FabSwingers.com forum: Real Meet up Experiences...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So i'm new to this type of environment (yes i know many people are too).

I'm still yet to have a meet up, i'm not in a hurry and i know i might have a longer wait since i'm a guy and i know its harder for us to get one. But before i do have a meet up i'm curious to know how it actually goes....i mean like really....

I only ask because having read a fair amount of profiles and verification messages you'd think everyone on here was a pornstar based on some of the stuff you see and how they describe themselves. I'm not saying it can't happen and i'm sure it does but way less than people claim. Also yes i'm aware people could also be only keeping the really good verifications but surely i would have seen some moderate/average ones by now.

So i'm curious to know realistically how do MOST of your meet ups go?

Like are they bad? good? average? i'd like to know your experiences if you have the time, thank you in advance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm new to this type of environment (yes i know many people are too).

So i'm curious to know realistically how do MOST of your meet ups go?

Like are they bad? good? average? i'd like to know your experiences if you have the time, thank you in advance."

Well, errrr, we (usually) end up having sex.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of mine have gone well or at least ok. i've had the 'porn star' veris, usually that's when someone veris you straight afterwards and are still in the bask of orgasm lol. i'd say most of the sex is average and not the best ever, it got better since i only started meeting men who enjoy pleasing women.

i'd actually say my most enthusiastic veris are off guys who are selfish and got what they wanted but left me feeling a little 'meh'.

if you're really not in a rush i would say try and go for socials, you've probably got a good chance of one of them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you very much for your response, that was the type of response i was looking for, very much appreciated.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our (couple profile) meets go very well particularly the parties.

We had one disappointing meet and didn't verify them.

But we don't take stuff too seriously, our meets are generally lots of giggling and being silly and lots of sex lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're welcome.

it's good to think about your meets, and hope for what you want but not be too disappointed when you don't find that.

NSA sex is just a stop gap for me until i find what i really want. this might bias my meets somewhat. but no the sex is mainly animalistic, which can be exciting in itself, but not the most fulfilling for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the sex from most of our meets just ok or meh... not because the other couples man/woman are rubbish, it seems even though i like to get to know people so we can have some kind of build up, seems it's still not enough for me (Mrs) I can connect with the flirting - it's all fun and games but the sex mehhhh

I'm waiting for that pornstar sex....doesn't seem to happen. I've felt a little like its a group of teenagers trying to figure out what we should be doing or scrambling to do the next position???

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some great and some not so great meets. Some never get further than a drink and a couple have turned into longer term 'friends' where the sex has been simply outstanding! (I can only assume the feeling was mutual)

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the sex from most of our meets just ok or meh... not because the other couples man/woman are rubbish, it seems even though i like to get to know people so we can have some kind of build up, seems it's still not enough for me (Mrs) I can connect with the flirting - it's all fun and games but the sex mehhhh

I'm waiting for that pornstar sex....doesn't seem to happen. I've felt a little like its a group of teenagers trying to figure out what we should be doing or scrambling to do the next position???

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx "

No it shouldn't happen like that!! But sadly does sometimes. Perhaps don't meet bi-curious only bi sexual?

Or come to our next party.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for that pornstar sex....doesn't seem to happen. I've felt a little like its a group of teenagers trying to figure out what we should be doing or scrambling to do the next position???

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx

No it shouldn't happen like that!! But sadly does sometimes. Perhaps don't meet bi-curious only bi sexual?

Or come to our next party.

I think that's where we are going wrong. Need to meet Bi-sexual people.

As nice as it is that we help them along - hubby will sometimes walk away happy but I am always yeah was ok! I still only managed to orgasm from one meet! Maybe it's me?? Need to relax more?? But when I'm taking my clothes off I'm pretty sure I'm relaxed haha.

Yes absolutely we're still to engage in a party...do inbox details!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again everyone who has responded , thank you for taking time out of your day to reply and for helping a newbie out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always have a social first to see if there is that little spark that can be carried over into the bedroom.

I've been really lucky and have met some fabulous guys who wanted me as much as I wanted them. All of my 'lovers' have been unselfish and we've always had a great time.

It's good not to rush OP

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet. Go for a social.

Dont expect anything. Dont promise anything.

That's my advice if your anxious about your first time.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"So i'm new to this type of environment (yes i know many people are too).

So i'm curious to know realistically how do MOST of your meet ups go?

Like are they bad? good? average? i'd like to know your experiences if you have the time, thank you in advance."

When I first started swinging (after my divorce), I came from a background of very very little experience with men other than my ex-husband who had been my first and only fuck (long story). So in the first year I was fucking everyone and everything and every sexual meet for me was amazing I guess because I was starving. Then they began to get really 'meh' until I started taking a really long time before meeting a bloke, after which I found that we had gotten to know each other so well that the first kiss would be such a turn on that the sex that followed is pretty amazing.

I guess what I'm saying is that spend time to get ot know your sex partner before jumping in bed with her and it's quite likely that the sex will be fab. Good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't put bullshit in my veris. If I don't enjoy the meet they don't get a veri and I don't see them again. Simple. Generally most meets have been great. A few single men have been disappointing but on the whole mainly good.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" how do MOST of your meet ups go?"

Mint.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" how do MOST of your meet ups go?

Mint."

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe everything you read on people's verifications OP. I don't think I've ever had "porn star" type sex, although the common denominator in that is me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am very grateful for the honest feedback from everyone.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

For me the first meet is a social. They tend to always go well.

A second meet will be for fun, that's if the social went so well we decided to meet again

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say out of all my sexual meets. 1 was spectacular, 1 was good, most are OK and one or 2 where not so good.

xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My meets usually start off in a pub and hopefully end in a hotel. They are mostly successful, with a good laugh and fun had by all, but there are always the meets where you leave feeling almost ashamed that you went through with it. That's probably why I have cut my meets down so much in the last few months - I want to make sure I really wanna shag the guy.

I have some verifications that I think over sell me, but most of them reflect the time we had, so all in all I am more often successful than not.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm waiting for that pornstar sex....doesn't seem to happen. I've felt a little like its a group of teenagers trying to figure out what we should be doing or scrambling to do the next position???

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx "

Just need to meet the right people x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

most of our meets OP are at club envoriment weve made some really good friends from them some veris are just social ones. Were not harden swingers at all as we have little ones so nights out are only monthly for us but look for socials and club events. You will have a great time by going out and interacting with people. So much better chance of fun doing it this way and will be respected more.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had a vouil of meets that left me feeling like I wish I hadn't bothered, the majority of mine have been rewakly great, with lots of fun, laughter and fantastic sex. But I am very selective on who I meet, and I'm very confident in the bedroom so tend to get from my meets what I need.

I enjoy meeting for a drink first, then I will move onto a hotel if I feel the sexual chemistry.

Good luck with things,don't take it too seriously on here, enjoy the social side and hopefully the fun will naturally follow.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for that pornstar sex....doesn't seem to happen. I've felt a little like its a group of teenagers trying to figure out what we should be doing or scrambling to do the next position???

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx "
mu think you've maybe been unlucky in the bi women that you've met. I always ensure that whoever I'm with they feel that the sex is reciprocated, after all sex is for 2 people (or more), not just 1 person.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I've had some disappointing socials as well as good ones. When it comes to the sexual meets the majority have been good with a certain person exceptional. If it wasn't good the first time then chances are I'm not going to meet the person again

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've had some amazing ones and thankfully still see the guys

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"........... not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx

Just need to meet the right people x"

Yep!!! That's the answer I'm afraid!!

We normally have a social and if it goes well we end up playing that night but I think I'm gonna keep the 2 separate - social first, date second!

I should add there really hasn't been that much experience - it may say a year but our veris are mainly socials.

All trial and error eh!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends on how much chat and getting to know you there has been beforehand. I find getting to know someones kinks and limits means I have a better idea how to please them and vice versa.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed the Bi-curious women are only wanting to perform for their partners and don't return the pleasure once I've helped them along to have multiples!!

not impressed and wondering if this is how it just goes??? Or we just need to meet the right people??? Xx mu think you've maybe been unlucky in the bi women that you've met. I always ensure that whoever I'm with they feel that the sex is reciprocated, after all sex is for 2 people (or more), not just 1 person.

Yeah absolutely - I just want to meet a couple, single person who I can connect with and who is on parr with my hubby!!

Maybe that's too much to ask as we have a 22yr history.

Anyways, I'm off to an all lady night so hopefully find someone who can give oral as well as me (yes I did just blow my own trumpet) ha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of around 30 men, only two have brought me to orgasm. I think a lot if it boils down to not having a good enough mental connection even if they've been physically attractive. I just don't find one offs do it for me. Hard to find a long term regular local partner though,

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies everyone, just curious to know what it's been like with couples. So i mean couples who go for single people and single people who go with couples.

Does it ever feel weird or is it natural?

I've been contacted by 2 couples and also i have been getting much views from couples, i'm interested but not sure what to expect...how has it been for some of you?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Thanks for the replies everyone, just curious to know what it's been like with couples. So i mean couples who go for single people and single people who go with couples.

Does it ever feel weird or is it natural?

I've been contacted by 2 couples and also i have been getting much views from couples, i'm interested but not sure what to expect...how has it been for some of you?"

I think it depends on what you expect from the encounter.

For me the thing I like most about being with a couple is their connection with each other, seeing them give each other knowing glances and smiles, and knowing I'm the reason they're connecting right there and then is because of something I'm involved in. That turns me on massively and also gives me a warm fuzzy feeling because I can practically feel the love they share.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread