, if she was very unhappy her time of month started !!! so we could just leave without inviting them back "

crafty.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"our very first meet the guy beat his wife up in our home....... not something we had ever thought would happen!! "

unbelievable. What did you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never invite someone to my home I hadn't met socially first and felt comfortable with. As others have suggested meet somewhere neutral to start and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" My wife and I wanted to invite a cpl to our house last night and nearly posted an advert in the meets section.

What things do we need to be carefull of ? What problems have you heard of, if any, and how do you ask them to leave if things are not going right, or you have had enough ? "

My honest opinion on this subject is meet somewhere public first, having a chat and a flirt over a pint in a pub can be great fun and its a hell of a lot easier to make your excuses and leave if you don't like them, asking someone to leave your home can be very awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

def meet local then back to yours , ours in this case ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the input,

some good ideas have come from this, I am glad I asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"our very first meet the guy beat his wife up in our home....... not something we had ever thought would happen!!

unbelievable. What did you do? "
well he broke her nose was blood everywhere. i was in total shock by which time he got dressed and stormed out of house.obviously i was then concerned with her, she then told me not to worry he had been hitting her for over 20 yrs.!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet at a pub/cafe first then invite if there is chemistry :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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obviously i was then concerned with her, she then told me not to worry he had been hitting her for over 20 yrs.!!!! "

well that makes all the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short of offering a bag of frozen peas for the nose, and not butting in, what else would you do in that situation :O

God I would never even argu in public, never mind fisticuffs!!

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By *aturebiMan
over a year ago

blackburn

Simple answer is: meet socially in a public house, cafe etc. If you are happy to have some fun with the other party/s then of you go, otherwise be honest and tell them. No point in taking up anyones time including your own if there is not going to be an end result.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

We meet away from the home, and then if we decide we don't want to play with someone we just walk away after telling them.

It suits us better this way, plus we are then not letting people know our exact address when there wasn't any need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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obviously i was then concerned with her, she then told me not to worry he had been hitting her for over 20 yrs.!!!!

well that makes all the difference "
would have been nice to have known that before hand about beating her for 20 yrs, and when we met for a drink you would never ever have guessed.!!!!!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


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obviously i was then concerned with her, she then told me not to worry he had been hitting her for over 20 yrs.!!!!

well that makes all the difference would have been nice to have known that before hand about beating her for 20 yrs, and when we met for a drink you would never ever have guessed.!!!!! "

Can't beleive our eyes to see that. It stopped us both in our tracks when we read your first post.

How awful, and how uncomfortable to have to experience that, how embarrassing for her.

How did you get them out of the house after that, and did you intervene? I really don't think I could stand and allow it to happen under my roof... I really don't.

Devil and Wolf :L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well it all happened so quick.... he had hit her before we knew anything was going on..... her face was completely covered in blood..... i grabbed a towel to find out where the blood was coming from. her nose was a mess..... as i explained he got dressed very quickly called her a few names( not repeatable) and stormed out..... once i cleaned her up and she told me he had always hit her she got dressed and said im leaving too...... i explained she really shouldnt as she had been drinking so had he, but she said if i dont go he could get worse... so suddenly we found oursleves standing in total shock looking around at all the blood that was now in the hall etc etc.... took us over an hour to claen it up.......wasnt until we sat down and it sunk in we realised we had a lucky escape asi t cold have been alot worse, by that i mena for us if he had turned!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of all the things i had worried about it being our first cpl meet, a guy hittting his wife had never been one of my worries!!!! What made it worse was when we first met for a drink he had appeared so nice and told us he hated bullies, so to see him hit her , i can't begin to tell you how godsmacked i was!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wont do a home meet 1 st meet always formal as you dont no who your meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it does pay to be careful...even if you do meet someone in public socially you can never really know what that person is like as you can see from some of the posts above where the guy hit his partner.

Some people are very convincing and can come across as one of the nicest people you have met, if I get any inkling of bad feeling or doubt then I end it there even if I don't know what it is.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tbh I would meet them outside your home first

and then if things ok, invite them back"
We agree meet in a quit pub have a drink and see how things go then you can always move on. Less pressure !

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

It's also worth having some sensible basic rules between you. We have a rule that both are happy, or it stops.

Otherwise you could get the situation where one person is having a great time, while the other is suffering a bad one.

While it might be unpleasnt to ask somebody to leave, you always need to be prepared for that situation. Easiest way is to fake a stomach upset or something similar.

Thankfully this hasn't happend to us yet,

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

Also, if you do a pub meet, and you're only 50% sure, don't be afraid to end the night, and ask for another social.

If they will not do another, it's thier loss. We did 3 socials with one of our first couples. They've turned out to be fantastic, and good regular friends

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

met a luvly guy at our home great sex great night but he stole from us...just be carefull not to leave them alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting anyone for the first time is a bit of a gamble. But I think the most risky is for a single girl to invite a single guy into her home on a first. I wouldn't be at all offended if a girl or couple wanted a social meet in a pub first. At the end of the day they dont know me from a hole in the ground. Trust has to be gained but I like to think I come across as honest and trust worthy and try to put people at ease

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

u never realy know who uv invited in ur home just keep ur witts about u and dont drink to much and ull have great swinging

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

allways get the car reg of ur visitor and as much info as u can its got to be safty first

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester


"allways get the car reg of ur visitor and as much info as u can its got to be safty first"

Don't forget the fingerprints, and DNA profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"allways get the car reg of ur visitor and as much info as u can its got to be safty first

Don't forget the fingerprints, and DNA profile "

some of the places i've been into, there's been more DNA on the sheets than on the Police National Computer

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

We like parties and socials but for us the private meets are the way forward and it helps having a muscular lump ov a hubby coz no bugger will mess around then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like parties and socials but for us the private meets are the way forward and it helps having a muscular lump ov a hubby coz no bugger will mess around then lol "
Does he know you refer to him as a muscular lump? lol

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"We like parties and socials but for us the private meets are the way forward and it helps having a muscular lump ov a hubby coz no bugger will mess around then lol Does he know you refer to him as a muscular lump? lol "

Oh lol but he will do now ha ha x

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"We like parties and socials but for us the private meets are the way forward and it helps having a muscular lump ov a hubby coz no bugger will mess around then lol Does he know you refer to him as a muscular lump? lol

Oh lol but he will do now ha ha x"

Any ways he is my muscular lump and i do love him and love to share him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like parties and socials but for us the private meets are the way forward and it helps having a muscular lump ov a hubby coz no bugger will mess around then lol Does he know you refer to him as a muscular lump? lol

Oh lol but he will do now ha ha x

Any ways he is my muscular lump and i do love him and love to share him "

does he not 'attract trouble' ?

one of my best mates is 6ft4 and about 19 stone

he is the most laid back man you could ever wish to meet.

but take him into town and he can be minding his own business and 2 times outta 3 some d*unken buffoon will come and try to pick a fight with him.

i've known him since i was 18 and it's always been the same for the poor bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tbh I would meet them outside your home first

and then if things ok, invite them back"

+1

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