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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are fairly new to the scene but a massive fantasy of wine to be spoilt with pleasure by hubby and another man.... but there are loads of people on here. advise of what to narrow down.

After quality not quantity xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are fairly new to the scene but a massive fantasy of wine to be spoilt with pleasure by hubby and another man.... but there are loads of people on here. advise of what to narrow down.

After quality not quantity xx"
Someone with experience and well verified.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like"
See some couples think like that it's very arrogant. Not all single men just play with anybody.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wasn't ment with any offence. Single men is what we are after, just some give the rest of you a bad reputation.

Just trying to look for some advise xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"We are fairly new to the scene but a massive fantasy of wine to be spoilt with pleasure by hubby and another man.... but there are loads of people on here. advise of what to narrow down.

After quality not quantity xx"

Do a search, review their profiles, check their verifications, send a message, arrange a social meet to see how you get on. Think of it as auditioning. There are loads of men on here up for fun with couples, so you should be successful quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't ment with any offence. Single men is what we are after, just some give the rest of you a bad reputation.

Just trying to look for some advise xx"
I didn't quote you re-read. Like I said someone who is experience and well verified is your best bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way in our view is to go tp a club and meet people there. Personality is obviously important as is hubby getting along with the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find when playing with couples, as important as the guy being into her, its so much better if there's a really good connection between the guy and the husband/partner.

If they the guys get on famously, the interaction with her is brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find when playing with couples, as important as the guy being into her, its so much better if there's a really good connection between the guy and the husband/partner.

If they the guys get on famously, the interaction with her is brilliant."
Like a bro-mance and giving each other a Hi5

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"We are fairly new to the scene but a massive fantasy of wine to be spoilt with pleasure by hubby and another man.... but there are loads of people on here. advise of what to narrow down.

After quality not quantity xx"

We have only met single guys our rules are always a social first in a pub/coffee shop if we click sometimes straight off for play or arrange a play time and we always check their veri's to make sure they have played mfm before unless we meet them at a party or club and

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like See some couples think like that it's very arrogant. Not all single men just play with anybody. "

Your right the majority, from experience just hang out around the couple's only room, looking like they expect some golden ticket.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Luckily we also find some cool guys at clubs, who know how to have a chat and a laugh and wiggles enjoys it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just pick the guy with the biggest cock and hope he shows up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like See some couples think like that it's very arrogant. Not all single men just play with anybody.

Your right the majority, from experience just hang out around the couple's only room, looking like they expect some golden ticket."
The towel Zombies Had it before myself though where coupes assume just because you are a single guy you will play with them if they ask. They get the hump when rejected though. I might lower my standards a bit towards the end of the night if there is not much sand at the beach though.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Just pick the guy with the biggest cock and hope he shows up "

Lol this is also an option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with the majority above. A club let's you talk to different men without any commitment.

Then arrange either a private meet on a different day or find a private room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay attention to the messages. If a guy is overly interested if who he's chatting to(i.e. will only open up with the lady) then he's probably not for you. A guy has to make connections and create trust with you both, even if the physical side is with the lady.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like See some couples think like that it's very arrogant. Not all single men just play with anybody.

Your right the majority, from experience just hang out around the couple's only room, looking like they expect some golden ticket. The towel Zombies Had it before myself though where coupes assume just because you are a single guy you will play with them if they ask. They get the hump when rejected though. I might lower my standards a bit towards the end of the night if there is not much sand at the beach though. "

Agreed, though having a simple set of rules and sence makes it pretty obvious for the ladies to know which guys are interested. Wiggles mmain rule is if you can't be arsed to introduce yourself and chat, then she dosnt care how fit you are, it's an no if you walk in to a room and just say "can I join in."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like"

I doubt it unless you shop in farm foods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goto a club, it's like shopping walk around pick the one you like See some couples think like that it's very arrogant. Not all single men just play with anybody.

Your right the majority, from experience just hang out around the couple's only room, looking like they expect some golden ticket. The towel Zombies Had it before myself though where coupes assume just because you are a single guy you will play with them if they ask. They get the hump when rejected though. I might lower my standards a bit towards the end of the night if there is not much sand at the beach though.

Agreed, though having a simple set of rules and sence makes it pretty obvious for the ladies to know which guys are interested. Wiggles mmain rule is if you can't be arsed to introduce yourself and chat, then she dosnt care how fit you are, it's an no if you walk in to a room and just say "can I join in.""
But some guys are a bit shy approaching a couple is daunting especially if you don't know what they are into. I think both parties should be pro active. Again though couples just expect single men to do all the groundwork.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Agreed both parties need to make an effort. Just look at club reviews, have seen plenty of couples who just sat in a courier all night, then complained they got no attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agreed both parties need to make an effort. Just look at club reviews, have seen plenty of couples who just sat in a courier all night, then complained they got no attention."
There is a lot of ice to break in clubs at times. Maybe activities or wristbands indicating interests can help the shy people.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We generally just say hi, but tbh even if we don't meet anyone it dosnt bother us as were more than happy with Each other, being watched or extra playmates is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We generally just say hi, but tbh even if we don't meet anyone it dosnt bother us as were more than happy with Each other, being watched or extra playmates is a bonus"
Yeah that is the benefit of being a couple. I like it if I know so I check fab advertised meets at club, or ask other single guys, staff. I do a full reconnaissance but can still look like silly approaching a couple getting rejected then trying to approach another couple nearby as they know you weren't their first choice. I want to know the odds are in my favour before I make any moves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit confused - you've already had 3 meets according to your verifications, so you seem to know what you are doing already.

The person you pick for an mmf really depends on what you are looking for. If you want sensuality, you pick me... if you want something more dominant, you pick someone else....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we were new we went for experienced guys who could teach us. That worked well for us. We used the verification system to gauge whether men were experienced with MF couples or established on the swing scene. We also took recommendations from people we respected. We would also scan people's verification lists for ideas.

Mrs

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Lots of good advice here. My meets have been a combination of online chat followed by a social or club meets that have either been prearranged or spontaneous.

Profile vetting is crucial in my opinion as it allows me to see who they've played with plus what each side thought about it.

You have a great time and with your eyes getting a decent chap over shouldn't be too hard.

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

take your time and it must feel right for both of you, if it does then it will happen again, and much enjoymet from all, dont rush, it is about fun for all, not just one

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