FabSwingers.com forum: Not meeting again

By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

expecting that i will meet them, as if i'm a sure thing.

very muscly guys also, think they're hot as fuck, no idea why they think i am though.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Lying,bad hygiene,making no effort or being too cocky.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one that sticks is when I had to ask a meet to brush his teeth

It was evident he wasn't too au fait with the activity. No 2nd chance.

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By *otwife8690Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By *otwife8690Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Being too clingy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She had a British accent and offered me tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When u leave thinking god sexy as hell but as bright as a blackout curtain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being too clingy and narcissism. As if they are doing me a favour and l should be thankful.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

when he walked me back to my hotel then wouldn't leave and ran around the hotel looking for me after I escaped upstairs when he wasn't looking. Proper stalkerish and freaked me right out.

Damn shame though as he was an amazing kisser!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple who thinks they want to be best friends straight away. However much you click it takes a while.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Assuming that because we've met once and I've said I'd like to meet again that means I'm there's and there's alone

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Assuming that because we've met once and I've said I'd like to meet again that means I'm there's and there's alone "

Theirs and theirs alone ffs

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Being too clingy and narcissism. As if they are doing me a favour and l should be thankful."

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"She had a British accent and offered me tea"

Sorry to hear that.

I'll ask her to offer you coffee the next time,and to speak with an American accent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is usually what puts me off.

Or that they want to date...

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Interesting that both men and women dislike the same thing .... and that thing is not what swingers by definition do. We met on here and our meets developed into a relationship because we aren't clingy or demanding with each. other. Except when I demand coffee in the morning ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She had a British accent and offered me tea

Sorry to hear that.

I'll ask her to offer you coffee the next time,and to speak with an American accent.

Thank you brother, you feel my pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they had an uncleaned house

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

claiming to be intelligent and having an IQ of a retarded gnat

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The one that sticks is when I had to ask a meet to brush his teeth

It was evident he wasn't too au fait with the activity. No 2nd chance. "

Ewww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By being barking, fruit loop, box of frogs nutty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subsequently discovering they're into stuff that I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"very muscly guys also, think they're hot as fuck, no idea why they think i am though."

note to self:

fuck it, i have met a few of these guys ages ago. gonna do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lying,bad hygiene,making no effort or being too cocky.

Miss"

Any of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences"

What would you consider sub-standard sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences

What would you consider sub-standard sex?"

anything where I'm not left with a massive grin on my face. ..and if I'm still capable of walking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men that think just cos I met them I'm going to have sex with them.

Gym fit men that think I owe it to them cos they did me a favour giving me their time. (Actually men in general there but more typical of the gym fit ones)

Anyone that thinks cos I have had sex with them I am theirs and theirs only.

Along with the usual bad hygiene, bad manners and just not having anything in common to have a half decent conversation about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men that think just cos I met them I'm going to have sex with them.

Gym fit men that think I owe it to them cos they did me a favour giving me their time. (Actually men in general there but more typical of the gym fit ones)

Anyone that thinks cos I have had sex with them I am theirs and theirs only.

Along with the usual bad hygiene, bad manners and just not having anything in common to have a half decent conversation about. "

Distance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a first meet and my first time on a hotel meet I was asked to put on his ex girlfriend's pink latex catsuit. I'm very tall and she must have been tiny as it didn't fit and was a passion killer trying to get it on. Then he pulled out rope, cuffs and a blindfold from a bag. Alarm bells started ringing. Final straw when I declined all that, he started taking drugs. We had never discussed any of that and he didn't look like his pics. I left sharpish and cried all the way home. Never ever again. It was when I first joined.. was too naive!

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

He smoked and never took his slippers off and there was Jeremy Kyle blasting out of the TV. Also his cock was the size of a walnut.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Distance?

I don't think that matters very much lol

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ..."

Them who don't know the difference between a social And a sex meet

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Clingyness and neediness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silence .

I'm not expecting moans and groans and dirty talk but make some sort of sound

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences

What would you consider sub-standard sex?

anything where I'm not left with a massive grin on my face. ..and if I'm still capable of walking

That's quite a lot live up.... I'm just a shit shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having to suffer their homophobic, racist chat on the drive home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences

What would you consider sub-standard sex?

anything where I'm not left with a massive grin on my face. ..and if I'm still capable of walking

That's quite a lot live up.... I'm just a shit shag"

But you're honest...which is a plus.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Hmm. It's a tricky one. Most people I have met I would gladly meet again but I will admit to having been slightly put off by a very small amount of people badgering me to meet again and contacting me off site with horny messages without so much as gauging my current state of sexual readiness. I understand that as a single guy on here the weight of numbers means that because they've met me once I am more of a likely prospect than messaging new girls but just because we've fucked once doesn't mean I am at their beck and call from that point on.

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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ...

Them who don't know the difference between a social And a sex meet "

We had this recently, she started having sex with my Mr and he just carried on talking like we are still on the social

never even got his boxers off! F...ked with my head for a while. They then gave us the most amazing verification, talk about weird. We want dirty pure sex not a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ...

Them who don't know the difference between a social And a sex meet

We had this recently, she started having sex with my Mr and he just carried on talking like we are still on the social

never even got his boxers off! F...ked with my head for a while. They then gave us the most amazing verification, talk about weird. We want dirty pure sex not a social

Ok so the male half of the couple didn't have sex , he just watched and talked the whole time.... I'm a little confused

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By *eppoMan
over a year ago

London Colney

"He smoked and never took his slippers off and there was Jeremy Kyle blasting out of the TV. Also his cock was the size of a walnut.

Sally"

We're u not aware he had a small dick before u hooked up ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we didn't have amazing sex. I'm not here for sub-standard experiences

What would you consider sub-standard sex?

anything where I'm not left with a massive grin on my face. ..and if I'm still capable of walking

That's quite a lot live up.... I'm just a shit shag"

that's OK. ...I'm not expecting anything from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ..."

This most definetley!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People claiming to be 'professional' whatever that means...Especially when spelt with two ff's and two ss's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who won't verify you and just try keep you for themselves. Sharing is caring after all in this game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ..."

Talking about themselves too much

Bad breath

Smelly flange

D*unk

Turned into a weirdo

Just a few reasons to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy for a social, he was lovely looking but could tell right away that his shirt hadn't been ironed. That's not all though, once face to face I noticed he had a snotty nose, so I told him he had something hanging from his nose. He picked it and flicked it across the bar

I sat and had a drink with him, desperately holding in my gags, then told him I needed to go. Such a shame as he was hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met a guy for a social, he was lovely looking but could tell right away that his shirt hadn't been ironed. That's not all though, once face to face I noticed he had a snotty nose, so I told him he had something hanging from his nose. He picked it and flicked it across the bar

I sat and had a drink with him, desperately holding in my gags, then told him I needed to go. Such a shame as he was hot! "

You really couldn't over look the wrinkles in his shirt for a shag.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sat and had a drink with him, desperately holding in my gags, then told him I needed to go. Such a shame as he was hot!

You really couldn't over look the wrinkles in his shirt for a shag.....

Possibly. But the snotty nose was a deal breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sat and had a drink with him, desperately holding in my gags, then told him I needed to go. Such a shame as he was hot!

You really couldn't over look the wrinkles in his shirt for a shag.....

Possibly. But the snotty nose was a deal breaker

This is why men and women ar so different...... wrinkled shirt and snotty nose will never stop a man from shaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm. It's a tricky one. Most people I have met I would gladly meet again but I will admit to having been slightly put off by a very small amount of people badgering me to meet again and contacting me off site with horny messages without so much as gauging my current state of sexual readiness. I understand that as a single guy on here the weight of numbers means that because they've met me once I am more of a likely prospect than messaging new girls but just because we've fucked once doesn't mean I am at their beck and call from that point on. "

Guys mainly/but also couples who keep asking allllll the time - big turn off! Whether we/I've met before or not - can't be doing 24/7 however much we'd like, and also different deeds for different needs! Hate feeling pressured and tend to not want to meet if people keep asking! It does depend on how people ask also - but don't just assume we are free for you 'today'! Not always as simple as that! X

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"He smoked and never took his slippers off and there was Jeremy Kyle blasting out of the TV. Also his cock was the size of a walnut.

Sally

We're u not aware he had a small dick before u hooked up ??"

His dick pics were definitely not of his. Even so I did my best but I could not get his "walnut" erect. Afterwards he messaged, asking for a second meet. I said no politely, saying it was the smoking I didn't enjoy. ( Didn't mention his limp walnut). He called me a sad cow and blocked me.

Sally

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they lie and play games!

Also if they have feelings for me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Aside from all the hygiene and usual stuff I don't like boring men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo."

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She had a British accent and offered me tea

Sorry to hear that.

I'll ask her to offer you coffee the next time,and to speak with an American accent.

Thank you brother, you feel my pain

Was she gonna put milk in the tea? I noticed that kina horrified some yanks

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Tiny penis

Mediocre sex

Bad hygiene

Too clingy

All resulted in a no second meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tiny penis

Mediocre sex

Bad hygiene

Too clingy

All resulted in a no second meet "

Tiny penis?

I thought size didnt matter as its what you do with it etc ?

Thats what you women keep saying on here ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

Yes. Little shit. He was chatting about arranging a club visit together. I popped to the loo, came back and he'd gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

Yes. Little shit. He was chatting about arranging a club visit together. I popped to the loo, came back and he'd gone."

Awww. I must admit i have been guilty of doing exactly the same thing many years ago.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

Yes. Little shit. He was chatting about arranging a club visit together. I popped to the loo, came back and he'd gone.

Awww. I must admit i have been guilty of doing exactly the same thing many years ago.

Just to let you know, that woman was probably crushed, as I was. I hope you're less horrible now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She had a British accent and offered me tea

Sorry to hear that.

I'll ask her to offer you coffee the next time,and to speak with an American accent.

Thank you brother, you feel my pain

Was she gonna put milk in the tea? I noticed that kina horrified some yanks

Yes the sweet kinda milk...but what really turned me off .... was when she offered me the big blue can of sugar cookies..

I swore of British women ever since

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By *ragon-tattMan
over a year ago

runcorn

Ok, my experience is lacking from a swingers pov looking at some of the varis you guys and girls have..but the guy ignoring me..this happened when I met as a single too..

Thinking I'm being done a favor for their time and the biggest one so far, not sending me a face pic or even a message before friend invite

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

"Tiny penis

Mediocre sex

Bad hygiene

Too clingy

All resulted in a no second meet

Tiny penis?

I thought size didnt matter as its what you do with it etc ?

Thats what you women keep saying on here ?

When I say tiny it must have been no more than 2 inches hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet in club she was really rough sexually so both said not play with them again

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

Yes. Little shit. He was chatting about arranging a club visit together. I popped to the loo, came back and he'd gone.

Awww. I must admit i have been guilty of doing exactly the same thing many years ago.

Just to let you know, that woman was probably crushed, as I was. I hope you're less horrible now."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're crap shags.

If they won't go down on me, but expect a BJ.

If they struggle with the concept of 'no'.

If they do a runner while I'm in the loo.

Have you actually had a guy do a runner when you popped to the loo?

Yes. Little shit. He was chatting about arranging a club visit together. I popped to the loo, came back and he'd gone.

Awww. I must admit i have been guilty of doing exactly the same thing many years ago.

Just to let you know, that woman was probably crushed, as I was. I hope you're less horrible now."

I try my best not to be

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Met in a pub ... hed arrived by bus ... didnt have any front teeth ...he laughed after every thing he said ... he told me all about his ex ... his mum ...his dad .....zzzzzz

I could wait to get out of there

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Yes the sweet kinda milk...but what really turned me off .... was when she offered me the big blue can of sugar cookies..

I swore of British women ever since

I don't do milk or cookies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What type of thing have put you off meeting someone again, without being specific?

For me, it is about someone trying to muscle in on my life and dictate it, like when we should meet, etc., so assuming too much ..."

I've been put off a couple of times by people who, in casual chat afterwards, revealed themselves to be racist or bigoted. I don't mind a chat about politics and discovering that we're on opposite sides of the political fence, but if we've had a fun meet and then they turn out to be dickheads; puts me right off.

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By *4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

N 42.709787, W -84.556222

"If they had an uncleaned house"

This

and ignorant white trash. Unfortunately there's quite a bit of that in my area on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I got treated like a single bi female by a couple who kept stopping me playing with Mr and demanding I do what they told me. They seemed normal when we had a social!

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