FabSwingers.com forum: Bi Fems and clubs ?

By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Well after Nine months of searching for single Bi women for Hot lips to play with, we have come to the conclusion that its not very unlikely to happen on here !.

Thinking about changing our approach and maybe visiting swinging clubs ?

any tips ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll do well at clubs if you've got confidence and social skills.

Fem half of our couple will pull 90-100% of the women she fancies in a typical club night. This was 6 women on our best night (at Atlantis Evolution)

Just bear in mind there is a variation on attendees. Some nights there's very few attractive people at some clubs. Other nights it's a good mix

We'd recommend Xtasia on a Saturday night to maximise your chances.

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

thanks for the reply and advice

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Well after Nine months of searching for single Bi women for Hot lips to play with, we have come to the conclusion that its not very unlikely to happen on here !.

Thinking about changing our approach and maybe visiting swinging clubs ?

any tips ?"
if you would like my opinion its what you are asking from a bi single fem that would put them off..if you got talking to any bi single fem at a club its unlikely that without equal dynamics, she wouldnt want mr to watch...just saying...what about another D/s couple with a bi female ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you got talking to any bi single fem at a club its unlikely that without equal dynamics, she wouldnt want mr to watch..."

Really?

In our swinging experience we've never had a female have any sort of problem with guys watching the girls play. That's 40+ women

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"if you got talking to any bi single fem at a club its unlikely that without equal dynamics, she wouldnt want mr to watch...

Really?

In our swinging experience we've never had a female have any sort of problem with guys watching the girls play. That's 40+ women"
ok...then i stand corrected...were they all single or were they part of couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok...then i stand corrected...were they all single or were they part of couples?"

Mostly couples to be fair, but single women don't seem phased either. We've got a regular female playmate who's more into Mrs than Mr.

I guess it depends on the guy to a degree as well. Our male half isn't pushy at all and doesn't muscle in on girl/girl play. Other men might be different.

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point .

had plenty of couples getting in touch ,but its not what hot lips wants , I would be fine with her meeting a single woman alone for fun ,but she wants me there as a safety net I suppose ?

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over a year ago

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point"

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait.

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait."

Slight misunderstanding,what we mean is that I wouldn't be involved ! Hot lips isn't comfortable with another man in the room at all weather watching or not !

Sir

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait.

Slight misunderstanding,what we mean is that I wouldn't be involved ! Hot lips isn't comfortable with another man in the room at all weather watching or not !

Sir "
thats not what it says on your profile...

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" Sir will observe the ladies, no penetration of the other female by Sir to take place, but may touch and encourage / direct the action,"

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait.

Slight misunderstanding,what we mean is that I wouldn't be involved ! Hot lips isn't comfortable with another man in the room at all weather watching or not !

Sir thats not what it says on your profile...

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" Sir will observe the ladies, no penetration of the other female by Sir to take place, but may touch and encourage / direct the action,"

I wouldn't be Physically involved with the other lady is what that statement means . Hot Lips doesn't want any other male in the room at all weather as an observer or participant ,her choice entirely!

That is why we are looking for single females initially,not couples .

Although that may alter in the future .

Hope that clarifies the situation.

Sir

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Quite a difficult one, just like your Mrs wants you there for a safety net, as would I with my partner. He would not get involved if that is what was requested.

In clubs I play alone as my partner gets turned on by knowing what's going on.

OP you will find your meet, I would suggest trying a club we have many single lady friends who have lots of fun. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait.

Slight misunderstanding,what we mean is that I wouldn't be involved ! Hot lips isn't comfortable with another man in the room at all weather watching or not !

Sir "

Get your own profile.

I won't talk to couples on a couples profile if I'm only planning on meeting one of them.

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

If youve been here 9 months and not managed to find what your looking for , maybe you need to change what your looking for, maybe try a club just have sex with yourselves in the open get use to being watched from a distnace and then maybe fem might be realxed enough in future to allow the male half of the couple to be present in the room when you meet another couple, but you can stipulate that its own partner fun and some fem fem.... But looking for that elusive bi fem, well join the queue, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are not looking for the male to be involved , which seems to be a bit of a sticking point

There's different degrees of male involvement... would you rule all of them out?

Fair enough you're not wanting another male to join in. But there's plenty of watchers out there. Or "soft swap". That would increase your chances quite considerably.

It all depends on how long you're willing to wait.

Slight misunderstanding,what we mean is that I wouldn't be involved ! Hot lips isn't comfortable with another man in the room at all weather watching or not !

Sir

Get your own profile.

I won't talk to couples on a couples profile if I'm only planning on meeting one of them."

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"If youve been here 9 months and not managed to find what your looking for , maybe you need to change what your looking for, maybe try a club just have sex with yourselves in the open get use to being watched from a distnace and then maybe fem might be realxed enough in future to allow the male half of the couple to be present in the room when you meet another couple, but you can stipulate that its own partner fun and some fem fem.... But looking for that elusive bi fem, well join the queue, lol "

Don't think changing what we want is the answer ,just because we haven't found it yet!

we don't have a timeframe in mind so when the time is right it will happen ,if it doesn't ,then the time isn't right .

really just wondered if single females prefer to meet in clubs ? if so we would consider going .

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We were on Fab for nine months before we had our first FFM, which is what we were looking for. We've had several since, and all have been with women we've met through here. We've not found clubs to be great for that, but we haven't been to many.

No idea why people think suggesting a couple change what they desire because they haven't found it yet is helpful to them.

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"We were on Fab for nine months before we had our first FFM, which is what we were looking for. We've had several since, and all have been with women we've met through here. We've not found clubs to be great for that, but we haven't been to many.

No idea why people think suggesting a couple change what they desire because they haven't found it yet is helpful to them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think changing what we want is the answer ,just because we haven't found it yet!

we don't have a timeframe in mind so when the time is right it will happen ,if it doesn't ,then the time isn't right .

really just wondered if single females prefer to meet in clubs ? if so we would consider going . "

I suspect this response is quite insightful.

Single women are all different. Some like meeting in clubs, some don't like meeting in clubs. Some don't mind men watching, some don't like men watching. Some like spontaneous meets, some prefer socials and longer build ups.

Single women are all different. Like couples are all different. And single men are all different. Everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on here 3 years and still not happened for us.

It's not the be all and end all though, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't, we're not going to get twisted about it

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Try a ladies night - Cupids do a monthly one - ladies only downstairs, mixed upstairs, or Townhouse have a ladies only one I think it's bi monthly, they are awesome fun

Bun

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Try a ladies night - Cupids do a monthly one - ladies only downstairs, mixed upstairs, or Townhouse have a ladies only one I think it's bi monthly, they are awesome fun

Bun

thanks that's really good information

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an elusive single bi fem, so we do exist. You just need patience to find the right one.

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By *otlipsandSir OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm an elusive single bi fem, so we do exist. You just need patience to find the right one."

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