FabSwingers.com forum: Wasted emotions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Having been involved es in the forums over recent weeks, I've noticed when some particular subjects are brought up, rhere seems to be a lot of people who seem to get worked up i.e. using capital letters, los of exclamation marks and resort to swearing. To me these people seem to have vent up anger and frustration on themselves. Those are wasted emotions and do nothing but self harm their own minds.

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said. Don't come here to be a pain in the arse

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is serious business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite agree. I particularly don't like the swearing, but that gets justified as ok because it's an adult sex site. Not sure what swearing to emphasise an opinion has to do with sex, but there you go.

Mrs

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

"Quite agree. I particularly don't like the swearing, but that gets justified as ok because it's an adult sex site. Not sure what swearing to emphasise an opinion has to do with sex, but there you go.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to become passionate over certain subjects, especially if you've been directly affected. There are still ways to get a point across without being a dick, though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some swingers seem to be the most the fragile and vulnerable people. You would think they would have thicker skins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know WHAT THE FUCK you're talking about!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having been involved es in the forums over recent weeks, I've noticed when some particular subjects are brought up, rhere seems to be a lot of people who seem to get worked up i.e. using capital letters, los of exclamation marks and resort to swearing. To me these people seem to have vent up anger and frustration on themselves. Those are wasted emotions and do nothing but self harm their own minds.

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

I certainly agree, it is sometimes better for us all to accept that things happen that we have no control of and that life is too short stressing over them

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Mrs"

Maybe people just choose to use a myriad of their lexicon not for emphasis and not because it's an adult site but because that's how they would respond if certain things were discussed with friends or other adults?

I dunno.

I think that people do take this site too seriously at times. If it's a subject they are passionate about though, I can sort of see why.

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By *rand GestureMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes/London

Seems like some good advice from the OP to me. Getting angry is a waste of time, you're not going to change people's opinions, in fact your likely to reinforce them.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If it hits a nerve then I can imagine people might get upset. However I do find it odd people getting worked up about things they can't affect. I find shutting down the web page helps me plenty when that happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know WHAT THE FUCK you're talking about!!!!!!!

Haha you're naughty miss

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I swear a lot, a shitload in fact, but it doesn't necessarily mean I'm any more vexed about something than anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Difficult to be upset when your laughing at what goes on, on here.

Hang on....YOU SAYING MY LAUGHTER IS A FUCKING WASTED EMOTION. !!!!!!!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?"

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

life goes on.

It really does, last year I lost 5 family members and a partner in the midst of that loss plus nearly died in hospital... no point sweating the small stuff, life is too short for popping off at people. Where's the joy these days?

We're here for a good time not a long one, to all the angry fella's out there just have a pint and get on with it. As for the ladies, well just have a cheeky glass of wine and put your feet up

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway."

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

You're entitled to your opinion. That's what the forums are for. I've been noticing for a while that a lot of people are offended at generalised threads not aimed at any particular individual, and I've often wondered if it's just me that that doesn't get bothered by such threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway."

Thank you, someone seeing this post for its true meaning. I certainly wasn't intending to be patronising to anyone in particular at all, just commenting generally about the forums.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

And how is telling people off a positive thing?

Like I said, not much riles me but the holier than though, omg why can't everyone behave, threads I find annoying.

And that's an opinion I am totally allowed to have.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

In real life as well as on here. You can't change them, so leave them be.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

Like I keep saying, it's only these type of threads that bug me. Everything else I ignore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

Like I keep saying, it's only these type of threads that bug me. Everything else I ignore

My point is though, why let it bug you. Surely life is too short

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

And how is telling people off a positive thing?

Like I said, not much riles me but the holier than though, omg why can't everyone behave, threads I find annoying.

And that's an opinion I am totally allowed to have."

Who have I told off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

Like I keep saying, it's only these type of threads that bug me. Everything else I ignore

My point is though, why let it bug you. Surely life is too short

Probably because she finds patronising posts pathetic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

And how is telling people off a positive thing?

Like I said, not much riles me but the holier than though, omg why can't everyone behave, threads I find annoying.

And that's an opinion I am totally allowed to have.

Who have I told off

Playful-Minx, I think you have just been told off for starting this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

And how is telling people off a positive thing?

Like I said, not much riles me but the holier than though, omg why can't everyone behave, threads I find annoying.

And that's an opinion I am totally allowed to have.

Who have I told off

Playful-Minx, I think you have just been told off for starting this thread

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

Like I keep saying, it's only these type of threads that bug me. Everything else I ignore

My point is though, why let it bug you. Surely life is too short

Probably because she finds patronising posts pathetic?"

The problem is how does one know what others are going to find patronising? It never would have occurred to me that so many threads are considered patronisation to others. So people make mistakes in their choice of threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I don't get riled about much but these patronising threads telling us how to post do take the piss

Did you mean you find this thread patronising, or were you referring to other threads?

This one and the ones that tell us to "be nice". Like we're all idiots and don't know how to behave

I don't feel the OP was referring to all forum users, just those who, like you say, don't know how to behave. I didn't find it patronising anyway.

Oh in that case I better change my opinion then, silly me

Like I keep saying, it's only these type of threads that bug me. Everything else I ignore

My point is though, why let it bug you. Surely life is too short

Probably because she finds patronising posts pathetic?"

But it isn't patronising in the slightest. It's meant to be a happy positive thread, you know as in fun, which is after all what this site is meant to be all about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This site is serious business."

Serious....? No, it's all fun and games in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

For positivity to exist negativity does also.

It's all tit for tat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

For positivity to exist negativity does also.

It's all tit for tat."

I prefer tits personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I tried, some people thrive on negativity in any shape or form

For positivity to exist negativity does also.

It's all tit for tat.

I prefer tits personally."

Me too, can't beat a nice pair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having the most fun when I'm arguing with a complete tosser.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Probably because she finds patronising posts pathetic?

But it isn't patronising in the slightest. It's meant to be a happy positive thread, you know as in fun, which is after all what this site is meant to be all about

I totally get that you didn't intend it to be, it just came across to me that way because I have a dislike of these type of posts.

A dislike not a hatred or anything sinister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

I see what you were trying to say, OP, but your wording does come across as a little patronising, in my opinion.

You can't really dictate how people should deal with a thread that they find quite personal. Sometimes passion overtakes "rising above".

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I see what you were trying to say, OP, but your wording does come across as a little patronising, in my opinion.

You can't really dictate how people should deal with a thread that they find quite personal. Sometimes passion overtakes "rising above"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

I see what you were trying to say, OP, but your wording does come across as a little patronising, in my opinion.

You can't really dictate how people should deal with a thread that they find quite personal. Sometimes passion overtakes "rising above".

I apologise if it appears patronising or dictating. That was never the intention. I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....and it would be really really dull if everyone bit their tongues and only said what was acceptable. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas."

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

I see what you were trying to say, OP, but your wording does come across as a little patronising, in my opinion.

You can't really dictate how people should deal with a thread that they find quite personal. Sometimes passion overtakes "rising above".

I apologise if it appears patronising or dictating. That was never the intention. I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

Haha... nice little hidden dig there, OP.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx"

Why are you automatically a keyboard warrior if you disagree with some things? I disagree with judgemental posts - I do the same in real life. I guess I'm a warrior in real life too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx

Why are you automatically a keyboard warrior if you disagree with some things? I disagree with judgemental posts - I do the same in real life. I guess I'm a warrior in real life too.

Do a haka next time you meet. That should warm things up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx

Why are you automatically a keyboard warrior if you disagree with some things? I disagree with judgemental posts - I do the same in real life. I guess I'm a warrior in real life too.

Maybe just agree to differ on this one. Wasn't meant to be particularly a dig at anyone but the forums seem to go through bouts of negativity and while it's good to be able to voice opinion sometimes the more cheerful things seem to get drowned out.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Maybe just agree to differ on this one. Wasn't meant to be particularly a dig at anyone but the forums seem to go through bouts of negativity and while it's good to be able to voice opinion sometimes the more cheerful things seem to get drowned out."

I don't agree, cheerful threads do well. This did not start as a cheerful post. it was a complaining post about how some people behave in the forums. And negative posts never turn out well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't agree, cheerful threads do well. This did not start as a cheerful post. it was a complaining post about how some people behave in the forums. And negative posts never turn out well

Re read original post. It was positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to let certain subjects grind my gears, but sometimes you read some right vindictive twaddle on here and i have to fight back the urge to jump down the screen and wave my fist in the air in a passive aggressive way.

Then i imagine what View would do and i am overcome by a serene calm and i get a grip of myself. Non sexually.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you. "

When you aim it at people in general everyone is included

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you.

When you aim it at people in general everyone is included

True

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

How can you tell if people are really worked up or just read as if they are. I have had people tell me to calm down when I am completely calm and enjoying the banter .... I think it's a little presumptuous to assume and says more about those people in that moment and how worked up they are. Not you, OP, just the sanctimonious tone of the person who messaged me told me all I needed to know about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

Well said too many people want to be offended these days and some poisonous stuff being said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx

Why are you automatically a keyboard warrior if you disagree with some things? I disagree with judgemental posts - I do the same in real life. I guess I'm a warrior in real life too.

xena the warrior princess? That's how I'm picturing you now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you.

When you aim it at people in general everyone is included

If something that some people do bothers someone, should they keep it themselves? Or should they be allowed to initiate a generalised discussion about that behaviour on the forums? If the latter is allowed, how should the OP phrase it so that nobody gets offended and feel that the thread shouldn't have been posted?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If something that some people do bothers someone, should they keep it themselves? Or should they be allowed to initiate a generalised discussion about that behaviour on the forums? If the latter is allowed, how should the OP phrase it so that nobody gets offended and feel that the thread shouldn't have been posted? "

Obviously I think it's best to say something. I don't think the original post was offensive, just patronising.

No one is saying it shouldn't have been posted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you.

When you aim it at people in general everyone is included

Anyone else lost ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

Well said too many people want to be offended these days and some poisonous stuff being said x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just try to be positive and happy in life, but I get that some people are the opposite. Hey ho, I tried

And now saying that those that don't agree are negative is adding insult.

I'm mega positive and I don't need you questioning my character thanks

Where have I questioned your character ?

I've never aimed this personally to anyone whatsoever. You seem to be the one choosing to make this about you.

When you aim it at people in general everyone is included

Is it possible that no one gets offended...I have my doubts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously I think it's best to say something. I don't think the original post was offensive, just patronising.

No one is saying it shouldn't have been posted."

So the question is how to phrase something in a way that people don't find patronising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone that says anything too offensive or obscene is dealt with by the mods. I don't see it as anyone else's job to say what people should be allowed to feel and what what emotions they should have. It's called being broadminded.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

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"No one is saying it shouldn't have been posted.

So the question is how to phrase something in a way that people don't find patronising"

Not even that, if one starts a post there is always the chance that someone may not like how it comes over.

It's the risk you take. On this occasion those of us who thought it was patronising are way outnumbered by those that don't.

The trick, as an OP, is to see the big picture and not let any replies get to you.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

If everyone posted positive posts it be boring

A bit of diversity is good!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Anyone that says anything too offensive or obscene is dealt with by the mods. I don't see it as anyone else's job to say what people should be allowed to feel and what what emotions they should have. It's called being broadminded. "

Sometimes people just want to come on here for a rant. And sometimes they logged on in a good mood, stumbled on the politics forum, and felt the need to lash out on another post.

I think if people start dictating what should and shouldn't be considered the correct way to behave on the forums then this place is going to get very boring, very fast.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one is saying it shouldn't have been posted.

So the question is how to phrase something in a way that people don't find patronising

Not even that, if one starts a post there is always the chance that someone may not like how it comes over.

It's the risk you take. On this occasion those of us who thought it was patronising are way outnumbered by those that don't.

The trick, as an OP, is to see the big picture and not let any replies get to you."

I was saying that exact thing in my first post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

If everyone posted positive posts it be boring

A bit of diversity is good! "

Diversity is good, I agree, and having a polite debate is healthy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sometimes people just want to come on here for a rant. And sometimes they logged on in a good mood, stumbled on the politics forum, and felt the need to lash out on another post.

I think if people start dictating what should and shouldn't be considered the correct way to behave on the forums then this place is going to get very boring, very fast."

I darent even venture into the politics forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say just post in the style you want too, as long as you're not breaking any rules there is no problem.

I learnt my lesson about posting on threads where the subject was emotive to me, I steer clear of them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

What gives anyone the right to tell others how they should or shouldnt feel and what emotions they should or shouldnt have?

Posts like that give an impressive of superiority and comes across as patronising to others.

Run your life the way you see fit but dont tell others how to run theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

What gives anyone the right to tell others how they should or shouldnt feel and what emotions they should or shouldnt have?

Posts like that give an impressive of superiority and comes across as patronising to others.

Run your life the way you see fit but dont tell others how to run theirs.

So are people who comment on behaviour they don't like being 'superior'? Or are they just commenting on behaviour they don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

What gives anyone the right to tell others how they should or shouldnt feel and what emotions they should or shouldnt have?

Posts like that give an impressive of superiority and comes across as patronising to others.

Run your life the way you see fit but dont tell others how to run theirs.

So are people who comment on behaviour they don't like being 'superior'? Or are they just commenting on behaviour they don't like. "

Only if they are telling others what they should or shouldnt do according to the posters advice

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So are people who comment on behaviour they don't like being 'superior'? Or are they just commenting on behaviour they don't like. "

Just commenting, in my case at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

What gives anyone the right to tell others how they should or shouldnt feel and what emotions they should or shouldnt have?

Posts like that give an impressive of superiority and comes across as patronising to others.

Run your life the way you see fit but dont tell others how to run theirs.

So are people who comment on behaviour they don't like being 'superior'? Or are they just commenting on behaviour they don't like.

Only if they are telling others what they should or shouldnt do according to the posters advice "

So would it have been ok if she'd left the last 2 paragraph off, or expressed them as a view as opposed to advise?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To those who find it patronising, I will say it yet again, that wasn't my intention, but people are entitled to read into it what they want to and perceive it as they wish.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded."

I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You can just ignore a post you don't really appreciate and let the person writing it be just a little happier. Really is no harm in it

Or you can use the forum to have a discussion about something you don't quite agree with and use the forum as a forum is intended - a place for the exchanging of ideas.

Yup, you can indeed come on here. Be a keyboard warrior and disagree with many when you're bored. Completely agree you can xx

Why are you automatically a keyboard warrior if you disagree with some things? I disagree with judgemental posts - I do the same in real life. I guess I'm a warrior in real life too.

xena the warrior princess? That's how I'm picturing you now

Yeah. Bit darker and fatter mind but as much of a slightly obnoxious so and so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

It's a polite discussion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

It's a polite discussion

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"To those who find it patronising, I will say it yet again, that wasn't my intention, but people are entitled to read into it what they want to and perceive it as they wish. "

I've already said I know you didn't mean it that way

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions. "

Anger in the right circumstances is positively healthy. Though I think jealousy is not good for us.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion."

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Your opinion is coloured by your dislike of some of the posters. I believe this has been a very balanced debate, with some misunderstanding that was cleared up, politely.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Your opinion is coloured by your dislike of some of the posters. I believe this has been a very balanced debate, with some misunderstanding that was cleared up, politely."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions.

Anger in the right circumstances is positively healthy. Though I think jealousy is not good for us."

But jealousy can encourage ambition, competition, etc. I think all emotions are good and bad depeding on how they are used and in what extremes.

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over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

If you can point them out I'd appreciate it because I can't see any

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions.

Anger in the right circumstances is positively healthy. Though I think jealousy is not good for us.

But jealousy can encourage ambition, competition, etc. I think all emotions are good and bad depeding on how they are used and in what extremes. "

Yeah, its envy that is the destructive emotion. jealousy can be positive, although it is coloured on this site by the reason this site exists.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions.

Anger in the right circumstances is positively healthy. Though I think jealousy is not good for us.

But jealousy can encourage ambition, competition, etc. I think all emotions are good and bad depeding on how they are used and in what extremes. "

That makes sense, though would that be envy?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

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"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

Yours re so right there. Some people seem to spend their time recalling word for word what others post ..... nothing better to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

John there, everyone... Giving us all a good example of how to be truly patronising.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

Score points ?? Are we playing a game ?? If so I'd prefer a game of naked twister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's fucking wrong with fucking swearing? Nothing fucking wrong with the shit in my fucking book!

Same goes for exclamation marks, don't know what's wrong with them!!!!!!!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"John there, everyone... Giving us all a good example of how to be truly patronising. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"John there, everyone... Giving us all a good example of how to be truly patronising. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think anger or jealousy are wasted emotions.

Anger in the right circumstances is positively healthy. Though I think jealousy is not good for us.

But jealousy can encourage ambition, competition, etc. I think all emotions are good and bad depeding on how they are used and in what extremes.

That makes sense, though would that be envy?"

I think it's both envy and jealousy. Both can make you more ambitious, both can be destructive. I think it's the circumstances that determine their worthiness.

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By *laymate guyMan
over a year ago

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Playful-Minx: some of the responses in this thread just serve to prove your original supposition.

We are not their type... and they are not ours... and never the twain shall meet...

Human nature, especially in an arena where people are driven to posture and peacock more than normal, polarises into two distinct sides on here: those who can stand back and appreciate and those who regard any opinion other than their own to be aggressive and challenging.

Negativity is such a wasted emotion and serves no purpose whatsoever.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

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Sounds like the 'clique' have upset this guy

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Gods, they're all crawling out now. Watch out women, the mansplainers are massing.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

Score points ?? Are we playing a game ?? If so I'd prefer a game of naked twister

Not at all if I remember rightly I bottled it due to someone having a unfair advantage

Thus is the second no maybe third post today with the same old people bickering over what a opinion .but hay one post from me put a stop to that because i gave both sides something someone else to fixate on you can thank me later because today has seem more than its fair sgare of time outs

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic."

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?"

Most ive had is £2.50

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Thus is the second no maybe third post today with the same old people bickering over what a opinion"

Yes, talking about opinions is allowed in the forums.. When it's not I'll leave Fab

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?

Most ive had is £2.50

I got £18 odd once

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?"

Id maybe prefer boots points...im thinking some new perfume, or maybe lipstick

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?"

I hope so. I've only got forty odd pounds on mine and I could do with a few more. Do I earn them from disagreeing with a match made? Or a view on some willies?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"i gave both sides something someone else to fixate on you can thank me later because today has seem more than its fair sgare of time outs

You give yourself far too much credit. Constantly.

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over a year ago

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?

Most ive had is £2.50

I got £18 odd once

Show off

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think it's the circumstances that determine their worthiness."

True, I think of jealousy as a negative thing. But that's just how I've seen it so far in my life.

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over a year ago

"I see this post has descended into another negative game of point scoring by ego maniacs

oh well shrugs shoulders and goes looking for some fun with those who leave the egos at the logging on page

Surely that was some form of point scoring? The irony!

People aren't ego maniacs if they are having a discussion.

Not at all its the same old egis holding grudges only taking a different view to score points .green arrow shows the truth better than a truth serum

Score points ?? Are we playing a game ?? If so I'd prefer a game of naked twister

Not at all if I remember rightly I bottled it due to someone having a unfair advantage

Bickering....that's for children, healthy debating is what has gone on in this thread.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?

I hope so. I've only got forty odd pounds on mine and I could do with a few more. Do I earn them from disagreeing with a match made? Or a view on some willies? "

Not sure, John seems the one in the know about scoring points

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

Maybe people need to learn to accept things happen In life, sometimes not always good things, but people need to move forwards in life.

Don't waste yourself on pointless emotions such as anger and jealousy.

Rise above and try to be positive and broad minded.

If everyone posted positive posts it be boring

A bit of diversity is good!

Diversity is good, I agree, and having a polite debate is healthy

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Oh yeah, people holding grudges from Willy Wednesday, Matchmaking threads, Zero Meet club and a thread about what to do with a dirty old mattress. Logic.

Gosh yes, it's total mayhem out there

And the point scoring, is that like Nectar points?

Most ive had is £2.50

I got £18 odd once

Show off

It was a long time ago

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over a year ago

"I think it's the circumstances that determine their worthiness.

True, I think of jealousy as a negative thing. But that's just how I've seen it so far in my life."

Personally I think all emotions taken to extremes can be damaging but a little bit of everything in moderation I would say is healthy.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

John, how do I score points? I really want some new copper pans and a cheesecake.

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over a year ago

"I think it's the circumstances that determine their worthiness.

True, I think of jealousy as a negative thing. But that's just how I've seen it so far in my life.

Personally I think all emotions taken to extremes can be damaging but a little bit of everything in moderation I would say is healthy."

I can't think of a reason that jealousy would be a healthy emotion for me.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

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"John, how do I score points? I really want some new copper pans and a cheesecake."

I saw a sets of vintage copper pans down Southgate action on Monday why bother trying to score points live a little buy a set .

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