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"No not kids mum. Total slut. Left her 4 years ago" Haha you call her a total slut. Yet you were fucking behind your girlfriends back for three years. Very hypocritical to say that. | |||
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"No not kids mum. Total slut. Left her 4 years ago" And your a male slut | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Oh get to fuck. What rubbish. | |||
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"Coz I'm so good looking you couldn't help yourself! !" Pass me the sick bucket! | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Sorry but in my book been on any date or sex site even just for cha is still cheating !!! Would you tell her your on a sex Site chatting to people ??? | |||
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"Coz I'm so good looking you couldn't help yourself! !" Is that Counsellor helping you with this issue too? | |||
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"Coz I'm so good looking you couldn't help yourself! !" I like you  | |||
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"Coz I'm so good looking you couldn't help yourself! ! Is that Counsellor helping you with this issue too? " Ha ha ha  | |||
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"Coz I'm so good looking you couldn't help yourself! !" Oh no... That really wasn't the reason | |||
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"Why not delete it? Why hide it?... And why dear God did I have to click on your profile and see your status? "You know I read this and had to look too.... obviously values ladies  | |||
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"I smell bullshit!" ...A great, steaming pile of it! | |||
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"I smell bullshit! ...A great, steaming pile of it!" | |||
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"Sounds like double standards !!! Personally you should leave her to find a guy who won't cheat on her , !! Your really no better than your children's mother !!! " Double standards surely that never happens on Fab does it ?! | |||
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"Sounds like double standards !!! Personally you should leave her to find a guy who won't cheat on her , !! Your really no better than your children's mother !!! Double standards surely that never happens on Fab does it ?!"Not for me , if I'm in a relation with someone then it's no messing with others or sex chat with others | |||
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"Sounds like double standards !!! Personally you should leave her to find a guy who won't cheat on her , !! Your really no better than your children's mother !!! Double standards surely that never happens on Fab does it ?!
Not for me , if I'm in a relation with someone then it's no messing with others or sex chat with others "Good to hear, but I was being sarcastic about double standards on Fab. | |||
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"Sounds like double standards !!! Personally you should leave her to find a guy who won't cheat on her , !! Your really no better than your children's mother !!! Double standards surely that never happens on Fab does it ?!
Not for me , if I'm in a relation with someone then it's no messing with others or sex chat with others
Good to hear, but I was being sarcastic about double standards on Fab. "Ahhhhh good point yes , guess there are many like that | |||
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"Sounds like double standards !!! Personally you should leave her to find a guy who won't cheat on her , !! Your really no better than your children's mother !!! Double standards surely that never happens on Fab does it ?!
Not for me , if I'm in a relation with someone then it's no messing with others or sex chat with others
Good to hear, but I was being sarcastic about double standards on Fab.
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.  | |||
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"No not kids mum. Total slut. Left her 4 years ago Haha you call her a total slut. Yet you were fucking behind your girlfriends back for three years. Very hypocritical to say that. " | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again" It is possible to love someone but also cheat. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer. "He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice. | |||
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"I have a confession. I have spent the last 3 years cheating on my girl friend at swinger clubs and private meets. I was even spotted by her mum at my local club as it turned out she attends it too and she told my gf what I had done!!! My gf still loves me and wants me back!! We've been living apart for 2 months now but seeing each other just 3 times a week has made the sex amazing again!!! Should I turn my back on this lifestyle for a girl who truly loves me??? The kids mum fucked everyone behind my back and got with a guy a week after we split. This girl is still loyal despite the horrible stuff I've done to her!!! What a position to be in!!" Totally wrong place for relationship advice mate. Hypocrites giving a hypocrite advice just to make themselves feel better about their own sad existence. You know what the right thing to do is so just do it. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.
He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice."He has prob worked her..with all the ..im so soz ..I.ll never do it again..I only went to see...and all that shit..she probably has such so low self esteem .. And he got cort..at a club..  | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat." . Dont think I.d want that type of love  | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love "It can be extremely happy for all concerned. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.
He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice.
He has prob worked her..with all the ..im so soz ..I.ll never do it again..I only went to see...and all that shit..she probably has such so low self esteem ..
And he got cort..at a club.. "And..? It's still her choice | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." What a load of crap .. You cheat because you want too Not influenced by what others do.  | |||
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"No not kids mum. Total slut. Left her 4 years ago Haha you call her a total slut. Yet you were fucking behind your girlfriends back for three years. Very hypocritical to say that. " True true. Sorry for your dilemma but lifestyle over loving. Obviously you are not happy with your relationship and your sexlife with her else you wouldn't be swinging. | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love
It can be extremely happy for all concerned. "I don't get it. How can you love someone fully with the respect that comes with that, but still be prepared to hurt them deeply when they inevitably discover your betrayal. | |||
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omg talk about giving a guy a hard time wow . We're all on fab Cus we're some way or another addicted and there's thousands of married guys in here doing exactly the same as him | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.
He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice.
He has prob worked her..with all the ..im so soz ..I.ll never do it again..I only went to see...and all that shit..she probably has such so low self esteem ..
And he got cort..at a club..
And..? It's still her choice "I doubt very much she has all the information to make a fully informed choice. | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love " I wouldn't either | |||
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" omg talk about giving a guy a hard time wow . We're all on fab Cus we're some way or another addicted and there's thousands of married guys in here doing exactly the same as him "And if they came to the forums in an attempt to brag under the guise of advice they would get a similar response. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.
He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice.
He has prob worked her..with all the ..im so soz ..I.ll never do it again..I only went to see...and all that shit..she probably has such so low self esteem ..
And he got cort..at a club..
And..? It's still her choice "Not if he in her head..she may see sence in time..he could just be saying she wants him ..prob him after her still... Not all women are strong self women... Oh and morning | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Soz op .but what a load of bollocks. . Cheating is caused by u not being able to keep it in ya pants... Yeah get back with her..and get a couple profile...let some of us fuck her hard. Or leave her to find a proppa geezer.
He has left, its his GF that is wanting him back. Am I the only one seeing that fact? She knows what he's like yet still wants him. Her choice.
He has prob worked her..with all the ..im so soz ..I.ll never do it again..I only went to see...and all that shit..she probably has such so low self esteem ..
And he got cort..at a club..
And..? It's still her choice
Not if he in her head..she may see sence in time..he could just be saying she wants him ..prob him after her still...
Not all women are strong self women...
Oh and morning "But she knows about his cheating. Fact. Regardless of what he says to her. | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love
I wouldn't either "Fair enough. What works for one may not work for another. I get that. My point is though is that it can work, very successfully. There are plenty of people on here in that situation, both knowingly and unknowingly. Not everyone's relationship is what they think it is. | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love
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Fair enough. What works for one may not work for another. I get that. My point is though is that it can work, very successfully. There are plenty of people on here in that situation, both knowingly and unknowingly. Not everyone's
relationship is what they think it is."Well that can be true..but the ones that know..well they know. If yr doing it behind someones back..maybe that person not the right one for u... I have started relationships and said I swing some r fine some r intrigued some never return...lol As frank said.."thats life" But im up front ..no lies If she wanted to be with me the person but not me so much sexauly then.. Boom...swingers club..hey prestoe..lol Lifes a funny kettle of fish that for sure.. | |||
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"But you are still on here! Let the poor lass be, let her move on and find that true love she deserves " I agree with this | |||
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"Do you love her? Put it this way mate! I would do absolutely anything for my girl! She is everything to me! I would say if your feelings for her are not the same! The best thing to do is say bye and move on because I have the feeling this whole situation will start again It is possible to love someone but also cheat.. Dont think I.d want that type of love
I wouldn't either
Fair enough. What works for one may not work for another. I get that. My point is though is that it can work, very successfully. There are plenty of people on here in that situation, both knowingly and unknowingly. Not everyone's
relationship is what they think it is.
Well that can be true..but the ones that know..well they know.
If yr doing it behind someones back..maybe that person not the right one for u...
I have started relationships and said I swing some r fine some r intrigued some never return...lol
As frank said.."thats life"
But im up front ..no lies
If she wanted to be with me the person but not me so much sexauly then..
Boom...swingers club..hey prestoe..lol
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"It is possible to love someone but also cheat." It's really not. I love my wife and would never do something behind her back that I know would absolutely destroy her if she found out. Honesty and love walk hand in hand. | |||
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"It is possible to love someone but also cheat. It's really not. I love my wife and would never do something behind her back that I know would absolutely destroy her if she found out. Honesty and love walk hand in hand." I agree completely, I am on here with my partners consent and will stop when she says or if it starts affecting our relationship. Be honest, man up and tell her all or don't fucking bother. | |||
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"Just dont feed the troll" This
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....at least I hope to goodness he's taking the michael...
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"This is outstanding (as entertainment) I can only assume he's trying to be funny. Particularly love that he states in his profile blurb that he won't pay the £30 entry fee to a club, because it goes against his 'moral principles'...but cheating on a loyal girlfriend doesn't...?
....at least I hope to goodness he's taking the michael...
"I don't think he is..... DD parties do bareback gangbangs and (everyone to their own and all that and I'm not opening this can of worms) if he attended them while he was with his girlfriend he risked giving her something nasty.... I hope our paths never cross! | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Oh get to fuck. What rubbish." Lol | |||
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"Lucky girl... she escaped, why not let her stay lucky and leave her alone to have the chance of a peaceful, happy life instead of the hurt, lies and dissapointment you clearly have to offer." Most women love the bad boy! | |||
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"It is possible to love someone but also cheat. It's really not. I love my wife and would never do something behind her back that I know would absolutely destroy her if she found out. Honesty and love walk hand in hand." It so is possible. You've obviously never been in that position. | |||
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"Op. You sir are a massive Dick! As someone who's been on the receiving end of a cheat (abielt many many years ago) there's no coming back from that feeling of is she or isn't she (or he in you exs case) there's a nagging doubt that's in your mind that, although can be overcome slightly in practice, will never fully go away. If that person does anything that's slightly out the ordinary it sets your mind off. e.g they start playing a new game on their phone so they're on it more than usual.they've not told you, so your mind starts wondering why they're on their phone so much? Next minute you're at work and it eats at you then you make the whole scenario if that's what they're doing when I'm in the room what are they up to now I'm not there. And the feeling eats you. Now, they're just playing an innocent game. And you're thinking they're fucking around. Even if they're trying to do something nice like secretly plan a birthday party or present that naturally they would have to keep a secret from you. You know they're hiding something so automatically you go for worst case. It's a horrible horrible feeling and for her sake do the first decent thing you've done since you met her and stay the fuck away. Let her meet the man she deserves and not an egotistical bell end like you. Oh and to the others "defending" cheating. NO! JUST NO! It's NEVER justifiable and we ALWAYS find out in the end and sorry it can end world's! Not happy with what you have at home either tell them the truth and hope they understand and join you in your lifestyle or at least consent to you doing it or just get the fuck out of there and don't destroy someone you supposedly 'love' " Whoa...capital letters. I sense anger. I'm afraid it can be justifiable and it's possible to cheat without getting caught, in fact it's fairly easy to do if you go about it the right way. | |||
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" Whoa...capital letters. I sense anger. I'm afraid it can be justifiable and it's possible to cheat without getting caught, in fact it's fairly easy to do if you go about it the right way. " Go on then, justify it, justify that it's OK whilst your OH is blissfully going round thinking he's in love with this magical woman who loves and adore him, a woman who makes him feel like the luckiest bastard walking the planet because out of everyone in the world she chose him. The kids are feeling secure and lucky that they live in a loving and stable home built on trust and loyalty and love. Half of their friends have broken homes but they don't because they have two parents that love and respect their family unit. Then one day Boom that other half finds out (as always happens eventually) then all involved (except the cheat) feel the ground disapear from under them because the fundamental element of their life was all lies! You justify that it's ok to go about that life! If your OH has done anything despicable enough to justify you cheating then just fucking leave! If he doesn't do you good enough in the bedroom then just fucking leave! Not got any excuses. You don't like his imperfections then just leave him and let him find someone who does! I could go and commit armed robbery, rape, or murder and not get caught if i "did it right" does that make it ok?? As pretty as you are on the outside Hun you have a very ugly core if that's your viewpoint! | |||
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" Whoa...capital letters. I sense anger. I'm afraid it can be justifiable and it's possible to cheat without getting caught, in fact it's fairly easy to do if you go about it the right way. Go on then, justify it, justify that it's OK whilst your OH is blissfully going round thinking he's in love with this magical woman who loves and adore him, a woman who makes him feel like the luckiest bastard walking the planet because out of everyone in the world she chose him. The kids are feeling secure and lucky that they live in a loving and stable home built on trust and loyalty and love. Half of their friends have broken homes but they don't because they have two parents that love and respect their family unit. Then one day Boom that other half finds out (as always happens eventually) then all involved (except the cheat) feel the ground disapear from under them because the fundamental element of their life was all lies! You justify that it's ok to go about that life! If your OH has done anything despicable enough to justify you cheating then just fucking leave! If he doesn't do you good enough in the bedroom then just fucking leave! Not got any excuses. You don't like his imperfections then just leave him and let him find someone who does! I could go and commit armed robbery, rape, or murder and not get caught if i "did it right" does that make it ok?? As pretty as you are on the outside Hun you have a very ugly core if that's your viewpoint! " Please calm down. I certainly shan't be detailing my marriage here or justifying my reasons, but they do exist. And like I said before, cheating does not always get found out. If ithis thread gets you so wound up that you have to resort to swearing,may I suggest you should maybe move onto another thread. ? Of course the choice is totally yours though. | |||
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" Whoa...capital letters. I sense anger. I'm afraid it can be justifiable and it's possible to cheat without getting caught, in fact it's fairly easy to do if you go about it the right way. Go on then, justify it, justify that it's OK whilst your OH is blissfully going round thinking he's in love with this magical woman who loves and adore him, a woman who makes him feel like the luckiest bastard walking the planet because out of everyone in the world she chose him. The kids are feeling secure and lucky that they live in a loving and stable home built on trust and loyalty and love. Half of their friends have broken homes but they don't because they have two parents that love and respect their family unit. Then one day Boom that other half finds out (as always happens eventually) then all involved (except the cheat) feel the ground disapear from under them because the fundamental element of their life was all lies! You justify that it's ok to go about that life! If your OH has done anything despicable enough to justify you cheating then just fucking leave! If he doesn't do you good enough in the bedroom then just fucking leave! Not got any excuses. You don't like his imperfections then just leave him and let him find someone who does! I could go and commit armed robbery, rape, or murder and not get caught if i "did it right" does that make it ok?? As pretty as you are on the outside Hun you have a very ugly core if that's your viewpoint! " Oh and my partner e certainly doesn't think I'm a magical women. That's just plain stupidity that anyone would think that about another human being. Magic doesn't exist don't you know. | |||
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" Whoa...capital letters. I sense anger. I'm afraid it can be justifiable and it's possible to cheat without getting caught, in fact it's fairly easy to do if you go about it the right way. Go on then, justify it, justify that it's OK whilst your OH is blissfully going round thinking he's in love with this magical woman who loves and adore him, a woman who makes him feel like the luckiest bastard walking the planet because out of everyone in the world she chose him. The kids are feeling secure and lucky that they live in a loving and stable home built on trust and loyalty and love. Half of their friends have broken homes but they don't because they have two parents that love and respect their family unit. Then one day Boom that other half finds out (as always happens eventually) then all involved (except the cheat) feel the ground disapear from under them because the fundamental element of their life was all lies! You justify that it's ok to go about that life! If your OH has done anything despicable enough to justify you cheating then just fucking leave! If he doesn't do you good enough in the bedroom then just fucking leave! Not got any excuses. You don't like his imperfections then just leave him and let him find someone who does! I could go and commit armed robbery, rape, or murder and not get caught if i "did it right" does that make it ok?? As pretty as you are on the outside Hun you have a very ugly core if that's your viewpoint! I think the ground disappears for the cheat too, in all the cases I've seen. Silly, short sighted selfishness.... " I've seen many people where cheating can work and actually save a marriage, but obviously not everyone has the knowledge or capability to see things from a different viewpoint. | |||
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"It so is possible. You've obviously never been in that position." I haven't and I pray I never am. And honestly, you can truly love someone and cheat on them. If you think you can then you've never been in love. | |||
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"It so is possible. You've obviously never been in that position. I haven't and I pray I never am. And honestly, you can truly love someone and cheat on them. If you think you can then you've never been in love. " I can guarantee you I have. You can't really comment properly if you've never actually been in the same position as me, as you are simply talking hypothetically and not from proven facts. | |||
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" I've seen many people where cheating can work and actually save a marriage, but obviously not everyone has the knowledge or capability to see things from a different viewpoint." SAVE a marriage? Have you just said that? OH dear you're making this far too easy for me! There's a preview button, I suggest you use it to read what your written before you post! | |||
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"I'm calm, I've pulled out some very justified reason (some very personal some vague) as to why being cheated on is the shitiest think you can do to another human! I'm sorry if the word fucking offends you but I'm sure you'll appreciate that this is an adult website where there is a cock or a tit or a quim out on pretty much every page, including your own, so I think we can all assume we're adults here. You could have simply got your point accurately across with one sentence, that sentence being....... 'I can't justify being a liar and a cheat towards my husband' simples Now you can try and justify your bullshit excuses all you like, that's your choice! I have a choice to and that's not to believe a word you say. This thread is all about cheating, I've offered my opinion on cheating so I'll choose to stay within the thread topic thanks.
Good for you. I wont be justify myself to you, or anyone. I've no need to. But I'm talking from life experience. "That's your choice him but you said and I quote "it can be justifiable" all I did was ask you just justify it. If you're not willing to justify it then by definition it can not be justifiable. | |||
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"Whether your partner knows or not doesn't really make a difference. It's just sex." If it's "just sex" then why not tell them? I'm not trying to be preachy here, people can do what they want in their own relationships. You want to cheat? Go ahead, none of my business. Just don't try to dress it up like it's no big deal or that you love them. Not only are you deceiving them but you're deceiving yourself. | |||
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"I have a confession. I have spent the last 3 years cheating on my girl friend at swinger clubs and private meets. I was even spotted by her mum at my local club as it turned out she attends it too and she told my gf what I had done!!! My gf still loves me and wants me back!! We've been living apart for 2 months now but seeing each other just 3 times a week has made the sex amazing again!!! Should I turn my back on this lifestyle for a girl who truly loves me??? The kids mum fucked everyone behind my back and got with a guy a week after we split. This girl is still loyal despite the horrible stuff I've done to her!!! What a position to be in!!" Show her this thread op ,make sure she knows the whole story ,sure that will soon change her mind. Miss | |||
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"I think there's a massive difference in having sex with someone other than your partner without any emotional attachment to the person you're having extramarital sex with and cheating where emotions are involved. Whether your partner knows or not doesn't really make a difference. It's just sex." In that case tell the husband/wife about it and see if they think it's OK just because its just sex! If they're fine with it then it's a different story. Doesn't matter if it's a kiss, sex, blowjob, fingering or gangbang if the other person has no knowledge of it it's wrong! | |||
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"I think there's a massive difference in having sex with someone other than your partner without any emotional attachment to the person you're having extramarital sex with and cheating where emotions are involved. Whether your partner knows or not doesn't really make a difference. It's just sex. In that case tell the husband/wife about it and see if they think it's OK just because its just sex! If they're fine with it then it's a different story. Doesn't matter if it's a kiss, sex, blowjob, fingering or gangbang if the other person has no knowledge of it it's wrong! "
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"I'm calm, I've pulled out some very justified reason (some very personal some vague) as to why being cheated on is the shitiest think you can do to another human! I'm sorry if the word fucking offends you but I'm sure you'll appreciate that this is an adult website where there is a cock or a tit or a quim out on pretty much every page, including your own, so I think we can all assume we're adults here. You could have simply got your point accurately across with one sentence, that sentence being....... 'I can't justify being a liar and a cheat towards my husband' simples Now you can try and justify your bullshit excuses all you like, that's your choice! I have a choice to and that's not to believe a word you say. This thread is all about cheating, I've offered my opinion on cheating so I'll choose to stay within the thread topic thanks.
Good for you. I wont be justify myself to you, or anyone. I've no need to. But I'm talking from life experience.
That's your choice him but you said and I quote "it can be justifiable" all I did was ask you just justify it. If you're not willing to justify it then by definition it can not be justifiable.
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. " I know excatly where you're coming from. But there's a few on here that simply don't get it. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. " I know exactly where you're coming from. But people have their minds closed on here and judge without knowing facts, which of course they are allowed to do. But I would hate to live life in their shoes. I'm open minded and able to see points of view from all sides. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Sorry, don't buy this. We all have personal responsibility for our actions. You chose to make a profile and be on here and meet other people for sex. Own your actions and stop making excuses that other people 'made' you do it. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. I know exactly where you're coming from. But people have their minds closed on here and judge without knowing facts, which of course they are allowed to do. But I would hate to live life in their shoes. I'm open minded and able to see points of view from all sides." Would you be as open minded if it was the other way round though? | |||
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"Omg. I am his ex's mums mate and what a load of BULLSHIT" If this is true, please elaborate. | |||
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For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
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"I have a confession. I have spent the last 3 years cheating on my girl friend at swinger clubs and private meets. I was even spotted by her mum at my local club as it turned out she attends it too and she told my gf what I had done!!! My gf still loves me and wants me back!! We've been living apart for 2 months now but seeing each other just 3 times a week has made the sex amazing again!!! Should I turn my back on this lifestyle for a girl who truly loves me??? The kids mum fucked everyone behind my back and got with a guy a week after we split. This girl is still loyal despite the horrible stuff I've done to her!!! What a position to be in!!" Of you're asking, you don't deserve her. What you should ask yourself instead... What do you love more? Her or fab? And then make a choice. | |||
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"I was the idiot sat at home with kids whilst my ex cheated.. the saddest thing is, if he had said lets swing I would have agreed. If he had admitted it when asked, I could have respected him and stayed with him meaning my kids would have still had their Dad living with them. Instead all trust and respect was gone on my part. He was a coward in my opinion." That story sounds oh so familiar. Same for me and my ex hubby | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." I had a shit attachment to my parents, I've cheated once in my whole life. Sounds like your using it as an excuse to justify your own behaviour. And I'm I'm suprised a councillor had NOT put that too you. | |||
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"I'm calm, I've pulled out some very justified reason (some very personal some vague) as to why being cheated on is the shitiest think you can do to another human! I'm sorry if the word fucking offends you but I'm sure you'll appreciate that this is an adult website where there is a cock or a tit or a quim out on pretty much every page, including your own, so I think we can all assume we're adults here. You could have simply got your point accurately across with one sentence, that sentence being....... 'I can't justify being a liar and a cheat towards my husband' simples Now you can try and justify your bullshit excuses all you like, that's your choice! I have a choice to and that's not to believe a word you say. This thread is all about cheating, I've offered my opinion on cheating so I'll choose to stay within the thread topic thanks.
Good for you. I wont be justify myself to you, or anyone. I've no need to. But I'm talking from life experience.
That's your choice him but you said and I quote "it can be justifiable" all I did was ask you just justify it. If you're not willing to justify it then by definition it can not be justifiable.
But why should I justify it in on a public internet site "Simply because you said it was justifiable. Should you not be able to justify it then by definition it can't be. I gave reasons why it can't be justified if you can't publicly justify your reasons then surely staying out the conversation would have been more appropriate. | |||
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"Two things....the man hasn't asked for his profile to be critiqued and if you want to join in the thread, please do so without abusing people. Ta" Third thing...threatening to "out" people and show their photos away from the site is not allowed either | |||
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"I'm calm, I've pulled out some very justified reason (some very personal some vague) as to why being cheated on is the shitiest think you can do to another human! I'm sorry if the word fucking offends you but I'm sure you'll appreciate that this is an adult website where there is a cock or a tit or a quim out on pretty much every page, including your own, so I think we can all assume we're adults here. You could have simply got your point accurately across with one sentence, that sentence being....... 'I can't justify being a liar and a cheat towards my husband' simples Now you can try and justify your bullshit excuses all you like, that's your choice! I have a choice to and that's not to believe a word you say. This thread is all about cheating, I've offered my opinion on cheating so I'll choose to stay within the thread topic thanks.
Good for you. I wont be justify myself to you, or anyone. I've no need to. But I'm talking from life experience.
That's your choice him but you said and I quote "it can be justifiable" all I did was ask you just justify it. If you're not willing to justify it then by definition it can not be justifiable.
But why should I justify it in on a public internet site
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For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
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"I have a confession. I have spent the last 3 years cheating on my girl friend at swinger clubs and private meets. I was even spotted by her mum at my local club as it turned out she attends it too and she told my gf what I had done!!! My gf still loves me and wants me back!! We've been living apart for 2 months now but seeing each other just 3 times a week has made the sex amazing again!!! Should I turn my back on this lifestyle for a girl who truly loves me??? The kids mum fucked everyone behind my back and got with a guy a week after we split. This girl is still loyal despite the horrible stuff I've done to her!!! What a position to be in!!" | |||
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"I have a confession. I have spent the last 3 years cheating on my girl friend at swinger clubs and private meets. I was even spotted by her mum at my local club as it turned out she attends it too and she told my gf what I had done!!! My gf still loves me and wants me back!! We've been living apart for 2 months now but seeing each other just 3 times a week has made the sex amazing again!!! Should I turn my back on this lifestyle for a girl who truly loves me??? The kids mum fucked everyone behind my back and got with a guy a week after we split. This girl is still loyal despite the horrible stuff I've done to her!!! What a position to be in!!" The short answer is YES Give this up and stay with your GF | |||
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"Proven facts? If someone is cheating on someone but professes to love them they wrong. They think they are in love but they actually aren't. The two don't compute. There's no way to prove that someone loves another person so I don't know where the 'proven facts' come from." I'm living proof. In how I'm living my life. | |||
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For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact."If we are excluding white lies for birthday etc then no its not a fact at all. | |||
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For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact."I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ] | |||
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For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]"So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
If we are excluding white lies for birthday etc then no its not a fact at all."White lies are still lies. They are just called white lies to make them sound better. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]
So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact."It maybe lying in the strictest sense of the word but really? The tooth fairy and santa isn't the lying people are referring to on this thread.... Fact. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]
So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact.
It maybe lying in the strictest sense of the word but really? The tooth fairy and santa isn't the lying people are referring to on this thread.... Fact."I know and I already said I wasn't comparing, but lying is lying. No matter how you dress it up. I'm honest about lying, which a whole lot more than such a lot of people do on here. A lot of people on here are living in ignorance without knowledge of what their partner is doing. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
If we are excluding white lies for birthday etc then no its not a fact at all.
White lies are still lies. They are just called white lies to make them sound better."Lol you know full well there is no comparison between the two. One is completely innocent to make someone happy and the other is malicious with a very real potential to cause hurt and emotional distress to someone. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]
So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact.
It maybe lying in the strictest sense of the word but really? The tooth fairy and santa isn't the lying people are referring to on this thread.... Fact.
I know and I already said I wasn't comparing, but lying is lying. No matter how you dress it up. I'm honest about lying, which a whole lot more than such a lot of people do on here. A lot of people on here are living in ignorance without knowledge of what their partner is doing."If you are not comparing then it's not relevant. | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]
So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact.
It maybe lying in the strictest sense of the word but really? The tooth fairy and santa isn't the lying people are referring to on this thread.... Fact.
I know and I already said I wasn't comparing, but lying is lying. No matter how you dress it up. I'm honest about lying, which a whole lot more than such a lot of people do on here. A lot of people on here are living in ignorance without knowledge of what their partner is doing."I know what my boyfriend was doing. On Sunday, he was f**king with a woman and I wasn't there. I wouldn't have known he was doing that unless he had told me. He doesn't need to hide anything from me, let alone lie to me | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Cheating is greed and your own choice, pure and simple! No illness in cheating | |||
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"Playful-Minx, it is not my place to tell you or anyone else what they should do or what they are doing is wrong or right. And I certainly don't wish for anyone to be hurt by my comments So, I apologise for my remarks on how you wish to live your life. And no, I am not trying to be sarcastic or patronising; honest xx" Thank you but you haven't hurt me with your comments in the slightest. This place is all about fun for me, and these debates, well I find them interesting. I would never allow anything a stranger on a website said to me upset me. | |||
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"Playful-Minx, it is not my place to tell you or anyone else what they should do or what they are doing is wrong or right. And I certainly don't wish for anyone to be hurt by my comments So, I apologise for my remarks on how you wish to live your life. And no, I am not trying to be sarcastic or patronising; honest xx Thank you but you haven't hurt me with your comments in the slightest. This place is all about fun for me, and these debates, well I find them interesting. I would never allow anything a stranger on a website said to me upset me. " Lol | |||
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"How many people have brought an item of clothing and not told their partner or lied about how much it cost? I don't believe that everyone is completely honest in their relationships and I see having sex in this way. I do believe you can still love your partner and have sex with other people. It's not about whether they know or not. I'm not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean. You think fucking someone behind your partners back is the same as not telling them about the new top you brought whilst out shopping and no different from fucking someone else in front of them with their consent, while they're enjoying the scenario too
For a relationship to last, be forfilling for both partners and have integrity it makes all the difference in the world wether you choose to lie and deceive or wether you are open and honest.
We have been together 21 years this year. We have fucked other people infront of each other a number of times. I can tell you now it is very, very different from lying and cheating. We do it because our relationship is in such a place that we can choose to have that type of fun if we want to. Not because the relationship is broken and that makes a huge difference. I know for a fact that if either one of us decided to cheat and decieve the other our relationship would be very lucky to survive and it certainly would be changed forever absolutely minimum.
You are right on your point about everyone being honest in their relationships though, not a lot are, it seems in this day and age it is a very rare commodity.
Total honesty is a rare commodity in most people's lives. Everyone lies. Fact.
I could not say that for certainty about everybody. But I know that you do because you have told us all so many times [ that you lie to your partner ]
So many times, I don't think so. Maybe you only choose to trad those odd few threads. Most people lie, how many people talk about Santa and the tooth fairy to their kids? And no I'm not comparing the two, but it's still lying. Fact.
It maybe lying in the strictest sense of the word but really? The tooth fairy and santa isn't the lying people are referring to on this thread.... Fact.
I know and I already said I wasn't comparing, but lying is lying. No matter how you dress it up. I'm honest about lying, which a whole lot more than such a lot of people do on here. A lot of people on here are living in ignorance without knowledge of what their partner is doing.
I know what my boyfriend was doing. On Sunday, he was f**king with a woman and I wasn't there. I wouldn't have known he was doing that unless he had told me. He doesn't need to hide anything from me, let alone lie to me"That's great you're fortunate enough to have that relationship, but not everyone on here has that, and some people on here that think they do have a completely open and honest relationship, actually don't. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Cheating is greed and your own choice, pure and simple! No illness in cheating " Why is it greed? | |||
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"Playful-Minx, it is not my place to tell you or anyone else what they should do or what they are doing is wrong or right. And I certainly don't wish for anyone to be hurt by my comments So, I apologise for my remarks on how you wish to live your life. And no, I am not trying to be sarcastic or patronising; honest xx Thank you but you haven't hurt me with your comments in the slightest. This place is all about fun for me, and these debates, well I find them interesting. I would never allow anything a stranger on a website said to me upset me. " Thanks; xx | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it. Cheating is greed and your own choice, pure and simple! No illness in cheating Why is it greed?" I assume they mean that they aren't happy with who they have and are greedy in wanting more. I don't agree but I think that's the angle they are coming from. | |||
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"I havnt had a meet in a month now and don't intend too. I'm here just to chat n make friends. I plan to get back with her and hide my profile until I know 100% I'm cured from wanting to cheat. Wanting to cheat is an illness caused by poor attachment with parents during childhood and I have a councillor who is helping me through it." Your status is 9 hours old about being accepted.to a party | |||
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"Proven facts? If someone is cheating on someone but professes to love them they wrong. They think they are in love but they actually aren't. The two don't compute. There's no way to prove that someone loves another person so I don't know where the 'proven facts' come from. I'm living proof. In how I'm living my life. " You do realise that opinions aren't facts? | |||
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"Look my take on it is she knows what I've done and still wants me back!! That shows how much she loves albeit how low her confifence might be. I struggle with monogamy but I don't like the idea of another guy fucking my misses when I love her which is why swinging with her is not an option. And yes you can love someone you cheat on!!!!! I don't like lieing but feel trapped. . End off!! Not prepared to turn back on her!!" You asked for advice and you don't like the answers you got. You want your cake and to eat it too. Can't stand to see her get fucked but you do it to her... poor woman. | |||
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"Look my take on it is she knows what I've done and still wants me back!! That shows how much she loves albeit how low her confifence might be. I struggle with monogamy but I don't like the idea of another guy fucking my misses when I love her which is why swinging with her is not an option. And yes you can love someone you cheat on!!!!! I don't like lieing but feel trapped. . End off!! Not prepared to turn back on her!! You asked for advice and you don't like the answers you got. You want your cake and to eat it too. Can't stand to see her get fucked but you do it to her... poor woman. " Lies and liars are not good .they come out sooner or later ! She doesn't deserve you . If you loved her you would have told her the truth who you really are and what you do ! You are wasting her time and her life ! Let her go to find someone who will respect her and truly love her . You need to look for your match as she is def way out of your league . | |||
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"Look my take on it is she knows what I've done and still wants me back!! That shows how much she loves albeit how low her confifence might be. I struggle with monogamy but I don't like the idea of another guy fucking my misses when I love her which is why swinging with her is not an option. And yes you can love someone you cheat on!!!!! I don't like lieing but feel trapped. . End off!! Not prepared to turn back on her!!" Sit down with your girlfriend and explain exactly how you feel, including the part about struggling with monogamy. And stop with the hypocritical posts with calling your child's mum a slut for having sex with others when you've done exactly the same thing. | |||
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"Look my take on it is she knows what I've done and still wants me back!! That shows how much she loves albeit how low her confifence might be. I struggle with monogamy but I don't like the idea of another guy fucking my misses when I love her which is why swinging with her is not an option. And yes you can love someone you cheat on!!!!! I don't like lieing but feel trapped. . End off!! Not prepared to turn back on her!! You asked for advice and you don't like the answers you got. You want your cake and to eat it too. Can't stand to see her get fucked but you do it to her... poor woman. " You dont sound prepared to give up this lifestyle,yet won't let her swing with you? Unbelievable op. | |||
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"Look my take on it is she knows what I've done and still wants me back!! That shows how much she loves albeit how low her confifence might be. I struggle with monogamy but I don't like the idea of another guy fucking my misses when I love her which is why swinging with her is not an option. And yes you can love someone you cheat on!!!!! I don't like lieing but feel trapped. . End off!! Not prepared to turn back on her!!" You are indeed in a very difficult situation if you struggle with monogamy, but at the same time expect monogamy from your partner. Presumably when you fuck other women it's just sex, so why would it bother you if a partner of yours has just a bit of fun sex with someone else? Just think of all the fun you could have legitimately if you found a partner that you could swing with. Otherwise it just looks like you are faced with a lifetime of struggling to resist temptation. Mrs | |||
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