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Whats should you put in an opening message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I message someone I introduce myself in a polite manner, tell a little about me in a non sexual way and ask then if they'd like to chat.

I very rarely get a reply. Now I'm no ripped stud but I don't think I'm totally repulsive.

What tips would you give someone? Do I need to be more sexual in a message?

Thanks

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By *inkynudeMan
over a year ago

London

I think it really depends on who you're messaging. I usually look for people who mention common interests in their profile and start from there, weather they're sexual or not. Being a single guy, my response rates are not through the roof either, but works better than any other approach I've tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refer to something that caught your eye in their profile to show you actually read it. Check that your compatible with the people you're messaging, and that they're actually looking to meet single men. Show some humour, show them why they should meet you instead of the next guy.

Women will often look at the profile of a sender before even reading the message so make sure your profile is on the money too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Couples or single ladies really. I suppose it will help if I can get verified then I may get more responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your message etiquette sounds fine. Make sure your profile is the best you can make it and keep being nice and respectful

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By *inkynudeMan
over a year ago

London


"Couples or single ladies really. I suppose it will help if I can get verified then I may get more responses "

That's a chicken and egg problem :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Refer to something that caught your eye in their profile to show you actually read it. Check that your compatible with the people you're messaging, and that they're actually looking to meet single men. Show some humour, show them why they should meet you instead of the next guy.

Women will often look at the profile of a sender before even reading the message so make sure your profile is on the money too. "

Yup I always read the full profile, I always find being polite helps in real life but not so much online on here

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Try going to a club to get veris.

Some women will be hesitant to meet a guy with no veris.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try going to a club to get veris.

Some women will be hesitant to meet a guy with no veris."

It is something I'm open to but in all honesty the idea of going to one... especially alone is a bit daunting. Definitely something I'd like to experience one day x

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I like when a message makes me laugh. Even if we're not a 'match' I'll usually reply to those ones even if only to thank them for making me smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck!!! Always great as an ice breaker and if that's not quite good enough send a picture of your cock!!! Preferably with a sky remote just for size

Hope this helps x

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By *adrMan
over a year ago

Near Bedford


"Refer to something that caught your eye in their profile to show you actually read it. Check that your compatible with the people you're messaging, and that they're actually looking to meet single men. Show some humour, show them why they should meet you instead of the next guy.

Women will often look at the profile of a sender before even reading the message so make sure your profile is on the money too. "
HEY! that's MY approach too, now we'll lose our tactical advantage ... Oh well

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By *inkynudeMan
over a year ago

London


"Fancy a fuck!!! Always great as an ice breaker and if that's not quite good enough send a picture of your cock!!! Preferably with a sky remote just for size

Hope this helps x"

Does it have to be Sky? I only have Virgin :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads and loads of cock pics

Never fails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a sky remote- don't want you virgin boys cheating on us

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By *rp861Man
over a year ago

Congresbury

Rather than writing a sales pitch on myself, i engage in conversatio n on something i have noticed on their profile. I got chatting to a friend on here because her status was "whats everyone up to?" And instead of saying something sordid with a cock pic thrown in, i went with the conversation she openly started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try this one and see if it works...

First message: Hello , do you know what winks and fucks like a tiger?

If they reply what ?

Send this

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By *inkynudeMan
over a year ago

London


"Try this one and see if it works...

First message: Hello , do you know what winks and fucks like a tiger?

If they reply what ?

Send this "

Man! You have a monstrous dick!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try this one and see if it works...

First message: Hello , do you know what winks and fucks like a tiger?

If they reply what ?

Send this "

Haha I'll probably steal that line for Saturday night in the pubs

Anyway it's kinda your fault I'm not getting messages... the women in my area are crazy for some bbc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this one and see if it works...

First message: Hello , do you know what winks and fucks like a tiger?

If they reply what ?

Send this

Haha I'll probably steal that line for Saturday night in the pubs

Anyway it's kinda your fault I'm not getting messages... the women in my area are crazy for some bbc "

No worries, I hope that helps..... just try to send a funny first message and make them laugh.... even if you're a minger , they will talk to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this one and see if it works...

First message: Hello , do you know what winks and fucks like a tiger?

If they reply what ?

Send this

Haha I'll probably steal that line for Saturday night in the pubs

Anyway it's kinda your fault I'm not getting messages... the women in my area are crazy for some bbc

No worries, I hope that helps..... just try to send a funny first message and make them laugh.... even if you're a minger , they will talk to you."

That is true, my sense of humour usually succeeds

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