FabSwingers.com forum: Do women find they are typically treated with respect or direspect from meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Often shocked at some of the stories I've heard from single women on the forums, how they get treated by some single men. Is this typical, or is disrespectful treatment far and few between? Do woman who are part of a couple get the same bullshit? We've on the whole been treated very well on Fab and by men we've met. But if I were single would I have to put up with crap. I wondered if men behave better when there is another man present.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've never been treated badly by any of the single men I've met. In terms of disrespect I've had nasty messages from pretty much every user group on here apart from TV/TS but I it's not that common. People are far more likely to post a thread about something negative, eye openingly weird or just plain ridiculous than 'I had a nice meet with a lovely bloke' so I take forum threads in that spirit.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

With respect - I've never met a single man where it hasn't been. I think it's because I have quite a good filter in place and if there are signs of disrespect towards women (they always crop up in some sort of fashion), I'm not interested.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

On meets I get respect, because I have vetted them well before we get to the meet stage.

Through messages on here? I'm mostly left to feel like a prostitute where money is not exchanged, some messages are just so disgusting that if someone said that to my face in real life, I would have slapped them and left them with no doubt what I felt about them, why they think they can type the shit the do and think it is ok is beyond me to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had shitty messages. I've never met anyone in person who I feel has treated me disrespectfully. But I don't meet often and sometimes it takes ages for our diaries to align, so I think that heads some of the disrespectful types off at the pass.

In terms of observing things on the forums, I don't think treating people disrespectfully is just a male pursuit.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

You can usually out the idiots...on the whole I meet with Mr but, on occasions when I have met guys alone they have been lovely.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The only thing I've found disrespectful is to be cancelled on at the last minute.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

To be honest once I've chatted I can out the idiots so always had great meets x

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

For the Women that do get disrespectful/shitty messages, Do you ever look and see if they have had any meets ? When in the chat rooms and someone is being a dick sometimes I look at their profile and a lot of them have 2-3 meets and I always wonder how if they act like that, Either they have a different attitude when chatting one on one or the Women they meet are just as bad as them

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Nothing turns me off faster than a disrespectful attitude - if you chat for a while before agreeing to meet they generally become apparent.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Never had an issue with respect during meets, if anything they've been overly nice to try and get in my knickers

Messages are another issue tho but they just get blocked and deleted

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Can't say i've had any complaints or at least not to my face

but respect works both ways.

Guys or girls who are disrepectful do get found out eventually and then they seem to disappear.

Personal view for what its worth i take every story with a pinch of salt as it is one persons point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yer tits out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was treated with serious disrespect by 3 guys off here. All loved on the site, well verified etc.

I couldn't believe their attitudes and behaviours when it came to a meet.

I remember talking to another member about what had gone on at one meet and got "oh God no, he'd never do that! He's so nice!". So I never bothered saying anything more about the 3 meets because nobody would believe me anyway.

Something people seriously know how to play the part on here but are scum underneath it. Yet, they continue to get away with it because all 3 guys are still on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was treated with serious disrespect by 3 guys off here. All loved on the site, well verified etc.

I couldn't believe their attitudes and behaviours when it came to a meet.

Something people seriously know how to play the part on here but are scum underneath it. Yet, they continue to get away with it because all 3 guys are still on the site

Had people in the past who are all nice then show their true colours. I was called a whore once by a guy i found out he was full of shit. But you do get nice guys on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was treated with serious disrespect by 3 guys off here. All loved on the site, well verified etc.

I couldn't believe their attitudes and behaviours when it came to a meet.

Something people seriously know how to play the part on here but are scum underneath it. Yet, they continue to get away with it because all 3 guys are still on the site

Wow in what way were you disrespected?

I've refused to pay for a bottle of champagne on a meet once? She might of thought I was rude , but I wasn't plan on seeing her again... So why bother... in all other aspects of the meet I was a gentleman and polite.

So I ask again... what actions Did these do that you found disrespectful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a meet where the guy has treated me disrespectfully...quite the opposite. But I have a strict vetting process, I can drop a guy like a stone at something he says during the messaging stage, and I always meet on my terms. So any knobheads are ed out early on.

In the 5 years I've been on Fab observing the forums and statuses, I've always thought that it's women who are far less respectful than men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had a meet where the guy has treated me disrespectfully...quite the opposite. But I have a strict vetting process, I can drop a guy like a stone at something he says during the messaging stage, and I always meet on my terms. So any knobheads are ed out early on.

Yep this for me too. 100%

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Get yer tits out."

Not vag pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one thing I did notice when I split from my ex was the difference in the way men and couples spoke and acted towards me when I became single, if I'm honest more so couples, it got to the point I stopped meeting them, it seemed now I didn't have a man to 'look after me' they could say and do anything and being a woman alone I'd have to just accept it

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Often shocked at some of the stories I've heard from single women on the forums, how they get treated by some single men. Is this typical, or is disrespectful treatment far and few between? Do woman who are part of a couple get the same bullshit? We've on the whole been treated very well on Fab and by men we've met. But if I were single would I have to put up with crap. I wondered if men behave better when there is another man present.

Mrs"

All the meets I've had, the men have been lovely to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been treated disrespectfully from anyone I've met on here, far from it.

I think the way I meet s out the wheat from the chaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

All my men have been absolute gems, the loveliest of men. Either by luck or happy accident I'm not sure xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a meet where I was extremely disrespected, but I had ignored my gut instincts. So I learned from it and everything has been great since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet where I was extremely disrespected, but I had ignored my gut instincts. So I learned from it and everything has been great since."

I must admit all my disappointing meets have been from my early days, I think you learn as you go along who to and not to meet, I'm quite good at finding good meets now days

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By *eonlylive1seCouple
over a year ago

Atherstone

Not had any meets with guys have been disrespectful, but when we've been in clubs , guys have been all over Mrs W in the beginning, but once they're done, can't even look her in the eye, that really pisses her off big time. Even had one guy, he'd been really nice to her face, chatting dancing etc, so the three of us went into a private room , had fun, he fucked her rolled off, got dressed, thanked me and fucked off. Didn't even glance at her , Knocked her confidence for a while. That was about five years ago tho ,

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yup. I've been disrespected on a fair few meets and post meeting... It happens and will always happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit all my disappointing meets have been from my early days, I think you learn as you go along who to and not to meet, I'm quite good at finding good meets now days "

This is true. I think some guys can try to guilt trip you into meeting and on their terms. I will only do things my way now. So if a guy doesn't want to be seen in public with me for a social then I just don't meet him.

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Total respect as we spend time screening those who don't demonstrate total respect and understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Disrespectful" is relative I think. Some women love to be treated as sex objects. "I wanna fuck you so hard" as a first message would be a massive turn on to some but a turn off to others.

I don't see it as disrespectful as such. "Inability to read profiles" is perhaps more relevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet where I was extremely disrespected, but I had ignored my gut instincts. So I learned from it and everything has been great since."

In what way did he extremely disrespect you?

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