FabSwingers.com forum: Not Coming Is It A Issue

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can apply to both sexes but would you be put off a meet if the guy/lady doesn't cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again. "

I'd have to agree with this. I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes struggle to cum, as it's only certain positions I can exactualy get some feeling in my cock. And even then, I have to be pounding fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again.

I'd have to agree with this. I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish "

In the past I gave these ones the benefit of the doubt and met them several times and they still came without even asking if I had.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again.

I'd have to agree with this. I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish

In the past I gave these ones the benefit of the doubt and met them several times and they still came without even asking if I had. "

I think there known as pandas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again.

I'd have to agree with this. I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish

In the past I gave these ones the benefit of the doubt and met them several times and they still came without even asking if I had.

I think there known as pandas

Only if you feed them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can apply to both sexes but would you be put off a meet if the guy/lady doesn't cum. "
I am a complete hypocrite on this subject... if a guy isnt going to cum then I am going to lose interest as its my main reason for meeting...

However I rarely if ever orgasm on a meet ...

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish "

Agreed

I am not always the easiest to cum but that doesn't mean I'm enjoying it!

But if it's all about them then leave no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd rather cum, feel a little disappointed if i don't but if the guy made an effort and didn't leave me feeling like he wasn't bothered about my pleasure then i'm fine with that too.

if the guy doesn't cum i can feel stressed and a little desperate for him to coz i need cum to enjoy the sex fully. and i can be having the most amazing sex and really enjoy it but need his cum as well. i try not to pressure guys into doing it coz i understand that makes it worse but both of us cumming is my aim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I've been lucky enough to have a meet I always make sure the lady cums first. There have been times when I've actually not fancied cumming myself, I tend to get more out of knowing I've made her cum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So a guy must come to make for a good meet

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I always feel a failure if I havent made the guy cum. Although on a few occasions, guys will say they had a wank and came earlier in the day and so couldnt cum with me. It does bother me a little.

On the other hand if the guy has tried his best to make me cum then its not a problem but if he cums first and doesnt even try to make me cum then its unlikely I would see him again.

I'd have to agree with this. I don't always cum but as long as the man has made some effort to play with me then I'm happy. The ones who cum and think that's the fun over are selfish

In the past I gave these ones the benefit of the doubt and met them several times and they still came without even asking if I had.

I think there known as pandas

As referenced in my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been several times where I haven't climaxed and I do feel that the lady feels that I don't find her attractive enough. That's certainly not the case and I'm always prepared to play in other ways.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"When I've been lucky enough to have a meet I always make sure the lady cums first. There have been times when I've actually not fancied cumming myself, I tend to get more out of knowing I've made her cum."

I've got the same approach as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me. Men who don't tend to have generally warned me in advance so I don't feel like a failure or a let down.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not too bothered, it can sometimes take me ages and some guy's have told me they sometimes don't so it's not really an issue

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, I wouldn't be put off. It happens. As long as we all enjoy ourselves I don't worry or find it off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the back of this thread, in future, if I ever have sex again, I shall warn the lady in advance that I might not cum

In fact, I might even add it to my profile.

Thanks ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me but it is fun knowing you made a guy shoot his load all over your belly and then licking it of your fingers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It wouldn't bother me but it is fun knowing you made a guy shoot his load all over your belly and then licking it of your fingers

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Come out in a hot flush now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's actually AN issue!

But on a less grammatical note ... edging is also fun

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Wouldn't bother me unless he said it was my fault

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Come out in a hot flush now

Your age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine going into a sexual liaison and worrying about not coming (as a male) - my fear is coming too early! Good job I enjoying giving lots of attention first.

Cum too soon/don't cum at all both can play on a guy's mind. We're all human and unpredictable, I suppose.

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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura

(Mrs)

I don't always cum, but I do expect people to at least try... Mr always expects to cum

Sometimes there is just too much to take in (like 8 people having group sex) and I need to process it all in my head and when processed am horny as fuck and can cum 2 or 3 times. Mr always sorts me out afterwards so I never miss out

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"my fear is coming too early! "

I like it when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my fear is coming too early!

I like it when that happens

But a gentleman must insist that ladies always come first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always try to make a lady cum, otherwise I feel I've somehow failed - no matter how good the sex was.

The last time, I was unsuccessful, so I asked for tips/pointers and tried again... with much better results the second time. Smiley faces and soggy sheets

As for myself, I do enjoy a lady doing things to make me cum but if it takes a long time, I feel bad, thinking that she must be getting tired or bored. Then I get anxious/stressed about it, and that makes things worse.

In my first 2 relationships (covering 32 very vanilla years), reciprocation was not the norm. It was usual for me to make her cum, before we moved on to penetration. But with both women, that was my only orgasmic option (take it or leave it). Neither of them liked oral.

I'm still getting used to the idea, that someone can enjoy pleasing me as well - in lots of different ways. I've discovered the joy of ladies, who not only genuinely relish BJs but also (omfg), the swallowing!

No, I don't always have to cum, to have fun in bed - but it certainly feels nice when everyone does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can apply to both sexes but would you be put off a meet if the guy/lady doesn't cum. "

Probably yes, if i didn't turn him on enough to make him cum i wouldn't meet him again, not that i suppose he would want to

Unless he had pre warned me not cumming is usual for him, other wise i would see it as my problem not his

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