FabSwingers.com forum: Men left out

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"
my partner would love it but id feel awkward. Same as i would if a guy flirted with me.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

If it's off a lady I'm. Happy to sit back and enjoy x help yourself OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to it now. Sometimes it's great. Sometimes it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to assume ladies who approach me when I'm with Number One Chap are gearing more towards him, but then he is rather delicious so I get why. Sometimes my theory has been rather blown out of the water and only once have things started to lean towards him being a little neglected before I took some action to rectify that as I don't like feeling like a spare part so don't think he should either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think it'd be different with every couple. Personally, I would make an active effort to flirt with both equally. After all, if someone was overly flirting with my partner, there's no way I'd want to have a meet with them in case the dynamics were all one-sided.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I know it doesnt bother dax if its a social....if it were more intimate then i guess he might feel a bit left out but im sure i could make it up to him

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??"

Where have I mentioned that I didn't speak to him ? I engaged him in our conversation and asked his permission before I kissed his wife. I would never exclude anyone if I felt they weren't happy for me to focus my attention on his wife. This man was completely happy. I'm just asking out of curiosity to how other men feel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to assume ladies who approach me when I'm with Number One Chap are gearing more towards him, but then he is rather delicious so I get why. Sometimes my theory has been rather blown out of the water and only once have things started to lean towards him being a little neglected before I took some action to rectify that as I don't like feeling like a spare part so don't think he should either. "

Your theory is totally wrong with me. It's playing with the couple and the lady that interests me. I would never aim to receive attention only from the man if I'm with a couple. That goes against my morals.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"

When I have received a lot of attention from guys my hubby has felt really hurt, and alone. I can say I never understood this until this weekend. Even though we had fun all night, there was a period of time where I felt left out. It hurts, greatly and I now understand completely where he is coming from.

For this reason we will only play, if everyone joins in. If the guy/female of a couple doesn't fuck, then we will in future pass. Xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

Your post is very clear it says the man was left out, if it was ok with you kissing his wife then I'm sure he didn't feel left out, well going off what you say here, we wouldn't put ourselves in that situation, certainly for us it's everyone involved or no one,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female receives all of the attention because they love getting notes by couple and other females maybe sum men but a lot of men do feel left out on here

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

OP, were you hoping for more responses regarding the titillation element for the man? I've found that if it's a single male watching two women then yes, there can be that. But I wouldn't do it with a couple - I'm looking for all to play equally so why would my flirting be different? It reads like the beginning of a show for the man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

I feel I maybe havent explained the situation properly. The husband was happy with me flirting with his wife, I had his permission to go ahead as I had asked him. I would never go ahead and do anything without ensuring everyone was happy. I kissed her but not him, with his permission.

I'm simply curious if men do feel left out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah OK that is much clearer, i should imagine a lot of couples feel the same as us and if one is left out then they wouldn't be interested, after all in a couple swinging is about mutual enjoyment and fulfilling both parts fantasies,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

I'm simply curious if men do feel left out."

I should also add that this all happened at a Fab social event. It was not a meet that we had arranged. In the event of a MFF meet I would only ever play if both the male and female had full involvement, unless something different was otherwise requested by the male or female.

I hope this clarifies things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah that is much clearer, i guess the husband is happy with watching the girl girl thing, it certainly wouldn't be for us and we wouldn't put ourselves in that position, if the guy did feel left out then I would say it's all of his own doing and he should of spoke up

As long as you make yourself clear with what you want no guy should ever feel left out because everyone knows where they stand

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

I'm simply curious if men do feel left out."

In a word no..we would actually be annoyed that you asked me for permission to kiss H, I don't own her or her body. You want to kiss her, ask her, same goes for me.

When playing a club game someone had to suck a ladies nipples & he asked me if OK to suck H's. Despite having to lean across her to ask me? I just replied "Ask her, they are her's after all" with a smile obviously. I found this odd tbh, but then we don't seem to be the norm on here as we already know what each of us is happy with & neither go further.

We just don't agree with many that asking a partner is "Just being respectful" We are part of swinging, everything you are happy with doing should have been discussed many times over.

Therefore for us anyway if I want to kiss the lady of a couple I will ask the lady of the couple & expect her response to be in keeping with their own boundaries.

Sorry to go on but it is something that grates with us because we get it happen a fair bit. As said asking permission to us at least smacks ever so slightly of "ownership" & as more free spirits it doesn't sit with us & our sensibilities very well at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marc and I have talked about this in the past. When it comes to men, Marc isn't interested, so he's more than happy for them to focus their attention on me (as long as they aknowldge we're a couple, of course).

But when it comes to women, I think it really really depends on the situation. Generally speaking, however, it is a turn off if the woman only really shows interest in me and not in Marc. It happens a lot that I am treated as a single woman, regardless of our couple status and it bothers me a bit (and Marc) when that is the case. It's just not what we're looking for.

Having said that, we are both looking to play. I imagine the case may be very different with the many couples who are looking specifically for a woman to just play with the female half of the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Marc and I have talked about this in the past. When it comes to men, Marc isn't interested, so he's more than happy for them to focus their attention on me (as long as they aknowldge we're a couple, of course).

Having said that, we are both looking to play. I imagine the case may be very different with the many couples who are looking specifically for a woman to just play with the female half of the couple."

We meet guys and understand what your saying, but if they guy focused all his attention on you and basically ignored Marc not even including him in the conversation, i should imagine something would be said?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

Women couples and guys get the same treatment off us, there are 2 of us and if you neglect one then we wouldn't be interested in meeting,

Is it that you weren't interested in the guy or just that he didn't really join the conversation? Did you intentionally not speak to him??

I'm simply curious if men do feel left out.

In a word no..we would actually be annoyed that you asked me for permission to kiss H, I don't own her or her body. You want to kiss her, ask her, same goes for me.

We just don't agree with many that asking a partner is "Just being respectful" We are part of swinging, everything you are happy with doing should have been discussed many times over.

Therefore for us anyway if I want to kiss the lady of a couple I will ask the lady of the couple & expect her response to be in keeping with their own boundaries.

You don't seem to understand me at all. Of course I asked her too. I ensured the male half would be happy me kissing her, I didn't want to cause upset anyone. You are easing this whole situation wrong, and maybe that's down to how I've explained it so I apologise if that is the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite simple

It doesn't happen

If it is headed that way, then we would stop any play there and then

If someone meets us, they meet US

Not me, not him, US

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having said that, we are both looking to play. I imagine the case may be very different with the many couples who are looking specifically for a woman to just play with the female half of the couple.

Yes, of course. That's what I meant when I mentioned aknowledging us as a couple. I'm talking more about the flirting and such.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

No need, I answered your question with a simple "No" but then elaborated to something for want of a better phrase that "Grinds our gears"

If we ever meet just make sure you only ask the one you want to kiss for permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"

I know several guys who love this, but for us it's a no-no. Our play is strictly as a couple.

We've both been on the receiving side of this, where we were getting all the attention and both found it to be not what we wanted.

We've had situations where people have lied to us to get us into the play room and then focused on only one of us, excluding the other. We have, and will continue, to just get up and leave if this happens because we always make it perfectly clear that this is not how we play.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"

If I were bi, he would have no problem you flirting with me, he would encourage it! He loves guys flirting with me though, we don't see it as a problem, if it were, the couple should politely let you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is not an uncommon experience, I am personally quite happy about it, in fact I only feel uncomfortable if I am reluctently included by which I mean they want some women only time but include me out of politeness. So long as I know L is happy, I get my share when we are alone, and am quite capable of looking out for myself for an hour or two.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Most seem to be missing that this was a social meeting though. Where nothing more than a kiss or a longer snog in the loo's (Yes that has happened with us) is on the cards.

Where's the harm then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most seem to be missing that this was a social meeting though. Where nothing more than a kiss or a longer snog in the loo's (Yes that has happened with us) is on the cards.

Where's the harm then?

Yes it was this exactly. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah OK that is much clearer, i should imagine a lot of couples feel the same as us and if one is left out then they wouldn't be interested, after all in a couple swinging is about mutual enjoyment and fulfilling both parts fantasies,"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was a kiss in a pub, not full on play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a kiss in a pub, not full on play."

Bottom line is everyone has different ideas on the protocol. If she enjoyed the kiss I think you are good on this one.

But it does raise another question,

When L was home all the time we used to frequent various clubs, men and women would ask me frequently if it was OK for them to play with L, this was always answered with "you should ask her". Some men in particular didn't ask, but took my reply as go ahead, some of those got sent scurrying away...

But women would flirt with me, and either get touchy or ask to play without asking L first...

Why is there still perceived ownership of women? or why are women not asked if someone wants to play with their man?

Never was a serious issue, just a bit odd in the modern world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was a kiss in a pub, not full on play.

Bottom line is everyone has different ideas on the protocol. If she enjoyed the kiss I think you are good on this one.

But it does raise another question,

But women would flirt with me, and either get touchy or ask to play without asking L first...

Why is there still perceived ownership of women? or why are women not asked if someone wants to play with their man?

Never was a serious issue, just a bit odd in the modern world. "

I would never assume I could play with either or, without ensuring all parties involved are happy. And I would expect the same in return when I'm playing as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we would never have all the attention focused on just one of us. We only ever play as a couple or not at all. We like it to be a mutual 3way experience. Plus i don't like to put on a show.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

It's a tricky situation. If we were after an mmf, we would expect n to get most of the attention as most males are straight, though I wouldn't want ignoring completely. Whereas with a couple, we might expect more of an even scenario socially, especially as we find myself to be the more socially comfortable

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?"

We've had something similar to this. Drove to a couple about 50 miles away with the intention of a full swap (discussed before hand). Halfway through she suddenly decided that I wasn't allowed to play with her, but she expected my OH to have bi fun and play with her husband.

I okayed my OH still playing, but I felt like I might as well have stayed at home. We decided on the drive home that if people don't want to play equally with both of us, then we won't meet them. If anyone pulls a stunt like that again, we'll just up and leave.

We understand the women of the group flirting and getting comfortable with each other, which is great, but at some stage us guys want to say hi too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

We understand the women of the group flirting and getting comfortable with each other, which is great, but at some stage us guys want to say hi too!

So you were excluded and were okay within?

l think that was pretty ignorant, OP. A single man would have been slated for the same.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

"So you were excluded and were okay within?

l think that was pretty ignorant, OP. A single man would have been slated for the same."

As you've included the OP and my post in your reply, please clarify - who's this response to? My post or the OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After flirting heavily with the female of a couple at a social event, it dawned on me afterwards that maybe the man would of felt left out.

So I'm curious as to how men feel if the female receives all of the attention?

We understand the women of the group flirting and getting comfortable with each other, which is great, but at some stage us guys want to say hi too!

So you were excluded and were okay within?

l think that was pretty ignorant, OP. A single man would have been slated for the same."

What was ignorant? I had the mans blessing. I spoke to him beforehand and afterwards and he was getting off on the fact I kissed his wife. I

My question was do men feel left out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This too for us, I know hubby has felt a bit like a spare part a few times and I try to be very aware of what he's doing and if he's enjoying himself but in can be difficult when you're in the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

We've had a few social meets over the last year and if I'm honest it very much felt like they were more interested in her and I would go as far to say that the the women almost seem like they are doing it to please their men.

We have been on here a few times and it's always the same as nearly all messages are directed to my wife with no acknowledgment that we are a couple and we have had several requests for us to meet couples only for the wife to play and not me and altough I'm fairly thick skinned it does make you feel a bit disheartened

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

"If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

Finding a single woman is even harder!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

Finding a single woman is even harder!

We do exist

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

Finding a single woman is even harder!

There's a few of us around and we'll pay attention to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding a single woman is even harder!

Haha well as far as we're concerned there isn't a rush which is just aswel as living on the north Norfolk coast don't help as within a 30 mile radius from us half of it is the north sea and you don't find many single women sailors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's good to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry think you did over and above what some would do ?

Personally if you'd asked to flirt with my partner would have been a big thumbs up for me !

It could be that i might not be your type but my partner is and in a social gathering what's the problem ? Only so much you could get up too ?

It can be a real tough question when in play though ? How much should you give each ?

I wish I had the answer just know that it's very hard to find the right balance ?

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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago

Dortmund (Germany) might travel!

It's no problem for us. Cleo isn't comfortable me getting attention. I'm very comfortable her getting it. We're not into cuckolding or anything but I completely understand that any guy interested in us is actually interested in her. I trust her completely and that no one is a threat to me, therefore I can let or even encourage her to have fun in safety. We don't do it often though, so that probably makes a difference. Most of the time we're just happy being together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry think you did over and above what some would do ?

Personally if you'd asked to flirt with my partner would have been a big thumbs up for me !

It could be that i might not be your type but my partner is and in a social gathering what's the problem ? Only so much you could get up too ?

It can be a real tough question when in play though ? How much should you give each ?

I wish I had the answer just know that it's very hard to find the right balance ?

Exactly, as a single fem this is a concern. I'm always very aware that the woman is sharing her man with me and do try to reassure her. Men are usually totally happy and think they've died and gone to heaven when he has 2 women in front of him.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

Finding a single woman is even harder!

We do exist

Why hello there

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Anyone also think there has to be a point where you stop over this king and enjoy the moment though? If you spend all your time worrying about who gets your attention and whether it's equal 50-50, would you actually get chance to enjoy it at all?

The one instance we enjoyed group play, N got a lot of attention me not so much. That was my call. I chose to stay near to her to make sure she felt comfortable as it could have been quite intimidating all those people in your first time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone also think there has to be a point where you stop over this king and enjoy the moment though? If you spend all your time worrying about who gets your attention and whether it's equal 50-50, would you actually get chance to enjoy it at all?

Valid point. I think as long as the boundaries etc are known before play, then things should be able to happen naturally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If we was at a social and my wife got a cheeky kiss off a woman I wouldn't see a problem. However if she was dragged away and I was left sat there like a plum then I would start to feel left out.

Hopefully one day we will come across a single woman that is interested in us both as finding couples that you click with is proving hard work..

Finding a single woman is even harder!

We do exist

Why hello there

Good morning

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Valid point. I think as long as the boundaries etc are known before play, then things should be able to happen naturally. "

I think if we stuck too much to ensuring we all had the same amount of attention it would feel too "wooden".

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Valid point. I think as long as the boundaries etc are known before play, then things should be able to happen naturally.

I think if we stuck too much to ensuring we all had the same amount of attention it would feel too "wooden". "

Exactly this, but you can only go on gut feeling with some couples or play with someone you have seen playing previously in a club.

We have seen too many couples that are dominated by the male and what he wants & what he usually wants is to be fucking someone that's not his partner as soon as possible without appearing too forceful, but some don't even worry about that.

It is the main reason we rarely play with couples, our last meet was more Roman orgy with five of us on the one playbed. Had quite an audience when we'd finished

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Valid point. I think as long as the boundaries etc are known before play, then things should be able to happen naturally.

I think if we stuck too much to ensuring we all had the same amount of attention it would feel too "wooden".

Exactly this, but you can only go on gut feeling with some couples or play with someone you have seen playing previously in a club.

It is the main reason we rarely play with couples, our last meet was more Roman orgy with five of us on the one playbed. Had quite an audience when we'd finished

Bet that was quite the experience. Our only real play situation was very much the same, though with all the attention N was receiving both male and female, I felt better staying with her and making sure she was safe. Never been one of those males you mentioned who just wants someone else. In doing so, I realised how much I enjoyed watching N with others, as well as finding a bit of attention without having to leave her.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

What action would you take in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What action would you take in that situation?"

When I felt he was being left out I actually said so to the lady in question and got him involved.

When I have felt left out; the first time I said nothing and regretted not doing so, the second involved a well timed look and it was rectified. There has been no third time because we've both talked about what is good and bad for each of us.

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over a year ago

"Most seem to be missing that this was a social meeting though. Where nothing more than a kiss or a longer snog in the loo's (Yes that has happened with us) is on the cards.

Where's the harm then?

Kiss in a public place - Not a problem.

Going off to an area away from the partner, be it the loos or wherever - Still a no from us.

It's just how we are. Neither of us wants to be "benched" and one of our clearly stated boundaries is that we play as a couple.

We aren't desperate to play, and don't mind declining play if we either of us even suspect that attempting separate play by the meet is likely.

TBH, it has never been an issue, because we (Blondie) makes it clear to any prospective playmates.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Absolutely. Of course we would expect a straight male to be more interested in N and vice versa a straight female. You can't fault that, but we just like to feel included as part of the play in that situation

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Most seem to be missing that this was a social meeting though. Where nothing more than a kiss or a longer snog in the loo's (Yes that has happened with us) is on the cards.

Where's the harm then?

Kiss in a public place - Not a problem.

Going off to an area away from the partner, be it the loos or wherever - Still a no from us.

It's just how we are. Neither of us wants to be "benched" and one of our clearly stated boundaries is that we play as a couple.

We aren't desperate to play, and don't mind declining play if we either of us even suspect that attempting separate play by the meet is likely.

TBH, it has never been an issue, because we (Blondie) makes it clear to any prospective playmates."

The having a quick snog in the Loo's was H with another lady on a group social night out all of us very d*unk & having fun. Done worse when Vanilla clubbing to be fair

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

I never feel left out the fact that other guys find my wife sexy is a turn on in itself I enjoy watching directing taking pictures and joining in , I do some time play with other females in room but get more pleasure watching her ??

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