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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just read a profile that says:

'If you can't accommodate you must be married',

Are people really that lacking in the realities of the modern world? I don't for one second doubt that there are some dastardly rapscallions out there that are married but what about people with children, lodgers, flatmates, other family or even people who just don't want to invite a complete stranger into their home? The world doesn't stop for one persons libido.

The word 'must' is thrown around far too loosely on this website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just read a profile that says:

'If you can't accommodate you must be married',

Are people really that lacking in the realities of the modern world? I don't for one second doubt that there are some dastardly rapscallions out there that are married but what about people with children, lodgers, flatmates, other family or even people who just don't want to invite a complete stranger into their home? The world doesn't stop for one persons libido.

The word 'must' is thrown around far too loosely on this website.

"

Haha I've seen that too and she is completely wrong as you are quite right I have a lodger and don't want him knowing the details of my sex life! Rant over lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get why people (ok mainly men) are supposed to justify it at all anyway. If I was a single man living alone I'm not convinced I'd want to host a succession of random people off the internet in my home anyway. There are always clubs and hotels, so it's such an odd requirement in my eyes.

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...

I can accommodate, but choose not to, as quite frankly like my home life private!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It is one of the double standards on fab,if women don't accom most are fine with thay and assume she has children.

Men on the other hand must be cheats

Miss

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

What I don't get is why, when men have thousands of other women to chose from, zoom-in on the one and only woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I don't get is why, when men have thousands of other women to chose from, zoom-in on the one and only woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want them"

I personally don't have any interest in that person's profile after reading it, none at all and not because of the accommodating point. I didn't have much before in all honesty but curiosity usually gets the better of me. I just thought there was a bigger conversation there for all to comment on whatever the gender as I'm sure both men and women encounter this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just read a profile that says:

'If you can't accommodate you must be married',

Are people really that lacking in the realities of the modern world? I don't for one second doubt that there are some dastardly rapscallions out there that are married but what about people with children, lodgers, flatmates, other family or even people who just don't want to invite a complete stranger into their home? The world doesn't stop for one persons libido.

The word 'must' is thrown around far too loosely on this website.

"

Great points! X

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

Keeping yourself extremely private on here is a MUST!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"What I don't get is why, when men have thousands of other women to chose from, zoom-in on the one and only woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want them

I personally don't have any interest in that person's profile after reading it, none at all and not because of the accommodating point. I didn't have much before in all honesty but curiosity usually gets the better of me. I just thought there was a bigger conversation there for all to comment on whatever the gender as I'm sure both men and women encounter this."

There is not much to comment or negotiate

It is their profile and their requirements. When I see a profile where i don't, can't or won't meet their requirement, I move on to the one where I do

Only the person with the requirement can answer why they have a particular requirement and their thought process behind it

One of my requirements is that I only meet men who are an absolute minimum of 6' tall. Asking a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum why i might have such a requirement will just result in nonsense and second-guessing

Well, that is my comment

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Most if the guys I have encountered that cannot accomodate have turned out to be married. When I ask they get pissy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have different reasons for not accommodating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My home is my sanctuary and I'm certainly not going to be inviting complete strangers into it.

The only time I would consider inviting someone to my home is if I had got to know that person on a few socials and play meets on neutral ground first.

Just how I prefer to do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked same thing once, I've put I can accommodate, but it's not ideal place, due to get my own place soon enough, so then I won't have restrictions on myself!! People shouldn't judge others, it same with pics, people say nature of job for example, it ridiculous people have to question our reasons!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I was asked same thing once, I've put I can accommodate, but it's not ideal place, due to get my own place soon enough, so then I won't have restrictions on myself!! People shouldn't judge others, it same with pics, people say nature of job for example, it ridiculous people have to question our reasons!!"

Nobody should ask you but if it one of their requirements, then it is their right to assume whatever they wish to assume and to ignore you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been accused of not being a genuine couple because we won't accommodate in our own home. I politely explained we have children , to get the reply 'well they must go to school!' It was afterwards I thought why the heck did I even justify why we choose not to open our home to others. x

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I was asked same thing once, I've put I can accommodate, but it's not ideal place, due to get my own place soon enough, so then I won't have restrictions on myself!! People shouldn't judge others, it same with pics, people say nature of job for example, it ridiculous people have to question our reasons!!

Nobody should ask you but if it one of their requirements, then it is their right to assume whatever they wish to assume and to ignore you"

Oh, by the way, you do state on your profile "anything else just ask". Maybe, that is why they asked

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects


"dastardly rapscallions

"

Cracking name for a band!

I've been doing renovations at my place, so with all the polythene and dust sheets, someone coming in might fear they aren't leaving in one piece.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I don't get is why, when men have thousands of other women to chose from, zoom-in on the one and only woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want them

I personally don't have any interest in that person's profile after reading it, none at all and not because of the accommodating point. I didn't have much before in all honesty but curiosity usually gets the better of me. I just thought there was a bigger conversation there for all to comment on whatever the gender as I'm sure both men and women encounter this.

There is not much to comment or negotiate

It is their profile and their requirements. When I see a profile where i don't, can't or won't meet their requirement, I move on to the one where I do

Only the person with the requirement can answer why they have a particular requirement and their thought process behind it

One of my requirements is that I only meet men who are an absolute minimum of 6' tall. Asking a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum why i might have such a requirement will just result in nonsense and second-guessing

Well, that is my comment"

This could well be the death of the forum that we are witnessing!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"What I don't get is why, when men have thousands of other women to chose from, zoom-in on the one and only woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want them

I personally don't have any interest in that person's profile after reading it, none at all and not because of the accommodating point. I didn't have much before in all honesty but curiosity usually gets the better of me. I just thought there was a bigger conversation there for all to comment on whatever the gender as I'm sure both men and women encounter this.

There is not much to comment or negotiate

It is their profile and their requirements. When I see a profile where i don't, can't or won't meet their requirement, I move on to the one where I do

Only the person with the requirement can answer why they have a particular requirement and their thought process behind it

One of my requirements is that I only meet men who are an absolute minimum of 6' tall. Asking a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum why i might have such a requirement will just result in nonsense and second-guessing

Well, that is my comment

This could well be the death of the forum that we are witnessing!"

Who is "we"? You, the Royal "we"

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