FabSwingers.com forum: Bareback and Risky. Would you tell

By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

Everyone is entitled to make their own decisions. At the same time they have to accept the consequences

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"
if he doesnt get tested hes as big a risk to anyone as anyone else. get tested, take your mate with you and leave the past and rumours out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were in them shoes I would Just tell them if that were the case and explain why. I would also stress the fact that it was a rumour and could all be fake. But either way with bareback sex involved it's always a risk even without the 'BIG STI'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

I would mind my business because no one likes a gossip

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?"

HIV can't really be sorted though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though. "

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I were in them shoes I would Just tell them if that were the case and explain why. I would also stress the fact that it was a rumour and could all be fake. But either way with bareback sex involved it's always a risk even without the 'BIG STI'. "

It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?"

This is scary...

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Bruv if you can't be part of the solution don't add to the problem.

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

"if he doesnt get tested hes as big a risk to anyone as anyone else. get tested, take your mate with you and leave the past and rumours out of it."

Thanks, sensible advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Bruv if you can't be part of the solution don't add to the problem. "

I'm sorry for interrupting... you can have your thread back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Not necessarily. It only takes one person and one slip up which could happen to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much this.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?"

AVT can reduce the viral load therefor elongating life by holding back the onset of AIDS but would you want to risk it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

AVT can reduce the viral load therefor elongating life by holding back the onset of AIDS but would you want to risk it?"

We certainly wouldn't. Especially not on a meet.

Is it even conceivable that the girl has something and is knowingly spreading it? I've read some weird shit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Not necessarily. It only takes one person and one slip up which could happen to anyone."

Please don't waste your time with my idiotic posts in bare back threads... I find this subject pops up daily and I try to the best of my ability to post the most idiotic things I can think of at that moment...

With the amount of debate that goes on in the forums about bare back and sti's ... I'm starting to wonder if Fab should make it compulsory to fill out a sti questionnaire before we all sign up... so we can all be on the same page...

I truly find it sad that people don't know the risks of barebacking on a swinging/sex/dating site.

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

I did want to start with that apology, it is a well covered subject. Only thing is that most of them are binary. Do you? Yes/No.

This issue had a bit more depth for me and I needed a _iew or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

This is scary...

was reading a discussion on here a while back. but after googling i notice it only reduces the chances.

i'm still gonna bareback, but only guys who aren't in the club scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thers is a drug avaliable that prevents the people living with hiv/aids suffers from cathing it.... but the person without the disease...... also agree with the guy above its a swinger site yet people on this thread don't even know the diffrence between a sti and a std d

on't wanna sound arsey but maybe fab should give a basic advice pop up when people join

I'm glad we only meet people who we build up a relationship with so that we know they understand all this and look after themselves appropriately........ and yes for fucks sake tell the guy before/if he spreads the misery..... rant over sorry peeps xxx

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Op, everyone on here having sex with different partners should go and get regularly tested even if you use condoms. So there's no need to tell your friend ten year old rumours to get him to a STI screen, he should do it anyway.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Not necessarily. It only takes one person and one slip up which could happen to anyone.

I truly find it sad that people don't know the risks of barebacking on a swinging/sex/dating site."

While I agree that it is frightening and sad how little some people know about STI and the risk of barebacking, I don't think sarcasm is the way to go on about on these threads. You only foster people's misknowledge cos their naivety won't recognise your sarcasm. Think about it!

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

OP..

A...that was a rumor ten yrs ago.

B...she is a married lady now.

C...if she had anything dont u think they would know After ten yrs ..lol

I could keep going ...but tell ya mate the rumors have ya giggle and let him worry...

But I agree with most..sti checks reg best when swinging...

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

This is scary...

was reading a discussion on here a while back. but after googling i notice it only reduces the chances.

i'm still gonna bareback, but only guys who aren't in the club scene.

Woopwoop oh yeah ..giggerty..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to do your part as a mate. No need to speak of the rumour. Especially if there's no evidence and it happened a while ago. Everyone sexually active needs to be getting themselves tested regularly. Bareback or not.

Just need to remind him of the risk of barebacking and to ensure that he gets himself tested. He's old enough to know the risks behind it all. We all do.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?"

Well my dear you heard wrong and are naive to think that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

Well my dear you heard wrong and are naive to think that "

yeah someone else explained above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

Tell him to get tested because of a STI she may or may not have had 10 years age, no

Hes an adult surely he knows himself if he goes bare theres a chance he may catch something so either he already gets tested or he simply does not care and if its the later i doubt being told would make a difference

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

So youre more at risk if you are a swinger? I totally disagree as I think swingers take more care of their sexual habits.

Jeez

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reason would you give? Help!"

If she had an STI 10yrs ago obviously she was treated otherwise she would be seriously ill or dead now, if she had a killer STI like HIV or Heb C she would be breaking the law & could even face man slaughter charges if she knew she was ill.

Most STI's are quite easy to treat with a weeks supply of antibiotics, it sounds like you are trying to discredit the lady in question & remember before making accusations she can sue you for deformation of character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a risk if you bare back with swingers...... vanilla people are cleaner

Bruv if you can't be part of the solution don't add to the problem.

I'm sorry for interrupting... you can have your thread back"

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

Well my dear you heard wrong and are naive to think that "

Actually there are studies, particularly the PARTNER study that show a sero-discordant couple ie. one Hiv positive and the other negative where the positive partner is on treatment and viral load is undetectable, that there were no recorded transmissions of the virus in around 50,000 cases of unprotected sex between the partners.... makes for an interesting read. The experts conclude that there is virtually zero per cent chance of passing the virus on when on successful treatment

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

The only help you need is tools on how to mind your own business.

Why do you think it's your business, especially as it's rumour?!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why don't people mind their own business and not spread "rumour"?!! For crying out loud!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!

I would mind my business because no one likes a gossip

Was beginning to think I was alone in knowing how to mind my own business and not spread malicious gossip!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

What she did, or didn't do, 10 years ago is an utter irrelevance

Getting tested is part of routine practice for many and if it's something that needs a decade old rumour before you do it then it's a bit late

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

No, I wouldn't tell him to get tested. A few reasons for that one being that I'd assume he got tested anyway, another that a ten year old rumour is exactly that...a rumour and yet another its not my business.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

You and I are in the minority.

Seems most like the drama of spreading salacious rumour then display pseudo concern to deviate from their own lives.

Why they feel the need to involve themselves and lecture consenting adults on who they fuck is beyond me.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

You and I are in the minority.

Seems most like the drama of spreading salacious rumour then display pseudo concern to deviate from their own lives.

Why they feel the need to involve themselves and lecture consenting adults on who they fuck is beyond me."

Indeed we are

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

You and I are in the minority.

Seems most like the drama of spreading salacious rumour then display pseudo concern to deviate from their own lives.

Why they feel the need to involve themselves and lecture consenting adults on who they fuck is beyond me."

it's because we are both happy with where we are in life, we have worked hard and seen it all. we are chilled and have family that we love and cherish and have no need to supplement our lives with virtual faux affection, shit and loads more tripe;-)

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

"I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

You and I are in the minority.

Seems most like the drama of spreading salacious rumour then display pseudo concern to deviate from their own lives.

Why they feel the need to involve themselves and lecture consenting adults on who they fuck is beyond me.

Nah, you are both sanctimonious self righteous types, that's all. This is not about spreading rumours or being sensational. If you were my mates I'd have no room for enemies

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over a year ago

"I don't get involved in other people's drama, sexual responsibilities and or who they have fucked.

You and I are in the minority.

Seems most like the drama of spreading salacious rumour then display pseudo concern to deviate from their own lives.

Why they feel the need to involve themselves and lecture consenting adults on who they fuck is beyond me.

Nah, you are both sanctimonious self righteous types, that's all. This is not about spreading rumours or being sensational. If you were my mates I'd have no room for enemies"

I think I'd rather be self righteous and sanctimonious like View and Mistress than spread malicious 10 year old rumours of which you have no evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if it's nit about spreading rumours and being sensationalist what is it about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 years later, if she did have anything, surely she's been and got it sorted?

HIV can't really be sorted though.

Didn't think of that one. Tablets make it so you can't pass it on i heard?

This is scary...

was reading a discussion on here a while back. but after googling i notice it only reduces the chances.

i'm still gonna bareback, but only guys who aren't in the club scene.

Don't worry about taking risks and developing a potentially life long condition. You can just receive treatment on the NHS. It won't cost you anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you heard a rumour about a girl years ago. She had THE BIG STI. Thought nothing of it cos you didn't know her like that.

Forward ten years.

You find her on fab with her fella, they like it bareback.

Each to his own

But then you find a mate on here has been with her. He tells you he went bare with her. You hide your concern. The rumour was a long time ago and you have no evidence.

Will you tell him to get tested? How? What reasons would you give? Help!"

I wonder if you would have felt as motivated to do something if the rumour was about a boy?

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

Don't worry about taking risks and developing a potentially life long condition. You can just receive treatment on the NHS. It won't cost you anything.

That's seems to be the prevailing attitude. Take no responsibility, personal or otherwise.

For the record, the rumours were from a very good intermediary but I discounted them as rumours until I saw the exposure to unsafe sex being the main preference for play. We are all smutty 4krs here but exposing everyone to risk is surely not part of the bargain here...Or is it?

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By *reekyBone OP Man
over a year ago

Freakytown

I wonder if you would have felt as motivated to do something if the rumour was about a boy?"

What does that have to do with it? Surely either and both sexes are equally capable of passing on HiV? If you knew, the original stigma for this as attached to the male homosexual community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about taking risks and developing a potentially life long condition. You can just receive treatment on the NHS. It won't cost you anything.

That's seems to be the prevailing attitude. Take no responsibility, personal or otherwise.

Have you told your friend how irresponsible you think he is for barebacking and of the danger you feel he is putting himself in.

I find it odd that this woman is the villain in your story and your friend the innocent victim who's behaviour is not being criticised. If he has unprotected sex and contracts an STI that is his responsibility but your moral crusade seems intent on vilifying a woman based on a 10 year old rumour and is devoid of any intent to educate people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if you would have felt as motivated to do something if the rumour was about a boy?

What does that have to do with it? Surely either and both sexes are equally capable of passing on HiV? If you knew, the original stigma for this as attached to the male homosexual community. "

Women's sexual practices tends to receive more criticisms in general. Not saying that's what you were doing. Just wondering the number of times you hear about male friends sti and no one seems to bat an eyelid but becomes news or gossip when it's a woman's.

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